I am struggling, with shallow latches and cracked nip ans now mastitis. A family friend took DD out school shopping, because Mom of the year didn't get that shit done in time. This friend has a passive aggressive streak she asked us how we were feeling and when HD said exhausted she told him she had no sympathy, that she had two under two and no help from anyone. ( she was 20 and this was 40+ years ago, we are 42& 52)
It felt like she was swatting the nest the whole time she was here, but she brought dinner and was giving DD a well deserved break from us and the baby, so we just brush off her unkind looks and words. So DD tells me when she gets home that they discussed my struggles and the fruend said that some people just aren't meant to breastfeed! I was devastated by this for a better part of the day, not just because it's a spirit breaking thing to hear, but she may have instilled some self doubting bullshit into DD's head. So all afternoon, I kept repeating the phrase into ridiculousness, "some people aren't ment to...." be a millionaire, or be happy, or play the violin. Finally, DD said I guess I shouldn't have told you she said that-ya think?
When pouring milk into the bags from the bottle i used the breast shield from the pump as a funnel. No spills ever! Same with from the bag into a bottle for feeding.
I don't know what to do about this cracked nipple anymore. It was healing perfectly, I had almost no pain at latching, and my boob had stopped hurting. Now all of a sudden last night it was excruciating again and sure enough the crack was worse than ever this morning. His latch is fine, no tongue tie, very stretchy lip tie that doesn't effect anything. Pumping isn't working on that side as well. He finally let me use the nipple shield today but damn. Does my nipple just hate me?
I am struggling, with shallow latches and cracked nip ans now mastitis. A family friend took DD out school shopping, because Mom of the year didn't get that shit done in time. This friend has a passive aggressive streak she asked us how we were feeling and when HD said exhausted she told him she had no sympathy, that she had two under two and no help from anyone. ( she was 20 and this was 40+ years ago, we are 42& 52)
It felt like she was swatting the nest the whole time she was here, but she brought dinner and was giving DD a well deserved break from us and the baby, so we just brush off her unkind looks and words. So DD tells me when she gets home that they discussed my struggles and the fruend said that some people just aren't meant to breastfeed! I was devastated by this for a better part of the day, not just because it's a spirit breaking thing to hear, but she may have instilled some self doubting bullshit into DD's head. So all afternoon, I kept repeating the phrase into ridiculousness, "some people aren't ment to...." be a millionaire, or be happy, or play the violin. Finally, DD said I guess I shouldn't have told you she said that-ya think?
Your friend is an asshole. She shouldn't have said those things to your daughter or to you. Some people just feel the need to martyr themselves and belittle others. You are doing great. Don't doubt yourself. Are you working with an LÇ? Does LO have enough wet diapers and is gaining weight?
Cannot side nurse in the middle of the night. My letdown chokes him. I have to sit up, nurse him in the football hold, change him, then finish up side nursing. Stupid enthusiastic boobs.
Ugh this is me too. If I'm not careful, she spends the next hour sputtering, puking and grunting - not sleeping.
I think side nursing is out for us. He keeps pulling off and I think he's only getting foremilk, which screws up his intestines and makes him fussy.
We got her lip and tongue tie fixed. I'm still having issues getting her to get a deep latch. I might meet with our LC again. I also never know if she's getting enough milk from me. I know my supply has been low so I'm trying everything to get it up. I stopped supplementing her. She dosent seem fussy and sleeps about 2 1/2 hrs at night but during the day she seems to want to feed every 1 1/2 hrs. They say to pump to increase supply, but when am I suppose to do that when she's attached to me for 45 mins and wants to eat again 45 mins later? I can't help but feel like I'm failing at this. For something so natural this isn't coming easily.
We got her lip and tongue tie fixed. I'm still having issues getting her to get a deep latch. I might meet with our LC again. I also never know if she's getting enough milk from me. I know my supply has been low so I'm trying everything to get it up. I stopped supplementing her. She dosent seem fussy and sleeps about 2 1/2 hrs at night but during the day she seems to want to feed every 1 1/2 hrs. They say to pump to increase supply, but when am I suppose to do that when she's attached to me for 45 mins and wants to eat again 45 mins later? I can't help but feel like I'm failing at this. For something so natural this isn't coming easily.
Are you feeding from both sides during a feeding?
You are not failing. Breastfeeding is hard. Crazy hard. It's a lot to figure out and it's all complicated. But you can do this. You can.
Cannot side nurse in the middle of the night. My letdown chokes him. I have to sit up, nurse him in the football hold, change him, then finish up side nursing. Stupid enthusiastic boobs.
My boobs are flood gates too. Poor baby chokes quite a bit. But feedings are quick!
