I should probably say that i dont have strong opinions on most things bc i dont have enough info. Im just arguing the other side/playing devils advocate.
I also don't remember our vows at all and they are not written down anywhere. Our Pastor might have them but we don't.
The word obey wasn't anywhere in our vows when I got married.
When my cousin got married, their whole vows were about her submitted to him and obeying him and whatnot and me and my sister just sat there and rolled our eyes. I always joked that maybe that's why I'm divorced, cause I didn't submit to my husband. *Gag*
So I guess my confession is I have no idea what our vows were. DH wanted to write our own, and I said, "well they should be us saying the same thing to each other, like our compact being equals." This was mostly because I panicked as he is a great writer and I'm just like, "samsies!" I know I proofread them and there wasn't any obey in there, and it wouldn't have mattered because we read the same set of words to each other. Which of course I don't remember because I'm not a romantic.
The word obey wasn't anywhere in our vows when I got married.
When my cousin got married, their whole vows were about her submitted to him and obeying him and whatnot and me and my sister just sat there and rolled our eyes. I always joked that maybe that's why I'm divorced, cause I didn't submit to my husband. *Gag*
So I guess my confession is I have no idea what our vows were. DH wanted to write our own, and I said, "well they should be us saying the same thing to each other, like our compact being equals." This was mostly because I panicked as he is a great writer and I'm just like, "samsies!" I know I proofread them and there wasn't any obey in there, and it wouldn't have mattered because we read the same set of words to each other. Which of course I don't remember because I'm not a romantic.
I don't remember what ours were. We are not religious at all and so we hired an officiant from a website. They emailed me a long book of different vows and I picked the shortest one that had no religious wording in it, and I was done. Couldn't tell you what they said at all.
Post by huckleberry08 on Jun 26, 2015 15:27:14 GMT -5
We wrote our own vows. We hired an officiant, wrote most of the text ourselves, and had a secular ceremony. I don't remember the details, but we have them written down somewhere. We also drank from a two-sided "wedding cup" as part of the ceremony and still do that every year on our anniversary.
Post by huckleberry08 on Jun 26, 2015 15:28:34 GMT -5
I have laid in bed quite literally all day. I have only gotten up to eat and pee. I could use another month like this before I started to get tired of it.
We wrote our own vows. We hired an officiant, wrote most of the text ourselves, and had a secular ceremony. I don't remember the details, but we have them written down somewhere. We also drank from a two-sided "wedding cup" as part of the ceremony and still do that every year on our anniversary.
You are vocal about rear facing and educating people about why you believe that it is the correct thing to do right?
What would you say to you if I told you yeah, I hear you but I heard once about a baby that was killed because they were in a car seat so my baby will not ride in a car seat period and I chose to do no further research on the subject.
You would probably think that I was being willfully ignorant when I could easliy spend a few minutes on a computer or talking to experts and learning that there is a better way.
You say you are intimidated to find a book and read it to learn but it doesn't have to be that hard. Like thelorax said it's all around you. Put the npr or Cnn app on your phone and next time the board is slow pop that open pick one article and read it see what you can learn. (Do not I repeat do not read the comments)
One site I really like is vox.com because they often go more into the backstory of comlicated issues without bogging down to hard in the details. But I will admit is not a totally unbiased site. (but they tend to be like Jon Stewart pro not being an idiot)
I get it it is hard when you are bogged down in toddler land to see beyond our little worlds but 15 minutes in the car with NPR on and I feel like I am at least aware of things.
You are vocal about rear facing and educating people about why you believe that it is the correct thing to do right?
What would you say to you if I told you yeah, I hear you but I heard once about a baby that was killed because they were in a car seat so my baby will not ride in a car seat period and I chose to do no further research on the subject.
You would probably think that I was being willfully ignorant when I could easliy spend a few minutes on a computer or talking to experts and learning that there is a better way.
You say you are intimidated to find a book and read it to learn but it doesn't have to be that hard. Like thelorax said it's all around you. Put the npr or Cnn app on your phone and next time the board is slow pop that open pick one article and read it see what you can learn. (Do not I repeat do not read the comments)
One site I really like is vox.com because they often go more into the backstory of comlicated issues without bogging down to hard in the details. But I will admit is not a totally unbiased site. (but they tend to be like Jon Stewart pro not being an idiot)
I get it it is hard when you are bogged down in toddler land to see beyond our little worlds but 15 minutes in the car with NPR on and I feel like I am at least aware of things.
Thanks for the suggestions! I think im more interested about the past than the present. Im not completely out of the current loop bc of the news and things like that but i could definitely learn some more.
This is really embarrassing so its going here- ive been using what i thought was baby soap for a week now..not realizing it was lotion!
DH put soap on as lotion one day, to be fair the bottles look the same (cetaphil). But we keep lotion in the bedroom and the soap in the tub, so he went out of his way to get the soap.
cl8badb When I was studying to be a teacher, there was a lot of push to teach kids "what really happened" and not just the cookie cutter, holiday versions of history. I HATED american history in high school. I think I was just too young to appreciate its importance and how it related to me. Anyways, to sort of fill in the gaps, I listened to the audio versions of Lies My Teacher Told Me by Loewen and Don't Know Much About American History by Davis. These are not perfect, but they did have a lot of information about the parts of history that get really easily skipped over by the classes we take in school. And, I have to confess, if I'd tried to read the first in paper format, I would have given up because it starts with some critique of US History Text books that would have driven me up a wall, but listening to it, I was able to kind of laugh at how ridiculous it was.
NH has some very racist areas. An ex really liked WWII jeeps so we went to a rally by lake Wentworth- so many confederate flags. Some dude was even selling a nuke the north bumper sticker (umm you are in NH). However, it certainly wasn't common. Oh and if you've ever been to bike week on Winnepisaukee- it is eye opening.
Nope. I've lived here 4 years and have never seen that flag. I live in the southern part of the state, so no where near the lakes and bike weeks. No one I know out here rides motorcycles, so that's something else I haven't been exposed to. I know racism exists here, why wouldn't it? I've just never seen it (beyond some shitty comments on the local news FB page).
I also didn't grow up here. I come from upstate NY. Racism exists there, too, but never anywhere that I saw, personally.
Southern NH is different than northern NH. When I went to college in Manchester (2002), southern NH was referred to by people on campus as being Massachusetts north or lite
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