jabs, new cars are such a joke, I refuse to give anyone kudos for walking into dealership and signing their life away. Craigslist or cars.com for me, we also recently canceled our cable. It just dawned on me this month, we have barely turned the tv on in 6 weeks and we were paying $80+ a month, I am do disgusted that we did not do this sooner.
This was us. We haven't had cable in at least 4 years now and we haven't missed it once. We barely watched it. And cable is also a joke, "30 minute" shows are barely 20 minutes long if you take out all the ads. Ridiculous.
So haven't read any of the randoms yet today. My random is not so random. I went in for a routine visit with my MW this morning. We do most of the visit and she finishes up by checking baby's position. Almost every time I'm seen I have a different MW. So far I have been checked by three different ones...always the same thing: they seem confused about baby's position and then come to the conclusion that she is head down. Well this MW says she thinks baby is head up. She does a vaginal exam and can't feel the head so she sends me to get an ultrasound at the hospital.
MH comes to meet me. They confirm at the ultrasound that she is breech. Also that she is measuring really tiny; bottom 10%. I meet with the OB and he says he would consider her to have a growth restriction. We decide because of this an external version is out of the question and we scheduled a c-section for next Tuesday morning. We did an NST and she seems just fine. My head is completely spinning and I have bad several crying meltdowns. I was all prepared for a non medicated birth center birth and now I am getting major surgery and completely terrified! C-section mamas any reassurance would be appreciated...
we would love to ditch cable but unfortunately we need it for live sports.
Football and College BBall are the reason I can't cord-cut!!!
I'm wondering how H will deal without his football this fall...we cut the cord several months ago. There are some shows that I miss, but honestly for the most part I don't miss it.
So haven't read any of the randoms yet today. My random is not so random. I went in for a routine visit with my MW this morning. We do most of the visit and she finishes up by checking baby's position. Almost every time I'm seen I have a different MW. So far I have been checked by three different ones...always the same thing: they seem confused about baby's position and then come to the conclusion that she is head down. Well this MW says she thinks baby is head up. She does a vaginal exam and can't feel the head so she sends me to get an ultrasound at the hospital.
MH comes to meet me. They confirm at the ultrasound that she is breech. Also that she is measuring really tiny; bottom 10%. I meet with the OB and he says he would consider her to have a growth restriction. We decide because of this an external version is out of the question and we scheduled a c-section for next Tuesday morning. We did an NST and she seems just fine. My head is completely spinning and I have bad several crying meltdowns. I was all prepared for a non medicated birth center birth and now I am getting major surgery and completely terrified! C-section mamas any reassurance would be appreciated...
I'm so sorry to hear about this. I don't have any advice on the csection, but I'm glad that they're being proactive and making sure that you and baby are being taken care of.
I'm so fucking tired of watching people close to me making fucking stupid ass financial decisions and keeping my mouth shut about it.
A friend of mine doesn't have a job, says she isn't able to pay her bills on time and still posts pictures of her nights out at the casino and gets her hair done on a regular basis. She gave my friend and I a sob story about her ex not getting child support to her and not having enough money to buy diapers. So my friend offers to buy her a box of diapers. A few days later the broke friend posts a rant about how her Dish effed up and she lost all her DVR'd shows. Soooo, she can't pay her bills or afford diapers, but she can pay for fucking Dish TV?
My sister just got a new vehicle that I know she can't afford. Since I don't have anything nice to say about it and it's not really my business I'm keeping my mouth shut. I refuse to tell her how nice it is and all that bullshit. I'm tired of hearing her tell me they can't come to visit because they don't have the money then seeing pictures of her mani/pedis on FB the next day.
The worst part in both situations is that it's the children that suffer. I understand wanting nice things, but when your kids are the ones missing out on the things they need/want maybe you should rethink your fucking decisions.
