Toddler annoyances

[fiveohfive]

Anyone care to post what's driving them up a wall lately?

[annarose]

Dad calls all food "apple" it's incredibly annoying when trying to decide what she really means.
She knows what an apple actually is so I'm not sure why all food had become apple

[fiveohfive]

DD1 loooooves to clean. She will take tissues, TP, washcloths, etc. and go to town "cleaning". It's adorable watching her run around complaining of dirt.

What's not awesome about her cleaning is that she steals the stacks of burp cloths from next to all my nursing stations to clean. I either forget to grab a new one when I sit down since I always leave them where I need them OR worse, I wipe the baby's face with a dog hair covered burp cloth she has put back on the table after cleaning.

[Deleted]

1) Incessant screeching. (Sometimes just for fun, they will screech at the top of their lungs at each other and then laugh hysterically.)
2) Constantly moving the walls of the play yard, especially when I can't be watching them, like when I am cooking, or throwing laundry in the wash.
3) Refusal to eat table foods/hoarding baby food in their mouths and not wanting to swallow. They think it's hilarious. I'm at my wit's end. Ashley will eat chicken cutlets at least. It's not that they can't eat it, or that there is a texture issue. They just won't eat most table foods. (Even Kayla will eat Nilla Wafers and crispy Chinese noodles.) The closest appointment we can get with a feeding team is at the end of October. Meanwhile, I spend every day with my own stomach in knots from the feeding fights and barely want to eat anything myself most of the time.

[lilqt3929]

@twinstars I'm interested in this "feeding team" you mention. How did you find out about them and what kind of qualifications do you need to be able to go to one? My DD eats hardly anything, literally I have to give her the same things everyday and she will not even try anything new. She's never even had a bite of meat in her life, it's a constant battle!

My annoyance is the fits DD throws when she wants to get her way. She throws fits when we have to change diaper, get in the carseat, and when we leave anywhere. It's super frustrating especially now since I'm in the 1st trimester and feel like crap all the time. I've pretty much resorted to just staying home during the day and she's definitely watching more TV then I'd like but right now it's about survival over the next month until I hopefully feel better. I know her behavior is normal but gosh I could do without the fits right now.

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lilqt3929 - My pediatrician recommended the feeding team at the last appointment when she was asking about how much/types of food the girls are eating. I'm really, really, really hoping the girls will decide to start eating before the appointment though. I have NO idea how much this is going to run/what the insurance company is going to cover. (I think the team has something like 6 people, including speech therapists and a clinical psychologist, for example.)

If you are concerned about your DD, I would mention it/ask your pedi about a feeding team. (S)He may be able to refer you to someone.

[lilqt3929]

@twinstarts thank you, it's so hard to know if it's just "normal" toddler behavior or if there realy is some other issue that needs to be addressed. I always tend to put the blame on myself since I've been the one to feed her but it's definitely not because I don't try, I guess that's normal too.

[fiveohfive]

Jun 25, 2015 9:40:07 GMT -5 @twinstars said:

1) Incessant screeching. (Sometimes just for fun, they will screech at the top of their lungs at each other and then laugh hysterically.)
2) Constantly moving the walls of the play yard, especially when I can't be watching them, like when I am cooking, or throwing laundry in the wash.
3) Refusal to eat table foods/hoarding baby food in their mouths and not wanting to swallow. They think it's hilarious. I'm at my wit's end. Ashley will eat chicken cutlets at least. It's not that they can't eat it, or that there is a texture issue. They just won't eat most table foods. (Even Kayla will eat Nilla Wafers and crispy Chinese noodles.) The closest appointment we can get with a feeding team is at the end of October. Meanwhile, I spend every day with my own stomach in knots from the feeding fights and barely want to eat anything myself most of the time.

I feel you on the screeching. WTF--it's horrible

[annarose]

DD is an awesome eater at daycare and they always talk about it. Lunch (on the weekends) and dinner at home are so hit and miss. The other night she went to town on some tacos, last night she barley touched her ravioli and decided she wanted yogurt and cheese and crackers for dinner. Whatevs. I figure it will even out eventually.

[ajaan113]

DS doesn't like meat. He will eat chicken when we are out. He will eat deli meat while we are at the store. The deli ladies love DS and gives him deli meat and cheese to snack on. At home, he takes a bite of "meat" to be polite then gives the rest to the dog.

DS will also cry until he throws up. DS does not like the car seat.

DS will nap with no problem. At night, it will take him forever to fall asleep. He thinks it's playtime.

[carli]

DD is obsessed with the potty. I haven't officially started potty training but since she's in the 2 year old room at daycare now, they put her on the toilet regularly through the day. Now, at home, she insists on sitting on the potty, putting toilet paper in the potty, flushing the potty and washing her hands. Fine...but she just wants to do it over and over and over without ever actually going potty! We'll spend 30 minutes in the bathroom repeating the process. It's super annoying. It's also led to a strong fight against me putting her in a clean diaper when needed. She'll pull dirty/wet ones off, but runs away without a clean one.

