Post by namastebiotches on Jan 23, 2015 7:03:58 GMT -5
DH's dad left a vague message for him to call him back yesterday. Turns out they wanted to set dates to include visiting us on this little road trip they are doing (we live a state over from them.) I don't really love them. They are pretty much the worst visitors that just sit there, play on their phone, or literally sleep sitting up. -_- Anyway, I told DH that if they want to enter our house, they gotta babysit. Bwhahahahha I was kidding.........sort of. After setting dates (President's/V-Day weekend), he called back & mentioned MIL told us to make plans to do something & they'll babysit. First.time.ever this has happened (DS is 3.5 & they've visited quite a few times.) So even though I'm not thrilled with having visitors over because initially they mentioned springtime was looking like when they would make it out, I'm looking forward to getting out. I'm usually fine with not having "date nights" or what have you because we literally get 3-4 hrs together each night after DS falls asleep but it'll be nice going out & not having to pay for him to be watched. Lol
Post by namastebiotches on Jan 23, 2015 7:22:48 GMT -5
Yesterday we had our second parent teacher conference of the year. Towards the end, I brought up kindergarten (still 1.5yr away) & at first, she thought I meant this fall. "Next year" means next year, dum dum. I know he's only going to be 4. Hello, I'm mom. We get past that hurdle of miscommunication & I'm asking the district's method when it comes to kiddos that may be a bit behind if they sometimes recommend repeating preschool or if they'd rather them start kindergarten & if it's bad, they'll just repeat that. Well again, she interpreted me saying that I'd prefer to keep him in preschool if he's struggling instead of sending him to kindy & started giving me all these supportive stories. About a few words in, I thought to myself wow, she is definitely not on point today but she was talking so much, it was a lost cause. I turned to DH as we were in the car & he agreed I wasn't in the wrong with all the misinterpretation. Lol To me, even if he is still behind (again, very far from now), I'd rather him learn ALL day long instead of essentially only 2hr/day 4x/week. If he repeats, he repeats but at least he's exposed to how everything is instead of just repeating another year of preschool which is very laid back. Anyway, lots of misinterpreting going on yesterday. She probably went to the other teacher & said 'oh boy, they're already thinking of keeping him with us for an additional year.' No guys, you're safe. LOL
Our neighbor seems nice during the day, but at night him and his girlfriend are freaks in the bed. I hate that our bedrooms share a wall (we live in a town hosue). I hope they move soon. We've had 2 or 3 other neighbors since we moved in and never had a problem with noise. DH says they are getting back at up for DD crying in the middle of the night.
Our neighbor seems nice during the day, but at night him and his girlfriend are freaks in the bed. I hate that our bedrooms share a wall (we live in a town hosue). I hope they move soon. We've had 2 or 3 other neighbors since we moved in and never had a problem with noise. DH says they are getting back at up for DD crying in the middle of the night.
I hate that. I can hear the neighbors above us some times but he's a minute man so I get a good laugh out of it.
Post by helenahhandbasket on Jan 23, 2015 8:49:47 GMT -5
I was looking for a card for a baby shower yesterday, so this came up.
For some reason, when ever I browse thru the "blank" card section (you know, the prettily decorated cards with nothing printed inside?) I always pick them up and look inside. Almost like I don't believe it?
The "blank inside" card business is such a scam. Like, I can fold a piece of paper in half myself and write a message, yanno?
My husband has been OOT for business this whole week and while I am super excited to see him....I am reallllllllly excited to let him take over at home and have a target trip BY MYSELF
We usually get together with my in-laws for birthdays. My birthday is Sunday and we still don't know if we are doing anything. DH says they are waiting to see how his Grandma is. She had a really good day Wednesday and Thursday. I really hope we are able to do something with his family because my family lives up north.
I judge parents who can't make time to volunteer at their child's school. DS's school asks that all families donate 3 hours of time each year to the school. It includes things like attending PTA meetings, Parent/Teacher conferences, volunteering in class, etc. It makes me so sad that they practically have to beg for people to go on field trips, help with PTA projects (like festivals and family nights). It's 3 hours and there are plenty of after work activities to help with.
I judge parents who can't make time to volunteer at their child's school. DS's school asks that all families donate 3 hours of time each year to the school. It includes things like attending PTA meetings, Parent/Teacher conferences, volunteering in class, etc. It makes me so sad that they practically have to beg for people to go on field trips, help with PTA projects (like festivals and family nights). It's 3 hours and there are plenty of after work activities to help with.