ETA: For the record we've been there. I desperately wanted to stay home with DS. A few months in and we were hurting, but we figured our shit out. We canceled our cable and any other unnecessary shit we had, I started babysitting and we read a Dave Ramsey book. We started budgeting and made a plan. Our bills got paid, our child was taken care of and then and only then did we do something for ourselves or splurge.
If it makes you feel any better, you might not really know what's happening behind the scenes for their finances. It might not be as bad as they're claiming, or something... maybe?
Still it's annoying as hell when finances are used as an excuse for one thing and then you watch someone spend like crazy. My brothers went through a phase like this, and I remember being so embarrassed when they'd behave certain ways with family because they just didn't get that it's rude to borrow money from someone (or to claim you can't participate in things) and then show of your spending in other ways. Ugh one Christmas, my brother told me that because he didn't have much money, that we should just get his kids gifts, nothing for him and he wouldn't get us anything. Then he bought a brand new bedroom set on credit, and excitedly told us all about the deal he got and bragged about how nice it was. I don't actually care all that much about getting gifts, but seriously?
Post by flippinchica on Jul 29, 2015 13:16:56 GMT -5
Hugs zonagirl, No advice here since I'm a FTM but I'm sorry you have to deal with the abrupt change of plan. That is a lot to take in and allow yourself the space to be upset.
zonagirl, not a c-section mama, but as someone who had wanted a birth center birth for my first and did not get one: I am so sorry things are not going the way you'd hoped. Fear and disappointment are totally appropriate, natural reactions. And it takes a very strong person to put those feelings aside and make the safe choice for your child. I hope you can take some comfort in the fact that you're doing what you have to do for your baby.
Good luck with your upcoming birth. Pretty soon you'll be holding your sweet baby in your arms.
Post by runningmommy519 on Jul 29, 2015 13:20:27 GMT -5
kaeguri he was a little more alert at the 530 and 830 feedings then back to being sleepy at the 1130. Unfortunately being more alert did not make him eat anymore than normal.
So.effing.tired. DD and I are going to visit my mom this weekend and H is going to treat the house and yard for fleas. For some reason they are ungodly this year and we haven't ever had a problem with them previously. My dog is apparently allergic to flea bites, she is covered in hive looking bumps. I told him it had to be done this weekend because I am getting way to close to my due date to wait any longer.
ICE CREAM DAY AT WORK! I have no idea why but I'm not questioning it. They literally pushed around a little cart and had ice cream truck music playing on it which was awesome. They tried to give me an extra one for the baby, but I declined bc self control.
So haven't read any of the randoms yet today. My random is not so random. I went in for a routine visit with my MW this morning. We do most of the visit and she finishes up by checking baby's position. Almost every time I'm seen I have a different MW. So far I have been checked by three different ones...always the same thing: they seem confused about baby's position and then come to the conclusion that she is head down. Well this MW says she thinks baby is head up. She does a vaginal exam and can't feel the head so she sends me to get an ultrasound at the hospital.
MH comes to meet me. They confirm at the ultrasound that she is breech. Also that she is measuring really tiny; bottom 10%. I meet with the OB and he says he would consider her to have a growth restriction. We decide because of this an external version is out of the question and we scheduled a c-section for next Tuesday morning. We did an NST and she seems just fine. My head is completely spinning and I have bad several crying meltdowns. I was all prepared for a non medicated birth center birth and now I am getting major surgery and completely terrified! C-section mamas any reassurance would be appreciated...
Our c-sections are scheduled for the same day! I'll be thinking of you.
I'm pretty nervous too, it's normal. I can tell you that it's probably not going to be nearly as bad as your making it seem in your head. (This is all based on my one and only experience, obviously it can be different for you.) But the spinal block was no big deal, they numbed the area first and I didn't feel anything after that. I quickly became completely numb from the waist down. I did feel like I was having some trouble breathing, so I calmly told the anesthesiologist and he tilted the bed up for a few minutes and I felt fine after that. I never felt any pain at all or really any "tugging" sensations that some women talk about. I felt nothing. And it happened so fast. I swear it was just a few minutes from the Dr. coming til I heard baby cry. Compared to 9 months of pregnancy and a lifetime of raising a kid, this is just the blink of an eye and it's all over. Also, I never really felt any pain from my incision even after the spinal wore off, just some cramping. In fact my scar is still numb to this day.
