Post by easilyunamused on Jun 29, 2015 11:11:21 GMT -5
pinkcat, I wonder if she will write anything back. I had a fb "friend" put a confederate flag as his profile pic and then put the rainbow over it. He's a dick like that.
I think my autocorrect was drunk last night. Luckily doesn't seem too hungover this morning:)
I'm trying to find a balance between being naggy, being realistic, and being efficient.
This is my life struggle
Me too! If I ask B if she has done something that I asked, her response is always, "did you ask me to?". If only it was that easy. What about the 18 other things on your list, cuz I also asked you to do those! We have VERY different personalities. I get shit done, she knows that I will get the shit done if she doesn't...
My H is the same way. He's been getting better about helping more, but sometimes it's hard for me to be patient with him.
After 8 million fights about this, I just straight up ask him to do something, rather than being patient and hoping he'll volunteer to help out. I hate to be the type of person who gives their spouse a list of tasks to do, but sometimes it's just easier to say "Honey, will you do x,y, and z for me today/this week/by date".
I have to be very specific or it won't get done (to be fair, he does spontaneously do things around the house sometimes). However, this week MH has offered to fix a leaking tire on our car and get an oil change (good since we are driving about three hours on Friday to go away for the weekend) and get his SA before I go to RE next week (he's had two months). He works about 10 hrs less than I do a week and also has a 15 min commute each way (mine is 1.5 hrs each way). How much you wanna bet I'm running the car somewhere to get an oil change and new tire Fri morning while he goes and gets SA bc he couldn't find time to do either all week?
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Post by shemarie82 on Jun 29, 2015 11:15:10 GMT -5
I spent about an hour of my morning talking race relations with my boss. She is wonderful. but it seems like she mentions retirement weekly. I DNW her to retire, I think that my employment will be short lived once we are corporate run vs locally run.
I always have to leave a very specific list, and then remind otherwise no way it happens.
I'm trying to find a balance between being naggy, being realistic, and being efficient.
I will ask my husband if he minds helping me with a few chores on his days off and he always asks me to remind him. My reminders come in list form I do have this super cute Nora Fleming message board and you can change the adornments for the seasons. It makes the lists seem more fun and not so naggy. At least from my point of view
Post by rablissful on Jun 29, 2015 11:17:38 GMT -5
Dog is finally going in for a bath and a nail trim today!
While he's off getting the spa treatment, I'm going to go grocery shopping.
I have meals planned for every day this week except one. It doesn't help that the ideas SO gave me are so similar. Not going to have two different soups plus spaghetti and meatballs when one of the suggested soups is tortellini. Guess I have a head start on next weeks' list?
My H is the same way. He's been getting better about helping more, but sometimes it's hard for me to be patient with him.
After 8 million fights about this, I just straight up ask him to do something, rather than being patient and hoping he'll volunteer to help out. I hate to be the type of person who gives their spouse a list of tasks to do, but sometimes it's just easier to say "Honey, will you do x,y, and z for me today/this week/by date".
Same here. I've learned over 6 years of marriage that MH and I just have very different standards of what is "clean" and when things need to get done. I prefer to live in a clean (by my definition ) house and I like to get all the chores done first and then relax. MH doesn't mind when things are messier and would prefer to relax first and do chores later when he is rested. He's very rarely going to take it upon himself to do something that he doesn't really think needs to be done! So now when I want him to help with things, I give him specific tasks and make sure to thank him for his help so it doesn't feel like I'm just nagging all the time. But it's hard for me sometimes to remember that he isn't necessarily trying to be lazy or unhelpful if he doesn't take the initiative on his own.
I always have to leave a very specific list, and then remind otherwise no way it happens.
There are many, many lists in my house. It keeps me sane and keeps my husband on the same page. We have 4 lists that I can think of on our fridge right now. 1. New Year's Goals 2. Summer "to-do" list 3. Summer Bucket List (fun stuff) and 4. Long-term projects. I also make ad hoc lists as needed - groceries, weekly to-do. Wow - I look crazy.
We have a google doc for literally everything ever. I don't know if I would function with out google docs.
After 8 million fights about this, I just straight up ask him to do something, rather than being patient and hoping he'll volunteer to help out. I hate to be the type of person who gives their spouse a list of tasks to do, but sometimes it's just easier to say "Honey, will you do x,y, and z for me today/this week/by date".
