I would like to have more money, but not at the cost of his happiness. If he's misserable we won't be able to enjoy things.
Right now more than anything, I just want him to stop talking about the salary increase. If there is no chance he is going to pursue the opportunity why keep discussing it.
****** That's so sweet that you are doing dessert for dinner tonight in honor of your grandmother. My grams passed away a year and a half ago. I miss the cookies she used to make.
Sounds like he is looking for justification that he is not going to take it. He's looking to you for approval or he needs to talk it out for himself. I'd let him rant about it for a bit. He probably just needs to get it all out.
He overthinks everything. I mean everything. His strong moral high ground has lost him several jobs. He picks the wrong battles to get on his high horse and usually loses.
Nonetheless, I love him. He just drives me a little crazy sometimes.
Sounds like he is looking for justification that he is not going to take it. He's looking to you for approval or he needs to talk it out for himself. I'd let him rant about it for a bit. He probably just needs to get it all out.
He overthinks everything. I mean everything. His strong moral high ground has lost him several jobs. He picks the wrong battles to get on his high horse and usually loses.
Nonetheless, I love him. He just drives me a little crazy sometimes.
Mh is like that about things too. It can be frustrating sometimes.
MH will ramble and rant about an issue forever and ask my opinion. But then ignore it and continue ranting and go with whatever he said he was going to do initially. (When it's something related to like his job or something)
He overthinks everything. I mean everything. His strong moral high ground has lost him several jobs. He picks the wrong battles to get on his high horse and usually loses.
Nonetheless, I love him. He just drives me a little crazy sometimes.
Mh is like that about things too. It can be frustrating sometimes.
MH will ramble and rant about an issue forever and ask my opinion. But then ignore it and continue ranting and go with whatever he said he was going to do initially. (When it's something related to like his job or something)
This is exactly it. I'm just at a point where i'm tired of hearing about job opportunities that go nowhere. I moved 3 hours away from home for him, even though i've always had the larger salary. I just want things to work for him the way they are supposed to.
Post by SheilaTheTank on Jun 8, 2015 19:00:01 GMT -5
@wallflwr926, teraiin, That would drive me absolutely insane. I get having a conscience and liking your job but at some point and time you have to get down off your damn high horse and pay the freaking bills. No, you do not get to be morally superior while your family starves.
Wallie have you told him that you just want him to have a great job opportunity? Would it help to write down all the pros and cons with the job? Would he like what the job entails and it's just the one beer company that is bothering him? (personally if the answer to the last one is a yes, I would metaphorically smack my husband up the head and ask what the hell is he thinking)
Post by PepperPottsJ on Jun 8, 2015 19:02:16 GMT -5
Sorry for shitty day acorn99, mrsjene, I am glad you are ok!!! Hopefully insurance isn't a pain! onesweetworld, Happy vacation! SheilaTheTank, you are a much better person than I, Pepper was all about "FFS tell him to quit his bitching and take the job"
@wallflwr926, Cheers! Just poured a glass of The Famous Gate Pinot Noir
Mh is like that about things too. It can be frustrating sometimes.
MH will ramble and rant about an issue forever and ask my opinion. But then ignore it and continue ranting and go with whatever he said he was going to do initially. (When it's something related to like his job or something)
This is exactly it. I'm just at a point where i'm tired of hearing about job opportunities that go nowhere. I moved 3 hours away from home for him, even though i've always had the larger salary. I just want things to work for him the way they are supposed to.
Yeah I can understand that!
MHs current thing is who is going to be his next boss. It's an elected position so they won't really know until the election so he's been dissecting each candidate every night (maybe not every night but sometimes it feels Like it) and explaining who he does or doesn't want. I swear who he wants changes each night. I try to cut him some slack because whoever it is will be his boss for at least a few years... But besides voting there isn't really much we can do about it.
@wallflwr926, teraiin, That would drive me absolutely insane. I get having a conscience and liking your job but at some point and time you have to get down off your damn high horse and pay the freaking bills. No, you do not get to be morally superior while your family starves.
Wallie have you told him that you just want him to have a great job opportunity? Would it help to write down all the pros and cons with the job? Would he like what the job entails and it's just the one beer company that is bothering him? (personally if the answer to the last one is a yes, I would metaphorically smack my husband up the head and ask what the hell is he thinking)
The pay is the only incentive. It's a job he's done previously and absolutely hated.
Post by BurritosAtEveryMeal on Jun 8, 2015 19:07:58 GMT -5
If by "drinking," you mean eating a pint of ice cream, then I am totally drinking with you ladies!
DH just stole the TV to catch up on Silicon Valley. I was three episodes into a Married at First Sight marathon (on demand). I am obsessed and desperately trying to get up to date!
@wallflwr926, teraiin, That would drive me absolutely insane. I get having a conscience and liking your job but at some point and time you have to get down off your damn high horse and pay the freaking bills. No, you do not get to be morally superior while your family starves.
