TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
I've only argued with a mandatory tip once in my life - the menu clearly stated mandatory tip added for parties of 5 or more. We had 4 people in our group the entire time. The waitress still put the mandatory tip on.
It was a 25% mandatory tip, and the service was absolutely shitty. I mean bad attitude, standing around chatting with other waitresses while we tried to flag her down, our food arrived at our table cold, etc. I was still going to tip her, but not 25% (at a time when most other restaurants in the area had an 18% mandatory gratuity). The manager kept telling me that there were 5 people at my table and that our 5th had obviously just left early to avoid the mandatory tip.
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
You know who's worse than the penny tippers? The people who lay out the few dollars they deem appropriate at the beginning of the meal and then subtract them every time you do something "wrong". DNW to serve that table.
Want to hear a fun mandatory gratuity story? I once had a 40-top come in for a graduation party. I managed to take care of everyone, get their food out in reasonable time (in waves for the cooks) and SPLIT ALL THEIR FUCKING CHECKS. We also brought balloons and gave them free ice cream. At the end of the 4 hour ordeal, when I hadn't had another table my entire shift (because duh), they asked the manager to remove the mandatory gratuity and left me nothing.
I cried in the back and they let me go home. My fellow servers also took money from their own tips for the day so I wouldn't leave with nothing.
This makes me so ragey. I was a server and bartender forever and this almost made me cry just reading it. People are dicks.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
On the other side of the coin (pun totally intended) I had some fucking amazing tables come through my sections throughout the years. Once I was around $200 bucks short on rent, and on a Saturday made only like 90 bucks after topping out (I had a 20 top & they blew). We were closing out and a young couple came in for coffee & dessert; no one wanted them, but I was desperate for money and could legit use the $5 tip. They ended up being delightful & turned my night around by just being a great table. By the time they left I was smiling. I went to clean up the table and they left me $120 cash on top of a 20% tip on the 15 credit card tip.I collapsed to the floor & cried for like 20 minutes. I will never forget those two.
I had a table once where it was three people that had a small start up that had just sold the company for some crazy amount of money. They came in, because we were the only place open in the area, and orders apps and a bottle of Dom Perignon. Then they ordered a second, and a third. Fridays, at the time, only carried 5 bottles of it at any given time.
So they were my last table and were just hanging out, and I kept chatting with them while I was doing closing stuff. They asked for the bill, I dropped it off, stepped in the back, came back and they were gone. I had a momentary panic that they maybe had run off, and then opened the bill. They left me a $500 tip.
My question is how they were they able to walk out after drinking a bottle of champagne each? lol. I would be crawling on the floor.
On the other side of the coin (pun totally intended) I had some fucking amazing tables come through my sections throughout the years. Once I was around $200 bucks short on rent, and on a Saturday made only like 90 bucks after topping out (I had a 20 top & they blew). We were closing out and a young couple came in for coffee & dessert; no one wanted them, but I was desperate for money and could legit use the $5 tip. They ended up being delightful & turned my night around by just being a great table. By the time they left I was smiling. I went to clean up the table and they left me $120 cash on top of a 20% tip on the 15 credit card tip.I collapsed to the floor & cried for like 20 minutes. I will never forget those two.
I had a table once where it was three people that had a small start up that had just sold the company for some crazy amount of money. They came in, because we were the only place open in the area, and orders apps and a bottle of Dom Perignon. Then they ordered a second, and a third. Fridays, at the time, only carried 5 bottles of it at any given time.
So they were my last table and were just hanging out, and I kept chatting with them while I was doing closing stuff. They asked for the bill, I dropped it off, stepped in the back, came back and they were gone. I had a momentary panic that they maybe had run off, and then opened the bill. They left me a $500 tip.
This restores some of my hope in humanity. Once in college two tables, one of alums from my college and one with alums from our bitter rivals, got into a tipping war when I was serving them both on a game day. Winner winner = me. I think I made almost $200 off the two of them (which in college dollars, as you know, is about $10,000 ha) and they were really fun tables on top of it.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
I had a whole response typed out about my past experience as a server and my current practices when I go out, but now that I'm all caught up, I realize that most of what I would have said has been covered and also that #no1curr what I personally do.
So all I think I want to say is that, in defense of those crazy helpless MEN, my H is the biggest over-tipper I've ever known (in fact, sometimes I think he goes a bit overboard!). I love that about him.
Also bunnyfungo your story about the 40-top made me want to cry. I'm glad it had a happy ending but seriously, WTF is wrong with people?
I really cringe at toilets without their covers closed.
I never realized how many people don't close them routinely before. But, no. My house? Closed unless in use.
It's like people don't know how far the bacteria travels when you flush without covering. EW.
I was watching a science show one time when I was younger, and they did an experiment. They scrubbed every surface of a bathroom, put in new toothbrushes, etc. After a few flushes off urine and feces, germs were on the walls, floors, toothbrushes...
The seat should be down because the lid should be down. Fucking disgusting if you keep your lid up while flushing.
I had a table once where it was three people that had a small start up that had just sold the company for some crazy amount of money. They came in, because we were the only place open in the area, and orders apps and a bottle of Dom Perignon. Then they ordered a second, and a third. Fridays, at the time, only carried 5 bottles of it at any given time.
