Nuthing but a SPAM thang!

[huckleberry08]

Yay! Congratulations to violet!!

[kames12]

Too cute mcbush!

[babygsmommy]

Good luck!!! violet

[catalinapink]

violet Good luck!!!

[babygsmommy]

Adorable!! mcbush

[babygsmommy]

Hugs workinit I have no advice but am sending all the hugs

[babygsmommy]

skk I think I posted in the old spam thread. Oops!!
I'm so sorry for your loss and am sending you hugs

[catalinapink]

skk I'm so sorry for your loss.

[sctiger]

So sorry skk

[anustart1]

workinit I totally hear where you are coming from with what you see and leading by example. I guess my take on it is that I would try and look at it from a distance and figure out what is best for the long term result you want, which I gather is staying together. It sounds like he needs some work and therapy on his own and he doesn't have the motivation to get it if he is still in the house in a good enough holding pattern for him. He has to want to get help for himself and it may take him being by himself to see that. It sounds like you are committed to marriage (which is good!) and I think it sounds like your relationship is strong, but he can't really see that. I believe a good, strong relationship will survive a trial separation. I can see both sides of it because we weren't married yet, but I decided I didn't want to be with DH anymore in our early 20s. He agreed to basically stay committed to me until I came around and it actually made me super complacent and I had no desire to actual make any more commitment to him. I totally used him emotionally for a few months. Then he was finally like, "WTF, are you just thinking we can be good friends and we aren't moving towards marriage or a further commitment?" and he totally cut ties with me. As soon as he told me he couldn't be in my life the way I wanted him to be, and it was all or nothing I last like a week before I realized what we had. I know everyone is different- I totally get that. But I guess I can see both sides of it and am just giving my perspective on what I felt when I was stringing someone along emotionally.
I'm pretty ashamed of doing it, and I started seeing someone else when I was separated and he proposed to me. I was a real shit to two really great guys and I needed a swift kick in the ass from someone to get my priorities straight.

[majwv8]

We just went to pick up our dog after having him boarded for ten days. I wish I would've videotaped O's reaction when she say him. It was soo sweet. She kept shouting his name and yelling "I missed him!".

[heelibrarian]

Oh mcbush those pics are fabulous!!

Just more ((hugs)) workinit. I don't have any good advice but I'm here for you if you need me

[workinit]

anustart1 everything you say is exactly what I want to do because MH really is the type that he doesn't know how good he has it until it's gone. You are so spot on with every point you make its actually creepy!! Are you looking through my windows?

What's holding me back from that is what I mentioned. Before I do anything drastic I want to first just try to be the best ME I can be. I can't expect change from him or him to go to counseling if I don't try to be a more positive person, a better mom, and a loving wife. I can honestly say that he has been much better with his attitude at the very least. Well... It's either that or the oils I'm diffusing.....

[lioness13]

anustart1 - great perspective. Thanks for sharing.

[lioness13]

mcbush - love those pics!

[huckleberry08]

workinit Do your new oils look like this?

[workinit]

huckleberry08 are YOU looking through my windows?!

[catalinapink]

mcbush they are so adorable!!!

[anustart1]

Jul 6, 2015 12:37:29 GMT -5 workinit said:

anustart1 everything you say is exactly what I want to do because MH really is the type that he doesn't know how good he has it until it's gone. You are so spot on with every point you make its actually creepy!! Are you looking through my windows?

What's holding me back from that is what I mentioned. Before I do anything drastic I want to first just try to be the best ME I can be. I can't expect change from him or him to go to counseling if I don't try to be a more positive person, a better mom, and a loving wife. I can honestly say that he has been much better with his attitude at the very least. Well... It's either that or the oils I'm diffusing.....

I am EVERYWHERE! Just kidding, not stalking you. I can easily slide into not being grateful for what I have in life and being emotionally detached so I often feel like I have a "guy" perspective. I think it is really great that you are willing to put so much of yourself into helping him figure out what he needs, and I know that is really hard (and you will probably reap the personal benefits of inner peace if you are focusing on the positive and being a better you- which is a nice bonus!). I think if you're good with this for now, great, but maybe set a deadline for something to move in a more positive direction before trying a different approach. I just don't want to see you putting this all on yourself to make it work because it's not fair to you and I want you to be truly happy, not just happy for the sake of trying to make your H come around.

