UPDATE - Help Me Out, Ladies.
Jan 25, 2015 15:13:50 GMT -5
Post by luckynumbers on Jan 25, 2015 15:13:50 GMT -5
This might get long, so bear with me. So, my sister is due to have a little boy in March. This is her second child, first with her current husband. Her daughter is 8. I share the sentiment that you only get one shower and having another for a second kid is gift-grabby and gauche, but around here it is culturally acceptable and it is happening in this case. C'est la vie.
I told my sister that if her husband's family or a friend did not offer to host a shower in their homes, that we could have it at mine. She didn't seem keen on the idea, and just last week they moved into a new place, and she has decided that she is going to host the shower at her house. It's now going to be a combo baby shower and housewarming. Strike #2.
She sent out a mass text (to whom, I'm not sure, but I was included), to announce the date they're having the shower/housewarming. Strike #3. In an effort to be a supportive and caring sister, I let her know that if she needed help, I'd be happy to oblige. She said she'd love my "expertise" in party planning (no expert here, I swear), and so I created a shared Pinterest board so I could get an idea about what she might like.
UGH! So far, judging from what she's posted on the board, it appears she wants to do a diaper raffle (strike #4), tell people to bring books instead of cards (strike #5), and require people to address their own thank-you notes (strike #6). I want to help, but I have no interest in being part of such a tacky venture! How would you go about dealing with this?
To give some context as to why I haven't said anything up to this point, my sister and I are complete opposites with a difficult relationship, and any time that anyone thinks about suggesting something to her in a polite way, she promptly goes into "U don't know my lyfe!" mode. I am trying to avoid drama, so I am thinking I'm likely going to have to just keep my mouth shut if I want to keep the peace, but dear Lord, she is making it hard. Don't even get me started on her registries.
WWYD?
I told my sister that if her husband's family or a friend did not offer to host a shower in their homes, that we could have it at mine. She didn't seem keen on the idea, and just last week they moved into a new place, and she has decided that she is going to host the shower at her house. It's now going to be a combo baby shower and housewarming. Strike #2.
She sent out a mass text (to whom, I'm not sure, but I was included), to announce the date they're having the shower/housewarming. Strike #3. In an effort to be a supportive and caring sister, I let her know that if she needed help, I'd be happy to oblige. She said she'd love my "expertise" in party planning (no expert here, I swear), and so I created a shared Pinterest board so I could get an idea about what she might like.
UGH! So far, judging from what she's posted on the board, it appears she wants to do a diaper raffle (strike #4), tell people to bring books instead of cards (strike #5), and require people to address their own thank-you notes (strike #6). I want to help, but I have no interest in being part of such a tacky venture! How would you go about dealing with this?
To give some context as to why I haven't said anything up to this point, my sister and I are complete opposites with a difficult relationship, and any time that anyone thinks about suggesting something to her in a polite way, she promptly goes into "U don't know my lyfe!" mode. I am trying to avoid drama, so I am thinking I'm likely going to have to just keep my mouth shut if I want to keep the peace, but dear Lord, she is making it hard. Don't even get me started on her registries.
WWYD?