Things I would say to be prepared for... as I already mentioned the spinal can make you feel like you can't breath (I'm assuming the medicine traveled too far up and that's why they tilted me and it got better, but I really don't know.)
I was shaking uncontrollably for a really long time. Everyone kept complaining about how hot the OR was, I felt like I was freezing to death. They said it's your body responding the the medicine kind of like flight or fight mode.
You might feel really itchy too.
Hopefully that helps even just a little.
ETA: I'm so sorry you're not getting the birth you had imagined for yourself.
Ugh. I went for a haircut today. I go about twice a year, so it is a big deal for me. The salon in town I like most is now closed and the girl I've used at the 2nd best place is out on maternity, so I took a chance with someone new. She gave me a bad haircut. I have long, thick hair and told her I just wanted it cleaned up and lightened up and to get the layers looking good again. Well, she basically just trimmed the ends and did one layer. The bottom layer looks light/thin and the shorter layer is thick and heavy and basically just looks like it was done straight across. There is no angling, no face framing, nothing flattering going on. So, here's my question: do I go back to that salon and try to get it fixed or do I just find somewhere else? It was $40, so not crazy expensive, but not super cheap (to me) either. I don't know that this girl has the skills to fix it herself, and I don't want to risk her messing it up more. How does this work?
So haven't read any of the randoms yet today. My random is not so random. I went in for a routine visit with my MW this morning. We do most of the visit and she finishes up by checking baby's position. Almost every time I'm seen I have a different MW. So far I have been checked by three different ones...always the same thing: they seem confused about baby's position and then come to the conclusion that she is head down. Well this MW says she thinks baby is head up. She does a vaginal exam and can't feel the head so she sends me to get an ultrasound at the hospital.
MH comes to meet me. They confirm at the ultrasound that she is breech. Also that she is measuring really tiny; bottom 10%. I meet with the OB and he says he would consider her to have a growth restriction. We decide because of this an external version is out of the question and we scheduled a c-section for next Tuesday morning. We did an NST and she seems just fine. My head is completely spinning and I have bad several crying meltdowns. I was all prepared for a non medicated birth center birth and now I am getting major surgery and completely terrified! C-section mamas any reassurance would be appreciated...
Whoa, that is a lot to hear in one appointment. Being emotional is completely understandable!!! I think any of us would be. I'm sorry you won't be able to have the birth you planned, but so happy to hear that your baby girl is doing okay and passed the NST.
I had an emergency C section last time and am planning a repeat one this time. First and foremost: you can do it! Yes, it's major surgery, so there's more recovery involved. But honestly, my recovery really wasn't that bad and I wasn't using anything but Tylenol for pain by the time I was discharged from the hospital. My incision healed without a problem and the surgery didn't affect bonding or breast feeding (the issues I had were unrelated). I know we recently had a thread about C sections for other breech mamas, but the BTDT/currently recovering from a C section moms are always happy to answer any questions or just commiserate.
Post by shortstack on Jul 29, 2015 13:34:21 GMT -5
amberlie, Sending lots of hugs - anxiety and depression are no fun. The medication is always helpful but I agree with PP that maybe a therapist can help you find effective coping mechanisms until you can get back on the medication.
ampaints, So sorry to hear about your FIL. Sending you guys lots of positive T&Ps.
zonagirl - Sending you lots of hugs. It's hard when the way you were hoping the whole birth process to go doesn't go that way. I have been going through something similar when I heard I may have to be induced due to my BP (and knowing that it increases the chances of a c-section which I REALLY DNW) instead of going into labor naturally.
