Just got back from the 4 month appointment and I'm so overwhelmed. I know it takes transition time but the doctor wants us to stop swaddling soon, sleep train, and get him out of his 1 nightly feed. On top of all this he shows pretty much no sign of rolling over. I have no clue how to do this and it all seems so important...
Okay, I have to whine. I'm sorry, but I am just in that kind of place right now.
First, I just want sleep. My kids won't nap at the same time and LO will only nap about 20 minutes unless she is in my lap. She is having a hard time going to sleep at night and the three year old has been getting up super early. It has been at least 7 months since I got eight hours of sleep in a 24 hour period, much less all at once. What put me over the edge today was that the three year old fell asleep for 10 minutes in the car this morning and now won't nap at all.
Second, I am jealous of everybody getting away. I have been away from LO a grand total of probably six hours her entire life. Nobody wants to volunteer to keep both kids, not even DH. In the evenings when he gets home, he will watch both for maybe 15 minutes while I do the dinner dishes, but then I get LO back.
Okay, rant over. Thanks for listening to this tired, burnt out mommy.
Just got back from the 4 month appointment and I'm so overwhelmed. I know it takes transition time but the doctor wants us to stop swaddling soon, sleep train, and get him out of his 1 nightly feed. On top of all this he shows pretty much no sign of rolling over. I have no clue how to do this and it all seems so important...
Maybe I'm wrong but my first reaction to this was - whoa buddy, mind your own business! Lol
Is your LO gaining appropriately based on their growth curve? Any other medical issues? This is what the dr should be concerned about.
My older LO had a one night feed until 8 months bc why the heck not? I didn't mind and she liked the comfort. Lots of babies don't roll at 4 months - my LO didn't roll until 4 and 1/2 months.
Sleep training is not a must for anyone so don't feel pressured into it.
missys, also to add about the rolling...I spent some time (a few minutes here and there) practicing with LO. I would pull one leg over and hold it so she would get the idea to roll to her side and try to get up. I think it helped but really they will do it when they want.
With my oldest the practice made no difference, eventually I gave up. Two weeks later I put her on the floor and she rolled right over.
Do you ladies have a Whole Foods in your area? They have an Vitamin D option that is only one drop instead of a dropper full. It might even be organic.
If people don't have access to any locally, I got these one drop Vit-D drops on Amazon: amzn.com/B00Q0E161M
Just one drop and I have tried them, they are completely flavorless. LO doesn't seem to even notice. And at one drop only, the bottle will last ages.
Okay, I have to whine. I'm sorry, but I am just in that kind of place right now.
First, I just want sleep. My kids won't nap at the same time and LO will only nap about 20 minutes unless she is in my lap. She is having a hard time going to sleep at night and the three year old has been getting up super early. It has been at least 7 months since I got eight hours of sleep in a 24 hour period, much less all at once. What put me over the edge today was that the three year old fell asleep for 10 minutes in the car this morning and now won't nap at all.
Second, I am jealous of everybody getting away. I have been away from LO a grand total of probably six hours her entire life. Nobody wants to volunteer to keep both kids, not even DH. In the evenings when he gets home, he will watch both for maybe 15 minutes while I do the dinner dishes, but then I get LO back.
Okay, rant over. Thanks for listening to this tired, burnt out mommy.
I'm sorry that sounds so stressful and frustrating. Is there any way DH could help a bit more?
Okay, I have to whine. I'm sorry, but I am just in that kind of place right now.
First, I just want sleep. My kids won't nap at the same time and LO will only nap about 20 minutes unless she is in my lap. She is having a hard time going to sleep at night and the three year old has been getting up super early. It has been at least 7 months since I got eight hours of sleep in a 24 hour period, much less all at once. What put me over the edge today was that the three year old fell asleep for 10 minutes in the car this morning and now won't nap at all.
Second, I am jealous of everybody getting away. I have been away from LO a grand total of probably six hours her entire life. Nobody wants to volunteer to keep both kids, not even DH. In the evenings when he gets home, he will watch both for maybe 15 minutes while I do the dinner dishes, but then I get LO back.
Okay, rant over. Thanks for listening to this tired, burnt out mommy.
I'm sorry that sounds so stressful and frustrating. Is there any way DH could help a bit more?
