My random is a rant in feeling like crap and whiney (aka I'm feeling bad for myself tonight and need to get over it). We have company coming tomorrow and my poor husband had been cleaning since he got home three hours ago. He's literally done everything around our home for the past two months because I haven't been physically able. I really felt like I was moving in the right direction with the m/s and then have felt progressively worse this week, and am back on the couch or hovering over the toilet tonight. I feel so guilty that he's having to do everything while I just lay here. I'm so tired of being sick and being told that it's a phase that will pass. I know it'll pass eventually (and know it'll be worth it 100%), but it doesn't make it any easier to feel like junk 24/7.
Ok, I'll stop whining now and put on my big girl panties.
Post by kristhegirl on Jan 23, 2015 20:11:32 GMT -5
bkmlforevermorgan I can't handle that bullshit, cleaning is just life chores, everyone in the house helps keep up the life chores. I would have a long conversation with my husband if he ever even hinted that cleaning was somehow my job just because I own a vagina.
I plan on doing more of the cleaning once I'm home with the baby and in a routine, but he's not off the hook, he still lives here. That's how I was raised and that's how I plan on raising my kids.
bkmlforevermorgan I can't handle that bullshit, cleaning is just life chores, everyone in the house helps keep up the life chores. I would have a long conversation with my husband if he ever even hinted that cleaning was somehow my job just because I own a vagina.
I plan on doing more of the cleaning once I'm home with the baby and in a routine, but he's not off the hook, he still lives here. That's how I was raised and that's how I plan on raising my kids.
When we got married it was decided..I (him) do all the cooking, you (me) do the cleaning. Which is fine because I don't cook but when he bitches about not having his clothes folded and put away I want to punt his ass (if he wasn't 6'3" and 260lbs).
wells2010 that suuuucks. Can you ask that only buyers who are preapproved can make offers? My parents had to do this after THREE interested parties couldn't get loans.
it's kind of complicated. They were pre-approved. Apparently they were retiring military and waiting for security clearance to start a civilian job. That took too long and their lender made them reapply for the loan. When they reapplied, the husband switched to PT and didn't have the same income, so they were rejected.
That's the story we got at least. I hope they rot in hell. Also hoping we don't lose the house we were set to buy.
My ILs are coming for the weekend and should be here any minute. I'm laying in bed being a brat about it. They are very sweet but I'll have to wait on them the whole time and I'm just not up for guests. If it was my folks...it would be awesome because they don't act like guests. It would be a relief, not a stress.
I just forgot my kid had preschool today. 100% forgot. The schedule has been the same since September. Durrrrr.
There was an episode of The Middle on last night where Frankie (the mom) forgot about the entire first week of school. I was cracking up bc I feel like that is totally something I would do! Thank God for DH.. He is somehow able to keep up with all of that schedule stuff Haha
I just forgot my kid had preschool today. 100% forgot. The schedule has been the same since September. Durrrrr.
There was an episode of The Middle on last night where Frankie (the mom) forgot about the entire first week of school. I was cracking up bc I feel like that is totally something I would do! Thank God for DH.. He is somehow able to keep up with all of that schedule stuff Haha
I have dreams that I do stuff like that all. the. time. It hasn't happened yet, but I would never be surprised. haha.
bkmlforevermorgan I can't handle that bullshit, cleaning is just life chores, everyone in the house helps keep up the life chores. I would have a long conversation with my husband if he ever even hinted that cleaning was somehow my job just because I own a vagina.
I plan on doing more of the cleaning once I'm home with the baby and in a routine, but he's not off the hook, he still lives here. That's how I was raised and that's how I plan on raising my kids.
When we got married it was decided..I (him) do all the cooking, you (me) do the cleaning. Which is fine because I don't cook but when he bitches about not having his clothes folded and put away I want to punt his ass (if he wasn't 6'3" and 260lbs).
I almost punted DH yesterday! He took a half day off work (PTO burns a hole in his pocket.. The minute he gets it, it must be used in his mind). He came home and sat on his ass and playing video games for the rest of the day. Then, went and took a nap when I got home. The icing on the cake was when I went to cook dinner and the double sink was overflowing with dirty dishes! Could he not have at least unloaded and loaded the dishwasher?!?! So, I'm slaving away after a full day of work, and he's being a lazy ass. I finally had a chance to cool off today and said something tonight. I was afraid of what exactly might come out of my mouth if I tried to confront him last night. He has a bad habit of doing more to help out after I say something.. But only for about a week or two. Then it's right back to the same old crap. Ugh.
bkmlforevermorgan I can't handle that bullshit, cleaning is just life chores, everyone in the house helps keep up the life chores. I would have a long conversation with my husband if he ever even hinted that cleaning was somehow my job just because I own a vagina.
I plan on doing more of the cleaning once I'm home with the baby and in a routine, but he's not off the hook, he still lives here. That's how I was raised and that's how I plan on raising my kids.
Oh I wish...I came home from a 4 day business trip and not one thing was picked up, no dishes done, and the laundry I hadno had time to fold yet was strewn everywhere...we are only two people! I didn't leave the place in great shape, but only because I had to cook a full on crazy dinner friends and I honestly didn't have time to do the dishes (by hand) and pack and do all the laundry!
Post by ladyannibal on Jan 23, 2015 22:23:02 GMT -5
My bonus son made me cry today. I know I shouldn't be so sensitive because he is four but this pregnancy has made me emotionally irrational.
We went to the bank today and while hubs was at the atm, bonus son and I sat in the car. He excitedly tells me that his mom is taking him to Legoland for his birthday. He then tells me that he wants daddy to go but not me. When I asked why he said because I don't want mommy to see you. Mommy only likes me and daddy and other people but not you. It's mommies only. So interested, I say to him, I'm not a mommy? He shakes his head and he goes no, you're not anybody, you're just a person.
This broke my heart. I know he loves me because every moment of every day he's telling me he loves me, to the point where his dad feels like he likes me more than him. His statement just made me feel like nothing. I'm nobody important I'm just Annibal. It just added on to my crappy feeling today. Dh tried to comfort me by reminding me that he loves me but it still hurts when someone lets you know, "hey, no matter what you do you'll never be mom."
Today is poop. Fingers crossed for a better tomorrow.
Post by kristhegirl on Jan 23, 2015 22:33:46 GMT -5
Hugs, ladyannibal. That's got to be his bio mom's influence, with her constant negativity about you. You're more of a mom to him than she is, even if he can't put it into those words.
bkmlforevermorgan I can't handle that bullshit, cleaning is just life chores, everyone in the house helps keep up the life chores. I would have a long conversation with my husband if he ever even hinted that cleaning was somehow my job just because I own a vagina.
I plan on doing more of the cleaning once I'm home with the baby and in a routine, but he's not off the hook, he still lives here. That's how I was raised and that's how I plan on raising my kids.
I do WAY less cleaning than before kids, lol! As in, practically nothing. I'm probably the poster child for the SAHM that should have a cleaning lady.
I do have a supportive DH, at least, who happens to be a clean freak
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