Same here. I've learned over 6 years of marriage that MH and I just have very different standards of what is "clean" and when things need to get done. I prefer to live in a clean (by my definition ) house and I like to get all the chores done first and then relax. MH doesn't mind when things are messier and would prefer to relax first and do chores later when he is rested. He's very rarely going to take it upon himself to do something that he doesn't really think needs to be done! So now when I want him to help with things, I give him specific tasks and make sure to thank him for his help so it doesn't feel like I'm just nagging all the time. But it's hard for me sometimes to remember that he isn't necessarily trying to be lazy or unhelpful if he doesn't take the initiative on his own.
I don't mind having to ask/remind. I am a really upfront person in general though, I ask for what I want and speak up if I am not liking something, it just makes things easier. MH doesn't say no, I mean to normal requests. I get really stressed when it's not clean, I definitely do more of the housework, but I don't mind and MH helps when I ask. This isn't something we fight about though, I actually don't think we have ever had a fight about cleaning/chores.
There are many, many lists in my house. It keeps me sane and keeps my husband on the same page. We have 4 lists that I can think of on our fridge right now. 1. New Year's Goals 2. Summer "to-do" list 3. Summer Bucket List (fun stuff) and 4. Long-term projects. I also make ad hoc lists as needed - groceries, weekly to-do. Wow - I look crazy.
We have a google doc for literally everything ever. I don't know if I would function with out google docs.
The best thing ever was when Google Keep added a sharing feature. Now we have a grocery list, Costco list and home things list that is shared between us. The plan was to never have to ask the other person "do we need anything from the grocery store?" because it would be on the list. But we're still working on that.
I just cleaned out all of my inboxes. So proud. Things are so neat and I even organized everything I kept into folders. Now the question is whether or not I am going to keep it up.
After 8 million fights about this, I just straight up ask him to do something, rather than being patient and hoping he'll volunteer to help out. I hate to be the type of person who gives their spouse a list of tasks to do, but sometimes it's just easier to say "Honey, will you do x,y, and z for me today/this week/by date".
Same here. I've learned over 6 years of marriage that MH and I just have very different standards of what is "clean" and when things need to get done. I prefer to live in a clean (by my definition ) house and I like to get all the chores done first and then relax. MH doesn't mind when things are messier and would prefer to relax first and do chores later when he is rested. He's very rarely going to take it upon himself to do something that he doesn't really think needs to be done! So now when I want him to help with things, I give him specific tasks and make sure to thank him for his help so it doesn't feel like I'm just nagging all the time. But it's hard for me sometimes to remember that he isn't necessarily trying to be lazy or unhelpful if he doesn't take the initiative on his own.
For us, it's not that our standard are different. We used to split everything fairly evenly with no real issues. However, 3 years ago he suffered a back injury and it was difficult for him to move around at all, let alone do stuff like dishes and vacuuming or yard work. So I picked up the slack. Now that he's (mostly) recovered, it's hard to break that habit of assuming that I'll take care of something.
He's still sensitive about wanting to pull his weight, so I have to be somewhat sensitive in how I ask or approach. It's better to simply ask him to help than to get mad when he doesn't.
Post by notagoddess on Jun 29, 2015 12:08:35 GMT -5
I moved over the weekend. I have the day off today and I'm supposed to be unpacking all day. So far I have just unpacked the coffeemaker and made some coffee. The layout of this apartment is totally different so I have no idea where to put things. I'm much better at packing than unpacking!
My H is the same way. He's been getting better about helping more, but sometimes it's hard for me to be patient with him.
So, my husband flew to CA on Friday night. He made sure to pack his stuff, shower, get his work stuff, etc. I flew the following morning. I spent the entire night cleaning up the house, emptying the fridge of food that would spoil, took out the trash (so it wouldn't stink when we got home), cleaned and fed the fish, etc. Then I packed, showered and took care of myself.
When I got here, I asked if he thought to do any of those things before he left and he said no. Grrrr!
This is us. Whenever we travel anywhere, MH packs a change of clothes and a toothbrush and says he's ready. Things like going through the fridge, taking out the trash, and packing things related to our trip just don't cross his mind. I don't get it!
I moved over the weekend. I have the day off today and I'm supposed to be unpacking all day. So far I have just unpacked the coffeemaker and made some coffee. The layout of this apartment is totally different so I have no idea where to put things. I'm much better at packing than unpacking!
Unpacking is the worst. We moved almost 2 months ago and I still haven't finished, I've started hiding boxes in a spare bedroom so I can ignore them
Ha we just started dealing with the things that didn't get moved in when DH moved in...almost 2 years ago (and some boxes from when I moved in...3 years before that). Whoops!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
I moved over the weekend. I have the day off today and I'm supposed to be unpacking all day. So far I have just unpacked the coffeemaker and made some coffee. The layout of this apartment is totally different so I have no idea where to put things. I'm much better at packing than unpacking!
