Post by junebugjam on Jun 16, 2015 13:32:38 GMT -5
agm04 My baby was the ultimate nap fighter. To answer your questions:
1 - never slept more to make up for missed sleep.
2 - yes, totally miserable. Every nap time was a cry fest for baby and often times for mommy too.
3 - sleep training saved my life. He sleeps better at night and for naps. There are tears, but FAR fewer than before. He sleeps more and is so much happier when he's awake. Have you considered finding a method of sleep training that you're comfortable with?
Does your LO go to daycare? How does your LO sleep there?
For night sleep at this point if I was that sleep deprived and desperate I would either sleep train or bed share.
My mom is at home with her, and my MIL will be next week. They're alternating weeks until we can find a nanny. (My mom lives out of town, which is why it's a week at a time.) I do think I'm just going to bring her to bed tonight. It's getting bad for all of us.
agm04 My baby was the ultimate nap fighter. To answer your questions:
1 - never slept more to make up for missed sleep.
2 - yes, totally miserable. Every nap time was a cry fest for baby and often times for mommy too.
3 - sleep training saved my life. He sleeps better at night and for naps. There are tears, but FAR fewer than before. He sleeps more and is so much happier when he's awake. Have you considered finding a method of sleep training that you're comfortable with?
I know I have to sleep train at some point but I just don't feel like I can let her cry yet (not that you doing it is bad at all - go you!). And I know there are other methods but I am too exhausted and time poor to read anything. I want to look into this pick up and put down method, and revisit Healthy Sleep Habits to see if there's something there I could live with but forgot about.
I don't want to let her cry and I feel really uncomfortable with leaving her kind of on her own to figure out sleep when it seems to be hardest for her, but she cries a ton anyway so maybe I need to get over it.
Post by junebugjam on Jun 16, 2015 15:23:08 GMT -5
agm04 my H borrowed Healthy Sleep Habits from a coworker. I read it like 5 times because I wanted so desperately to find something useful. It has good information but I felt like it didn't really provide a plan if your baby wasn't cooperating. Like, I followed the bedtime suggestions, and 1-2 hours of wakefulness, and it just didn't work for us.
I did feel like he couldn't possibly cry more than he already was. And I felt like he was majorly sleep deprived and it was just getting worse. Of course don't do anything you're not comfortable with, but I was certain he would cry for 5 hours and be inconsolable, and it was 35 minutes. You could always try it and if you are that uncomfortable you can stop.
I think with my baby its not that sleep was hard for him, per say, but that he had formed bad habits that were preventing him from getting good sleep. Once we broke those habits he's done much better.
After epic bedtime battles the last few nights I let my LO cry tonight-he was asleep in 15 minutes and I checked on him twice in that time frame.
Not saying it will work for everyone but might be worth a try! We are going to stick with it.
That's great! Sometimes they can really surprise us.
I would just say (not to you specifically, but generally) that part of any CIO is a consistent bed time or nap time routine so that they can pick up on the cues and know what's coming next.
For nap we do book, song with lights off, in the crib. For bed we do bath, Pjs, book, nurse, song, crib. Always the same.
I read a bit about pick up/put down yesterday (hopefully enough...obviously not the whole book because TIME), and decided to give it a try for DD's last nap and bedtime last night. Success!! Took about 30 minutes at nap time and 15 at bed time. Soooo much better than it has been.
I'm going to keep trying. I also put her in a Merlin magic sleep suit for bed (not nap...Amazon box came after nap), and she's slept so little the last couple days that it might just be exhaustion and not the method. But I'll take it. She was asleep in her crib last night at 6:10, woke up at 10:30 and 5:30 to eat, and slept until 7:20 this morning. No fighting me to go back to bed after either feeding. She's already has as much sleep today as she had all day on Monday.
You guys just made me feel so much better. I was afraid you were going to say it gets washed daily and I might have broken out in hives. I think I'll see if it continues to help us for the next few days, and if so I'll get another. I'll gladly pay $40 for more sleep.
Not a sleep suit, but I put DD in the same PJs for a few nights before deeming them 'dirty' and putting them in the laundry. She doesn't drool at night like she does during the day. For what my $0.02 is worth.
Not a sleep suit, but I put DD in the same PJs for a few nights before deeming them 'dirty' and putting them in the laundry. She doesn't drool at night like she does during the day. For what my $0.02 is worth.
[ Oh yeah good point. If DD doesn't give hers a good coating of spit up after her morning feed they get reused too. I just forgot because it happens like 5% of the time.
, merlin didn't work for DS the one night I tried. I'm jealous. I'm gonna try again soon.
I'm still swaddling and hoping he doesn't roll in it (he's only rolled a couple of times and was unswaddled). Then once he wakes up at 2 am, I'm lazy and bring him into bed with me. I know I'm creating a bad habit sleeping with me...
Um, if you decide youre not into the suit, can I get in line for buying it from you? if DD won't settle after MOTN feeding she comes to bed with me too. We do what works.
The merlin suit is seriously magic. I'm a believer!
I know this question has been answered before but I can't find the thread--what does everyone put on LO inside the suit? Just a diaper? A onesie?
Our suit arrived today. God bless Amazon prime.
GOD BLESS AMAZON PRIME. last night I just did a short sleeved onesie, no socks, and she seemed comfortable. Her hands and arms were warm for MOTN feeds. We have thermostat at 73 or 74.
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