Monday is for spam

[FlutterOfYoshis]

Good morning ladies!

My spam: I hate bugs that sting/bite. Been somewhat afraid of things that buzz since getting stung by a swarm of hornets as a kid. Now, DD likes the outdoors, so I try to take her outside once a day. Unfortunately there are quite a few bees and wasps around our porch but it's easy enough to avoid their popular spots. HOWEVER, this weekend we discovered a wheel bug that showed up out of nowhere and scared us since we'd never seen anything like it before. Apparently it's an "assassin bug" whose bites can hurt like a gunshot wound. Good thing I jumped and moved us away immediately. Seriously?! Go away bugs!

In other spam, I finally tried Disco Zoo and Cut the Rope on my phone since I seriously miss gaming. I'm mildly addicted...

[missys]

I have been inspired by the meal planning girls so yesterday my husband and I sat down and listed out all of the meals we eat and then printed a calendar to plan everything out. I went to the grocery store to pick up what we needed for the week and I spent less than $45. Say what?!?! Now I will admit we did have some ingredients here but omg why didn't I start this sooner? I also picked up some limited edition chips ahoy chocolate banana cookies that I am enjoying right now so today has been great so far! AND my husband was up with O from 4 until 530 this morning and I had no idea.

[dreemkin]

mrsclark731 but how much did you spend?

[misshart00]

As terrifying as that video is, it also made me cry. It was so sweet. The way her husband was calming her and how excited she was about it being a boy. Etc.

And I loved when he said "I wonder if we still have to pay for the birthing center." That is probably the first thing I would've said.

And I can't help but think, I hope thy have leather seats.

[cginge]

I'm eating a giant bowl of watermelon and researching blebs and blocked nip pores because apparently those are a thing and holy hell does whatever-this-is hurt (along with a blocked duct). Baby is napping so I'm going to take a hot bath. Today, we're hopefully doing some of the following: doing some form of exercise, grocery shopping, buying some 12 month clothes, tracking down another wubbanub...

[dmorgendorffer]

Jul 20, 2015 9:19:20 GMT -5 mishka29 said:

Jul 20, 2015 6:31:08 GMT -5 toadandbuggie said:

www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/husband-films-wife-giving-birth-on-car-ride-to-hospital_55ab9683e4b065dfe89e9310?

I'm slightly traumatized after watching that lol

but why keep driving?!

I was wondering that too.  At least let her get in the back seat to have some more room and be able to change position and help her deliver once they realize its coming right there.  

[lilyelayne]

FlutterOfYoshis I looked up that bug & it's scary!

I can't bring myself to click on that birth video.

[hollydfromtn]

Fluff Mail!!!

[cloe111479]

Morning. Little bit slept good except for the 1/2 he of major rain,thunder and lightening. It was like a strobe light for that time. Crazy.

My first world problem -- the left side strap of my Pisa pump backpack broke. . It feels so weird to carry it on the other side. I'm going to dig around in bags and see if I have one that works because it's to weird and I not buying a bag for like $60!

So on Thursday and Friday our sitter was sick --not a biggie dh took off one day and his step mom had her Friday. But because I didn't have her I went a different way to work -- and got into a little wreck. She wasn't in the car thank god, and it's not that much damage but it means we are a 1car family til it is fixed. Which is fine since dh works from home but means I HAVE to do pick up and drop off for her. Which means I have to leave work right at 4 if not earlier. Ugh... I should here from progressive today and hear how long etc. hopefully, it will only be a few days.

[miniwheat]

F15 Did I overreact?

I took DD to the splash pad and we met my friend and her kids. My kid randomly grabs a handful of sand and throws it in a girls face. I apologize to girl, take my DD aside and I talk to her about how that was bad and we either go say we are sorry or we leave to go home. DD throws tantrum and says she wants to keep playing and other nonsense like "Noooooo let me go play!!" and so on. I say ok lets go apologize. We walk up to girl and DD says "No way!" instead of "I am sorry". I end it there and pack her up and we go home.

It felt like my friend may have thought that was a bit harsh cause we had a playdate planned. I don't tolerate throwing anything at anyone. Was I too mean taking her out of there? I feel like I am sucking at being a mom to a toddler.

[lotsofdotts]

Jul 20, 2015 8:07:33 GMT -5 dmorgendorffer said:

lotsofdotts deciding to get married because the day you want happens to be on a weekend next year seems like a questionable choice. It's funny to me that she doesn't want to wait until she is 26 or 27, like that is so far off or too old - I guess when you are in your early 20's your mid 20's seems so old, until you get there.