The problem is that he thinks he is helping out by handling DS. While it is better than having both of them, it is not the same as not having either kid. LO does better with me so he just hands her back to me when she gets fussy. We have had the same general problem since I quit working when DS was born...he thinks his job is his job and the kids are my job.
So I went to Target after dropping off DD with my parents. Needed to pick up a few necessities and figured I'd pick up something for DH's birthday (he's terrible at figuring out what he wants, normally I wouldn't have bought him anything and it wouldn't have been an issue). I got him Minecraft Legos and a big bag of Twizzlers. He's 33 today.
ChickenOnSunday o would leave it and still use it. It won't be toxic but may be less effective. So if you don't think it is working well toss it and get some fresh stuff. And I give vit D every night with her night time feeding so it is easy to remember. Vit D deficiency is one that will go unnoticed for a very long time but doesn't mean it digestive cause issues m it helps with brain development.
Just got back from the 4 month appointment and I'm so overwhelmed. I know it takes transition time but the doctor wants us to stop swaddling soon, sleep train, and get him out of his 1 nightly feed. On top of all this he shows pretty much no sign of rolling over. I have no clue how to do this and it all seems so important...
Whaaa? Why do you have to stop swaddling unless it's unsafe to do so (because of rolling, etc), and why do you have to drop his single night feed? Research shows most babies need this until at least 6 months. Did the doctor give you any reason for these demands? Which is what they feel/sound like to me…
ETA: We are attempting to sleep train DD, but I feel like that's a personal choice and not something anybody should be telling you to do.
Just got back from the 4 month appointment and I'm so overwhelmed. I know it takes transition time but the doctor wants us to stop swaddling soon, sleep train, and get him out of his 1 nightly feed. On top of all this he shows pretty much no sign of rolling over. I have no clue how to do this and it all seems so important...
Unless this correlates with some medical issues you haven't mentioned, this sounds like parenting advice not medical advice. You don't have to take parenting advice from anyone, even your pedi.
Just got back from the 4 month appointment and I'm so overwhelmed. I know it takes transition time but the doctor wants us to stop swaddling soon, sleep train, and get him out of his 1 nightly feed. On top of all this he shows pretty much no sign of rolling over. I have no clue how to do this and it all seems so important...
Whaaa? Why do you have to stop swaddling unless it's unsafe to do so (because of rolling, etc), and why do you have to drop his single night feed? Research shows most babies need this until at least 6 months. Did the doctor give you any reason for these demands? Which is what they feel/sound like to me…
ETA: We are attempting to sleep train DD, but I feel like that's a personal choice and not something anybody should be telling you to do.
She said to wean swaddling because he will be rolling soon. She said to not drop the feed until we've completed the deswaddling, but that babies from 4-6 months are able to go without if he's eating enough during the day (he's FF with 1 BM bottle a day so we know his amounts). Then said that 4-6 months is crucial in their sleep development and will set the pattern for their entire infancy and recommended Ferber.
I will say I do have PPA and she was nicer than I made it sound in my previous post but I feel so overwhelmed. For me I know I need to make a plan (teacher in me) in order to relieve some anxiety about all of this. First, wait until my husband is done with summer school to suffer deswaddling with me and then try letting him soothe to sleep after that transition...
lilyelayne he is a very healthy 15.5 pound 25.5 inch boy who sleeps 6-6 with 1 wake up feed. I just felt like I just got the hang of him and now I'm doing it wrong because he hit 4 months.
mishka29 thank you so much for the rolling support! I needed that perspective.
Wow, if it's true that babies going 6-6 with only 1 night feed is unacceptable, then I must be failing spectacularly as my LO eats at least 4 times between 6-6.
I'm sorry that sounds so stressful and frustrating. Is there any way DH could help a bit more?
The problem is that he thinks he is helping out by handling DS. While it is better than having both of them, it is not the same as not having either kid. LO does better with me so he just hands her back to me when she gets fussy. We have had the same general problem since I quit working when DS was born...he thinks his job is his job and the kids are my job.
And I would say the kids are your job for the time your DH is at work. Why does he get an 8 hour (or whatever) job and you get a 24 hr one. I had to point out this math to my DH before it clicked with him.
