Post by thewickedfairy on Jan 24, 2015 19:40:20 GMT -5
So I complained about a month ago about this woman I know who announced her pregnancy the moment she got a BFP on her HPT. Sounds twaty of me, I know. Anyway, she started taking belly pics at 4 weeks. And has been taking them weekly. ::eye roll:: Now she is having a "gender reveal" party, then having a shower in August. She said she wants to do a "gender reveal" so that "everyone can gift accordingly." WTAF?!?!?!?! This is their second and while I have no problems with subsequent showers, I have a problem with greedy ass people throwing them for themselves and expecting gifts. If I get invited, I am not going.
Post by SpraggleFrock on Jan 24, 2015 19:47:40 GMT -5
I love and hate gender reveals. I think they make adorable pictures and are a fun reason to get together without gifts. There's just so many now I'm kind of bored with them. Having your own second shower - not cool and very greedy.
I told my mom I wouldn't be announcing any pregnancy until I was 12 weeks and she got upset. I just can't see myself telling anyone at all before 8 weeks and even then just close friends. She made some smart remark about I might as well wait until I'm in labor to tell anyone I'm pregnant then.
Post by thewickedfairy on Jan 24, 2015 19:51:06 GMT -5
I am against saying anything during the 1st trimester due to my own experience of having an MMC. She hasn't even been to a doc yet because the docs in a lot of the offices out here won't see anyone until 8 weeks because of how much things can happen in those first few weeks.
All of that is lame. Admittedly I do have an issue with most subsequent showers...
The reason I say I don't have a problem with them is because if the kids are far apart, different sex, it's a surprise shower or someone insisted on doing it for the parents. Otherwise greediness!
I did weekly pics with my first and admittedly will probably do them if I ever get pregnant again, but not post them lol. I kind of side eye second showers, especially if thrown yourself. I like the reveal for family only but not to sway gift buying.
A former coworker started telling people the minute she found out. She ended up having a miscarriage, which I of course felt terrible for her, but I was kind of mad she had told CUSTOMERS of our store, because it was horribly uncomfortable for everyone when she had to continue answering questions and telling people what happened for months afterward because she had told so many people when she was barely 5 weeks along. If you want to share with friends and family early, that's fine, but I thought her telling people at work was very unprofessional.
I am against saying anything during the 1st trimester due to my own experience of having an MMC. She hasn't even been to a doc yet because the docs in a lot of the offices out here won't see anyone until 8 weeks because of how much things can happen in those first few weeks.
Same here. I miscarried early and doctors won't see you until 8 weeks. I have to be seen as soon as I find out if I get pregnant again because of my thyroid but I still won't tell anyone. I cringe when I see people post their positive test on facebook as soon as they find out.
I am against saying anything during the 1st trimester due to my own experience of having an MMC. She hasn't even been to a doc yet because the docs in a lot of the offices out here won't see anyone until 8 weeks because of how much things can happen in those first few weeks.
Same here. I miscarried early and doctors won't see you until 8 weeks. I have to be seen as soon as I find out if I get pregnant again because of my thyroid but I still won't tell anyone. I cringe when I see people post their positive test on facebook as soon as they find out.
I am against saying anything during the 1st trimester due to my own experience of having an MMC. She hasn't even been to a doc yet because the docs in a lot of the offices out here won't see anyone until 8 weeks because of how much things can happen in those first few weeks.
My first appointment wasn't until 9 weeks. The coworker mentioned above actually lied so they "had" to get her in for a dating ultrasound, and that was how she found out about her MMC. Obviously, still awful, but the whole thing made me feel icky. She does have a little boy now. Born early but healthy and almost 3 months old.
A former coworker started telling people the minute she found out. She ended up having a miscarriage, which I of course felt terrible for her, but I was kind of mad she had told CUSTOMERS of our store, because it was horribly uncomfortable for everyone when she had to continue answering questions and telling people what happened for months afterward because she had told so many people when she was barely 5 weeks along. If you want to share with friends and family early, that's fine, but I thought her telling people at work was very unprofessional.
I hate that someone/anyone had to go through a miscarriage. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I agree she shouldn't have told everyone.
