Spam with me Sunday

[osumegs]

Jul 19, 2015 10:51:09 GMT -5 Mom2Ms said:

Jul 19, 2015 6:16:09 GMT -5 osumegs said:

Oh and I'm glad I've gotten somewhat over modesty issues. My options for pumping at this store are in the public bathroom or the back storeroom. I opt for the storeroom because the bathroom would be gross. The front store staff (all female fortunately) was stocking yesterday, so I got to pump with them all chilling in there. No pressure at all!

I was under the impression that your employer had to provide you with a private room to pump..... Or is that just California?

I'm not sure. I know since I'm exempt (or non-exrmpt, I never remember hr terms) they don't even technically have to give me a break.

I work for a very large pharmacy chain that is not super mama friendly, though they push themselves as a health organization.

[lilyelayne]

Jul 19, 2015 10:53:47 GMT -5 cloe111479 said:

Jul 19, 2015 10:51:09 GMT -5 Mom2Ms said:

I was under the impression that your employer had to provide you with a private room to pump..... Or is that just California?

I think that's just California. And I think it also depends on how big the company is etc. (mine isn't large enough for fmla, but they don't care re:pumping and I just do it in my office)

Not a private room, but a space "shielded from view and free from intrusion by coworkers and the public." Additionally it "cannot be a bathroom." Quotes from here.

This applies to all employers covered by the Fair Labor Standards Act. It's a bit complicated, but in general it is the small local businesses that aren't covered by FLSA, but that's certainly not true of all of them.

[Mom2Ms]

Another day in bed. Still feels like a sledgehammer was taken to my knee. But I'm surviving. DD is with the idiot on vacation. She called today & wants to come home. It's only been 3 days. It breaks my heart. I forced DH & DS to watch the Orange is the new black all day yesterday, it was awesome. I think we might do that again. Yes!!!!

[Mom2Ms]

Jul 19, 2015 11:22:32 GMT -5 lilyelayne said:

Jul 19, 2015 10:53:47 GMT -5 cloe111479 said:

I think that's just California. And I think it also depends on how big the company is etc. (mine isn't large enough for fmla, but they don't care re:pumping and I just do it in my office)

Not a private room, but a space "shielded from view and free from intrusion by coworkers and the public." Additionally it "cannot be a bathroom." Quotes from here.

This applies to all employers covered by the Fair Labor Standards Act. It's a bit complicated, but in general it is the small local businesses that aren't covered by FLSA, but that's certainly not true of all of them.

That's awful. I'm so sorry. I feel weird about pumping in my closed door private office, so I couldn't imagine having to do it elsewhere.

Hmmmmm. Maybe a business venture here? We could create pumping rooms for companies!! Mood lighting. Mood music. You could link up via Skype or something to baby while you pump. There would be an array of beverages available. Lactation boosting snacks. A sink. A fridge.

[flyster]

oh my gosh it is so gross here. DH put a air conditioner in LO's play room/where my computer is, so at least I have that room to hang out in. We are going to a friend's parents place soon..they have central air (ys!) and a water table for her 2 year old. Sadly no pool Can't mooch to that level.

[hollydfromtn]

DH just took DS over to the ILs for a couple of hours. This is the first time in quite a while that I have been home alone. I can't decide if I want a bubblebath or an uninterrupted nap more. FWP for sure.

[WittyLittle]

Jul 19, 2015 9:35:03 GMT -5 dmorgendorffer said:

WittyLittle, DH went and got DD out of her because she was crying when I put her down to nap yesterday afternoon. Half an hour later he comes into the kitchen where I'm prepping stuff for dinner and tells me he thinks she needs a nap! Yes. That's why she was in the crib.

love tit in support. That's the type of stuff we get here a loooooooooot! Sometimes there's no words, I can only laugh. Today was not one of those times, but many of them are  

Prime logic example of the day was: 
DH: Did DS have a bath?
Me: Not yet, he was supposed to have one yesterday but he was totalled and wanted to go to bed.
DH: oh ok, tomorrow then.
Me: Ehm, no... today... seeing as he was supposed to have one yesterday. 
DH: Oh.
...
DH: You don't want to give him a bath tomorrow?!

[michelle142]

Just arrived at our hotel. We have a huge indoor water park practically to ourselves. Score.

[cloe111479]

Had lunch with my parents. Now they are watching dd so do and I can see ant-man.

[emilyz320]

Jul 19, 2015 14:19:13 GMT -5 cloe111479 said:

Had lunch with my parents. Now they are watching dd so do and I can see ant-man.