We got her lip and tongue tie fixed. I'm still having issues getting her to get a deep latch. I might meet with our LC again. I also never know if she's getting enough milk from me. I know my supply has been low so I'm trying everything to get it up. I stopped supplementing her. She dosent seem fussy and sleeps about 2 1/2 hrs at night but during the day she seems to want to feed every 1 1/2 hrs. They say to pump to increase supply, but when am I suppose to do that when she's attached to me for 45 mins and wants to eat again 45 mins later? I can't help but feel like I'm failing at this. For something so natural this isn't coming easily.
Are you feeding from both sides during a feeding?
You are not failing. Breastfeeding is hard. Crazy hard. It's a lot to figure out and it's all complicated. But you can do this. You can.
+1 to this. Every mom I have talked to says breastfeeding is one of the hardest things they have done. But no one I know regrets doing it for as long as they could.
We got her lip and tongue tie fixed. I'm still having issues getting her to get a deep latch. I might meet with our LC again. I also never know if she's getting enough milk from me. I know my supply has been low so I'm trying everything to get it up. I stopped supplementing her. She dosent seem fussy and sleeps about 2 1/2 hrs at night but during the day she seems to want to feed every 1 1/2 hrs. They say to pump to increase supply, but when am I suppose to do that when she's attached to me for 45 mins and wants to eat again 45 mins later? I can't help but feel like I'm failing at this. For something so natural this isn't coming easily.
Are you feeding from both sides during a feeding?
You are not failing. Breastfeeding is hard. Crazy hard. It's a lot to figure out and it's all complicated. But you can do this. You can.
I started out feeding both sides once she unlatched from the first side but I changed to doing one side at a time after reading about foremilk and hindmilk. Thanks for the encouraging words just one of those days!
GDI, I think I have mastitis. Sore breast tissue (painful), redness, decreased milk from that side when pumping, and fever of 101.4.
Anyone else dealt with this? I'm calling the doctor at 8 when I'm hoping they're open, though I don't actually know if they're open Saturdays.
really didn't want to have to deal with this on top of super painful nursing. Pity party over here.
Did you get help? I've had mastitis about six times between the three poopers (not really something I want an award for - it sucks just as much every time). My routine is as follows: Feel a sore spot, redness, low grade fever? Light compressions, offer the breast first, change nursing positions, warm compress, hot showers, no stomach sleeping. Systemic symptoms (chills, body aches, run down, fever of 102+)? Call doctor right away for antibiotics. If its your first time, they might want you to go in. You could go to urgent care. If you're on the loyalty plan, they'll just prescribe the antibiotics. Systemic symptoms usually go away in 24 hours - plug can take about three days. Continue heat therapy and compressions.
Hope you've gotten help! The antibiotics work fast.
skinandbones,yes, we saw lc friday, I was in so much pain, I had to do something, she called my OB office and got me in that aftenoon. Thankfully or I might be dealing with abscess by now if it had gone untreated. Yes he is really helping clear the infection! Bring on the cluster feeding! @piedpiper07, I think you are correct and the men didn't really help out as much as they do today so more bitterness. Also I don't think she likes my dh, because he encouraged me to not take shit from her. I used to just take her shit because she watche'd do for free when she was toddler.
skinandbones,yes, we saw lc friday, I was in so much pain, I had to do something, she called my OB office and got me in that aftenoon. Thankfully or I might be dealing with abscess by now if it had gone untreated. Yes he is really helping clear the infection! Bring on the cluster feeding! @piedpiper07, I think you are correct and the men didn't really help out as much as they do today so more bitterness. Also I don't think she likes my dh, because he encouraged me to not take shit from her. I used to just take her shit because she watche'd do for free when she was toddler.
See! You are meant for breastfeeding! Tell your friend to pound sand in a left sided rat hole.
Any wisdom on what to do about slow flow/slow let-down? I think I have both going on. I plan to see a LC again on Tuesday, just curious what y'all think. I've been trying breast compressions and massage, which seem to help tremendously.
Any wisdom on what to do about slow flow/slow let-down? I think I have both going on. I plan to see a LC again on Tuesday, just curious what y'all think. I've been trying breast compressions and massage, which seem to help tremendously.
Jake is doing really really well. I'm shocked seeing as how we're both first timers. I'm still waiting for my milk to come in so we'll see what happens then.
Saw LC at Nelsons 2 week checkup and she was very encouraging, hope to get nips healed soon so I don't have to wear the shells, My limited supply of bras barely fits as it is without the armor. She gave me some non-stick pads for night time, I made the mistake of letting the scabs dry last night ouch, now I have a better idea of how to get off the shield I don't hate it do much.
Quick Q- so I know breStffeeding isn't supported to hurt .. How about the initial latch ? She really chomps down and pain lasts 30-69 seconds (awful) then subsides. Normal ? Seeing LC tomorrow.
Quick Q- so I know breStffeeding isn't supported to hurt .. How about the initial latch ? She really chomps down and pain lasts 30-69 seconds (awful) then subsides. Normal ? Seeing LC tomorrow.
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