This just made me realize I have no clue what I'll do at work if I get pregnant. I'm a dental assistant and take x-rays daily. You're supposed to wear a lead apron when pregnant and taking them or not take them at all. Ugh. I'll have to look into this more to see if I could still avoid telling them right away.
My little cousin announced her "surprise" pregnancy at 5 weeks with a picture of the stupid peestick and her flat belly. I unfollowed her on FB a few weeks ago because I could no longer take her daily updates about how tired and bitchy being pregnant was making her. I also realized that I could no longer control my urge to ask her what her probation officer thought of her pregnancy. (yes, she's really on probation).
Same here. I miscarried early and doctors won't see you until 8 weeks. I have to be seen as soon as I find out if I get pregnant again because of my thyroid but I still won't tell anyone. I cringe when I see people post their positive test on facebook as soon as they find out.
Me too! When she posted her peestick, I cringed.
I cringe at people posting immediately, but I no longer believe there is any point in waiting until 2nd trimester. IMO, announce when you feel ready, just let the pee dry & please don't show it to me. Telling everyone, not telling everyone; really doesn't change a thing if loss happens for me at least.
I cannot stand anyone throwing their own showers, gender reveal parties annoy the beejesus out of me, making any sort of demands about gifts gets you punched in the throat.
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A former coworker started telling people the minute she found out. She ended up having a miscarriage, which I of course felt terrible for her, but I was kind of mad she had told CUSTOMERS of our store, because it was horribly uncomfortable for everyone when she had to continue answering questions and telling people what happened for months afterward because she had told so many people when she was barely 5 weeks along. If you want to share with friends and family early, that's fine, but I thought her telling people at work was very unprofessional.
I hate that someone/anyone had to go through a miscarriage. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I agree she shouldn't have told everyone.
This just made me realize I have no clue what I'll do at work if I get pregnant. I'm a dental assistant and take x-rays daily. You're supposed to wear a lead apron when pregnant and taking them or not take them at all. Ugh. I'll have to look into this more to see if I could still avoid telling them right away.
I hate that she had to go through it too. I hope that didn't come across as insensitive. It was just so difficult to have to watch her tell people - especially those she barely knew. I "hid" my pregnancy until about 12 weeks. They all knew long before that but I didn't announce until I had had an ultrasound and was almost to 2nd trimester (after being out a long weekend due to intense morning sickness).
I think most people in your situation would probably confide in someone higher up and have them make it so you don't have to do X-rays for a few weeks or something until you're more comfortable sharing? I don't know if that's possible for you.
I hate that she had to go through it too. I hope that didn't come across as insensitive. It was just so difficult to have to watch her tell people - especially those she barely knew. I "hid" my pregnancy until about 12 weeks. They all knew long before that but I didn't announce until I had had an ultrasound and was almost to 2nd trimester (after being out a long weekend due to intense morning sickness).
I think most people in your situation would probably confide in someone higher up and have them make it so you don't have to do X-rays for a few weeks or something until you're more comfortable sharing? I don't know if that's possible for you.
No, not at all.
I work in a small office and sometimes I'm the only dental assistant there. I don't know. Something to worry about if I actually get pregnant again. My body and thyroid hate me so who knows.
Post by ohinvrtedworld on Jan 24, 2015 20:24:09 GMT -5
Ew, I wouldn't go either, thewickedfairy. Buhh. I think that's the tackiest thing I've ever heard, to ask for gifts at your gender reveal party.
Honestly, gender reveal parties annoy me, too. Maybe it's only because I've been to one and it was H's friend's wife who I don't really hang out with ever.
I work in a small office and sometimes I'm the only dental assistant there. I don't know. Something to worry about if I actually get pregnant again. My body and thyroid hate me so who knows.
Are there any other reasons to wear an apron? If you have thyroid problems, shouldn't you be shielding that anyways? Can you just start wearing one whenever for no real reason?
When I finally get pregnant again I will be taking belly pics for personal photo things. Like as soon as I get BFP, For a "beginning" or starting point. And I'm big into seeing progress so I will also take a starting belly measurement. I don't intend to post and share with social media.
She did it for social media reasons. I can understand what you're saying because I did the same when I got my BFP with DD.
I work in a small office and sometimes I'm the only dental assistant there. I don't know. Something to worry about if I actually get pregnant again. My body and thyroid hate me so who knows.