I agree with the etiquette that has been mentioned by the other posters. DH's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and we invited the wedding party and our out of town guests. For us that included all immediate family. Are her finance's parents also paying for part of the wedding or is the wedding party made up of like 15 bridesmaids and 15 groomsmen? Those are really the only way I could maybe understand them wanting to limit the budget / guest list, but even in that case I think they should contribute what they want towards the dinner and leave the guest list up to the couple getting married.

They are not paying for anything to do with the wedding, and I'm pretty sure there are only 3-4 bridesmaids/groomsmen. I think they are just being cheap. Who doesn't invite the brother of the bride to the rehearsal dinner?

[mrsclark731]

Jul 20, 2015 9:48:14 GMT -5 dreemkin said:

mrsclark731 but how much did you spend?

Nada 

I log in to play when I get emails about free slot money. I turned my free $10 into $200. 

[misshart00]

Jul 20, 2015 10:54:52 GMT -5 miniwheat said:

F15 Did I overreact?

I took DD to the splash pad and we met my friend and her kids. My kid randomly grabs a handful of sand and throws it in a girls face. I apologize to girl, take my DD aside and I talk to her about how that was bad and we either go say we are sorry or we leave to go home. DD throws tantrum and says she wants to keep playing and other nonsense like "Noooooo let me go play!!" and so on. I say ok lets go apologize. We walk up to girl and DD says "No way!" instead of "I am sorry". I end it there and pack her up and we go home.

It felt like my friend may have thought that was a bit harsh cause we had a playdate planned. I don't tolerate throwing anything at anyone. Was I too mean taking her out of there? I feel like I am sucking at being a mom to a toddler.

I don't think that's overreacting. She needs to learn that you ant just throw things at people and expect to keep playing. Toddlers are hard.

[lotsofdotts]

Jul 20, 2015 10:54:52 GMT -5 miniwheat said:

F15 Did I overreact?

I took DD to the splash pad and we met my friend and her kids. My kid randomly grabs a handful of sand and throws it in a girls face. I apologize to girl, take my DD aside and I talk to her about how that was bad and we either go say we are sorry or we leave to go home. DD throws tantrum and says she wants to keep playing and other nonsense like "Noooooo let me go play!!" and so on. I say ok lets go apologize. We walk up to girl and DD says "No way!" instead of "I am sorry". I end it there and pack her up and we go home.

It felt like my friend may have thought that was a bit harsh cause we had a playdate planned. I don't tolerate throwing anything at anyone. Was I too mean taking her out of there? I feel like I am sucking at being a mom to a toddler.

Nope, you did not overreact. You had to teach her a lesson.

[lilyelayne]

miniwheat +1 for you did the right thing. Sucks that it messed up your play date (and you can express that to your friend) but you made the right parenting call.

[cougarette]

I hope lo manages to avoid illness, @nolagal!

miniwheat I think it's more important to follow through on punishment. And I don't think it was too harsh - she needs to learn that it's not ok.

ETA: hopefully your friend understands too

[mands1125]

Speaking of Toddler's todddlering, Abby's cousin (2 1/2 year old boy) kept slapping her on the hand for no reason. BIL yells at MIL from across the room for not stopping it. I just sat there paralyzed not sure what to do. Do you usually say something if another kid is hitting your child? Would you expect the grandmother of the kids to stop if she was sitting there?

[miniwheat]

Thanks ladies. Toddlers are hard for sure. I miss the days were you could just mention going home and they would stop the bad behaviour.

[miniwheat]

Jul 20, 2015 11:27:12 GMT -5 mands1125 said:

Speaking of Toddler's todddlering, Abby's cousin (2 1/2 year old boy) kept slapping her on the hand for no reason. BIL yells at MIL from across the room for not stopping it. I just sat there paralyzed not sure what to do. Do you usually say something if another kid is hitting your child? Would you expect the grandmother of the kids to stop if she was sitting there?

I usually would try and correct it by saying babies are very small and we have to be gentle my touching a baby's hand like this... and the showing a nice way to interact with the baby. I get in between the toddler and baby too to help make some space. 

[mishka29]

Jul 20, 2015 10:54:52 GMT -5 miniwheat said:

F15 Did I overreact?