Unpacking is the worst. We moved almost 2 months ago and I still haven't finished, I've started hiding boxes in a spare bedroom so I can ignore them
This is the first time we will have a spare bedroom, and unfortunately, I can see that happening.
Post by requiressnacks on Jun 29, 2015 12:34:31 GMT -5
Does everyone out there do their partner's laundry?
My dad told me I was a bad wife because I don't do DH's laundry. He managed to do it himself until he was 32 and met me - I never felt the need to disrupt that flow.
I just cleaned out all of my inboxes. So proud. Things are so neat and I even organized everything I kept into folders. Now the question is whether or not I am going to keep it up.
Probably not... lol.
They ported my email over to my new account last week. Itbwas basically a dump of all my emails from the last six years.
It's making me very twitchy that nothing is organized but I haven't been able to set aside the time to sort through six years of email yet.
Does everyone out there do their partner's laundry?
My dad told me I was a bad wife because I don't do DH's laundry. He managed to do it himself until he was 32 and met me - I never felt the need to disrupt that flow.
I do our laundry, but it's just easier that way. If he really needs something washed, he will do it himself.
Does everyone out there do their partner's laundry?
My dad told me I was a bad wife because I don't do DH's laundry. He managed to do it himself until he was 32 and met me - I never felt the need to disrupt that flow.
I do all the laundry. It makes more sense to just do it all together, otherwise I'd be doing half loads all the time.
Does everyone out there do their partner's laundry?
My dad told me I was a bad wife because I don't do DH's laundry. He managed to do it himself until he was 32 and met me - I never felt the need to disrupt that flow.
B does all of the laundry in the house. But it is a job she likes, but I like to vacuum/sweep/mop so those are my tasks and she does laundry.
I just cleaned out all of my inboxes. So proud. Things are so neat and I even organized everything I kept into folders. Now the question is whether or not I am going to keep it up.
Probably not... lol.
They ported my email over to my new account last week. Itbwas basically a dump of all my emails from the last six years.
It's making me very twitchy that nothing is organized but I haven't been able to set aside the time to sort through six years of email yet.
This gives me anxiety for you. My email currently has 2 things in it. And once they are done, by the end of the day, they will be gone as well. I use it basically as my to-do.
Does everyone out there do their partner's laundry?
My dad told me I was a bad wife because I don't do DH's laundry. He managed to do it himself until he was 32 and met me - I never felt the need to disrupt that flow.
B does all of the laundry in the house. But it is a job she likes, but I like to vacuum/sweep/mop so those are my tasks and she does laundry.
This is exactly my H and I. He hates doing laundry, loves to vacuum. I don't really care either way, so I do laundry and does the vacuuming.
They ported my email over to my new account last week. Itbwas basically a dump of all my emails from the last six years.
It's making me very twitchy that nothing is organized but I haven't been able to set aside the time to sort through six years of email yet.
This gives me anxiety for you. My email currently has 2 things in it. And once they are done, by the end of the day, they will be gone as well. I use it basically as my to-do.
It's killing me. Although part of me is happy because some emails that I had sorted into a PST file that got corrupted are back, so that's positive.
Does everyone out there do their partner's laundry?
My dad told me I was a bad wife because I don't do DH's laundry. He managed to do it himself until he was 32 and met me - I never felt the need to disrupt that flow.
MH washes everything and I fold everything. We both put our own clothes away once they are folded.
We started that process a few months ago because I hate to wash it but really enjoy folding it.
Does everyone out there do their partner's laundry?
My dad told me I was a bad wife because I don't do DH's laundry. He managed to do it himself until he was 32 and met me - I never felt the need to disrupt that flow.
I do all of the laundry but MH helps me fold it. It's just easier to do it all together than for us to do smaller separate loads.
I think it's because you see that big pile of clothes and then at the end it's all gone. I don't know. Something about seeing that progress I feel like I accomplished something.
I'm one of those people who leave dry clothes in the dryer and then have to re-dry them to get the wrinkles out. All because I detest the folding and sometimes I get lazy and don't do it.
This gives me anxiety for you. My email currently has 2 things in it. And once they are done, by the end of the day, they will be gone as well. I use it basically as my to-do.
I'm jealous of your organizational skillz. I have about 6,500 emails in my inbox.
When I 1st started here, they were making a big fuss about the amount of emails kept on the server or sumshit. So, I started the system right from the beginning. Everyone has a folder, and each payroll has its own sub folder. Otherwise there is no way I could look up employee 5391's payroll from June 2014. It would be a clusterfuck.
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