WTAF: a gif story

[adorebel]

This is the front page of our old BORED (intentional misspelling) right now:

http://*!*!*!*!*!*!*!*!*!/m/igf24m/3

Every effing thread is some SS being like, "I want a girl but there's a penis!" or "Iz normal my hair fall out im 18 wks thx 4 ur advise?" or "Haiiii I participate here all the time so don't tell me I don't go here." To which I want to say:



But I do not have the energy to yell at all the self-centered, drive-by randos TB has decided put ahead of its real members. emilyzemily, you are my hero for doing battle with the river of idiots over there. 



I'm so thankful I was lurking on TB one day while the ship was sinking so @jimbobcooter and budders could tell me where you all were going - here. The new bump has no check-ins, no thread organization, no sensitivity for losses, no humor, no gifs, no lovetits - in short, no consistency and no community. I shudder to think what our other loss moms who haven't been on TB lately will think if they come back in a month:



Grateful you all are still here as I hang around and ease my way into the new GBCB loss and TTC boards. 

[emilyzemily]

I love this! Adorebel I have almost lost the energy to fight with the stupid over there, and TB gods keep deleting my posts. All I did was call amoora pussy of the year, I don't see what's wrong with that muaha

[tiffbot]

Lol! Oh my, I haven't looked back in the last couple days, looks like I'll keep it that way!

[Deleted]

I'm so glad things are picking up speed here and that you are here with us!

[teenybird]

I think we're slowly getting into the swing of new normal here. So glad you are here!

[Deleted]

I know I shouldn't go back... but it's just so hard! There is so much stupid happening over there, it's painful to watch. The newbie intro thread is gone, there are a million stupid questions popping up, and suddenly there are all these cunty whores that started commenting like a week ago and act like they run the boards (tannersnumbers and haynesrn something or the other). It makes me want to slap a hoe.

[Deleted]

Jan 23, 2015 10:48:34 GMT -5 emilyzemily said:

I love this! Adorebel I have almost lost the energy to fight with the stupid over there, and TB gods keep deleting my posts. All I did was call amoora pussy of the year, I don't see what's wrong with that muaha

Amoora is naming her baby Khalifa... Like Wiz Khalifa (see gif below)... what more do you need to know? She's an idiot. 

[emilyzemily]

Jan 23, 2015 11:02:44 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

Jan 23, 2015 10:48:34 GMT -5 emilyzemily said:

I love this! Adorebel I have almost lost the energy to fight with the stupid over there, and TB gods keep deleting my posts. All I did was call amoora pussy of the year, I don't see what's wrong with that muaha

Amoora is naming her baby Khalifa... Like Wiz Khalifa (see gif below)... what more do you need to know? She's an idiot. 

Oh well that's just made my day haha!!

[laurenlou83]

Jan 23, 2015 11:02:44 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

Jan 23, 2015 10:48:34 GMT -5 emilyzemily said:

I love this! Adorebel I have almost lost the energy to fight with the stupid over there, and TB gods keep deleting my posts. All I did was call amoora pussy of the year, I don't see what's wrong with that muaha

Amoora is naming her baby Khalifa... Like Wiz Khalifa (see gif below)... what more do you need to know? She's an idiot. 

SERIOUSLY?! How did I miss this piece of information!?

[adorebel]

Jan 23, 2015 11:07:14 GMT -5 laurenlou83 said:

Jan 23, 2015 11:02:44 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

Amoora is naming her baby Khalifa... Like Wiz Khalifa (see gif below)... what more do you need to know? She's an idiot. 

SERIOUSLY?! How did I miss this piece of information!?

IDIOTS ALL! hahahaha this is almost as bad as nayghtmare or whatever that other lady's brilliant idea was. 

[adorebel]

If any of you watch The Bachelor (@jimbobcooter?), there is some idiot on there who named her kid Kale. BUT WHY.