I took DD to the splash pad and we met my friend and her kids. My kid randomly grabs a handful of sand and throws it in a girls face. I apologize to girl, take my DD aside and I talk to her about how that was bad and we either go say we are sorry or we leave to go home. DD throws tantrum and says she wants to keep playing and other nonsense like "Noooooo let me go play!!" and so on. I say ok lets go apologize. We walk up to girl and DD says "No way!" instead of "I am sorry". I end it there and pack her up and we go home.

It felt like my friend may have thought that was a bit harsh cause we had a playdate planned. I don't tolerate throwing anything at anyone. Was I too mean taking her out of there? I feel like I am sucking at being a mom to a toddler.

Man I hate when toddlers ruin their own fun by not listening!  I think you gave her a chance with the apology and she blew it. Gotta follow through. 

[dmorgendorffer]

Jul 20, 2015 11:27:12 GMT -5 mands1125 said:

Speaking of Toddler's todddlering, Abby's cousin (2 1/2 year old boy) kept slapping her on the hand for no reason. BIL yells at MIL from across the room for not stopping it. I just sat there paralyzed not sure what to do. Do you usually say something if another kid is hitting your child? Would you expect the grandmother of the kids to stop if she was sitting there?

I think it depends a lot on your relationship with the other kid / their parents.  For a cousin I would intervene and try to correct the behavior, although if their parent / grandparent was also in the room I don't see why they wouldn't intervene themselves. 

[kartish]

mands1125 I usually say something, like oh please don't do __ and then give a reason why not. Usually the parent steps in to finish talking to them. But I do the same even if it doesn't involve my kid, but that is how our family is.

[mrsclark731]

I'm totally bummed about Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert divorcing.

On the other hand... Blake Shelton is a tall drink of water

[misshart00]

I love that my toddler has discovered new skills but it's a pain sometimes. She has figured out how to do buckles and go around putting them together. Now I always have to check (the bumbo, swing, car seat) before I put DS in.

And when I have the kids by myself and I'm taking them somewhere, I first unbuckle the toddler so I can just grab her, then I go get DS and his carrier, and go back to DD to just hop out of her car seat and get out. But now she buckles herself back in before I get back around to her side. And it's usually wrong so I have to set DS down and figure out what she did so I can get her out too.

[misshart00]

Jul 20, 2015 12:18:56 GMT -5 mrsclark731 said:

I'm totally bummed about Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert divorcing.

On the other hand... Blake Shelton is a tall drink of water

What?! Wonder if that's why they sold their house here.

[WittyLittle]

Jul 20, 2015 10:57:15 GMT -5 mumomma13 said:

I don't know what is going on with DS. He'll sleep in the PNP until his first MOTN feed, but when I lay him back down, he screams and screams. So, I hold him/rock him for 30 minutes and lay him back down....screams within minutes. I am so tired because I hate to bed share but it's the only way he will sleep right now. I know this is just a phase, but I NEED him to sleep in his own space and I don't know how to fix it.

If you're comfortable with it, have you tried (controlled) crying? I was totally against it until i accidentally tried it and the problem was solved the same day. Not saying it will be that wasy with every kid but it did Jake a lot of good. your sanity/sleep as well should take priority now and again!

[WittyLittle]

Jul 20, 2015 10:54:52 GMT -5 miniwheat said:

F15 Did I overreact?

I took DD to the splash pad and we met my friend and her kids. My kid randomly grabs a handful of sand and throws it in a girls face. I apologize to girl, take my DD aside and I talk to her about how that was bad and we either go say we are sorry or we leave to go home. DD throws tantrum and says she wants to keep playing and other nonsense like "Noooooo let me go play!!" and so on. I say ok lets go apologize. We walk up to girl and DD says "No way!" instead of "I am sorry". I end it there and pack her up and we go home.

It felt like my friend may have thought that was a bit harsh cause we had a playdate planned. I don't tolerate throwing anything at anyone. Was I too mean taking her out of there? I feel like I am sucking at being a mom to a toddler.

Stories like this make me want to apologise to my mom for ever being a toddler. Did your friend actually say anything about it btw?

[aggiebug]

miniwheat way to go momma. Your daughter needed to know that behavior can't and won't be tolerated. It sucks for you, her and your friend but if you don't stop it now it would continue to suck for years to come.

[GeekBeagle]

miniwheat, I think you absolutely did the right thing. Hopefully your friend understands.

[miniwheat]

WittyLittle, I texted her when I got home. She made me feel better. Her oldest is 1.5 years older than DD and she told me she has had the same stuff going on when hers was 3 and had to walk out of all kinds of things. And that 3 year olds is the reason wine was invented.