Post by risscaboobs on Jun 16, 2015 8:28:50 GMT -5
My H is being a tallywacker/twatwaffle. It's his birthday. He should be in a good mood. He is not. In fact, he's really cranky and getting mad at me for everything, it seems. Hopefully he'll be in a better mood by the time we get off work.
My gripe is myself. I wake up more tired than when I went to bed. I'm a grumpy mess this morning. I'm having a very hard time getting my shit together.
I'm so crabby. I'm at the lab for my 3 hour torture test, and I just want quiet. One lady here is telling everyone about her ailments and how each member of her family has died. Thank god for headphones.
H slept In this morning and was only woken up when I heard his phone beep. I've now been awake since 6:30 - yes I went to bed at 1 and it's my own fault but damn... I see a nap in my future.
Ants, ants are twatwaffles. We have them in our house. They came in on Saturday and have been slowly taking over. I feel like something is crawling on me at all times. Do not want!!
Tomorrow Bam, the dog and I have to stay out of the house for 8 hours while the house gets sprayed. What am I supposed to do with a 2 year old who won't nap anywhere but his crib?? I will have one cranky boy on my hands!!!
Do they have this where you are? Works miracles. (for us anyway)
Post by ventotheessa on Jun 16, 2015 9:21:26 GMT -5
I am my own tallywacker/twatwaffle today. I am taking my niece's prom pictures tonight and forgot my tripod and memory card at home. Luckily SO has been great and offered to bring me them so that I don't have to drive all the way home to get them.
Ants, ants are twatwaffles. We have them in our house. They came in on Saturday and have been slowly taking over. I feel like something is crawling on me at all times. Do not want!!
Tomorrow Bam, the dog and I have to stay out of the house for 8 hours while the house gets sprayed. What am I supposed to do with a 2 year old who won't nap anywhere but his crib?? I will have one cranky boy on my hands!!!
Do they have this where you are? Works miracles. (for us anyway)
Edit to shrink ginormous pic
Yesss that shit works really well. They even have it in self-contained traps now so you don't have to have the goo just sitting there.
fuzzylogic I've been waking up The Worst Person Ever for about 4 days. This is the first day that I have woken up without wanting to tear apart everything in my path. Hormones, I'm thinking.
Ants, ants are twatwaffles. We have them in our house. They came in on Saturday and have been slowly taking over. I feel like something is crawling on me at all times. Do not want!!
Tomorrow Bam, the dog and I have to stay out of the house for 8 hours while the house gets sprayed. What am I supposed to do with a 2 year old who won't nap anywhere but his crib?? I will have one cranky boy on my hands!!!
Can you take a PNP to a friend's house and hope for the best?
I hate summer vacation. I know that I'm supposed to be like, time with the kids, yay. But mostly I'm just like: IM CRABBY AND PREGNANT. so, I'm a bad person and stuff. ?
Post by mynameiscarrie on Jun 16, 2015 9:51:46 GMT -5
This may be long... I've been waiting for twatwaffle tuesday so I can vent about it, though, so please bear with me.
I have a friend. We'll call her Jane. Jane and her H have been living separately since December. I've been there for her through the whole thing. She moved in with a guy friend of hers (completely platonic) and he is one for the drama. Since moving in with him, we'll call him Joe, she has started drinking more, spending more money, etc. Whatever, that's fine, not my business what you do. HOWEVER, she vents to me ALL the time about how her life isn't going anywhere, she feels stuck, she's having money problems, she doesn't know what to do with her H. We have the same conversation once a week since DECEMBER. She focuses on her issues without making any changes and there's really nothing I can do to make her do anything because A) she's an adult and B) I live across the state. My issue is that I am getting really exhausted and tired of her coming to me for advice when I give her the same advice every time! See your therapist, make a list of things you need to do and check them off, save money by not going out all the time, etc. She was NEVER like this before.