[pickles]

Jan 23, 2015 11:21:09 GMT -5 adorebel said:

If any of you watch The Bachelor (@jimbobcooter?), there is some idiot on there who named her kid Kale. BUT WHY.

Kale is my favorite leafy green

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emilyzemily laurenlou83 adorebel

She commented on the Baby Boy name post (the one where OP went through 489 names and couldn't pick one, so she decided to ask the interwebz):

forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/86431206/#Comment_86431206

I wanted to just leave TB and just be done with it. But my work there is not done!!

[Girlymama79]

I keep going back out of habit and then I feel sad. I don't even know what to say to all the dumbness.

[Widget123]

happy to see you made your way over here adorebel 

[mrskblack11]

adorebel I am so glad you found us!

[Deleted]

Jan 23, 2015 11:30:23 GMT -5 Girlymama79 said:

I keep going back out of habit and then I feel sad. I don't even know what to say to all the dumbness.

I noticed you're still around over there and that gives me some comfort! There are a few brave souls that are still trying to educate the masses but it's not easy. For every intelligent response, there are 20 others blowing glitter up someone's ass. 

And there's a major shortage of gifs! WTF is up with that? The new bumpies suck!

[Girlymama79]

Jan 23, 2015 11:40:18 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

Jan 23, 2015 11:30:23 GMT -5 Girlymama79 said:

I keep going back out of habit and then I feel sad. I don't even know what to say to all the dumbness.

I noticed you're still around over there and that gives me some comfort! There are a few brave souls that are still trying to educate the masses but it's not easy. For every intelligent response, there are 20 others blowing glitter up someone's ass. 

And there's a major shortage of gifs! WTF is up with that? The new bumpies suck!

Maybe after I get the house cleaned I'll treat myself to a twix and go have a gif storm over there.

[hbanana18]

This is how I feel every time I go lurk on TB

[elvinnoe]

I may participate in TB one day if I ever get pregnant again, and that's a really big maybe, but as of now I really can't handle it. The fact that the new bumpies have no sense of respect for our loss moms makes me want nothing to do with them. I started on TB originally in 2012 as a loss mom and got so much support that I never left! Until now..

[Deleted]

Jan 23, 2015 11:21:09 GMT -5 adorebel said:

If any of you watch The Bachelor (@jimbobcooter?), there is some idiot on there who named her kid Kale. BUT WHY.

I gave up on the Bachelor several season ago.  I just can't anymore.   But WTF with Kale?  Quinoa is a much better name. 

[Stormy61]

Jan 23, 2015 12:06:59 GMT -5 @jimbobcooter said:

Jan 23, 2015 11:21:09 GMT -5 adorebel said:

If any of you watch The Bachelor (@jimbobcooter?), there is some idiot on there who named her kid Kale. BUT WHY.

I gave up on the Bachelor several season ago.  I just can't anymore.   But WTF with Kale?  Quinoa is a much better name. 

Umm you are throwing me off with your new avitar!

[blasto!]

This is an amazing summary and I love it. The end.

[Deleted]

Jan 23, 2015 12:23:01 GMT -5 Stormy61 said:

Jan 23, 2015 12:06:59 GMT -5 @jimbobcooter said:

I gave up on the Bachelor several season ago.  I just can't anymore.   But WTF with Kale?  Quinoa is a much better name. 

Umm you are throwing me off with your new avitar!

Sorry!   I was tired of the eat your face avatar.  I needed a change! :-P

[Deleted]

Jan 23, 2015 11:59:38 GMT -5 elvinnoe said:

I may participate in TB one day if I ever get pregnant again, and that's a really big maybe, but as of now I really can't handle it. The fact that the new bumpies have no sense of respect for our loss moms makes me want nothing to do with them. I started on TB originally in 2012 as a loss mom and got so much support that I never left! Until now..

What happened yesterday during the hour of silence was beyond disgusting. One troll decided to use that specific hour to respond on all the stupid SS threads calling people (and me) trailer trash and what not... She got called out BIG time for it (all the posts have since been deleted) and she hasn't come back since. 

