I first "came out" when I started our blog; I wanted people to understand (and stop asking when we were going to have a kid). For the most part it has been a very positive experience. Only one family member has been somewhat negative and really the problem is she comments on my facebook statuses about IF without every reading the blog. Basically everything she says is things I talk about in the blog as being unintentionally hurtful.....
The one thing that i've run into that really gets to me is when friends of mine say, "Why don't you just adopt?" Adoption is an expensive and most of the time a difficult process. It's not like going to an animal shelter and picking out a puppy. It's also not an option for us because of multiple reasons. So it hurts a little extra when I have to remind friends of that fact.
One of my cousins said that to me once and I nearly cried. A radio DJ from my town is very open about their adoption journey and it's definitely not easy.
I first "came out" when I started our blog; I wanted people to understand (and stop asking when we were going to have a kid). For the most part it has been a very positive experience. Only one family member has been somewhat negative and really the problem is she comments on my facebook statuses about IF without every reading the blog. Basically everything she says is things I talk about in the blog as being unintentionally hurtful.....
The one thing that i've run into that really gets to me is when friends of mine say, "Why don't you just adopt?" Adoption is an expensive and most of the time a difficult process. It's not like going to an animal shelter and picking out a puppy. It's also not an option for us because of multiple reasons. So it hurts a little extra when I have to remind friends of that fact.
My dad asked this every time we talk about a failed cycle. I finally just told him that if he will give us 25 grand and show us the baby market we will head over there right after we grieve not having a biological child. When I was blunt and he realized how expensive it is and the hurdles faced, he stopped telling us to just adopt.
I hope you are able to find a way that allows people to see how hurtful they can be, even with "best intentions".
The one thing that i've run into that really gets to me is when friends of mine say, "Why don't you just adopt?" Adoption is an expensive and most of the time a difficult process. It's not like going to an animal shelter and picking out a puppy. It's also not an option for us because of multiple reasons. So it hurts a little extra when I have to remind friends of that fact.
My dad asked this every time we talk about a failed cycle. I finally just told him that if he will give us 25 grand and show us the baby market we will head over there right after we grieve not having a biological child. When I was blunt and he realized how expensive it is and the hurdles faced, he stopped telling us to just adopt.
I hope you are able to find a way that allows people to see how hurtful they can be, even with "best intentions".
The only person who has suggested adoption is...my husband, after our first IUI. Are you effing kidding me?! A little soon to throw in the towel dude!
I mostly hear "you're so young!" Which is super confusing because I am 32 and DH will be 35 in November.
And of course relax, I'm too stressed out, have I tried those ovulation kits....
My aunt/third cousin/friend's neighbor's dog walker conceived naturally as SOON as they went to the doctor!!!
Ugh.
Those are my favorites. Someone once tried to talk to me about "natural family planning" and when I explained we did basal temping and what not, she went on to say, no nothing fancy just taking your temp each morning when you wake up and showing your doctor. Facepalm.
Post by blabbermouth on Jun 14, 2015 19:40:35 GMT -5
Daxton? Oof. I always get confused when I want to ask a friend how her son, Jaxon is doing. I can never quite figure it out in my lil head that it's the same as Jackson.
I had an acquaintance tell me she finally got pregnant when they started having LESS sex.
This could be true if there were sperm issues.
Well I guess there might have been, but they were just newlyweds and doin it every damn day. I think it took 4 months, so I don't think there anything diagnosed at that point.
Post by mlgnumbers on Jun 14, 2015 20:20:09 GMT -5
My flight was delayed 10 min, then 20 min, then 30. Then, the flight attendant gets on the PA and announces that the flight is actually delayed an hour and a half!!! Grr... I'm sitting right in front of a local brewery's restaurant bar, and I'm so tempted. But I'm traveling solo, so totally sober is the only option for me.
So... all of this Jurassic World talk. I realized last night that I had never actually seen the second and third Jurassic Park movies. I do have distinct memories though of watching the first Jurassic Park movie while hiding behind a recliner in my parent's living room when I was very young. So...
Don't freak out though! I immediately remedied that with a marathon on the TV. All caught up, I can see Jurassic World now.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
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