Bi-weekly Vodka and Hugs 8/3

[sarcaztic10]

Hi everyone!!! 

I will be totally swamped at work for the entire month so I thought I would start this now and let you know that the next check-in may not be on time! 

Let us know how you are doing! 

And of course lots of vodka and hugs for everyone! 

[sarcaztic10]

A very quick update on me: Surgery went well, they did remove the polyp but H sucks at remembering anything the RE told him in their brief meeting after my surgery. I have a consultation with my RE set for the 11th to discuss everything and next steps. We will most likely be looking at IUI #3 being later this month.

In other news, work is still shitty. I found out today that my counterpart in Houston will be out for the entire month. So, I get no help with anything at all and I get to do it all by myself. I also got in today after my 3 days off to find that no one had done anything. Neither of my supervisors attempted to pick up the slack but I guess that is to be expected... So, today I played catch up with my emails (well over 150 emails in 3 days) and hopefully tomorrow I can be current on my work again.

[rubysi]

sarcaztic10, thanks for the check in. If you ever need help with the check in let me know. I am glad the surgery went well. I wish work didn't suck.

I am hanging in there. I bad to talk to my immediate supervisor about my mc last week because he was being an ass about my mood. He was surprisingly sympathetic he and his wife had experienced loss. It didn't stop him from asking where I wanted to be. I told him that I am not happy with my current schedule because I don't get to see my dh enough but I am not really in a state to decide my next position. I am currently leaning towards stepping down and going back into a overnight freight position. At least dh and I would be on the same schedule.

[cavewmn]

sarcaztic10, My DH is the same way. I know I can forget a few things but he seems to forget everything. lol
It really sucks when work doesn't help you out. I hope this month flies by for you.

rubysi, This is one of the main reasons I haven't gone back to work. I would never be on a set schedule and so I hardly ever got to see DH. I hope you are able to come to a decision soon and that it takes a lot of the stress and unhappiness away.

heartbot, I am glad he answered all your questions.


FF took my crosshairs because I had fertile mucus earlier. So overall I am annoyed because this means it also push AF out another week. Now I am trying to hold my bladder and see if I can turn an OPK sometime today or tomorrow. But if I do O this late then at least I know the pain I have been having is most likely my tube moving around.

Otherwise we are just waiting for DH to hear about his referral. I might have him call tomorrow since we haven't heard anything yet. Also I will probably do research on his patch and see how long it takes for full effect. He is definitely more of a tease now but not much action going on.

I'm also debating if I should try to make a move on him. It could either go over great or it could be a total failure and have him feel bad which will make things worse for a while.......

NTTCALR: I am slowly getting into routine of everything. lol For most this doesn't mean much but it actually is a lot for me.
Going to start selling some things on Ebay, hopefully I will get things posted for sale this weekend.
Starting to think about Christmas crafts again. I need to find my idea list and get my butt going on it.
Also I need to explain to DH to get me to take my pill in the morning even if I don't get up while he is here. He seems to think that when I take it while he is here I should get up right then and there!

[cavewmn]

renegadewhit, I hope you have a blast on all your trips!!!!

[sarcaztic10]

rubysi I know how hard it is to work hours that don't allow you and YH any time together. I used to work days and H used to work overnights and we would see each other for maybe 15 minutes a day. It was so hard. I hope that you can work something out so that you and YH have time together and so that you can be happier.

heartbot FX that the testing goes well. (((hugs))) I know it is hard to keep hope and be optimistic. I have no words of wisdom on that just (((Hugs))) it is something I struggle with very often.

renegadewhit have fun on all of your trips!!!

cavewmn your already thinking about Christmas stuff? you are way more on top of things than I am! FX you hear about YH's referral soon!

[lizblue]

sarcaztic10, thanks for the check in! I'm glad that your surgery went well and sorry that work is shitty. I feel like the best workers get penalized for being so damned good.

rubysi, I'm glad you are hanging in. Would stepping down be a relief in some ways? Anything you could do to make life easier sounds good to me. I'm sorry things are bad right now. I really hope they turn around in some ways soon. ((hugs))

heartbot, I'm sorry you are losing hope. I know the feeling well and it sucks. Someone once told me they will hang on to hope for me if I can't, so I will say that to you. Not in an "everything's ok" kind of way though. Just that I'll hold onto some hope for you. xo

renegadewhit, congrats on your continued weight loss - it's such an accomplishment, especially through all of the plateaus. Have so much fun on your trips!

cavewmn, sorry FF is being a dick. What is the patch your H is on? We are no longer TTC but I'm curious if it's something my H should inquire about.

