Confess Yourself Friday
Jul 10, 2015 14:50:44 GMT -5
Post by shadesofgold on Jul 10, 2015 14:50:44 GMT -5
**Warning: Pregnancy and Loss Mentioned**
Backstory: My younger SIL irritates me for two core reasons. 1) She loves to be the center of attention and seems incapable of letting something not be about her. 2) She asks for a lot of help, which is fine, but it has started to feel pretty unreasonable and taken for granted. For example, I offered to buy her wedding shoes when she was worried that she couldn't afford them. She sent me a link for $275 Cole Hahn's. I vetoed those, but still spent more than on my own wedding shoes on hers. While I was helping her plan the wedding, we were close. After the wedding ended, I barely heard from her. These traits sort of came to a head last year during the holidays. She was one of the only people who knew we were TTC, and coincidentally she became obsessed with talking about having a kid to anyone in earshot. She brought it up at least twice a day. She tried making a list with my MIL of all the things she thought MIL should be buying them if they had a kid. Meanwhile, sometimes in the same conversation, she'd talk about all the reasons (financial, emotional, etc) it wouldn't be a good time for her and her H to start a family. It felt like a big show and immature way to one-up us. Since then we've barely spoken because I'm just so annoyed with her. We told her of our pregnancy and loss by email and she replied by email. Haven't heard from her since.
FFFC: I have her Amazon wishlist bookmarked because we all exchange wish lists around Christmas. Once in awhile I'll stalk in and see what she's been saving. Today I discovered that she's recently added belly butter and a pregnancy pillow to her wishlist. I'm really hoping these are just "maybe for the future" items. If she's pregnant, I don't think I'm mature enough to just be happy for her. I am a big soggy swamp of feelings about her big to-do at Christmas, our loss, etc. I don't want to be a jealous monster about it... but here I am.
edit: spelling
Backstory: My younger SIL irritates me for two core reasons. 1) She loves to be the center of attention and seems incapable of letting something not be about her. 2) She asks for a lot of help, which is fine, but it has started to feel pretty unreasonable and taken for granted. For example, I offered to buy her wedding shoes when she was worried that she couldn't afford them. She sent me a link for $275 Cole Hahn's. I vetoed those, but still spent more than on my own wedding shoes on hers. While I was helping her plan the wedding, we were close. After the wedding ended, I barely heard from her. These traits sort of came to a head last year during the holidays. She was one of the only people who knew we were TTC, and coincidentally she became obsessed with talking about having a kid to anyone in earshot. She brought it up at least twice a day. She tried making a list with my MIL of all the things she thought MIL should be buying them if they had a kid. Meanwhile, sometimes in the same conversation, she'd talk about all the reasons (financial, emotional, etc) it wouldn't be a good time for her and her H to start a family. It felt like a big show and immature way to one-up us. Since then we've barely spoken because I'm just so annoyed with her. We told her of our pregnancy and loss by email and she replied by email. Haven't heard from her since.
FFFC: I have her Amazon wishlist bookmarked because we all exchange wish lists around Christmas. Once in awhile I'll stalk in and see what she's been saving. Today I discovered that she's recently added belly butter and a pregnancy pillow to her wishlist. I'm really hoping these are just "maybe for the future" items. If she's pregnant, I don't think I'm mature enough to just be happy for her. I am a big soggy swamp of feelings about her big to-do at Christmas, our loss, etc. I don't want to be a jealous monster about it... but here I am.
edit: spelling