The phrase "voluntary induction" has been brought up in my house. H is scheduled to be out of town with the Marines on my due date. He asked me to consider talking to the doctor about the possibly inducing a week early.
1. I don't want to be induced period. 2. Even if we schedule one, I could go earlier or it may not work in unnecessary interventions. 3. Sounds like, no matter what, I will be left at home with a toddler and fresh squish mere days after delivery...do not want.
I did humour him and ask the doctor about it earlier this week. He confirmed everything I already knew. Plus, in CA they won't even consider it until 39 weeks. At 38 weeks, he'll check my cervix to see if I'm progressing at all.
Idk. I'm so torn. I really want to go into labor on my own this time.
melohdy I would humor my husband and say I'd consider it. But have no intention of doing it. Hopefully it won't even really come up again, but then you can sound open minded and just know you will make whatever decision is best for you. I would not want to do an elective induction if I were you.
melohdy my induction wasn't fun and I didn't have a choice (pre-e). I second what anustart1 recommended. Regardless, are you having anyone to come help you after you deliver?
melohdy, If he is only going to be gone for a day or 2 I would say hell no. I am going to try a lot harder to avoid induction this time around. I blame my induction with DD for the difficult delivery.
I felt like I should have ditched the monitor ages ago. Then I discovered even with the monitor I was sometimes sleeping through DD waking up.
I decided we're keeping the monitor until E is old enough to get out of bed, open doors, and come get us if she needs anything. If we didn't have the monitor we wouldn't hear her most of the time.
I'm super confused by the randomness with which a lot of people (TD, here) decide to get super judgey about certain parenting choices that don't affect others (i.e. car seat safety) yet all "it's her choice! don't judge!" about others (i.e. elective C-sections). I think watching the hypocrisy and noticing it though has made me overall way less judgmental so I guess it's been good for me in a way. But I've noticed it as weird for a long time.
I'm super confused by the randomness with which a lot of people (TD, here) decide to get super judgey about certain parenting choices that don't affect others (i.e. car seat safety) yet all "it's her choice! don't judge!" about others (i.e. elective C-sections). I think watching the hypocrisy and noticing it though has made me overall way less judgmental so I guess it's been good for me in a way. But I've noticed it as weird for a long time.
I judge everything. It's a fun pastime.
Oh I do too, but I no longer care deeply or say anything about it.
Post by lizzybizzy on Jul 17, 2015 10:40:11 GMT -5
I had a scheduled c section. I was 10 days past my due date and wasn't showing any signs of getting closer and B had a huge head. I don't feel one bit bad about it and if we have another I won't try for a vbac.
Ok I have one. And I mean no bad feelings towards the original OP (I can't actually even remember who it is) since I think 95% of people fall into this category. It was earlier this week and was about not eating when you're hungry at social events. Eat, people! I am like the opposite of a closet eater. We had a global get together for drinks about two months ago and the bar we were going to was famous for its cheesesteaks. All day people were like "I can't wait to have one tonight! Their cheesesteaks are awesome!" Well guess what, when it came time nobody wanted to eat in front of anyone. I tried like eight people and they were all "I'm not going to be the only one stuffing my face in a cheesesteak!" And I was all "but it's dinnertime! You people just don't eat?!" I finally found one other girl, cozied up in a little corner and enjoyed it. With fries. I would have done it alone too. Not sure if that's a UO or a FFFC.
+1 my mouth was agape when I read it. It would never ever occur to me that anyone else would pay attention to what's on my plate/how much I did or didn't eat. The only person I judge for such things is my 400+lb aunt.
I was semi-induced with Lilly (they gave me cervadil overnight and my water broke on its own the next day). I definitely do not want to do any sort of induction unless it cannot be avoided. I've been honest with H about it. He will for-sure be gone from Friday-Monday (with my due date being that Sunday) and they have asked him to do an additional 5 day course that tacks on to the end of that trip. Potentially about 9 days.
I am going to keep hoping and praying that this little one comes on their own, when they are good and ready. If it was prior to him leaving, that is preferable. I will probably opt for a cervical check and/or membrane sweep this time. I had previously decided to skip it.
I appreciate all of your feedback on this.