--

AFM, I'm struggling a bit. I realized that I had my first BFP the day after my birthday in 2013 (7/31) and spent the whole month of August pregnant. I have lots of bittersweet memories of this time. I was pregnant at my SIL's wedding so now her anniversary reminds me of that. H plays in a kickball tournament every year in August - so that is a reminder. I'm just sad. I'm excited about adoption surely, but I'm sad for what didn't play out.

**baby shower mentioned below - skip if you don't want to hear it**


My mother and sisters are throwing me an adoption shower in September. In some ways I'm excited. I've been to so so many of them and it will be nice to get all of the stuff I know I will need. I'm trying to allow myself to get excited and happy, but some days it's hard.

**done**

Thanks for listening - that turned out to be long!

xo ladies.

[cavewmn]

It takes me awhile to get motivated. lol I know I have to start early!

[cavewmn]

lizblue, He is on testosterone patches. His levels are either low end of the scale or not even on the scale low. :/
So far it seems to help him feel more rested. I guess only time will tell about the rest.
I'm sorry you are having a tough month. *hugs* I am sure once September is closer you will get more excited about the shower. On your adoption page are you able to see how many people have looked at it?

[rubysi]

heartbot, oh so many hugs for you. I hope your dr is right.

renegadewhit, hang in there with the weight loss. Slowing down and still going down is still fantastic. Your trips sound like fun.

cavewmn, just 143 days till Christmas. Time to get crafting. I made my Christmas jams this last weekend.

lizblue, so many hugs. I hope that you can get more joy from your future than the sadness of the past, I know we all struggle with this.

[cavewmn]

rubysi, Only 20 weekends until Christmas! lol ugh... I really should get crafting! I would love to not be rushing to finish things once December hits.

[rslh10]

sarcaztic10 Sorry your H didn't remember everything he was supposed to! Men. What are we gonna do about them...
I will be stalking for an IUI update!! It makes me so excited for you

rubysi I'm sorry your boss was kind of pressuring you for an answer. I hope you're able to come up with a solution where you and dh can see each other more. Sending you so many hugs

heartbot I'm glad your RE is optimistic. I hope all of your blood work comes back normal and you're able to get a plan in place!

renegadewhit and then after all of that traveling you're coming to ohio to visit me, you forgot to mention that....

cavewmn I hope this patch does the trick for your DH! Come on sexy time! Also, 20 weekends till xmas?! omg. That kind of freaked me out, not gonna lie!!!

lizblue I'm so sorry you're feeling sad. I have a friend with a birthday on one of my EDDS. I know forever I will be thinking of that each birthday that passes. I hope you're able to allow yourself to enjoy the adoption shower! I'm so excited for you and keep stalking for updates on how things are going!

[sarcaztic10]

lizblue sending you lots of (((Hugs))) it is so hard to not think of everything that happened and be sad. I am hoping that you are able to get super excited about your future and that you enjoy your adoption shower!

rslh10 Hi!

[cavewmn]

rslh10, lol Yeah it is crazy when you put it differently how much it can freak you out. I just freaked my husband out the same way. Of course it isn't like he does the crafting.

[elliecat17]

Nothing much to share here. I am overwhelmed at work, and it's been very draining because I have a new student and he's only 2.5 months old. It's nice to snuggle with him, but it can be very emotionally draining at times. I also did a 9 day novena to the Infant of Prague. Hopefully it works! lol

[o2girl]

Aug 3, 2015 15:17:35 GMT -5 sarcaztic10 said:

A very quick update on me: Surgery went well, they did remove the polyp but H sucks at remembering anything the RE told him in their brief meeting after my surgery. I have a consultation with my RE set for the 11th to discuss everything and next steps. We will most likely be looking at IUI #3 being later this month.

In other news, work is still shitty. I found out today that my counterpart in Houston will be out for the entire month. So, I get no help with anything at all and I get to do it all by myself. I also got in today after my 3 days off to find that no one had done anything. Neither of my supervisors attempted to pick up the slack but I guess that is to be expected... So, today I played catch up with my emails (well over 150 emails in 3 days) and hopefully tomorrow I can be current on my work again.

So glad your surgery went well! So very sorry for the no help supervisors

[o2girl]

Aug 3, 2015 16:43:32 GMT -5 rubysi said:

sarcaztic10, thanks for the check in. If you ever need help with the check in let me know. I am glad the surgery went well. I wish work didn't suck.