Are there any other reasons to wear an apron? If you have thyroid problems, shouldn't you be shielding that anyways? Can you just start wearing one whenever for no real reason?
No. I mean I could but they would assume I was pregnant or crazy. My thyroid was radiated with radioactive iodine treatment so it's still there but doesn't really work. I take thyroid replacement now like it's been removed. When you stand 6ft away from the source of radiation you're pretty much safe from it but as a precaution you wear an apron if you're pregnant. If/when it happens I guess I'll have to talk to my boss about it. Not a huge deal but just not something I've thought about before and sharing with everyone would make me uncomfortable but I'll get over it if I'm pregnant.
When I finally get pregnant again I will be taking belly pics for personal photo things. Like as soon as I get BFP, For a "beginning" or starting point. And I'm big into seeing progress so I will also take a starting belly measurement. I don't intend to post and share with social media.
I agree with this about taking pics, just not posting them weekly for all of social media. I took pics through out my first pregnancy and loved seeing the progress but I never posted them to social media.
Post by anonymouseliza on Jan 24, 2015 20:58:00 GMT -5
Ew. That's both obnoxious and anxiety inducing.
I told my boss quickly because I needed time off for appointments very quickly. I told the directors of the programs I serve around 11 weeks, and the rest of work after the cerclage was placed (eta: I was on severe physical restriction after the cerclage was placed that would have been noticeable pretty quickly and odd without explanation). Families were all over the place, but most not until after 9w, which was a marker for previous losses. The wider world wasn't until after 24 weeks and then I had a panic attack.
I'm already planning our gender reveal party. It will consist of my mom, my daughter, my husband and me, and balloons because my daughter loves them. I'll serve a cake for dessert that will tell. The end. It's mostly an excuse for cake. And balloons. FTR, I also plan how I will spend my lottery winnings, in great detail. So this isn't abnormal for me.
I've never attended a gender reveal party, but I love the pics. If I did get pregnant I would do a very small one with family and a few friends, but it would likely be centered around some other celebration or sporting event. No big deal, no gifts, just food and fun.
So I complained about a month ago about this woman I know who announced her pregnancy the moment she got a BFP on her HPT. Sounds twaty of me, I know. Anyway, she started taking belly pics at 4 weeks. And has been taking them weekly. ::eye roll:: Now she is having a "gender reveal" party, then having a shower in August. She said she wants to do a "gender reveal" so that "everyone can gift accordingly." WTAF?!?!?!?! This is their second and while I have no problems with subsequent showers, I have a problem with greedy ass people throwing them for themselves and expecting gifts. If I get invited, I am not going.
To me that sounds like she wants people to know what to buy for the shower, not that you need to bring an "appropriate" gift to the gender reveal.
Please don't go to either if you are invited. You clearly don't like this person.
Ew, I wouldn't go either, thewickedfairy. Buhh. I think that's the tackiest thing I've ever heard, to ask for gifts at your gender reveal party.
Honestly, gender reveal parties annoy me, too. Maybe it's only because I've been to one and it was H's friend's wife who I don't really hang out with ever.
Typically, I'm not a fan of the gender reveal parties because I think it's just an excuse to have another party. However, I had a good friend do the reveal at her baby shower. She had an adorable little cake made for it. Funny enough, I ended up helping her with her registry because it was somehow easier than my bridal registry.
On a similar note, what's everyone's stance of Sprinkles?
Ew, I wouldn't go either, thewickedfairy. Buhh. I think that's the tackiest thing I've ever heard, to ask for gifts at your gender reveal party.
Honestly, gender reveal parties annoy me, too. Maybe it's only because I've been to one and it was H's friend's wife who I don't really hang out with ever.
Typically, I'm not a fan of the gender reveal parties because I think it's just an excuse to have another party. However, I had a good friend do the reveal at her baby shower. She had an adorable little cake made for it. Funny enough, I ended up helping her with her registry because it was somehow easier than my bridal registry.
On a similar note, what's everyone's stance of Sprinkles?
Why are you not a fan of excuses to have parties?
Excuses I like to have parties: Birthdays, Anniversaries, Cinqo de Mayo, Saturdays...
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