It is so frustrating because any other guy in his unit would be able to get out of the weekend because they would have him to advocate for him. Unfortunately, his leaders are not really advocating for him. He has appealed to the First Sergeant repeatedly and they are still considering it. I'm so proud of him for being such a leader to his guys, and being on this whole leadership trajectory. Sometimes it would be nice if he was just another peon, though.
I had a scheduled c section. I was 10 days past my due date and wasn't showing any signs of getting closer and B had a huge head. I don't feel one bit bad about it and if we have another I won't try for a vbac.
I a big part of me thinks that would have been way better than the awful labor/ delivery I had, but as bad as it was I was hiking when DD was 12 days old. I like the idea of a scheduled c-section because it is controlled and orderly, but I don't think I would like the downtime.
My downtime was pretty minimal. I was in pain once that night when I let my bladder get too full. I was walking lots pretty quickly, mainly out of necessity because of the NICU/children's hospital experience.
Ok I have one. And I mean no bad feelings towards the original OP (I can't actually even remember who it is) since I think 95% of people fall into this category. It was earlier this week and was about not eating when you're hungry at social events. Eat, people! I am like the opposite of a closet eater. We had a global get together for drinks about two months ago and the bar we were going to was famous for its cheesesteaks. All day people were like "I can't wait to have one tonight! Their cheesesteaks are awesome!" Well guess what, when it came time nobody wanted to eat in front of anyone. I tried like eight people and they were all "I'm not going to be the only one stuffing my face in a cheesesteak!" And I was all "but it's dinnertime! You people just don't eat?!" I finally found one other girl, cozied up in a little corner and enjoyed it. With fries. I would have done it alone too. Not sure if that's a UO or a FFFC.
+1 my mouth was agape when I read it. It would never ever occur to me that anyone else would pay attention to what's on my plate/how much I did or didn't eat. The only person I judge for such things is my 400+lb aunt.
+1 I can get hangry when I don't eat enough and no one wants to be around me when that happens
I a big part of me thinks that would have been way better than the awful labor/ delivery I had, but as bad as it was I was hiking when DD was 12 days old. I like the idea of a scheduled c-section because it is controlled and orderly, but I don't think I would like the downtime.
My downtime was pretty minimal. I was in pain once that night when I let my bladder get too full. I was walking lots pretty quickly, mainly out of necessity because of the NICU/children's hospital experience.
As a person who has had both the recovery is way easier for a vaginal birth. I'm sure there are exceptions with complications in vaginal deliveries that can make it worse and I'm not saying the C-section was the end of the world (and my first was a scheduled C-section) but walking, sitting up and stairs was WAY harder with a C-section. I had a brutal labor and delivery with my VBAC though. I look at it as do you want your pain before or after delivery.
And my main example wasn't a scheduled C-section, more like an elective C-section with no real medical reason for it. Of which I couldn't care less about if you do anymore. Just like I couldn't care less if you decide to forward face your car seat before 2.
Ok I have one. And I mean no bad feelings towards the original OP (I can't actually even remember who it is) since I think 95% of people fall into this category. It was earlier this week and was about not eating when you're hungry at social events. Eat, people! I am like the opposite of a closet eater. We had a global get together for drinks about two months ago and the bar we were going to was famous for its cheesesteaks. All day people were like "I can't wait to have one tonight! Their cheesesteaks are awesome!" Well guess what, when it came time nobody wanted to eat in front of anyone. I tried like eight people and they were all "I'm not going to be the only one stuffing my face in a cheesesteak!" And I was all "but it's dinnertime! You people just don't eat?!" I finally found one other girl, cozied up in a little corner and enjoyed it. With fries. I would have done it alone too. Not sure if that's a UO or a FFFC.
Oh if you thought this was me, I was saying I pre-eat AND I eat at an event. Because I eat A LOT. Nom nom nom. I'm Italian so sharing food with others in a social environment is how I was raised. Also no one would be able to get a word in edge wise unless I was chewing food every once in a while.
My downtime was pretty minimal. I was in pain once that night when I let my bladder get too full. I was walking lots pretty quickly, mainly out of necessity because of the NICU/children's hospital experience.
As a person who has had both the recovery is way easier for a vaginal birth. I'm sure there are exceptions with complications in vaginal deliveries that can make it worse and I'm not saying the C-section was the end of the world (and my first was a scheduled C-section) but walking, sitting up and stairs was WAY harder with a C-section. I had a brutal labor and delivery with my VBAC though. I look at it as do you want your pain before or after delivery.