I am hanging in there. I bad to talk to my immediate supervisor about my mc last week because he was being an ass about my mood. He was surprisingly sympathetic he and his wife had experienced loss. It didn't stop him from asking where I wanted to be. I told him that I am not happy with my current schedule because I don't get to see my dh enough but I am not really in a state to decide my next position. I am currently leaning towards stepping down and going back into a overnight freight position. At least dh and I would be on the same schedule.

just so much love to you rubysi

[o2girl]

Aug 3, 2015 17:25:44 GMT -5 heartbot said:

sarcaztic10 - I hope you get everything cleared up with your doctor at your next appointment. MH never remembers the details, either. :-\ GL with your IUI and with your work situation, too. It's so frustrating that you've already complained about having too much on your plate and the response was basically, "Hey, here's some more stuff for you to do." Not impressed with your supervisors.

rubysi - I hope you're able to figure out something with your work situation. Do you think you'd really enjoy going back to your previous position, or is it mostly just that you dislike your current one so much? Have you thought about talking to a career counselor? I know it's really hard to try to think about your career with everything you're going through.


Everything went well with my RE last Friday. He answered all my questions about the surgery and next steps. We're going to do some more bloodwork, including retesting a bunch of stuff I had tested a few months ago, just to make sure we're not missing anything. Overall, he's optimistic. I wish I were. I believe I'll get pregnant again. I don't believe I'll have a baby. We're off the bench, though, and trying again.

Nothing else exciting is going on. I can't believe summer is almost over.

So glad you are off the bench. I am truly sorry to hear that you aren't feeling optimistic. I can relate to those feelings all to well. So many (((hugs))) for that

[o2girl]

Aug 3, 2015 18:43:25 GMT -5 renegadewhit said:

AFM, I'm just trudging along. Weight loss has been slow, but moving again, which I'm pretty pleased about. The stalls are scary because every time one happens I'm convinced I'm done losing weight for good. I'm still working on getting enough protein and water, but I have a feeling that will always be something I'll struggle with.

In other news, I have a bunch of trips coming up that I'm pretty excited about. I'm going to visit my dad and stepmom in NC in September (I just booked it today!), then the next weekend I'm going to San Diego for a conference. In October I'm going to Dallas to see my brother. It's going to be a busy fall

I'm sorry for the weight loss stalls. With all you have been through to get here, I can see why you would be scared. Are you still working with a dietician?

[o2girl]

Aug 3, 2015 20:30:29 GMT -5 cavewmn said:

sarcaztic10, My DH is the same way. I know I can forget a few things but he seems to forget everything. lol
It really sucks when work doesn't help you out. I hope this month flies by for you.

rubysi, This is one of the main reasons I haven't gone back to work. I would never be on a set schedule and so I hardly ever got to see DH. I hope you are able to come to a decision soon and that it takes a lot of the stress and unhappiness away.

heartbot, I am glad he answered all your questions.


FF took my crosshairs because I had fertile mucus earlier. So overall I am annoyed because this means it also push AF out another week. Now I am trying to hold my bladder and see if I can turn an OPK sometime today or tomorrow. But if I do O this late then at least I know the pain I have been having is most likely my tube moving around.

Otherwise we are just waiting for DH to hear about his referral. I might have him call tomorrow since we haven't heard anything yet. Also I will probably do research on his patch and see how long it takes for full effect. He is definitely more of a tease now but not much action going on.

I'm also debating if I should try to make a move on him. It could either go over great or it could be a total failure and have him feel bad which will make things worse for a while.......

NTTCALR: I am slowly getting into routine of everything. lol For most this doesn't mean much but it actually is a lot for me.
Going to start selling some things on Ebay, hopefully I will get things posted for sale this weekend.
Starting to think about Christmas crafts again. I need to find my idea list and get my butt going on it.
Also I need to explain to DH to get me to take my pill in the morning even if I don't get up while he is here. He seems to think that when I take it while he is here I should get up right then and there!

I hope your body is cooperating!

I just realized we are at the end of the summer..... Christmas is coming again....soon...... I need to get busy too

[o2girl]

Aug 4, 2015 8:59:02 GMT -5 lizblue said:

sarcaztic10, thanks for the check in! I'm glad that your surgery went well and sorry that work is shitty. I feel like the best workers get penalized for being so damned good.

rubysi, I'm glad you are hanging in. Would stepping down be a relief in some ways? Anything you could do to make life easier sounds good to me. I'm sorry things are bad right now. I really hope they turn around in some ways soon. ((hugs))

heartbot, I'm sorry you are losing hope. I know the feeling well and it sucks. Someone once told me they will hang on to hope for me if I can't, so I will say that to you. Not in an "everything's ok" kind of way though. Just that I'll hold onto some hope for you. xo

renegadewhit, congrats on your continued weight loss - it's such an accomplishment, especially through all of the plateaus. Have so much fun on your trips!

cavewmn, sorry FF is being a dick. What is the patch your H is on? We are no longer TTC but I'm curious if it's something my H should inquire about.

