DS: Born 8/2/12 at 31 Weeks due to unexplained PTL -------------- ISO a new baby to wear since 10/13 - DX: MFI IVF w/ ICSI - July '15: 13R, 13F, 1T - 6 Frosties - BFP - It split, It's Twins!
DS: Born 8/2/12 at 31 Weeks due to unexplained PTL -------------- ISO a new baby to wear since 10/13 - DX: MFI IVF w/ ICSI - July '15: 13R, 13F, 1T - 6 Frosties - BFP - It split, It's Twins!
Pregnancy: Same as the other two (I'm pretty careful about food & health, generally).
Labor: I've had an unmedicated vaginal, an emergency C-section, and I'm thinking about a VBAC this time if my body and LO cooperates. Haven't decided if I'd want an epidural or not.
Newborn: Pretty much the same for food. I EBFed DS1 for 9 months, EPed DS2 for 8 months, and I'd expect to be similar with the next one. Definitely do more ring slings. Not stress about sitting in my house in yoga pants for a month with a newborn / make sure to collect things to watch on Netflix in advance
Labor - FX for the same! Last time was really easy, I did have an epidural but was already at a 9 so they shouldn't have given it to me. I'm so effing glad they did, I'll get it again unless I go even faster with #2.
Newborn - DD was really tough so I hope it's different. This time I'll be at my parents' house (no other choice) but at least I'll have help. Last time other than like 2 weeks total it was just me, DH and DD. He was in language classes so I tried to do too much myself and I think I was like a fraction away from going crazy. I will take all the help I can get this time around.
Pregnancy- I'd be happy if it went as well as last time.
Labor- I will not have my ILs there. We agreed they wouldn't be there last time but the showed up and DH wouldn't tell them to leave. I hope to go med free.
Newborn- I won't be traveling so everyone can see the baby. They can come to me this time, and they better bring food.
Labor- I will not have my ILs there. We agreed they wouldn't be there last time but the showed up and DH wouldn't tell them to leave.
In the room? Ew. I'm hoping DH will be there for the birth of #2, but even if he can't I'll just make them get a nurse to hold my other leg. No one is coming in that room. Not my mother, not my sister and certainly not my MIL. Things happen that can't be unseen.
Labor- I will not have my ILs there. We agreed they wouldn't be there last time but the showed up and DH wouldn't tell them to leave.
In the room? Ew. I'm hoping DH will be there for the birth of #2, but even if he can't I'll just make them get a nurse to hold my other leg. No one is coming in that room. Not my mother, not my sister and certainly not my MIL. Things happen that can't be unseen.
Ew scotty138!! That is precisely why no one will know I'm in labor. The parents will all receive phone calls after baby is here and I'm ready for visitors.
In the room? Ew. I'm hoping DH will be there for the birth of #2, but even if he can't I'll just make them get a nurse to hold my other leg. No one is coming in that room. Not my mother, not my sister and certainly not my MIL. Things happen that can't be unseen.
Ew scotty138!! That is precisely why no one will know I'm in labor. The parents will all receive phone calls after baby is here and I'm ready for visitors.
Ohh that's another one. I don't want visitors to see us in hospital. I didn't sleep for two days because people kept coming in. People can come to our house bring Olive Garden and see us after we've all had a night in our house.
Definitely cloth diaper and baby wear again. Definitely kick the kid to their own room again around 10w.
I will not stress about BF'ing again. I was one of the rare people who medically did not make enough milk and it was a 14-month hell.
I will take more Me Time if possible. I will try an unmedicated VBAC, but I know the starts have to align for this.
I also am a Nap Nazi. DD always was home for naps and napped in her crib. I'm hoping thats why she has been such a great sleeper from early on, so I will absolutely keep a strict bed time and be a Nap Nazi again.
My ILs left during the delivery but were there through most of labor. I was livid but didn't want to hurt feelings. I had a very long labor and got really sick in front of them. It was awful.
Labor- I will not have my ILs there. We agreed they wouldn't be there last time but the showed up and DH wouldn't tell them to leave. I hope to go med free.
