6/18 Rants/Randoms/Raves/Symptoms

[theBeeMama]

My butt just got a Charlie horse while I was pushing DS in the swing in the front yard. So many neighbors around. I almost fell to the ground clutching my ass but I managed to collect myself and scurry inside (dh was out there and took over pushing DS but of course was laughing at me the whole time because I had a butt cramp. Lol)

[bendherova]

If nothing else, the lemon labor cupcakes are delicious. (except I made lemon bread/loaf).

[silv3rlining]

@kej0004 it's possible your OB will be correct. Mine kept saying it wouldn't take much/I'd go quick. I plan to ask her at my 6 week check up if she expected me to go *that* fast. (From start of pit to baby was 3.5 hours, from when she broke my water to baby was only 1.5 hours-ctx didn't really get intense until she broke my water-I was at 3 and 90% and -2 when she broke it)

[sordidvolition]

Jun 18, 2015 16:07:32 GMT -5 belle0720 said:

Random, I'm really tired today and you know I don't like to wear clothes. So a young man was knocking on our door while I sat on the couch watching tv bra-less, there's a large window next to our front door and windows in the door itself so he had a direct view of me. I just pretended not to hear him knocking. Sorry dude I don't want any of what you're selling and I'm not going to get off of the couch with my boobs flopping around just to hear your spiel and then tell you no.

Another random, my dad called to check in and kept asking if 'anything was happening'. I told him well no baby yet and you know we'll let you know as soon as I go into labor (and he said oh yeah I know). Thank you for checking in on me pops but what kind of response are you looking for when you ask if anything is 'happening'?

I think I'm a little cranky today

+1 for not answering the door. Although do not enjoy when idiots need to look through the glass. I need to find a curtain....

[jcprn]

DH has been getting on my nerves a bit since he's gone back to work. He doesn't wake up at night when G cries so if I want help with changing him while I go through the process of getting ready to feed, I have to wake him up. Then deal with him telling me how tired he is in the morning. Thanks, me too. He does take the baby some mornings so I can sleep a little longer but instead of allowing me to breastfeed which I definitely don't mind if it's not the MOTN, he'll give him a bottle of pumped milk from the fridge and it makes us go through our backup milk faster and when I wake up my breasts are crazy sore/engorged and the first thing I have to do in the morning is pump.

Also he's not really doing things around the house anymore. When we were first discharged from the hospital he was cleaning the house, doing dishes, making food, and helping me with G. Now he passively aggressively asks me what's for breakfast/ lunch/ dinner but he's so picky is either the same shit over and over or I'm making 2 meals, one for him and one for me, plus trying to breastfeed every 3 hours.

Then tonight I wake up to feed G when he's crying and DH actually wakes up so I ask him to change his diaper while I get ready. DH asks me of I gave him the drop of vitamin D yet and of course I forgot so he said something, again, passive aggressively. I'm doing the best I can and I would appreciate a reminder rather than a comment that makes me feel like a horrible mother (not that that's his intention).

I'm probably going to say something in the morning once I've cooled off a bit. I'm not my most rational, patient self at 3 am. I just needed to vent for now.

[maddib]

Jun 19, 2015 2:13:43 GMT -5 jcprn said:

DH has been getting on my nerves a bit since he's gone back to work. He doesn't wake up at night when G cries so if I want help with changing him while I go through the process of getting ready to feed, I have to wake him up. Then deal with him telling me how tired he is in the morning. Thanks, me too. He does take the baby some mornings so I can sleep a little longer but instead of allowing me to breastfeed which I definitely don't mind if it's not the MOTN, he'll give him a bottle of pumped milk from the fridge and it makes us go through our backup milk faster and when I wake up my breasts are crazy sore/engorged and the first thing I have to do in the morning is pump.

Also he's not really doing things around the house anymore. When we were first discharged from the hospital he was cleaning the house, doing dishes, making food, and helping me with G. Now he passively aggressively asks me what's for breakfast/ lunch/ dinner but he's so picky is either the same shit over and over or I'm making 2 meals, one for him and one for me, plus trying to breastfeed every 3 hours.