--

AFM, I'm struggling a bit. I realized that I had my first BFP the day after my birthday in 2013 (7/31) and spent the whole month of August pregnant. I have lots of bittersweet memories of this time. I was pregnant at my SIL's wedding so now her anniversary reminds me of that. H plays in a kickball tournament every year in August - so that is a reminder. I'm just sad. I'm excited about adoption surely, but I'm sad for what didn't play out.

**baby shower mentioned below - skip if you don't want to hear it**


My mother and sisters are throwing me an adoption shower in September. In some ways I'm excited. I've been to so so many of them and it will be nice to get all of the stuff I know I will need. I'm trying to allow myself to get excited and happy, but some days it's hard.

**done**

Thanks for listening - that turned out to be long!

xo ladies.

just so many (((hugs))) lady

[o2girl]

Nothing much going on here. Just sticking to the estrace prep for my FET scheduled for August 19th. I'm kinda pounding sand over the embryo transfer being on the 19th because that is my mother's birthday and she has always caused me a lot of hurt..... So I hope this isn't some weird bad omen. I really don't believe in omens or signs..... But I can't help myself with this one.

H and I are getting to the point that we are just excited to have all of this TTC crap over with completely so we can move on with our lives and plan vacations or something. Baby or no baby.

[skategirl128]

I'll check in with everyone later when I'm on my computer. Big hugs to all of you lovelies though!

As for me I had a treatment cycle on Monday. Only a few more left! I'm feeling much better today and go in for bloodwork to see where my immunity is. I'm hoping I'm good- my numbers have been rebounding quicker and quicker each time.

Other than that I'm enjoying every bit of summer that I can! I'm loving the weather finally

[o2girl]

Aug 8, 2015 19:20:46 GMT -5 renegadewhit said:

Aug 8, 2015 18:52:39 GMT -5 o2girl said:

I'm sorry for the weight loss stalls. With all you have been through to get here, I can see why you would be scared. Are you still working with a dietician?

I see the nutritionist every time I go in to see the doctor (so the next time will be September). I'm following the plan, so I just have to give it time. I lost 4 pounds this week, so I'm feeling a little better about the last stall

4lbs is AWESOME!!!!

[o2girl]

Aug 8, 2015 20:12:53 GMT -5 heartbot said:

renegadewhit - Hooray for 4 more pounds down!

o2girl - I 100% get wanting this to be over so you can move on with your life. I'll have my fingers and toes crossed everything goes well for your FET on the 19th.

thank you!

[sarcaztic10]

Aug 8, 2015 19:03:34 GMT -5 o2girl said:

Nothing much going on here. Just sticking to the estrace prep for my FET scheduled for August 19th. I'm kinda pounding sand over the embryo transfer being on the 19th because that is my mother's birthday and she has always caused me a lot of hurt..... So I hope this isn't some weird bad omen. I really don't believe in omens or signs..... But I can't help myself with this one.

H and I are getting to the point that we are just excited to have all of this TTC crap over with completely so we can move on with our lives and plan vacations or something. Baby or no baby.

I will be keeping my FX that this FET works out! With that being said I understand your feeling about the end of the road and I am sending you so many (((hugs))).

[sarcaztic10]

Aug 8, 2015 20:14:52 GMT -5 skategirl128 said:

I'll check in with everyone later when I'm on my computer. Big hugs to all of you lovelies though!

As for me I had a treatment cycle on Monday. Only a few more left! I'm feeling much better today and go in for bloodwork to see where my immunity is. I'm hoping I'm good- my numbers have been rebounding quicker and quicker each time.

Other than that I'm enjoying every bit of summer that I can! I'm loving the weather finally

So glad to hear that your numbers are looking good!!

[o2girl]

Aug 8, 2015 20:31:09 GMT -5 sarcaztic10 said:

Aug 8, 2015 19:03:34 GMT -5 o2girl said:

Nothing much going on here. Just sticking to the estrace prep for my FET scheduled for August 19th. I'm kinda pounding sand over the embryo transfer being on the 19th because that is my mother's birthday and she has always caused me a lot of hurt..... So I hope this isn't some weird bad omen. I really don't believe in omens or signs..... But I can't help myself with this one.

H and I are getting to the point that we are just excited to have all of this TTC crap over with completely so we can move on with our lives and plan vacations or something. Baby or no baby.

I will be keeping my FX that this FET works out! With that being said I understand your feeling about the end of the road and I am sending you so many (((hugs))).

thank you! It's a weird place to be and emotionally I don't know how to feel about it.

[lizblue]

Everything crossed for this FET cycle o2girl. I hope you have peace and closure no matter what.

&skategirl really hoping for good numbers! Xo

[rubysi]

o2girl, I have everything crossed for your fet on the 19th.