Also, it's great, and I appreciate it, but the independence can irk me too. she doesn't want help with anything. Socks and shoes take FOREVER every morning. She also has to buckle her own seatbelt now. Again, I think this is great in the long run and she obviously needs to learn these things, but dang, mama's got a schedule to keep, let's move!

[sugarkissed]

DD has hit full meltdown mode over absolutely everything. I think a lot of it has to do with the new baby and the fact that she isn't the sole focus of our attention. If something doesn't go exactly her way she has a tantrum and throws herself to the floor crying.

She has been putting her dolls in all of the baby stuff (swing, carseat, bassinet...) so when I actually have to put down the baby she gets mad at me for moving her doll.

Oh, and she throws food to the dog all of the time, to the point where everyone has started commenting that he has gained weight. Haha.

[joi922]

Add us to the group whose kid is a picky eater. The one thing I've found that makes a difference is flavor. He doesn't like plain ground beef, but loves hot sausage. He won't eat plain avocado, but loves avocado and tomato in a balsamic vinaigrette (sp?). He'll eat soup broth but not soup noodles. He also will refuse to eat something he's previously loved, like chicken or pasta. It's a constant guessing game, so we tend to revert to toast and apples or the few things described above A LOT. I figured it was normal toddler behavior, but now I'll be paying closer attention. Food team sounds intesting - i defonitwly want to hear how that goes for those who use them.

The annoying thing for me: he constantly wants to be outside. That might be okay if it wasn't 100 degrees with high humidity and I wasn't 6 weeks from my due date. But I just can't be out there very long, especially since he's immediatley poking at me to get up and play if I dare sit down. But as soon as we come in it's a repetetive whine for "outside!"

[redfraggle]

DD is gaining independence, but this means that she takes for.ev.er. to do things. And if I help her, even when she is bawling because she needs help getting unstuck, she gets upset with me.

DS is in question-asking preschooler mode all. the. time. now, and I'm just so over this. I don't even know what he's asking about half the time because he points in a vague direction and says "what's that" or something else kind of vague. And I get so frustrated trying to answer him and listening to the slew of questions that follow if I do.

lilqt3929,Congratulations! H&H 9 mo. to you!!!
To you, jnetx, joi922, and @twinstars, Parents magazine had a really interesting article this past winter about picky eaters and what is normal and what is not. I think it was the February issue, but I don't remember for sure. It might be worth your while to read, though. It had some good tips as well as some info on one of these feeding specialist centers.

sugarkissed, part of that tantruming is normal for the age, but DS had a really hard time adjusting to DD when she first came home. Have you tried setting up some doll equipment near your baby equipment so she can care for her doll alongside you? (Like dolly swing by baby swing, dolly crib by bassinet, etc.) We also found it really helpful to tell DS that if he wanted to be away from DD, he could go to his room to play, and I wouldn't let DD in unless he invited her. I was surprised by how much that helped.

[amy11401]

DS throws food off his high chair when he is done. He is hit or miss with eating too.

[RedDDD]

Jun 25, 2015 9:59:47 GMT -5 lilqt3929 said:

@twinstars I'm interested in this "feeding team" you mention. How did you find out about them and what kind of qualifications do you need to be able to go to one? My DD eats hardly anything, literally I have to give her the same things everyday and she will not even try anything new. She's never even had a bite of meat in her life, it's a constant battle!

My annoyance is the fits DD throws when she wants to get her way. She throws fits when we have to change diaper, get in the carseat, and when we leave anywhere. It's super frustrating especially now since I'm in the 1st trimester and feel like crap all the time. I've pretty much resorted to just staying home during the day and she's definitely watching more TV then I'd like but right now it's about survival over the next month until I hopefully feel better. I know her behavior is normal but gosh I could do without the fits right now.

Sounds like she is having trouble with transitions which is totally normal.  My son was like this a little bit so I got in the habbit of preparing him for EVERYTHING.  Ok in a few minutes we are going to the store.....in a few minutes we are going to get in the car and go to school .....Im going to have to change your diaper soon....on and on....seemed to help and it works now at 3 yrs old.  Ten minutes to bath time, 5 minutes till we leave for school etc....this way they have been warned/prepped about the upcoming change and its not such a shock.  

[RedDDD]

I really hate the whining....

I also really have a hard time with both of them when they start feeding off each other. Its like one acts naughty so the other one gloats about how they are not the naughty one. One will hit and then the other one hits....I feel like Im herding cats. I sometimes feel like I have lost all control.....

[lilqt3929]

RedDDD I think that is probably what she is having trouble with too. I've started doing some of what you said you do but I need to get better and more consistent with it. I also need to get DH on board too, that will be another struggle, not that he won't do it but more like he's forgetful and will be lax with it. I'm glad to hear its helped your DS, hopefully we have the same results.