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[aggiebug]

foxslaw were you guys called mean girls on td? I don't think so because you actually posted frequently. Yeah come around and start posting, several of you have and I think have been a great part of the community. But when you haven't posted here and then come in being snarky it is perceived much differently than if you posted frequently which is my point.

You stopped posting before we left td nbd but if you want to be perceived differently you have to post and be apart of the community. I am not saying to be different then you are but post more and the perception will be different.

[PikoPiko]

It's OK, jensoprano82. To be honest, you're not the only one getting excited over baby babble. DH goes around telling our friends and family that he heard DS say Hi the other day and he also swears DS cries like ma ma ma when he wants milk. I personally feel it's super cute that DH (and you too) are so full of love and hope that you're eager to interpret what LO is saying. It's a good thing in my book. Don't lose that eagerness, mama!

[jensoprano82]

PikoPiko - hahaha thanks. I know my DH too, he looks at me and goes, oh my gosh, he just waved goodbye! Or "when I said his name he said 'hi'" but it's pretty adorable. Within reason, shouldn't every parent think their baby is amazing?

[foxslaw]

Jun 17, 2015 16:02:04 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

foxslaw were you guys called mean girls on td? I don't think so because you actually posted frequently. Yeah come around and start posting, several of you have and I think have been a great part of the community. But when you haven't posted here and then come in being snarky it is perceived much differently than if you posted frequently which is my point.

You stopped posting before we left td nbd but if you want to be perceived differently you have to post and be apart of the community. I am not saying to be different then you are but post more and the perception will be different.

How is it perceived differently if you know who we are & what we're about? You admit that you knew the tone/personality of us? But it changes if we don't post often enough for you?

[foxslaw]

It also makes me sad to see you guys making fun of Hayleybugg all over this joint, and yet we are the mean girls?

[sugahcookie01]

Jun 17, 2015 16:18:51 GMT -5 @holachica said:

sugahcookie01, we've done all that except switch sound on the sound machine. He's just so addicted to the swaddle and I hope it works when we try again next week (we have a wedding this weekend and will be away from DS). My schedule has still been nuts and I haven't made quality naps a priority. Next week I'll also try Merlin for nap time.

Or you know, I'll swaddle him until he's 18.

I'd try the sound switch. We noticed H slept better in thunderstorms and so the water sounds helped. 

[foxslaw]

Jun 17, 2015 16:23:28 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Jun 17, 2015 16:17:26 GMT -5 foxslaw said:

How is it perceived differently if you know who we are & what we're about? You admit that you knew the tone/personality of us? But it changes if we don't post often enough for you?

I think all aggie is saying is that if someone is more active, others will know the personality. It's hurtful not to hear from people and then people just to come in and be sarcastic.

All I meant by that is that the people i see calling us out are familiar faces who know us well enough to know that we aren't actually assholes & that we mean well. Especially Aggie since she did contribute a lot on TB.

You're right, the generalizations suck. All around. I do not specifically remember who was making fun of her, but I saw that it was more than one person in at least two different threads (I am 90% sure).

[dacora]

Jun 17, 2015 16:25:23 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Jun 17, 2015 16:18:42 GMT -5 foxslaw said:

It also makes me sad to see you guys making fun of Hayleybugg all over this joint, and yet we are the mean girls?

Wut

One thing I'm annoyed about with the drama is all of the generalizations.

That and all the 'us' and 'you'. It just reinforcing the clique-ness of it all.

[mrsclark731]

I don't have anything to add, but I wanted to say I'm glad you're here jensoprano82.

Also, I am very excited to hear all of these Merlin success stories. Also your failed one @holachica I'm trying it tonight and am unreasonably excited.

[sugahcookie01]

Jun 17, 2015 16:23:28 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Jun 17, 2015 16:17:26 GMT -5 foxslaw said:

How is it perceived differently if you know who we are & what we're about? You admit that you knew the tone/personality of us? But it changes if we don't post often enough for you?

I think all aggie is saying is that if someone is more active, others will know the personality. It's hurtful not to hear from people and then people just to come in and be sarcastic.

She came in with a brand new account and made three posts before this thread. Two of the three were participatory niceties. The one was a joke. In a thread started by someone she likely recognized. 

I I guess I fail to see how that equates to her just coming in and being sarcastic. 

I DO understand being mad at some of the people from the other night who were clearly just playing around (though I don't think it was malicious) but this is kind of a witch hunt re foxslaw

[sugahcookie01]

Jun 17, 2015 16:28:30 GMT -5 mrsclark731 said:

I don't have anything to add, but I wanted to say I'm glad you're here jensoprano82.

Also, I am very excited to hear all of these Merlin success stories. Also your failed one @holachica I'm trying it tonight and am unreasonably excited.

Merlin changed my liiiiffffeeee

[foxslaw]

Jun 17, 2015 16:28:11 GMT -5 dacora said:

Jun 17, 2015 16:25:23 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Wut

One thing I'm annoyed about with the drama is all of the generalizations.

That and all the 'us' and 'you'. It just reinforcing the clique-ness of it all.

*sigh* this is happening on both sides & is mostly just easier to refer to the two separate groups. I'm not trying to be cliquey, just trying to get my point across.

[sugahcookie01]

And @holachica, foxslaw straight up said she joined because people said they missed her. Meaning they remembered her and her personality. So if I were her and wanted to reconnect with people who said that is be posting as I always have.