[megaroo64]

Adorable pictures mcbush.

And more hugs workinit. And hugs in real life on Friday!!

[peachey]

apparently up at 4 am = poor nutritional choices...

[everydayimshuffling]

workinit Your commitment to being the best you can be is wonderful and sometimes so easy to lose when someone else obviously isn't giving their all and there's an easy finger to point. You obviously love your family very much and are incredibly strong. D has quite an example to look up to in you and I'm quite sure that no matter how things go in your marriage that you will be the best for your little guy. I also know that you can't control your H's thoughts and actions, only your own. Just please promise me that in addition to being the best mom and wife that you can be that you remember that it's not your fault and that the answer isn't just about you just being better. I know you probably already know that, I just wanted to remind you that you are an awesome woman and I really hope your H can start seeing how lucky he really is to have you. Huge hugs.

[vitafelix]

Jul 6, 2015 13:12:24 GMT -5 peachey said:

apparently up at 4 am = poor nutritional choices...

My life since 2013...

In moments of weakness & sleep deprivation I keep buying soda and beer despite prior declarations of commitment to no caloried beverages (that tends to be how I put on and lose pounds most easily). Dairy-free is keeping me from my usual 7-11 nachos weakness, though.

[anustart1]

Jul 6, 2015 13:19:01 GMT -5 vitafelix said:

Jul 6, 2015 13:12:24 GMT -5 peachey said:

apparently up at 4 am = poor nutritional choices...

My life since 2013...

In moments of weakness & sleep deprivation I keep buying soda and beer despite prior declarations of commitment to no caloried beverages (that tends to be how I put on and lose pounds most easily). Dairy-free is keeping me from my usual 7-11 nachos weakness, though.

Like the store or 7am until 11pm nacho weakness? Because I can relate to that time frame nacho weakness.

[musicalsilver]

nursemommy13 - I think you're a fellow AE Artist Stretch Jean fan. Apparently they're discontinuing the line! I'm picking up another pair just in case, but I'm going to be so bummed if I have to hunt for another perfect pair of jeans!!

[nursemommy13]

Jul 6, 2015 13:39:21 GMT -5 musicalsilver said:

nursemommy13 - I think you're a fellow AE Artist Stretch Jean fan. Apparently they're discontinuing the line! I'm picking up another pair just in case, but I'm going to be so bummed if I have to hunt for another perfect pair of jeans!!

No way!!!! That makes me so sad! We have an AE outlet store in my city, so maybe they will carry them. If you need me to look for some for you, let me know!

[musicalsilver]

Jul 6, 2015 13:54:20 GMT -5 nursemommy13 said:

Jul 6, 2015 13:39:21 GMT -5 musicalsilver said:

nursemommy13 - I think you're a fellow AE Artist Stretch Jean fan. Apparently they're discontinuing the line! I'm picking up another pair just in case, but I'm going to be so bummed if I have to hunt for another perfect pair of jeans!!

No way!!!! That makes me so sad! We have an AE outlet store in my city, so maybe they will carry them. If you need me to look for some for you, let me know!

Will do!  I'm hoping that between being pregnant again and the new pair I'll have in reserve it'll be a good couple years before I need to buy jeans again.  Probably just in time for them to be impossible to find ;-)  Maybe AE will rethink their discontinuation! 

[nursemommy13]

Holy fuck. There is a cockroach in the break room at work with me right now that is, I'm not freaking kidding, like three fucking inches long. It's huge. I just lost my appetite. It's too big for me to get close to kill. I'm the only one in here. Yuck yuck yuck yuck. I was about to go get our only male employee to kill it, but it disappeared under the fridge. I don't know if I'll ever be able to eat in here again.

[workinit]

You ladies are just so wonderful. Thank you again for your thoughts, hugs, and wisdom.

lioness13 I've been meaning to share this with you. Therapy is on hold until I find a new person that I connect with. I can't make it to see the old therapist due to her hours. In the meantime I've been doing a little reading and soul searching. A book that I an using as an aid is Power of a Praying Wife. It's not something you will sit and read all of but its really been helpful to me.

[workinit]

Can I ask your opinions on a banner for my Group page on FB? I will delete it tonight and I'm not sure if I'm violating the rules. MH put together a new banner and made me a few color options and I'm torn as to which one I want to go with. FWP I know....