We saw yesterday. Wicked good!

[emilyz320]

Hi everyone! Super boring day over here. DH is off with his dorky homebrewing club (I say that with love) so we are just doing chores, grocery shopping and relaxing. It's our anniversary but we celebrated yesterday. Dd is being such a nap monster today. She is so tired but takes forever to fall asleep, whines and cries the whole time, and only sleeps for like 45 mins.

[lilyelayne]

Happy anniversary, emilyz320! How did the homemade presents turn out?

[emilyz320]

Jul 19, 2015 14:46:48 GMT -5 lilyelayne said:

Happy anniversary, emilyz320! How did the homemade presents turn out?

Thank you! They didn't exactly happen... Lol. I never got my stuff together to make anything good. I just made a pretty card on scrapbook paper. I drew the tree design from our wedding invitation and wrote a love letter on the inside. DH got me a paper box of yummy desserts and wrote a letter on the inside of the box. So not exactly what we said we were going to do but whatever!

[AppropriateChocolate]

Happy Sunday ladies.. DD turned 5 months today and also decided that naps are again for suckas. No luck on the used suv front. We test drove one and the dealer was like it's just been inspected
It's good to go. Yadda ya. We pulled over on our test drive to look at it. Its was totally rusted at the CV joints and at the motor mounts. We took it right back and told him how much BS he was trying to sell. I'm debating if I should do a review even though we didn't buy a vehicle from there. Just to warn everyone else. DH said no it's their problem, but I feel like I should cause I wish we would've known prior to going there. Oh well headed to search for more vehicles on the internet

[WittyLittle]

Jul 19, 2015 13:55:01 GMT -5 michelle142 said:

Just arrived at our hotel. We have a huge indoor water park practically to ourselves. Score.

Woah! Awesome! sorry I'm out of the loop, where are you on vacay? Enjoy!!!!!

[WittyLittle]

Jul 19, 2015 15:16:58 GMT -5 AppropriateChocolate said:

Happy Sunday ladies.. DD turned 5 months today and also decided that naps are again for suckas. No luck on the used suv front. We test drove one and the dealer was like it's just been inspected
It's good to go. Yadda ya. We pulled over on our test drive to look at it. Its was totally rusted at the CV joints and at the motor mounts. We took it right back and told him how much BS he was trying to sell. I'm debating if I should do a review even though we didn't buy a vehicle from there. Just to warn everyone else. DH said no it's their problem, but I feel like I should cause I wish we would've known prior to going there. Oh well headed to search for more vehicles on the internet

lovetit for LO turning 5 months!!! But good luck with the naps and vehicle hunt!

[AppropriateChocolate]

Jul 19, 2015 15:18:58 GMT -5 WittyLittle said:

Jul 19, 2015 15:16:58 GMT -5 AppropriateChocolate said:

Happy Sunday ladies.. DD turned 5 months today and also decided that naps are again for suckas. No luck on the used suv front. We test drove one and the dealer was like it's just been inspected
It's good to go. Yadda ya. We pulled over on our test drive to look at it. Its was totally rusted at the CV joints and at the motor mounts. We took it right back and told him how much BS he was trying to sell. I'm debating if I should do a review even though we didn't buy a vehicle from there. Just to warn everyone else. DH said no it's their problem, but I feel like I should cause I wish we would've known prior to going there. Oh well headed to search for more vehicles on the internet

lovetit for LO turning 5 months!!! But good luck with the naps and vehicle hunt!

Thanks. One of them will drive me to have a drink tonight I'm sure lol

[dmorgendorffer]

Jul 19, 2015 15:05:16 GMT -5 emilyz320 said:

Jul 19, 2015 14:46:48 GMT -5 lilyelayne said:

Happy anniversary, emilyz320! How did the homemade presents turn out?

Thank you! They didn't exactly happen... Lol. I never got my stuff together to make anything good. I just made a pretty card on scrapbook paper. I drew the tree design from our wedding invitation and wrote a love letter on the inside. DH got me a paper box of yummy desserts and wrote a letter on the inside of the box. So not exactly what we said we were going to do but whatever!

I think you did better than I did, DH and I celebrated our first anniversary just before DD was one month old and other than going out to dinner (and leaving DD with my mom for the first time) I can't remember either of us exchanging gifts.  I do remember taking the wedding cake out of the freezer and it being terrible.  

[cougarette]

Today we went to my sister's house for a get together for my dad's birthday. My niece and nephews were all over N. He actually did really well with all the stimulation and little sleep.