I just think there is a difference between "Im sarcastic and people know it" and "I am here to stir shit." And I'd say I've seen both of those things but fox isn't the mean spirited kind

[babycfeb2015]

@holachica I bought two Ds too! I felt so dumb when I realized it

[foxslaw]

Jun 17, 2015 16:32:15 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Jun 17, 2015 16:28:10 GMT -5 foxslaw said:

All I meant by that is that the people i see calling us out are familiar faces who know us well enough to know that we aren't actually assholes & that we mean well. Especially Aggie since she did contribute a lot on TB.

You're right, the generalizations suck. All around. I do not specifically remember who was making fun of her, but I saw that it was more than one person in at least two different threads (I am 90% sure).

I saw people wondering if she was a troll. Everyone was nice to get here and some were confused why she was saying people were not nice to her.

Fair enough.

[cloe111479]

I'm all

[mands1125]

I re-read the thread from Saturday night. A few points to clarify.

1. No one made fun of Haleybugg. Some people suspect she is a catfish. That's all. We all know there have been catfish on TB before.

2. No one was saying anything remotely mean about Sugah that warrented the bat signal from the FB to come in and poke fun at us nor needed anyone to defend her. There was just a discussion about a moderator who participated in the community more.

3. I really don't feel like "the other" group is a bunch of mean girls or was mean girls on TB. There were people from both groups who enjoyed snarking occasionally. But F15 was very tame compared to other BMB's.

4. Most of the discussion was pertaining to someone of us being left out and missing some of TD regs. That's all. Again, the bat signals coming over here and poking fun of us (I saw some comment about the Merlin suit) was where some of the mean girls perception came from.

[mrsclark731]

Jun 17, 2015 16:32:53 GMT -5 babycfeb2015 said:

@holachica I bought two Ds too! I felt so dumb when I realized it

I lol'ed at this IRL and woke up A from her cat nap 

I'm pretty sure I would've done the same thing. A bunch of Dads are getting an awesome Father's Day gift! 

[sugahcookie01]

Jun 17, 2015 16:36:22 GMT -5 cloe111479 said:

I'm all

I think that's what most of the people trying to post more now (fox, nbad, me etc) are trying to do. 

[foxslaw]

I just feel like insinuating someone is a catfish IS being a little rude? As if someone isn't being her authentic self? Someone who seems to have a really hard life & just needs support? That's all I really meant. Do you at least kind of see where I am coming from?

[foxslaw]

Listen, my main objective here was to reach out to Jenn & make sure she was okay while simultaneously rejoining you guys. I really don't think I warranted the can of works that was opened here.

[mands1125]

I dunno. If you read my comment, I disagreed and said I didn't get a catfish vibe from her. I don't find it rude though *shrugs*

[mands1125]

Jun 17, 2015 16:42:52 GMT -5 foxslaw said:

Listen, my main objective here was to reach out to Jenn & make sure she was okay while simultaneously rejoining you guys. I really don't think I warranted the can of works that was opened here.

Probably not but we are happy if you join in! Welcome back!

[sugahcookie01]

Jun 17, 2015 16:41:21 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Jun 17, 2015 16:32:39 GMT -5 sugahcookie01 said:

And @holachica, foxslaw straight up said she joined because people said they missed her. Meaning they remembered her and her personality. So if I were her and wanted to reconnect with people who said that is be posting as I always have.

I just think there is a difference between "Im sarcastic and people know it" and "I am here to stir shit." And I'd say I've seen both of those things but fox isn't the mean spirited kind

I know! argh, I'm going a terrible job explaining myself. I'm just trying to explain why I think Jen was maybe taking it sensitively. Like how it appeared, especially after the other night even though foxslaw want involved in it. I know foxslaw is a nice lady :-)

I gotcha. 

I do think some of the posts the other night were a little far and I understand being upset. But in the end most posters seemed to kind of kumbaya which I think is cool. 

I will say though. I am hella sarcastic. It's why people liked me on TD! But I'm honestly afraid to post like "me" for fear of being told I'm a jerk when I'm exactly the same as I've always been. 

[foxslaw]

Jun 17, 2015 16:43:22 GMT -5 mands1125 said:

I dunno. If you read my comment, I disagreed and said I didn't get a catfish vibe from her. I don't find it rude though *shrugs*

Not on you, at all! All I was trying to get across was that we *all* are sarcastic sometimes and make comments that can be misinterpreted regardless of how much we post.

[foxslaw]

Jun 17, 2015 16:49:20 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Jun 17, 2015 16:42:52 GMT -5 foxslaw said:

Listen, my main objective here was to reach out to Jenn & make sure she was okay while simultaneously rejoining you guys. I really don't think I warranted the can of works that was opened here.

I really wasn't trying to stir things up and I'm sorry. I just wasn't around on Saturday and now I feel like I'm just trying to explain all the angles (though I may be doing it poorly).

You're fine, you have been nothing but inclusive & welcoming.

[foxslaw]

One of the reasons I decided to participate here is missed your sage wisdom & heard you were active here @nolagal

[mamabutt2]

Are we done fighting now? I haven't posted anything in a while because I feel like I'm the little kid hiding in a corner while mom and dad (old regs and new regs) fight. Can we all just hold hands in a circle and sing Kumbaya now??

P.S. Glad to see all the old regs back

[WittyLittle]

@foxlaw i owe you an apology. What happened the other night really disappointed and actually upset me and i took it out on you. Undeserved. Im sorry.

[foxslaw]

Jun 17, 2015 17:07:52 GMT -5 WittyLittle said:

@foxlaw i owe you an apology. What happened the other night really disappointed and actually upset me and i took it out on you. Undeserved. Im sorry.

Thank you, I appreciate that.