I don't mind offering advice. I'm actually pretty good at it. But how many times am I supposed to give this advice without her actually DOING something with it? I don't want to snap at her but, FFS LISTEN TO WHAT I TELL YOU. I am giving SO much in this friendship and I get nothing in return. I don't need material things, obviously, but emotionally, it would be nice for her to ask how I'm doing and actually care instead of just "How's baby? Good? Great, let me tell you about my problems (which have been the same for 7 months)." I understand that a few months after separating from their SO, someone would need that emotional crutch. But 7 months later? With things looking up? She is REFUSING to make changes and she's keeping herself in this stressed state and I don't know how much longer I can deal with it. Am I totally out of line here? Am I not being compassionate?
TLDR: Friend is being a twatwaffle and I don't know what to do.
After crazy neighbor drama last night with the new people behind us, this morning I am leaving the house for work and taking my Shih-Tzu with me because it's raining and he has to come with me when it rains. Anyway, my other neighbor who has a dog with aggression issues has the fucking dog out front off leash! It comes running at me and my dog with the hair on its back all standing up, so I grab my little guy and throw him in the car and slam the door shut. The dog then proceeds to jump all over the side of my car trying to get to my dog inside. I hate all my fucking neighbors.
This may be long... I've been waiting for twatwaffle tuesday so I can vent about it, though, so please bear with me.
I have a friend. We'll call her Jane. Jane and her H have been living separately since December. I've been there for her through the whole thing. She moved in with a guy friend of hers (completely platonic) and he is one for the drama. Since moving in with him, we'll call him Joe, she has started drinking more, spending more money, etc. Whatever, that's fine, not my business what you do. HOWEVER, she vents to me ALL the time about how her life isn't going anywhere, she feels stuck, she's having money problems, she doesn't know what to do with her H. We have the same conversation once a week since DECEMBER. She focuses on her issues without making any changes and there's really nothing I can do to make her do anything because A) she's an adult and B) I live across the state. My issue is that I am getting really exhausted and tired of her coming to me for advice when I give her the same advice every time! See your therapist, make a list of things you need to do and check them off, save money by not going out all the time, etc. She was NEVER like this before.
I don't mind offering advice. I'm actually pretty good at it. But how many times am I supposed to give this advice without her actually DOING something with it? I don't want to snap at her but, FFS LISTEN TO WHAT I TELL YOU. I am giving SO much in this friendship and I get nothing in return. I don't need material things, obviously, but emotionally, it would be nice for her to ask how I'm doing and actually care instead of just "How's baby? Good? Great, let me tell you about my problems (which have been the same for 7 months)." I understand that a few months after separating from their SO, someone would need that emotional crutch. But 7 months later? With things looking up? She is REFUSING to make changes and she's keeping herself in this stressed state and I don't know how much longer I can deal with it. Am I totally out of line here? Am I not being compassionate?
TLDR: Friend is being a twatwaffle and I don't know what to do.
This kind of reminds me of my sister. Not so much the situation, exactly, but that she asks for advice, I give great advice, she act likes she hears advice, she does not do anything to change, and then she's back asking for advice, on the same thing, the next week or so.
I don't have an answer for you but will be looking out for what other people say lol. I mean, she's my sister - she's your friend - so you feel like you can't really say, okay, I can't talk to you anymore because you're not listening to what I say anyway, but damn.
TLDR: Friend is being a twatwaffle and I don't know what to do.
Some people just don't want advice. They don't want to change their situation. They just want to bitch. Those people are time sucks when their lives get complicated. Sorry you're dealing with that.
Post by sunfrogger88 on Jun 16, 2015 10:33:18 GMT -5
mynameiscarrie she must be distantly related to my SIL. All of a sudden she got very distant because she always asks my H (her brother) for advice and then she never takes it. She was "tired" of "feeling like she was disappointing everyone by doing what she wanted and not taking their advice". So she just decided to cut everyone out.
No, it's just hard to listen to you bitch about not having money when you've made no changes! Very similar to your rant. I just wanted to share you're not alone
Eta: just realized risscaboobs also said something similar. Isn't it crazy though how people can be?