I think my mom was right that he's probably always fussy when the ILs are around because he's picking up on our uncomfortable vibes.

[michelle142]

Jul 19, 2015 15:18:07 GMT -5 WittyLittle said:

Jul 19, 2015 13:55:01 GMT -5 michelle142 said:

Just arrived at our hotel. We have a huge indoor water park practically to ourselves. Score.

Woah! Awesome! sorry I'm out of the loop, where are you on vacay? Enjoy!!!!!

I haven't really said much about it. We're just on a 2 day "stay-cation" a few hours from home. We're staying at a resort with a huge indoor waterpark. Tomorrow we're going to a 200 acre zoo if it's not too hot. If it's too hot, we're going to a children's museum and to the jelly belly factory.

[AppropriateChocolate]

Just realized tomorrow is my Dad's Bday. He would've been 59. I think I'm gonna crawl in the bed early tonight

[lotsofdotts]

Okay, I have two pieces of spam today: one good and one bad. I'll start with the good.

I cried like a baby at church this morning. I go to a very contemporary church, and this morning they brought the children's worship service into the main worship service so that the parents can see how the kids worship each day. We did all their songs and dances and watched their video lesson as well. It was super cool.

After the kids left to go to small groups to discuss this lesson, the head of the children's ministry spoke to us about the privilege of raising kids and the impact we have on them. She read a poem (it is actually a book) about all the lasts of childhood called "Let Me Hold You Longer." momlifetoday.com/2009/09/let-me-hold-you-longer/

Then she discussed that we have roughly 936 weeks from birth to graduation to experience childhood with our kids and to be present. I lost it. It has become disturbingly apparent how fast time goes by since having Brady. I look at Brady and then at my almost 15 yo son and am in awe that he has grown up in a blink. I started crying because it hit me that I have roughly 208 weeks left with my oldest before he will be out of my house. The whole service recentered me and made me know that I need to truly cherish my time with them.

Damn, I am starting to cry again just writing this.

The funny thing is that DH said we could just keep having kids. Nope, I'm way too old for that!

[lotsofdotts]

So here is the bad spam:

DH's sister is getting married February 28th, 2016 in Michigan. We live in NC. That is a long drive, in the winter, with 3 kids including a 1 yo.

So DH was talking to his mom tonight and asking about when the rehearsal dinner and such will be happening because we are trying to plan our trip and will be trying to look for cheap flights between now and then because we really don't want to drive but probably will have to anyway. His mom told him that we aren't invited to the rehearsal dinner because the groom's parents are insisting on only having the wedding party there because they don't want to pay for extra people. They aren't super poor or anything. First, DH is hurt that he isn't involved in the wedding in any form, not even an usher. Secondly, he is upset that we will potentially be driving 13 hours with the kids and are immediate family and aren't invited to the rehearsal dinner. He is almost to the point of saying he isn't going at all. It hurts my heart to see him hurt like this.

[missys]

lotsofdotts‌ I almost cried at your good spam. Thank you for sharing!

As for the not so good spam, I'm pretty sure etiquette says that siblings and out of town guests are to be invited to the rehearsal dinner. You all are both. I am appalled that immediate family would be excluded. So sorry for your husband.

[cloe111479]

Jul 19, 2015 19:54:36 GMT -5 missys said:

lotsofdotts‌ I almost cried at your good spam. Thank you for sharing!

As for the not so good spam, I'm pretty sure etiquette says that siblings and out of town guests are to be invited to the rehearsal dinner. You all are both. I am appalled that immediate family would be excluded. So sorry for your husband.

^what she said...

That's what I have always heard. If people, especially, immediate family are coming from out of town and overnight you include them. Otherwise that's just being cheap and not cool.

[cloe111479]

I'm entertaining myself by watching dd in her bed. No real crying but lord she is rolling everywhere!

[michelle142]

Kids are asleep after a busy day. I'm relaxing in the kickass whirlpool tub with a beer and a bag of pretzels! I need one of these tubs in my house.

[mands1125]

lotsofdotts that is just terrible tacky etiquette! I feel bad for your DH. I'm surprised MIL doesn't offer to pay for you all to be included.

[lilyelayne]

AppropriateChocolate internet hugs.
lotsofdotts that sucks for your H, and is totally rude not only from the groom's parents but also on H's sister. (And I loved your good spam!)

[GeekBeagle]

lotsofdotts I have never heard of siblings not being invited to a rehearsal dinner. Obviously I don't know their relationship, but I can't imagine his sister not wanting him there. I'm sorry that he's being excluded. That sucks.