Yeah I get this isn't always true but in my job when we schedule on call, many people use the excuse of having kids to get out of taking major holidays.
Then you should tell those people to stop being assholes & share some of the holidays. And you should also keep in mind that you working a holiday means shuffling plans with your family, your coworker with kids working a holiday means finding childcare which isn't always easy if you have no close family/friends near by. Probably why employers are more inclined to give those people those days off.
I kinda had a mini freak out and yelled in an on call meeting "people without kids have family too!" The supervisors leave it up to the workers to work out the on call schedule so I finally had to speak up. Thankfully we now require everyone to work one major and one minor holiday. But I got so tired of hearing "but I have kids" or "those of us with kids" when referring to Christmas or thanksgiving. I think I'm just ranting now, sorry.
It's not pain Olympics at all. It's that the word can be directly used in the exact same sentence.
And if you are going to tell me generally being a parent is more painful than not being able to be one no matter no hard you try, you're being an asshole (they haven't taken away our right to say that on TCF yet, right?!).
Telling someone they can't complain because you have a different issue is the very definition of pain Olympics.
PS- Some parents actually do understand how IF feels. Oh.
Telling someone they can't complain because you have a different issue is the very definition of pain Olympics.
PS- Some parents actually do understand how IF feels. Oh.
I don't think a parent who suffered from IF would have the balls to say that shit to someone going through it (or who *might be).
If someone wants to complain about their kids to me and tell me "you have no idea", I'd think they were an asshole. It doesn't mean they don't have a right to be an asshole.
People who have never been through IF have no idea what it's like. People who have never had a loss have no idea what it's like. People who have never had a newborn with colic have no idea what's it's like. People who have never had a toddler have no idea what it's like.
Pretty simple.
And you 100% changed the conversation by now saying that people are complaining to you about their kids, which was not what was being discussed. Stop talking to those people. Pretty simple again.
I visited a friend in Boston once and made a whole day trip out of visiting Salem. It was just about as much camp as you'd expect, but you can visit the graveyard where the judges were buried and an adjacent memorial for those who were murdered (and never given headstones). The town itself is absolutely adorable.
I visited a friend in Boston once and made a whole day trip out of visiting Salem. It was just about as much camp as you'd expect, but you can visit the graveyard where the judges were buried and an adjacent memorial for those who were murdered (and never given headstones). The town itself is absolutely adorable.
I've been on several field trips to Salem! When I was in school that is. Always fun times. Love the museum there.
I visited a friend in Boston once and made a whole day trip out of visiting Salem. It was just about as much camp as you'd expect, but you can visit the graveyard where the judges were buried and an adjacent memorial for those who were murdered (and never given headstones). The town itself is absolutely adorable.
GDI, lady. ILY.
I am a history and historical village HOAR. I visited a historical village in Sweden by myself last fall and loved EVERY MINUTE.
Slightly lower-brow-but-still-awesome Salem reference:
I visited a friend in Boston once and made a whole day trip out of visiting Salem. It was just about as much camp as you'd expect, but you can visit the graveyard where the judges were buried and an adjacent memorial for those who were murdered (and never given headstones). The town itself is absolutely adorable.
I've been on several field trips to Salem! When I was in school that is. Always fun times. Love the museum there.
If either of you is interested in a quick, enjoyable Salem-themed read, I enjoyed "Conversion" by Katherine Howe...
I've been on several field trips to Salem! When I was in school that is. Always fun times. Love the museum there.
Totally butting into y'all's Salem discussion, but has anyone watched the TV series? I'm not sure what channel it is on, but I know it's on Netflix. I was geeking out and so excited to watch it until I realized it was actually SyFy (<---is that how you spell that? It doesn't look right) witch actual witches and creatures. It was such a letdown
I had the same thought process! What's intriguing about the Salem witch trials is the absence of sci-fi, IMO. People hanged for paranoia alone. So the show intrigues me but also doesn't.
I visited a friend in Boston once and made a whole day trip out of visiting Salem. It was just about as much camp as you'd expect, but you can visit the graveyard where the judges were buried and an adjacent memorial for those who were murdered (and never given headstones). The town itself is absolutely adorable.
GDI, lady. ILY.
I am a history and historical village HOAR. I visited a historical village in Sweden by myself last fall and loved EVERY MINUTE.
Slightly lower-brow-but-still-awesome Salem reference:
I had the same thought process! What's intriguing about the Salem witch trials is the absence of sci-fi, IMO. People hanged for paranoia alone. So the show intrigues me but also doesn't.
Yesss!!
also, sci-fi totally makes much for sense than syfy
The network used to be sci-fi, then they changed it to SyFy. The Big Bang Theory did a skit on it, which was hilarious.
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