Saw the OB today. He revised my status as mild gestational hypertension which means that I still have to take it easy but at least I can go out for a brief walk if I want (woo-hoo!). Also 1.5 cm dilated, 20% effaced, and baby is in -1 station so he's thinking I may go into labor naturally before they have to induce me (Woo-hoo). I know I could very well stay this way for weeks and not go into active labor but at least if I have to be induced, it's easier if you're already dilated. Now for all the pineapple, a walk, and to look up labor cake recipes.
Thanks guys for the support jabs thanks so much for sharing your experience. I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday too!
I am just happy to know that from the results of the NST that she is ok in there. Her size really worried me and when the OB said growth restriction I started to get very concerned. Then he made some dumb comment about how it is a good thing because we want our girls to be cute and petite (um what in the actual fuck?!) I just hope he is a competent surgeon because he seems like a real ass.
Post by runningmommy519 on Jul 29, 2015 13:37:01 GMT -5
zonagirl I am so sorry you are going through this. How far along are you? What are they estimating lo's birthweight? With DS1 I was on your shoes. I wanted a med free vaginal birth and got a csection. The hardest part for me was having to be alone while they did the spinal. Your lower half will numb pretty fast. Once they start you'll feel some pulling and tugging. It won't hurt and it won't even be uncomfortable... It'll just feel weird.
Your legs will take a few hours to go back to normal. You'll be sore so stay on top of the pain meds and don't push yourself. Many people can hold their baby's right away and it doesn't hurt the breastfeeding relationship (at least in both my pregnancies it didn't)
Depending on baby's size and gestational age you might be looking at a hospital stay but hopefully not.
One thing my dr told me about the growth restriction is that while baby stops growing it doesn't stop baby from developing and often times developing picks up because your body knows something isn't right. I kind of believe this now as I compare Ethan and Isaac's hospital stay experiences.
Lastly, you are in the period where you are processing everything. When it comes time for the surgery you'll find your strength and you'll get through it.
ETA got the shakes with both it was much worse with ds1 and got itchy with my first but not my second. I was the opposite of jabs and got really hot.
We haven't had cable for seven years or so, but I've been thinking about getting Sling TV for DH's birthday in September because of the ESPN offerings. It's $20/month (and we already have a Roku), so I was thinking of buying it for five months through the entire college football season - DH is a huge fan, and as it is, we have to go to my parents' house to watch a lot of the games. Bonus is, we'd get HGTV, Disney and the news channels. Anyone have this? Think it's worth it? Planning ahead.
ampaints I'm so sorry about your FIL. That's devastating news to get, especially with everything else that's going on right now. I love the updates about Miles, though. His HDBD pic is adorable.
incir your dream is too funny. I've always imagined myself as a lemon with googly eyes. And I totally agree with PPs, that friend is crazy. The worst part of it is, she doesn't seem to recognize her own crazy. I'm sorry she's being so insensitive and hypocritical.
General question for everyone: thoughts on starting a PPD/anxiety check-in? I know a lot of us have fears and/or experiences with PPD and/or pre-existing or past depression/anxiety and it might be helpful as a source of support and knowledge. (I screened as high risk for PPD at the hospital, although I'm not totally sure yet if I have it.) The mental wellness forum on TCF appears to be a bit slow these days. I'll start one, if there's interest in this sort of thread.
AFM, Isaac is eight days old today. He's eating well and sleeping well (although he sleeps most of the day and eats most of the night). Yesterday, while he was sleeping, I clocked in five hours of work from home. I feel guilty not holding him every hour of the day, but there were so many little things left undone when he came unexpectedly early. TBH, I think the work helps a bit with the lingering anxiety. I keep going though the events leading up to his birth over and over in my head. My OB said the abruption site was inflamed, indicating that it'd been that way for a while - so why didn't I notice it? what symptoms did I miss? did I let the kids jump on my belly too hard? but, FFS everything turned out fine. Why do I even care? And, even though I was leaning heavily towards not having anymore children (although I know DH wants more), I'm now obsessed with the fact that there's a 20% chance of this happening again, where everything possibly doesn't turn out fine. So, Isaac is our last baby now. I don't want to roll those dice. There's a little relief in knowing that our family is complete and a little bit of sadness. (Sorry for the dear diary here.)