And my main example wasn't a scheduled C-section, more like an elective C-section with no real medical reason for it. Of which I couldn't care less about if you do anymore. Just like I couldn't care less if you decide to forward face your car seat before 2.
Maybe I was loopy from the pain meds but I really did not have a hard time walking and sitting up.
lizzybizzy I think I didn't notice the difficulties I had maneuvering after the C-section were C-section related until I had a VBAC. For example I couldn't sit up myself without a hospital bed (use my core muscles to roll or lift up) after C-section where as with the VBAC I was like "OMG! I can sit up by myself!" Or bending over to pick things up that fell. I couldn't bend and pick up for like 2 weeks with C-section. I guess I just felt like I could run laps around the recovery unit with Lo whereas with G I mostly shuffled around and hoped there wasn't any stairs.
You could sit up by yourself after the C-section?! I'm impressed. Seriously DH was lifting me into position to nurse in the MOTN for the first week!
lizzybizzy I think I didn't notice the difficulties I had maneuvering after the C-section were C-section related until I had a VBAC. For example I couldn't sit up myself without a hospital bed (use my core muscles to roll or lift up) after C-section where as with the VBAC I was like "OMG! I can sit up by myself!" Or bending over to pick things up that fell. I couldn't bend and pick up for like 2 weeks with C-section. I guess I just felt like I could run laps around the recovery unit with Lo whereas with G I mostly shuffled around and hoped there wasn't any stairs.
You could sit up by yourself after the C-section?! I'm impressed. Seriously DH was lifting me into position to nurse in the MOTN for the first week!
Now I'm wondering if I was just high from the pain meds. They were pretty stellar. I only remember being in pain and having a hard time moving that one time. I was stiff for sure. But they did let me stay in the hospital bed a couple extra nights when he went to the NICU so I probably was just hitting that wonderful button to sit up. After that I was on a cot in his hospital room for a few weeks.
lizzybizzy I think I didn't notice the difficulties I had maneuvering after the C-section were C-section related until I had a VBAC. For example I couldn't sit up myself without a hospital bed (use my core muscles to roll or lift up) after C-section where as with the VBAC I was like "OMG! I can sit up by myself!" Or bending over to pick things up that fell. I couldn't bend and pick up for like 2 weeks with C-section. I guess I just felt like I could run laps around the recovery unit with Lo whereas with G I mostly shuffled around and hoped there wasn't any stairs.
You could sit up by yourself after the C-section?! I'm impressed. Seriously DH was lifting me into position to nurse in the MOTN for the first week!
Now I'm wondering if I was just high from the pain meds. They were pretty stellar. I only remember being in pain and having a hard time moving that one time. I was stiff for sure. But they did let me stay in the hospital bed a couple extra nights when he went to the NICU so I probably was just hitting that wonderful button to sit up. After that I was on a cot in his hospital room for a few weeks.
Yeah I refused all meds, basically so I could know my limits. I'm terrible at pacing myself for recovery if my pain is masked. It's quite possible that if I took the meds I would have been doing a lot more but I felt like punishing my body for not acting according to plan.
Now I'm wondering if I was just high from the pain meds. They were pretty stellar. I only remember being in pain and having a hard time moving that one time. I was stiff for sure. But they did let me stay in the hospital bed a couple extra nights when he went to the NICU so I probably was just hitting that wonderful button to sit up. After that I was on a cot in his hospital room for a few weeks.
Yeah I refused all meds, basically so I could know my limits. I'm terrible at pacing myself for recovery if my pain is masked. It's quite possible that if I took the meds I would have been doing a lot more but I felt like punishing my body for not acting according to plan.
Well there's another of my confessions, it would never occur to me to refuse prescribed pain meds.
G generally thinks time outs are a joke so when the dog ate through our trash bag I decided to make an example of her by putting the dog on time out. She had to sit down by the wall for two minutes and the poor thing looked so sheepish. G told her "Eating trash is not nice, say sorry" afterwards so I think she gets it now. This probably makes me a horrible dog mom but whatever works.
That's awesome! Time outs and stern voices are a joke at our house too
G generally thinks time outs are a joke so when the dog ate through our trash bag I decided to make an example of her by putting the dog on time out. She had to sit down by the wall for two minutes and the poor thing looked so sheepish. G told her "Eating trash is not nice, say sorry" afterwards so I think she gets it now. This probably makes me a horrible dog mom but whatever works.