Then tonight I wake up to feed G when he's crying and DH actually wakes up so I ask him to change his diaper while I get ready. DH asks me of I gave him the drop of vitamin D yet and of course I forgot so he said something, again, passive aggressively. I'm doing the best I can and I would appreciate a reminder rather than a comment that makes me feel like a horrible mother (not that that's his intention).

I'm probably going to say something in the morning once I've cooled off a bit. I'm not my most rational, patient self at 3 am. I just needed to vent for now.

Ugh I am sorry your going through this. MH has been the same a bit although he doesn't wake up at all anymore. I know he works and I try my best but he's been passive aggressive about the house being a little messy. Dude I have no nurse for DD until next Wednesday so I am feeding and taking care of our newborn in between doing all of DDs medical care and feedings!! Laundry and dishes are done and dinner is made I am sorry there is a little bit of clutter which belongs to you!! That I have not put away.. Ugh. And I am out of sugar for my coffee this morning. It takes way too much brown sugar to make coffee sweet.

[Bluedaisy]

Jun 19, 2015 1:04:37 GMT -5 budders said:

Jun 18, 2015 15:36:02 GMT -5 @badwolf321 said:

My pastor's mother actually has a philosophy that she lives by for her grandkids. My pastor's wife is expecting their fourth and her MIL never visits for the first month or so. "Mother's don't want their MIL's at their house. They want their Mums. I'm not coming over Jeremy (My pastor)."

This is a very wise woman. I hope to be her when my son is grown up.

My MIL lives too close for comfort and keeps trying to get H and I to go out and do things and leave the baby with her. Umm, he's only 2 weeks old and we're trying to establish breastfeeding. I'll appreciate that offer in a month, but not right now.

Ugh that sucks! I still have an inside baby but I keep having nightmares that while MIL is staying with us she will give LO a bottle of formula while I'm sleeping.

[jcprn]

Jun 20, 2015 1:38:53 GMT -5 budders said:

Jun 19, 2015 22:13:40 GMT -5 Bluedaisy said:

Ugh that sucks! I still have an inside baby but I keep having nightmares that while MIL is staying with us she will give LO a bottle of formula while I'm sleeping.

My MIL would absolutely do that. She formula-fed H and his brother, and has made it clear in her passive aggressive way that she doesn't get why I "have to breastfeed". I think she is under the impression that she could watch him sooner if we were doing formula, but that definitely would not be the case.

The times that I've seen my MIL since G has been born whenever she holds him she hogs him forever. Not just from me but from his great grandma too. And the worst part is when she's holding him for so long he always gets hungry and starts crying and when I say "yeah he's probably hungry" She never gets the hint to give him the f back to me so that I can feed him. I feel like my skin crawls when I know he's crying and hungry but she won't hand him over. She made some passive aggressive comment about how long it takes to feed him and I'm like whatever his needs come before your selfishness.

[leenziepops]

Jun 18, 2015 14:41:50 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

I'm just tired of all the visitors. No one stays for very long but I feel like it's just a revolving door of people. I just want to hang out in my bra and undies and breastfeed in peace.

I declined visitors the first two weeks. Only immediate family was allowed. It's also customary to wait a month to allow mother and baby rest so people aren't offended. I say you just lock the doors and don't let any more visitors in!

[Bluedaisy]

Jun 20, 2015 1:38:53 GMT -5 budders said:

Jun 19, 2015 22:13:40 GMT -5 Bluedaisy said:

Ugh that sucks! I still have an inside baby but I keep having nightmares that while MIL is staying with us she will give LO a bottle of formula while I'm sleeping.

My MIL would absolutely do that. She formula-fed H and his brother, and has made it clear in her passive aggressive way that she doesn't get why I "have to breastfeed". I think she is under the impression that she could watch him sooner if we were doing formula, but that definitely would not be the case.

Yeah she actually told us that if lalecheleague calls to "hang up on those insane people" because they'd told my SIL that she should try to breastfeed BOTH of her twin babies.  DH and were very confused and he asked MIL if she thought SIL should have only fed one....her response? "Of course not, you can't nurse twins, you'd never sleep again.".......wow so no twins in the history of the planet have been breastfed? I had a hard time not pointing out the my cousin managed to breastfeed triplets.