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After crazy neighbor drama last night with the new people behind us, this morning I am leaving the house for work and taking my Shih-Tzu with me because it's raining and he has to come with me when it rains. Anyway, my other neighbor who has a dog with aggression issues has the fucking dog out front off leash! It comes running at me and my dog with the hair on its back all standing up, so I grab my little guy and throw him in the car and slam the door shut. The dog then proceeds to jump all over the side of my car trying to get to my dog inside. I hate all my fucking neighbors.
Can't you call the police or something?! That is not cool.
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
mynameiscarrie, in that situation with a friend I think I'd have a gentle CTJ talk with her after 7 months of the same complaints and conversations. I'd probably start by saying something like, "I know it's been really hard for you to deal with everything, and I'm sorry it hasn't gotten any easier over the past several months," then instead of repeating the same advice you've given time and again, I'd ask her what she has done so far to address each problem (even if you know the answer is nothing), and what steps she's ready to take right now to change her situation. If she's not willing to engage in a discussion that puts the onus on her to make the necessary changes and/or continues to not follow through, then I'd say something to the effect of, "I'm not sure what else to tell you. If I were you, I think it would be helpful to do x, y, and z as I've said before, but only you can decide what you want to do about your situation."
I don't think you're a crappy friend for withdrawing to some degree, if you need to, for your own emotional strength and for the friendship itself. You can let her know that you're there for her as she moves forward, but you've reached an impasse at this point until she's ready to do something to change the trajectory of things. It sounds like continuing the way things have been going is killing your friendship and taking a toll on you, so I think saying something is preferable to letting that happen. GL.
mynameiscarrie she must be distantly related to my SIL. All of a sudden she got very distant because she always asks my H (her brother) for advice and then she never takes it. She was "tired" of "feeling like she was disappointing everyone by doing what she wanted and not taking their advice". So she just decided to cut everyone out.
No, it's just hard to listen to you bitch about not having money when you've made no changes! Very similar to your rant. I just wanted to share you're not alone
Eta: just realized risscaboobs also said something similar. Isn't it crazy annoying though how people can be?
FTFY.
I am getting more irritable and emotional by the day. It really is only a matter of time where I just start giving no fucks and I say "you know what? At this point, you're doing this to yourself so nut the fuck up and deal or get the fuck out of here with your bullshit."
I can tell my irritability level is rising because I say fuck a hell of a lot more than usual (and that is a LOT).
Post by mynameiscarrie on Jun 16, 2015 11:37:00 GMT -5
mosy, Thanks for the input! I'll try that approach next time. I don't want her to take it personally, I just really can't keep saying the same things over and over. It's frustrating for me because she's surrounded by "yes" men/women and I'm the only person in her life to be honest with her. I need more people to start telling her she needs to get it together instead of letting her continue to wallow. They're emotional enablers.
Well I did blood work this am, cut off about half a foot of my hair, and now I'm trying to find ways to get my toddler to take his medicine. A/S later. Woohoo!
Post by bibliothecary on Jun 16, 2015 11:52:06 GMT -5
Hey. Newspaper. When I call you and let you know when the thing is happening and then call you again. And again. Do NOT be surprised that the thing is happening at that time. It is not my fucking job to take the picture for you and write a blurb. I DO NOT WORK FOR YOU.
Post by ugotstarbucked on Jun 16, 2015 12:31:05 GMT -5
My bra. Holy crap, that thing is a twatwaffle. I had to upgrade to a bigger size (my ta-tas were just not comfortable in my old bras due to rib cage expansion). But this new bra just isn't the same. And I have a zit right where my underwire sits on my ribcage, that hurts like the devil, probably from the beastly heat and daily underboob sweat. We're talking bras getting one use before getting washed kind of sweaty. I really need to be less hot, please and thank you.
I swear I'm going to hunt him down and beat the crap out of him if he doesn't fulfill his promise to publish book 6 before the next season of GoT airs on HBO.
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