3 hours is pretty minimal too. I understand how tough it is to get off work but still your kids education is important too. This is why I'm happy I work nights tho I'll be home during the day to do all that kind of stuff with her.
I judge parents who can't make time to volunteer at their child's school. DS's school asks that all families donate 3 hours of time each year to the school. It includes things like attending PTA meetings, Parent/Teacher conferences, volunteering in class, etc. It makes me so sad that they practically have to beg for people to go on field trips, help with PTA projects (like festivals and family nights). It's 3 hours and there are plenty of after work activities to help with.
I would literally have to miss work to even give one hour of time to school-- unless these activities started at 7:30 or later.
I would for sure consider taking a day off here and there to go on a field trip, but my work week is 60 hours long when you factor in my commute.
I judge parents who can't make time to volunteer at their child's school. DS's school asks that all families donate 3 hours of time each year to the school. It includes things like attending PTA meetings, Parent/Teacher conferences, volunteering in class, etc. It makes me so sad that they practically have to beg for people to go on field trips, help with PTA projects (like festivals and family nights). It's 3 hours and there are plenty of after work activities to help with.
I would literally have to miss work to even give one hour of time to school-- unless these activities started at 7:30 or later.
I would for sure consider taking a day off here and there to go on a field trip, but my work week is 60 hours long when you factor in my commute.
That's true your working in/around the city right?
Point being you acknowledge you would take a day off for a trip. There's a big difference in making the effort vs being to lazy to do it. I have a friend who's a sahm and she's never volunteered for anything because "school time is her time".
Yesterday we had our second parent teacher conference of the year. Towards the end, I brought up kindergarten (still 1.5yr away) & at first, she thought I meant this fall. "Next year" means next year, dum dum. I know he's only going to be 4. Hello, I'm mom. We get past that hurdle of miscommunication & I'm asking the district's method when it comes to kiddos that may be a bit behind if they sometimes recommend repeating preschool or if they'd rather them start kindergarten & if it's bad, they'll just repeat that. Well again, she interpreted me saying that I'd prefer to keep him in preschool if he's struggling instead of sending him to kindy & started giving me all these supportive stories. About a few words in, I thought to myself wow, she is definitely not on point today but she was talking so much, it was a lost cause. I turned to DH as we were in the car & he agreed I wasn't in the wrong with all the misinterpretation. Lol To me, even if he is still behind (again, very far from now), I'd rather him learn ALL day long instead of essentially only 2hr/day 4x/week. If he repeats, he repeats but at least he's exposed to how everything is instead of just repeating another year of preschool which is very laid back. Anyway, lots of misinterpreting going on yesterday. She probably went to the other teacher & said 'oh boy, they're already thinking of keeping him with us for an additional year.' No guys, you're safe. LOL
TBH, I would have thought next school year too. It seems there are a lot of families that choose to delay start for some reason, so they asked me about that even though DD is MORE THAN READY for Kindergarten. Delay start is a weird concept to me. I tend to assume alterior motives, mostly sports reasons.
I judge parents who can't make time to volunteer at their child's school. DS's school asks that all families donate 3 hours of time each year to the school. It includes things like attending PTA meetings, Parent/Teacher conferences, volunteering in class, etc. It makes me so sad that they practically have to beg for people to go on field trips, help with PTA projects (like festivals and family nights). It's 3 hours and there are plenty of after work activities to help with.
I would literally have to miss work to even give one hour of time to school-- unless these activities started at 7:30 or later.
I would for sure consider taking a day off here and there to go on a field trip, but my work week is 60 hours long when you factor in my commute.
We live in a small city. The closest big city is 2 hours away.
I understand some people truly can't.
DP volunteers in the office every Wednesday to stuff communication folders. They need 2 volunteers each week and DP has done it all but a few weeks because they can't get volunteers. One lady volunteered. She was a SAHM, all her kids are in school but she's "so busy" with "errands" that she can't volunteer. Uh what?
There was a fall festival and I volunteered for an hour shift. I ended up doing a two hour shift because they needed the help. There were hundreds of people there but we were so short on volunteers. If you going to attend the event spend 30 minutes (all they asked for) helping man the bouncy castle then join up with your family.
They do an event in February called Cabin Fever. It's on a Saturday. It's a huge deal. They need 80 volunteers. Last year they had to cancel for the first time in 25 years. This year they're pleading for people to help.
IDK. If you can make the time you [general you] should be there. I'm just shocked at how many people don't want to be involved with their child's school.
I would literally have to miss work to even give one hour of time to school-- unless these activities started at 7:30 or later.
