LOs and responsibilities

[mrssmith613]

DS1 is 3 years old and I want to get him some kind of "responsibility" of his own.. I suggested to DH that we should get him fish. That way if it dies it won't be that big of a loss because it's cheaply replaceable and they are pretty low maintenance. Obviously I am not going to make him clean the tank and stuff but he would be able to name them and feed them (with supervision). What do you all think good idea? bad idea? I'm thinking of getting a Beta and an algae eater type fish.

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Jan 23, 2015 18:02:58 GMT -5 mrssmith613 said:

DS1 is 3 years old and I want to get him some kind of "responsibility" of his own.. I suggested to DH that we should get him fish. That way if it dies it won't be that big of a loss because it's cheaply replaceable and they are pretty low maintenance. Obviously I am not going to make him clean the tank and stuff but he would be able to name them and feed them (with supervision). What do you all think good idea? bad idea? I'm thinking of getting a Beta and an algae eater type fish.

When we lived north we made James feed the cats twice a day- he loved it. I dont think you need to do an animal. Find a chore he could do. James brings in wood- picks up toys, helps with laundry etc.

[bsouls]

The problem I have with a fish is that they don't need to eat a lot and kids really like to feed them. So, it is like - oh hey, you feed the fish but just a couple of flakes a day. It is like having a plant - a kid would want to water it every day, but they don't need that.

I think a daily chore would be great. Something that he could get lots of praise for and that needs to be done. Like, you could buy him a dust buster and he could be responsible for getting any crumbs on the floor? That's doable for a three year old right?

[fish8412]

I agree with @notyourmom Give him a chore around the house that would actually help YOU and your husband out. Getting a pet is just going to give you more work to do.

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I totally agree with what has already been said.

[nattybumppo]

I've seen some charts on the internet (actually pinterest) about what are appropriate responsibilities for each age. I found this one doing a google search...not the one I've seen before, but similar enough.
alysonschafer.com/home-responsibilities-by-age/
We've tried to make DD1 responsible for taking napkins and silverware to the table, but I think she lost interest and we got bad about reinforcing it. But she does clear her plate.

Totally agree that getting a fish just sounds like adding responsibilities to you.

[disneyaddict1]

At this age they are all about helping. So take advantage of that! DS1 helps with feeding the dogs, cleans up his toys, dusting. We have front loading washer/dryer so he can help switch the clothes.

[bsouls]

Jan 23, 2015 21:12:20 GMT -5 nattybumppo said:

I've seen some charts on the internet (actually pinterest) about what are appropriate responsibilities for each age. I found this one doing a google search...not the one I've seen before, but similar enough.
alysonschafer.com/home-responsibilities-by-age/
We've tried to make DD1 responsible for taking napkins and silverware to the table, but I think she lost interest and we got bad about reinforcing it. But she does clear her plate.

Totally agree that getting a fish just sounds like adding responsibilities to you.

At what age should mixing cocktails become a responsibility?

[disneyaddict1]

I like the way you think bsouls

[nattybumppo]

bsouls, I wish I could remember at what age I started shaking martinis for my dad (seriously!)

[nattybumppo]

disneyaddict1 -- what did you do to make it say "disneyaddict1 really wants poll results." at the bottom of bsouls post above??

[nattybumppo]

oh....someone must be messing with what the love tit button says because now it says "disneyaddict1 gave love tits." (disneyaddict1)

[nattybumppo]

Now it says "disneyaddict1 gave a love tit." I'm fascinated by whoever is changing the language associated with love-titting. (And up-ing my post count with a running commentary of it...)

[nattybumppo]

Wait a second....what the hell....is it on some random phrase generator because now it says "disneyaddict1 validate your feels." Gah!!!! Every time I post, there's something new there! What's going on??!!

[disneyaddict1]

Lol that's awesome! All the feels!

[nattybumppo]

Ah, they've corrected the grammar:
singular: mrssmith613 validates your feels.
plural: mrssmith613 and bandteacher validate your feels.

[Deleted]

I suspect you'll find the answers on parenting.

[Deleted]

Who is theophania? A lurker? I ask bc thy love titted a post and I have no clue who they are.

[lincbeesmom]

I think theophania is one of the admins

[laurenann89]

I agree with what's been said already and I'm intrigued by that as well @nattyumppo ! But I don't see what you're talking about.

[mrssmith613]

I don't see what they're talking about either laurenann89 maybe because I'm mobile?

[nattybumppo]

laurenann89 and mrssmith613 -- I'm guessing it's a mobile vs. not thing. I'm on my laptop and at the bottom of posts that have been love-titted, it tells you who love titted it, but the current language says "so-and-so validates your feels" instead of "likes this"/"loves it"/whatever...

[RandomName]

I don't see it on mobile but have on desktop view or actually on a computer.

[nattybumppo]

Love Tit Language Watch - Day 2:
Now they say: "mrssmith613 has f*cks to give."


I am also documenting all of these for posterity. And to let you on mobile view know what you are missing. I feel very important.

[wordsy]

Jan 24, 2015 22:11:17 GMT -5 nattybumppo said:

Love Tit Language Watch - Day 2:
Now they say: "mrssmith613 has f*cks to give."


I am also documenting all of these for posterity. And to let you on mobile view know what you are missing. I feel very important.

I appreciate this effort. Thanks!

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Dear global mod- i love that our love, feels and fucks keep changing!!

[disneyaddict1]

Jan 24, 2015 22:11:17 GMT -5 nattybumppo said:

Love Tit Language Watch - Day 2:
Now they say: "mrssmith613 has f*cks to give."


I am also documenting all of these for posterity. And to let you on mobile view know what you are missing. I feel very important.

I'm loving the report as well!