Still have more work to do, Isaac is sleeping peacefully in a Moses basket in my office. I hate how fast babies grow. Anyone else with an outside baby and a sib notice the sib just looks SOO BIG now? Gosh, look at me, getting all sappy again.
ETA goes without saying hiimjamie your story/post made me tear up.
esgrunner, sorry no advise, just sympathies as I also have the thick hair that screams bad haircut unless it is handled properly. I too have settled for the new girl a couple of times. The only thing I have learned is if the person you trust isn't available, just. Don't. Perhaps you could call and ask to speak with manager/ owner let them know about your experience. I am sure they want repeat customers leaving happy.
Thanks guys for the support jabs thanks so much for sharing your experience. I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday too!
I am just happy to know that from the results of the NST that she is ok in there. Her size really worried me and when the OB said growth restriction I started to get very concerned. Then he made some dumb comment about how it is a good thing because we want our girls to be cute and petite (um what in the actual fuck?!) I just hope he is a competent surgeon because he seems like a real ass.
Wait, what? ASSHAT.
And I probably would have said that to his face if he said that to me right after I found out about a possible growth restriction, breech position, and scheduled c section all in one morning.
ASSHAT.
I don't know what the policy is with your office, but hopefully you can do your follow up care with the MWs instead of him. Because that guy clearly has no clue how to be reassuring/have any bedside manner whatsoever.
Post by runningmommy519 on Jul 29, 2015 13:45:59 GMT -5
@telos I'm pretty sure we are done now too. I was on the fence before but 2 births with 2 hospitals stays I can't do that again. I'm sorry you are having a rough time. I can relate. It's hard not to play the what if game or how could I have prevented game. For both of us I'm sure there is nothing we could have done differently. Oh and DS1 looks huge now. Lol
incir Ugh. I'd be done with her. Not a friend worth keeping. We didn't tell anyone (except my parents and BFF) until 13 weeks and didn't "announce" til almost 20 weeks. I had a missed miscarriage before and was terrified. People don't get it until they're in that situation.
shayr I'd probably pick the hair out and keep eating them... I'm disgusting.
zonagirl I'm sorry for the unsettling news. I can understand the disappointment that you won't be having the birth experience you were hoping for; However, that's great that the midwife was thorough. Your c-section should go smoothly and hopefully you heal quickly and baby starts bulking up.
hiimjamie Aww that made me all misty eyed. So happy for you guys. Was your wife conceiving an option you ever considered?
Thanks guys for the support jabs thanks so much for sharing your experience. I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday too!
I am just happy to know that from the results of the NST that she is ok in there. Her size really worried me and when the OB said growth restriction I started to get very concerned. Then he made some dumb comment about how it is a good thing because we want our girls to be cute and petite (um what in the actual fuck?!) I just hope he is a competent surgeon because he seems like a real ass.
Wait, what? ASSHAT.
And I probably would have said that to his face if he said that to me right after I found out about a possible growth restriction, breech position, and scheduled c section all in one morning.
ASSHAT.
I don't know what the policy is with your office, but hopefully you can do your follow up care with the MWs instead of him. Because that guy clearly has no clue how to be reassuring/have any bedside manner whatsoever.
Um OMG I totally missed that, what a weird thing to say
Post by shortstack on Jul 29, 2015 13:49:47 GMT -5
telos, There is nothing you could have done regarding the abruption. You did everything you could to protect your baby - you didn't ho-hum to the hospital, you dragged your butt there as fast as traffic allowed once you had the bleeding. The abruption was out of your control. Sending you lots of internet hugs.
I'm in for PPD/PPA check (when I actually have this baby) because those are real worries of mine with a history of depression and with my anxiety kicking into high gear this pregnancy.
esgrunner I'd go back and speak to the manager, then try to get a new haircut with a different stylist. They generally do want people to leave happy. It's worth a shot.
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