[noeliav]

Jan 23, 2015 11:30:23 GMT -5 Girlymama79 said:

I keep going back out of habit and then I feel sad. I don't even know what to say to all the dumbness.

Yes.

Jan 23, 2015 11:59:02 GMT -5 hbanana18 said:

This is how I feel every time I go lurk on TB

Yes.

And, yes, I'm happy to see @adorabel's face on this side

[billyhorrible]

Jan 23, 2015 11:59:38 GMT -5 elvinnoe said:

I may participate in TB one day if I ever get pregnant again, and that's a really big maybe, but as of now I really can't handle it. The fact that the new bumpies have no sense of respect for our loss moms makes me want nothing to do with them. I started on TB originally in 2012 as a loss mom and got so much support that I never left! Until now..

I was thinking about this this morning.  A lot of the shit hitting the fan moments have had to deal with loss/infertility etc.  One of the favorite pasttimes of the trolls/idiots is to wish infertility on members - which causes some of the "guideline" issues such as name calling and insulting gifs.   (Let's not forget our favorite anti-vaxxer who wished all our kids would die)  We also seem to have a huge influx of people saying awful things about the loss moms - they don't belong here, they're not important, etc.  And I'm sure that's not just our board.   Add to that the insensitive message the bump sent out to the infertility/loss boards during the shitstorm...

I know as a group this proboard has reached out to social media, advertisers, etc., but has anyone reached out to the major infertility/loss groups?  I don't know any specifically, but I'm sure there are national groups in the same way there are for other major social issues.

[tiffbot]

Yikes @littlebee that's awful

[finchfeeder]

I'll bet they have such little respect for the loss moms because they weren't here in the beginning where it was such a real and scary thing for EVERYONE. We had so many people that we built relationships over those weeks with, and we'd have multiple losses each week. It was just absolutely heart-wrenching.

Now that it's not as common an occurrence, these people who have supposedly lurked and are now crawling out of the woodwork just have no idea what it's like.

This does not in any way excuse them,it's just my theory on why they aren't as impacted as those of us who have been actively participating and building our community since October. Everyone who carries a child has that fear that, at the very least, is whispering away in the back of their minds. Knowing what that fear is like, even if you never experience the horror of watching someone else go through it, should make you empathetic to those who did go through it. Compassion is an important life skill, yo.

Hopefully that makes sense, it was so much more eloquent in my head.

[billyhorrible]

Jan 23, 2015 13:30:15 GMT -5 finchfeeder said:

Now that it's not as common an occurrence, these people who have supposedly lurked and are now crawling out of the woodwork just have no idea what it's like.

See, I disagree with this.  Because really, that's what each of these "why can't I feel movement" posts are really getting at.  These bitches are just as scared of having a loss.  We had hundreds of idiot posters worrying they weren't pregnant during first tri because they were throwing up, they weren't throwing up, they got dizzy, they didn't get dizzy.  Second tri they're worried they're having a loss because they don't feel movement, their symptoms are gone, etc. 

The problem is, that they're selfish.  It's the reason they never contributed to the community before.  It's not that they're not aware, it's that they don't care.  They don't care about anyone but themselves.  They don't read the loss posts because it doesn't affect them.  They don't read the posts asking the same questions they have because....they don't care if anyone else is going through something similar really.  Each repetitive post isn't really asking for answers, it's saying "Hey look at me!  Check out what's going on with me!"  Because if they wanted to see if someone was feeling similarly, they'd look to see if - wait for it - someone was feeling similarly.

And you know what?  As I said on the board a couple of days ago, it's perfectly fine if that's how you want to be, but in real life or on a message board you're not going to build a community that way.  The pilgrims did not survive by only constructing their own homes, they survived because they shared resources and helped each other out.  And that's what these posters don't understand.  It's all well and good to be selfish, but if you're surrounded by other selfish people, who's going to help you when you need it?