WHAT! Thats so rude of them! Next time lock the door and tell the nurses that no one is allowed in your your room! Unbelievable!
I feel you though. My dad, who hadn't been in my life for years, showed up at the hospital for my c-section. He weaseled his way down the recovery hall, and took photos of me, completely out of it, half-dressed with the baby on me, THROUGH THE WINDOW of the recovery area. People have no respect!
Ew scotty138!! That is precisely why no one will know I'm in labor. The parents will all receive phone calls after baby is here and I'm ready for visitors.
Ohh that's another one. I don't want visitors to see us in hospital. I didn't sleep for two days because people kept coming in. People can come to our house bring Olive Garden and see us after we've all had a night in our house.
I brought my sister Olivr Garden after she had my niece in February! I was, of course, invited to visit!
DS: Born 8/2/12 at 31 Weeks due to unexplained PTL -------------- ISO a new baby to wear since 10/13 - DX: MFI IVF w/ ICSI - July '15: 13R, 13F, 1T - 6 Frosties - BFP - It split, It's Twins!
Pregnancy: I just don't want to be sick the whole time. Also I want to stay more active. I could barely make it a mile around my neighborhood by the end last time.
Newborn: The first few weeks were really hard. DH had to leave a week after I gave birth. Also my parents were having a tough time and I had my Dad calling me crying a few days after I gave birth. I struggled with nursing and I think all that stress was a HUGE factor.
Delivery: I would have the exact same labor if I could. My water broke in bed at night and then I went to the hospital, was induced, got my epi and had DS the next morning after an uneventful night. After delivery was kind of a nightmare but I will save that story for another day. Also I am toying around with inviting my mother and MIL into the room when I deliver. I'm on the fence but it is something I am considering.
Will do again: Epidural! Also we moved DS into his own room at one month. It was a good decision and everyone slept better so we will probably do that again.
I'm lucky that both sets of parents are very respectful of us. My Mom was there with us all night long and everyone else showed up the next morning around 5 am. We all hung out and I was happy for the distraction. After a few hours they could tell I was super uncomfortable and decided to all go wait in the lobby. I didn't even have to say a word.
Eta: My issues were with DH's extended family after the birth. I had been awake for 30 hours after a traumatic delivery and had a parade of aunts, uncles, and cousins. That will NOT be happening this time.
Ohh that's another one. I don't want visitors to see us in hospital. I didn't sleep for two days because people kept coming in. People can come to our house bring Olive Garden and see us after we've all had a night in our house.
I brought my sister Olivr Garden after she had my niece in February! I was, of course, invited to visit!
Lol my parents came to see us after I had DS and brought Subway; it was soooo fucking good after not being able to eat for like 15 hours.
Post by thechickencoop on Aug 6, 2015 19:07:03 GMT -5
Pregnancy - I plan on working out this entire time; I wasn't too active with DS but now that we belong to a gym and are in a routine I plan on keeping it up.
Labor - Uh, well, I'd like to not be induced this time around. I didn't have a choice with DS - he had a fucked up umbilical cord so as soon as he was good to go, he went. I'd like to start and have labor progress naturally, but, I guess we'll see.
Newborn - I suffered from PPD for the first 4 months after DS; this time I'm already medicated so I won't have to suffer. It was miserable. Also, we'll be out of the house a lot more by default with a 4 year old.
Post by beyoncepadthai on Aug 6, 2015 21:20:07 GMT -5
Pregnancy- I'm going to try to be more active and eat healthier this time.
Labor- I was in labor for 2 days before they did a c-section. I'd like to try VBAC but our hospital doesn't do that. So it's a RCS for me.
Newborn- I have a lot of emotions about it. My parents were so much help when DS was born. DH works out of town a lot. My mom died shortly after DS's 1st BDAY and my dad after his 2nd. So I guess that will be different just because I have no choice. I'm also going to sleep train this time. I didn't with DS and we're struggling with bed time a lot.