Wallie have you told him that you just want him to have a great job opportunity? Would it help to write down all the pros and cons with the job? Would he like what the job entails and it's just the one beer company that is bothering him? (personally if the answer to the last one is a yes, I would metaphorically smack my husband up the head and ask what the hell is he thinking)
The pay is the only incentive. It's a job he's done previously and absolutely hated.
If you guys are currently making enough to pay your bills, then it's not worth it. I've lived with a husband who hated his job/company for plenty of years. There is simply not enough money to make it worth it. Not for me, at least.
@wallflwr926, teraiin, That would drive me absolutely insane. I get having a conscience and liking your job but at some point and time you have to get down off your damn high horse and pay the freaking bills. No, you do not get to be morally superior while your family starves.
Wallie have you told him that you just want him to have a great job opportunity? Would it help to write down all the pros and cons with the job? Would he like what the job entails and it's just the one beer company that is bothering him? (personally if the answer to the last one is a yes, I would metaphorically smack my husband up the head and ask what the hell is he thinking)
The pay is the only incentive. It's a job he's done previously and absolutely hated.
H and I have been through this before, but it was me turning down the higher paying job. But it would have entailed a 2 hour commute each way and doing a job I dislike and am not very good at. He was pushing me to take it "just for a few years" so we could pay stuff off.
In the end I wasn't offered the job. And a few years later, he ended up stuck in a job he hated because we couldn't afford for him to leave it.
All of this to say, you have my sympathies. We hashed that out so many times that if he even said anything about it I was about to kick him in the nuts.
Well, it seems my infection has cleared up. Temp is normal, body aches are gone, back pain has disappeared. But my energy level simply hasn't returned to normal yet. I feel like I constantly want to take a nap...and that's making me get behind on *everything*: work, housework, even hobbies! I'm hoping to be 100% back by Wednesday at the latest. I'm not drinking tonight, but I am eating cake, so #WIN!
Well, it seems my infection has cleared up. Temp is normal, body aches are gone, back pain has disappeared. But my energy level simply hasn't returned to normal yet. I feel like I constantly want to take a nap...and that's making me get behind on *everything*: work, housework, even hobbies! I'm hoping to be 100% back by Wednesday at the latest. I'm not drinking tonight, but I am eating cake, so #WIN!
Cake is always a good choice! Glad you're starting to feel better. Hope you are as good as new asap!
Well, it seems my infection has cleared up. Temp is normal, body aches are gone, back pain has disappeared. But my energy level simply hasn't returned to normal yet. I feel like I constantly want to take a nap...and that's making me get behind on *everything*: work, housework, even hobbies! I'm hoping to be 100% back by Wednesday at the latest. I'm not drinking tonight, but I am eating cake, so #WIN!
@wallflwr926, teraiin, That would drive me absolutely insane. I get having a conscience and liking your job but at some point and time you have to get down off your damn high horse and pay the freaking bills. No, you do not get to be morally superior while your family starves.
Wallie have you told him that you just want him to have a great job opportunity? Would it help to write down all the pros and cons with the job? Would he like what the job entails and it's just the one beer company that is bothering him? (personally if the answer to the last one is a yes, I would metaphorically smack my husband up the head and ask what the hell is he thinking)
The pay is the only incentive. It's a job he's done previously and absolutely hated.
Oh then fuck it. It's not worth it to be that miserable.
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Wallie - (can't tag...mobile) she was behind me in the drive thru at CVS. I was SO close to leaving. The tech was handing my prescription to me when my whole car jerked forward. Her foot slipped off the pedal.
Oh then fuck it. It's not worth it to be that miserable.
Yeah, that's what we decided.
Happiness trumps money every time. I've taken lesser paying jobs for happiness and higher paying jobs for happiness. I'm not one to be ruled by the dollar. Hopefully YH doesn't keep talking your ear off about it though
MH and I went to the lake to go fishing. It was about 15/20 minute hike down to the water and it was pretty hot. When we were coming back up I almost passed out from the heat! It was about 112 degrees. I thought I was going puke. My poor dog kept laying down because his paws were getting burnt by the hot sand and it was just terrible! It wasn't as hot when we headed down. Lesson learned!
When we are driving home, all of a sudden the truck in front of us veeried off the road and his drivers side tire pops off (the entire thing) bounce/rolls passed us and then comes back toward us again and flies off the cliff into the pond! MH pulled over to tell the guy where the tire went and then we gave him a ride to his hotel.
I gave the pups a bath and I'm relaxing with wine while MH changes the oil. Pretty crazy day.
I'm waiting for my groceries to be delivered. I just put on the movie Unfaithful. Obviously this means delivery guy will show up just as the good sex scenes with Diane Lane and Olivier Martinez start to make it nice and awkward for both of us.
I'm waiting for my groceries to be delivered. I just put on the movie Unfaithful. Obviously this means delivery guy will show up just as the good sex scenes with Diane Lane and Olivier Martinez start to make it nice and awkward for both of us.
I had one glass of wine left and am off tomorrow, so H ran to the store before it closed to get me another bottle. Because I didn't feel like putting pants back on. I love him.
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