I had one of those lemon freeze thingies from Chick-fil-a lasts week thanks to this board. We don't have CFA around here but I was visiting a place that does so I had to stop. It was delish and I'm sad there isn't one accessible. Time to move I guess.
My rant is that it's fucking hard to be pregnant in a foreign country. I mean... they don't even have milkshakes, wings or ranch dressing here. Basically anything that I am craving is not available or easily replicated. I am DYING.
Ok. Deep breath. You can do this!
Put 2 scoops of ice cream in a cup, fill up to top of ice cream with whole milk. Mash around with a fork. Voila, milkshake.
Fill a pot with oil. Heat until hot. Drop chicken wings in for 25 minutes or more. Eat delicious chicken wings.
Btw I'm never leaving America. I need me some milkshakes.
You're assuming that all these ingredients are easily found here I'm not going to butcher a whole chicken to get a couple wings or make my own buttermilk in order to make sour cream (for the ranch recipe). FFS, we couldn't even find BAKING SODA at the grocery store. We found polvo de hornear (baking powder) in the cooking aisle but no bicarbonato de sodio (baking soda).
SubtleGrandeur, we are in South America, in a country that is kinda off the radar. There aren't a ton of Americans here at all so I won't say which one for privacy sake, but you can eliminate the likes of Brazil, Peru, Argentina etc...
My DH is seriously on my last nerve! We spent most of the weekend super cleaning the house., of which he complained the whole time! I come home today after a rough 10 hour workday to find the house an utter mess and him just sitting on the couch playing a stupid game on his phone. I really think he just let DS run wild today while he played on his phone! He wants to be a SAHD, and while we could swing it financially, no way in hell is that happening! Our house would be an utter mess all the time and all he does is play on his phone when DS is playing. So annoying!
If MH complained about the house being messy on a Monday evening (even if we spent the weekend cleaning), as a SAHM, I'd be seriously pissed. You worked a 10-hour day at your office, but YH worked a 10-hour day at home. YH's primary responsibility is taking care of your LO, not cleaning. Sometimes messes happen. If you think SAHPs maintain spotless homes, you are seriously mistaken.
It's not that I am upset that the house was a little dirty, we are talking crayon on the wall, cupcake in the carpet, and toilet paper everywhere. Oh and DS was only home 4 hours of the 10 I was gone.....I find that to be a tad unreasonable considering DH had 6 whole hours to himself. And he is not a SAHD...he works part time and only cares for DS half of the time he is off, but does not clean or cook. That is still my responsibility while working full time and going to school. I feel I have a right to be pissed about the situation. Especially since he expected me to clean it up when I got home.....
It's not that I am upset that the house was a little dirty, we are talking crayon on the wall, cupcake in the carpet, and toilet paper everywhere. Oh and DS was only home 4 hours of the 10 I was gone.....I find that to be a tad unreasonable considering DH had 6 whole hours to himself. And he is not a SAHD...he works part time and only cares for DS half of the time he is off, but does not clean or cook. That is still my responsibility while working full time and going to school. I feel I have a right to be pissed about the situation. Especially since he expected me to clean it up when I got home.....
This is where I lose sympathy for your DH. Say it was just a horrible day and the kid was insane that day... ok shit happens! But in that case he should tackle the clean up while you cook. It is a team effort.
I do agree though that a SAHP parent is not going to alway have time to clean up the house or do all the chores. They may do a bit more by default, but it is not their first priority or only their job.
It's not that I am upset that the house was a little dirty, we are talking crayon on the wall, cupcake in the carpet, and toilet paper everywhere. Oh and DS was only home 4 hours of the 10 I was gone.....I find that to be a tad unreasonable considering DH had 6 whole hours to himself. And he is not a SAHD...he works part time and only cares for DS half of the time he is off, but does not clean or cook. That is still my responsibility while working full time and going to school. I feel I have a right to be pissed about the situation. Especially since he expected me to clean it up when I got home.....
But why are those things your responsibility? Because you by default do them or because you and YH agreed to that division of duties?
It's not that I am upset that the house was a little dirty, we are talking crayon on the wall, cupcake in the carpet, and toilet paper everywhere. Oh and DS was only home 4 hours of the 10 I was gone.....I find that to be a tad unreasonable considering DH had 6 whole hours to himself. And he is not a SAHD...he works part time and only cares for DS half of the time he is off, but does not clean or cook. That is still my responsibility while working full time and going to school. I feel I have a right to be pissed about the situation. Especially since he expected me to clean it up when I got home.....
But why are those things your responsibility? Because you by default do them or because you and YH agreed to that division of duties?
A mix of I have always done them, so it just continues and even after multiple attempts to ask for help he doesn't really help or has to wait to be asked many times to help. He can't cook, tried many times early in our relationship and failed. He doesn't like to clean and does everything he can to avoid cleaning. If it was up to him we would have a live in housekeeper to clean up after him all day long.
I knew all this when I married and fell in love with him. I know he is not an organized person not really likes to have a clean living environment all the time like me. This was just a vent and something I know I can't change about DH, even after multiple attempts at asking for more help.
But why are those things your responsibility? Because you by default do them or because you and YH agreed to that division of duties?
A mix of I have always done them, so it just continues and even after multiple attempts to ask for help he doesn't really help or has to wait to be asked many times to help. He can't cook, tried many times early in our relationship and failed. He doesn't like to clean and does everything he can to avoid cleaning. If it was up to him we would have a live in housekeeper to clean up after him all day long.
I knew all this when I married and fell in love with him. I know he is not an organized person not really likes to have a clean living environment all the time like me. This was just a vent and something I know I can't change about DH, even after multiple attempts at asking for more help.
Sorry you are dealing with that. IMO YH needs to suck if up and clean sometimes. Maybe not when he is spending time with the kids but at some point it needs to be done.
When we decided I would be a sahm, we agreed that I would do the majority of the cleaning and cooking. There have been some times I've been overwhelmed and have asked DH for some help and he does.
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