That's awesome! Time outs and stern voices are a joke at our house too
My stern voice works on my niece but not G. He thinks it's hilarious. But if Daddy gets a stern voice? All the tears lol
Another confession: I do not have PB Kids anywhere chair. Or the piano kick mat. Or probably a bunch of other things there was a compact on here to buy!
What about birthdays etc where everyone plays the game of who can get the tiniest piece? Seriously take a normal size piece and don't eat part of it. Trying to see who can get the smallest piece is like the lamest game ever.
Lol. I have no shame in getting myself a huge piece. I love cake. At my old work we celebrated everybody's birthdays, and there was the usual song and dance about small pieces (though a little less so, since it was mostly men), but I stepped right up for the huge pieces.
melohdy, you may remember but I had a very similar dilemma before Nora was born. I was past my due date but was still going to have to bump up the induction date if I wanted Tyson present since he was supposed to have a turnaround scheduled that he had to be present for (he would have been gone 5 days essentially). I would wait it out. And decide closer to, when you have an idea of where you stand. Fwiw, had his turnaround not been canceled I would have been induced on Madeline's birthday. Definitely not ideal but I really felt better knowing he would be there with me.
Do you have any family who could come stay with you while your H is out of town? Because that would be my bigger concern right now. You need time to rest, especially if God forbid something doesn't go exactly as planned and you end up with a really rough delivery or a c-section. Not having your H home right after the birth could be really really tough if you don't have someone to help out with Lilly. I totally understand if that isn't an option, I was just there a month ago and I feel like I had a much better experience recovering and adjusting to life with 2 when I had an extra set of hands.
melohdy, you may remember but I had a very similar dilemma before Nora was born. I was past my due date but was still going to have to bump up the induction date if I wanted Tyson present since he was supposed to have a turnaround scheduled that he had to be present for (he would have been gone 5 days essentially). I would wait it out. And decide closer to, when you have an idea of where you stand. Fwiw, had his turnaround not been canceled I would have been induced on Madeline's birthday. Definitely not ideal but I really felt better knowing he would be there with me.
Do you have any family who could come stay with you while your H is out of town? Because that would be my bigger concern right now. You need time to rest, especially if God forbid something doesn't go exactly as planned and you end up with a really rough delivery or a c-section. Not having your H home right after the birth could be really really tough if you don't have someone to help out with Lilly. I totally understand if that isn't an option, I was just there a month ago and I feel like I had a much better experience recovering and adjusting to life with 2 when I had an extra set of hands.
Thank you so much for providing your perspective. I am going to wait it out and see what happens over the next couple of weeks.
We live in between our two families (2 miles away on each side). We're lucky to have them so close. Both sets have offered to stay with us and/or have Lilly stay with them if I need any rest. They are both on the list to be able to pick up and drop off Lilly at daycare. If they weren't so close, I would definitely be coordinating to have someone stay with us.
What about birthdays etc where everyone plays the game of who can get the tiniest piece? Seriously take a normal size piece and don't eat part of it. Trying to see who can get the smallest piece is like the lamest game ever.
Lol. I have no shame in getting myself a huge piece. I love cake. At my old work we celebrated everybody's birthdays, and there was the usual song and dance about small pieces (though a little less so, since it was mostly men), but I stepped right up for the huge pieces.
+1. I don't turn down cake. I also don't care how much I eat at parties. If I'm hungry, I eat. Was I supposed to be worried about this? Because seriously, I worry about just about everything. So if I don't care, it's really not that big of a deal.
G generally thinks time outs are a joke so when the dog ate through our trash bag I decided to make an example of her by putting the dog on time out. She had to sit down by the wall for two minutes and the poor thing looked so sheepish. G told her "Eating trash is not nice, say sorry" afterwards so I think she gets it now. This probably makes me a horrible dog mom but whatever works.
This is the best idea ever. I think I should put DH in a time out so G gets it.
UO? My induction wasnt bad at all. The only thing that wasnt great about it was when they tried to up the potocin Js heart rate would drop. It was a very slow process bc they had to keep lowering it back down.
Backstory... My water broke at 34.5 weeks but my body wasnt laboring on its own so I needed to be induced. Maybe thats different?
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