So they were my last table and were just hanging out, and I kept chatting with them while I was doing closing stuff. They asked for the bill, I dropped it off, stepped in the back, came back and they were gone. I had a momentary panic that they maybe had run off, and then opened the bill. They left me a $500 tip.
My question is how they were they able to walk out after drinking a bottle of champagne each? lol. I would be crawling on the floor.
I had a table once where it was three people that had a small start up that had just sold the company for some crazy amount of money. They came in, because we were the only place open in the area, and orders apps and a bottle of Dom Perignon. Then they ordered a second, and a third. Fridays, at the time, only carried 5 bottles of it at any given time.
So they were my last table and were just hanging out, and I kept chatting with them while I was doing closing stuff. They asked for the bill, I dropped it off, stepped in the back, came back and they were gone. I had a momentary panic that they maybe had run off, and then opened the bill. They left me a $500 tip.
My question is how they were they able to walk out after drinking a bottle of champagne each? lol. I would be crawling on the floor.
Is drinking a bottle of champagne that different than drinking a bottle of wine? Because that happens all the time in my household.
My husband is more than a little tight with money, and it's a running joke with friends and family. However, he is always a generous tipper because he is not an asshole. I don't understand the men comment about forgetting to tip. Who does that? Waiting tables is hard work!
Also, bibliothecary, you are right that the after church crowd is the WORST! I used to dread Sunday afternoon shifts because people would come after church, linger at the table forever, ignore their children dumping food on the floor, and then leave either a really shitty tip or no tip and some religious propaganda. Maybe this is my UO, but Mormon tables were especially bad about that. I am certain that not all Mormons are bad tippers, but there was a definite pattern, and they always left a booklet behind about becoming Mormon, so it was easy to identify.
I grew up with a lot of Mormons and they weren't supposed to spend money on Sundays, including going out to eat. Maybe they thought going out to eat was excusable as long as no tips were thrown around? Or leaving a missionary trail made up for their transgression? Either way, not cool guys.
This is more of a silly confession, but we were out to brunch with people a few months ago, and it was very clear our server was stoned out of his gourd. We had lots of food and lots of mimosas, and tipped $24 on a $100 bill, but laid it out on the table as 4 one-dollar bills and a 20. I still sometimes wonder if he got it.
I grew up with a lot of Mormons and they weren't supposed to spend money on Sundays, including going out to eat. Maybe they thought going out to eat was excusable as long as no tips were thrown around? Or leaving a missionary trail made up for their transgression? Either way, not cool guys.
Gotcha - that at least helps me to understand! They were always so nice, and I couldn't figure out why there was no tip!
Or maybe they were just cheapskates - I am not trying to make excuses for them!
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
On the other side of the coin (pun totally intended) I had some fucking amazing tables come through my sections throughout the years. Once I was around $200 bucks short on rent, and on a Saturday made only like 90 bucks after tipping out (I had a 20 top & they blew). We were closing out and a young couple came in for coffee & dessert; no one wanted them, but I was desperate for money and could legit use the $5 tip. They ended up being delightful & turned my night around by just being a great table. By the time they left I was smiling. I went to clean up the table and they left me $120 cash on top of a 20% tip on the 15 credit card receipt.I collapsed to the floor & cried for like 20 minutes. I will never forget those two.
edit: spelling and clarity.
I waited on an old man a couple times a week for about 10 years. His wife passed away years ago and he was literally the last person alive in his family. He wasn't an awesome tipper but he was really sweet and he had some pretty amazing stories. When he got too old/sick to come in, me and a few other people from my job would stop by his house and drop off food and coffee for him. When he passed away, he put us all in his will. It was enough to pay for a year of college and I'll be forever grateful to him.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
On the other side of the coin (pun totally intended) I had some fucking amazing tables come through my sections throughout the years. Once I was around $200 bucks short on rent, and on a Saturday made only like 90 bucks after tipping out (I had a 20 top & they blew). We were closing out and a young couple came in for coffee & dessert; no one wanted them, but I was desperate for money and could legit use the $5 tip. They ended up being delightful & turned my night around by just being a great table. By the time they left I was smiling. I went to clean up the table and they left me $120 cash on top of a 20% tip on the 15 credit card receipt.I collapsed to the floor & cried for like 20 minutes. I will never forget those two.
edit: spelling and clarity.
I waited on an old man a couple times a week for about 10 years. His wife passed away years ago and he was literally the last person alive in his family. He wasn't an awesome tipper but he was really sweet and he had some pretty amazing stories. When he got too old/sick to come in, me and a few other people from my job would stop by his house and drop off food and coffee for him. When he passed away, he put us all in his will. It was enough to pay for a year of college and I'll be forever grateful to him.
This gave me all of the feels. Just a little kindness can go a long way. I think this lesson can go both ways. What a lovely story.
I waited on an old man a couple times a week for about 10 years. His wife passed away years ago and he was literally the last person alive in his family. He wasn't an awesome tipper but he was really sweet and he had some pretty amazing stories. When he got too old/sick to come in, me and a few other people from my job would stop by his house and drop off food and coffee for him. When he passed away, he put us all in his will. It was enough to pay for a year of college and I'll be forever grateful to him.
This gave me all of the feels. Just a little kindness can go a long way. I think this lesson can go both ways. What a lovely story.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
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