Post by AppropriateChocolate on Jun 19, 2015 17:21:50 GMT -5
Happy Friday ladies. I'm exhausted, my best friends and I went to lunch and the children's museum with the kids. DD (who turned 4 months today yay) did amazingly well while my DSD1 and GS ran the place, the museum lost power and the kids didn't even notice. Now to make DH his chocolate on chocolate cake for father's day and to clean.
Wow, if it's true that babies going 6-6 with only 1 night feed is unacceptable, then I must be failing spectacularly as my LO eats at least 4 times between 6-6.
Whaaa? Why do you have to stop swaddling unless it's unsafe to do so (because of rolling, etc), and why do you have to drop his single night feed? Research shows most babies need this until at least 6 months. Did the doctor give you any reason for these demands? Which is what they feel/sound like to me…
ETA: We are attempting to sleep train DD, but I feel like that's a personal choice and not something anybody should be telling you to do.
She said to wean swaddling because he will be rolling soon. She said to not drop the feed until we've completed the deswaddling, but that babies from 4-6 months are able to go without if he's eating enough during the day (he's FF with 1 BM bottle a day so we know his amounts). Then said that 4-6 months is crucial in their sleep development and will set the pattern for their entire infancy and recommended Ferber.
I will say I do have PPA and she was nicer than I made it sound in my previous post but I feel so overwhelmed. For me I know I need to make a plan (teacher in me) in order to relieve some anxiety about all of this. First, wait until my husband is done with summer school to suffer deswaddling with me and then try letting him soothe to sleep after that transition...
lilyelayne he is a very healthy 15.5 pound 25.5 inch boy who sleeps 6-6 with 1 wake up feed. I just felt like I just got the hang of him and now I'm doing it wrong because he hit 4 months.
mishka29 thank you so much for the rolling support! I needed that perspective.
You are not failing and I hate that your dr made you feel that way. It sounds like you're doing a great job and should keep doing what you're doing.
LO started rolling last night (only back to tummy in both directions). Now he can't get enough of it. He was not anywhere close to rolling this time last week (I think he had accidentally rolled to his side a few times at that point, likely just to get boobies). We bought a nice Ninja blender today. I see some frozen alcoholic beverages in my future.
Just got back from the 4 month appointment and I'm so overwhelmed. I know it takes transition time but the doctor wants us to stop swaddling soon, sleep train, and get him out of his 1 nightly feed. On top of all this he shows pretty much no sign of rolling over. I have no clue how to do this and it all seems so important...
Maybe I'm wrong but my first reaction to this was - whoa buddy, mind your own business! Lol
Is your LO gaining appropriately based on their growth curve? Any other medical issues? This is what the dr should be concerned about.
My older LO had a one night feed until 8 months bc why the heck not? I didn't mind and she liked the comfort. Lots of babies don't roll at 4 months - my LO didn't roll until 4 and 1/2 months.
Sleep training is not a must for anyone so don't feel pressured into it.
^This! I was a little taken aback by all of that. This is my 3rd and I've never had a doctor tell me that especially at this age and unsolicited.
Post by lotsofdotts on Jun 19, 2015 18:59:11 GMT -5
missys I jumped the gun and hadn't read all the responses. I understand what you are saying because I'm a teacher and have PPA as well. Take your time and don't stress yourself out about it. My DD was a horrible sleeper as an infant but became a great sleeper as she got older. Do what you need to do but don't put extra stress on yourself. One time a night isn't bad at all.
We are supposed to leave for vacation tomorrow (in the middle of the tonight). We just got back from the hospital and are not packed. I have to run to Kohl's tonight because LO outgrew every last summer appropriate outfit recently. I am really dreading the drive down and being away from my momma. She wants us to go though because she said staying here isn't going to help anything (true) and this is the only time in the foreseeable future that DH will have off for vacation (also true). I am just really tired and kind of sad about leaving while my mom is sick. Ugh.
Edited to add: We are late night, last minute people so with the help of a little coffee it will be okay.
So sorry to hear about your mom. Try to have fun on your vacation!
Post by AppropriateChocolate on Jun 19, 2015 20:04:53 GMT -5
So somehow both my for arms are covered in chocolate icing....I really don't feel like taking a shower...but I guess I can't go to bed chocolatey delicious lol.b
So somehow both my for arms are covered in chocolate icing....I really don't feel like taking a shower...but I guess I can't go to bed chocolatey delicious lol.b
You really are living up to your infamous sexual chocolate comment!
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