I would for sure consider taking a day off here and there to go on a field trip, but my work week is 60 hours long when you factor in my commute.
That's true your working in/around the city right?
Point being you acknowledge you would take a day off for a trip. There's a big difference in making the effort vs being to lazy to do it. I have a friend who's a sahm and she's never volunteered for anything because "school time is her time".
Right, yeah I live in a suburb of NYC and I travel by train into midtown every day.
I get the sentiment, and I agree to an extent. Like in your friend's situation-- yeah, that sounds selfish.
Fortunately I get PTO and am able to take paid vacations and mental health days, but I am sure there are some working moms that do not that would have to forefit pay to attend a school event. Obvioulsy that sucks on so many levels-- for both the mom and the kid.
Post by helenahhandbasket on Jan 23, 2015 10:23:39 GMT -5
Also-- RE the school thing-- and I realize this is probably a dumb question, but is this for private school? Because I literally have never heard of having to volunteer. Is this regional?
I do have one friend who is pretty well off that sends her DD to a $$$ private preschool and she's told me tales of volunteering, but I can't think of anyone else talking about this.
Admittedly, I went to only public schools myself, so I might just be talking about something I know nothing about.
We plan to send DD to public school. Our schools are great (one amazing benefit of living in a HCOL area) and I would only consider a "free" private school (like if she tested into one for a talent or skill-- like Juliard or something like that).
Now I am pretty sure I have entered into rambling territory.
Post by namastebiotches on Jan 23, 2015 10:28:11 GMT -5
Yeah, at DS' open house they made us fill out a volunteer availability sheet but they have yet to ask me to do anything. I came to the conclusion that maybe I'd be a distraction to DS if I'm in the classroom so it's probably better for them that I don't.. at least this year.
Also-- RE the school thing-- and I realize this is probably a dumb question, but is this for private school? Because I literally have never heard of having to volunteer. Is this regional?
I do have one friend who is pretty well off that sends her DD to a $$$ private preschool and she's told me tales of volunteering, but I can't think of anyone else talking about this.
Admittedly, I went to only public schools myself, so I might just be talking about something I know nothing about.
We plan to send DD to public school. Our schools are great (one amazing benefit of living in a HCOL area) and I would only consider a "free" private school (like if she tested into one for a talent or skill-- like Juliard or something like that).
Now I am pretty sure I have entered into rambling territory.
That's true your working in/around the city right?
Point being you acknowledge you would take a day off for a trip. There's a big difference in making the effort vs being to lazy to do it. I have a friend who's a sahm and she's never volunteered for anything because "school time is her time".
Right, yeah I live in a suburb of NYC and I travel by train into midtown every day.
I get the sentiment, and I agree to an extent. Like in your friend's situation-- yeah, that sounds selfish.
Fortunately I get PTO and am able to take paid vacations and mental health days, but I am sure there are some working moms that do not that would have to forefit pay to attend a school event. Obvioulsy that sucks on so many levels-- for both the mom and the kid.
Yea I get what your saying, there's always going to be parents who don't get paid time off. Like H if we need him home a specific day he has to request off and lose the pay. I'm sure if he doesn't find something better hell end up missing out on a ton of her stuff.
Post by helenahhandbasket on Jan 23, 2015 10:47:17 GMT -5
Ok, one more confession.
I usually wake up/ shower/ get dressed for work before J, but she woke up super early today. I let her play in my cheap makeup while I got ready, and dropped her off at my mom's (she takes her to day care for me) with blush, eyeshadow and lipstick on (none of it was in the right spot).
Wednesday nights DH works late, so it is just DD and I for most of the evening. I set her at the dining table with her bowl of Chef Boyardee, egg videos on my tablet, and I grabbed a Coke and read my book in the living room. Another MOTY here.
I kind of have an issue with a school forcing you to volunteer. That's not..... volunteering. The dictionary states volunteer as "a person who voluntarily offers himself or herself for a service or undertaking" or "a person who performs a service willingly" ....... willingly being the key word. Being forced into something is not at all a volunteer position. While I agree that enough people don't volunteer and should be willing to, I don't think it should EVER be forced. And if so, change the name of it. Yes, I'm overthinking today.
Post by BostonKisses on Jan 23, 2015 11:57:07 GMT -5
I totally bribed my kid for good behavior for her hearing test today, and now she has a total of 3 new toys from this week. I ended up spending more today, too, because she insisted on getting the Daniel Tiger trolley, and wanted the set of figurines so she'd have all of the characters. I was shocked that she willingly put back the talking Spencer engine that she's been begging for!
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