Pregnancy: Eat better, I gave no fucks the first time around. Baby wanted double meat lovers pizza with jalapenos and ranch dressing, baby got it. This time I control the cravings. Exercise more.
Labour: I'd like to try VBAC. I was another long labour, failure to progress, emergency CS. I don't know how I'd go but if no VBAC, I want DH to come into the CS with me. He has anxiety issues with hospitals, and almost passed out with the thought of coming into the surgery with me, so my mom came. But he says he thinks he can handle it this time.
Newborn: Probably make DH help more with the overnight responsibilities. I did EVERYTHING last time and ended up a basket case. In his defense, he worked 90 hour weeks then and was pretty much as exhausted as I was.
PCOS / Hypothyroidism TTC - March 2009 BFP1 DS 06/2012 TTC - July 2013 BFP2 Due 03/2016, MMC 08/2015, Emergency D&C BFP3 Due 02/2017, MC 07/2016, Natural MC BFP4 Due 04/2017, Boy!
Pregnancy: I'd love a repeat, sans the unexplained pre-term labor scare I had a 6 months. I was active and never had cravings to cave to. Unfortunately so far I just want to eat all the things.
Labor: I'm leaning towards a RCS. I went into labor spontaneously but C was unstable, so everything went to shit. I got drugs to move things along, drugs for the pain (since I was told to lie still on my back so as not to disrupt the monitors), drugs to stop the contractions when C had a particularly bad decel, a spinal, then finally an unplanned C. I was so drained by the time C was out, then he clusterfed for 3 days straight. I can't imagine going through something like that again with a 2 year old thrown in.
Newborn Stage: I also struggled with PPA/PPD for the first ~6 months, so I'd love to enjoy those first few months this time around! I want to enjoy my time on the couch, and also not be so scared to leave the house.
And I'm always horrified to hear about parents/ILs forcing their way into labor. No one knew we were at the hospital until we called to tell them C was born. We won't be so stealth this time since someone will have to watch C, but both families seem to understand giving us space and coming to visit only after we give the green light.
DS: Born 8/2/12 at 31 Weeks due to unexplained PTL -------------- ISO a new baby to wear since 10/13 - DX: MFI IVF w/ ICSI - July '15: 13R, 13F, 1T - 6 Frosties - BFP - It split, It's Twins!
Oh my gah. Some of these stories have solidified my decision. No one will be allowed at the hospital until baby arrives. Eff that. The last time we talked about it, MH pushed back on me not wanting his parents there, but as far as I'm concerned, this is 100 percent my decision.
IMHO, labor is not a spectator sport. The only people in the room with me will be people who are actually DOING something, not standing in the corner with a full-on view of my lady bits, hands clasped and "oooh"ing and "aaaah"ing with a camera in hand.
NOPE.
Some people like that, and thats their choice--go for it! For me, the fewer people in there, the better.
Post by iamlindabelcher on Aug 7, 2015 20:20:32 GMT -5
Pregnancy: I'm trying to keep active and make better food decisions. I didn't eat unhealthy exactly with my son but I was so hungry all day long that I ate way more than I should have. I gained so much weight.
Labor: I liked the labor I had with DS. Labored at home for 5 hours, went in, epidural 2 hours later, DS pushed out the next morning. So, nothing I will do differently. I also don't want anyone else in the room but DH this time. Both my mom and MIL were in the room when I delivered and all 4 parents were in the room while I labored.... and shat everywhere.
Pregnancy: I'm high-risk because of prior preemies. I got the progesterone shot with DS2 and while not fun, I'll do it again, no question. I hope to eat a little better.
Newborn: Try my hardest to breastfeed! I failed miserably the first two times, but maybe 3rd times the charm?
Delivery: I will take that fabulous epidural again; make it a double! I will eat as much as I can before I go to the hospital this time.
And I'm always horrified to hear about parents/ILs forcing their way into labor. No one knew we were at the hospital until we called to tell them C was born. We won't be so stealth this time since someone will have to watch C, but both families seem to understand giving us space and coming to visit only after we give the green light.
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