First night away and it was a failure. DD normally sleeps in bed with me but can't sleep with DH because he will roll over on her. Apparently she wouldn't sleep even in her swing last night so he put her in her crib and she cried for 20 minutes until she fell asleep. He claims she wasn't hungry and wouldn't fall asleep. I feel horrible and I'm pretty sure am never leaving her again. DH claims he looked up letting her cry at 2am and it said it was fine between 3-6 months. She will be 4 months on Thursday.
((hugs)) - hopefully it gets better for them at home. try to just focus on what you've got to do there since there isn't anything you can do at home from so far away. ...or call in some backup for your H. (I'd be calling my mom for backup). Good luck! You've only got 1 more night right?
emerald27, since you're our resident attachment parent, can you validate me on something? DS still wakes up maybe 3-4 times a night, and honestly, I'm used to it. I don't feel especially sleep deprived (though some days are worse than others, of course), and I usually nurse him back to sleep when he wakes up. We do a combination of bedsharing and co-sleeping using his Arm's Reach cosleeper. I've read pretty much all of the relevant books by Dr. Sears and I do not ever want to let DS CIO. I'm just getting tons of pressure to "spread out his feedings" at night and to put him down and let him cry himself to sleep. I keep reading that he needs to learn to fall asleep without nursing, and that by 6 months, he has to be STTN. But I don't want to try to space his feedings if nursing is what comforts him at night and I don't feel I'm losing too much sleep over it. It doesn't bother me. What do you say to these people to make them back off?
I'm not emerald but I do think there is a difference between teaching them to go to sleep on their own and letting them cry it out. Do you think he's really hungry when he wakes up, or does it seem more like just a comfort feeding to go back to sleep?
First night away and it was a failure. DD normally sleeps in bed with me but can't sleep with DH because he will roll over on her. Apparently she wouldn't sleep even in her swing last night so he put her in her crib and she cried for 20 minutes until she fell asleep. He claims she wasn't hungry and wouldn't fall asleep. I feel horrible and I'm pretty sure am never leaving her again. DH claims he looked up letting her cry at 2am and it said it was fine between 3-6 months. She will be 4 months on Thursday.
Hugs. She will be okay. If you think about it, he did exactly what he was supposed to do. He put her in a safe place and stepped away when he got frustrated. Next time, could he snuggle her to sleep in bed, then move her to the crib?
I don't think he would be able to stay up. He is really not good with lack of sleep and unfortunately she wakes up every hour and a half. I thought he would be able to use the swing though. Hopefully tonight will be better for both of them.
First night away and it was a failure. DD normally sleeps in bed with me but can't sleep with DH because he will roll over on her. Apparently she wouldn't sleep even in her swing last night so he put her in her crib and she cried for 20 minutes until she fell asleep. He claims she wasn't hungry and wouldn't fall asleep. I feel horrible and I'm pretty sure am never leaving her again. DH claims he looked up letting her cry at 2am and it said it was fine between 3-6 months. She will be 4 months on Thursday.
((hugs)) - hopefully it gets better for them at home. try to just focus on what you've got to do there since there isn't anything you can do at home from so far away. ...or call in some backup for your H. (I'd be calling my mom for backup). Good luck! You've only got 1 more night right?
Two more nights. Hopefully tonight will be better. I guess on the plus side, maybe she will sleep in her crib by the time I get home.
Post by raesofsunshine1 on Jan 26, 2015 9:24:15 GMT -5
Im starting potty training today. I drug all DDs toys into the kitchen and we are staying here today. We are doing diaperless and bottomless today-at least as long as I can take it!
Ffmc: I cant stop lsughing at DD. although Im trying not to let her know. She was so confused when I said we werent wearing a diaper or pjs today. She just has a shirt on...
apk4 hope you get things sorted out with DC today!
kaylajade YAY! you're not a b00b anymore. How are the boys feeling?
Lady's send your snow this way - I just want a couple of days of snow. I don't think DS remembers seeing snow.
I have to grocery shop today. I don't mind doing it but I hate making a list and then inevitably something gets forgotten.
Also, why are my kids so funny? They both wake up so happy and DS was talking a mile-a-minute this morning and DD was squealing and trying to laugh. Weirdos.
S is the same way in the am. He's like emmet from the logo movie - EVERYTHING IS AWESOME !!!!
DD is like this in the morning too. She just finished eating, and is now on her play mat chatting with her 'friends' hanging above her. I love when she's so talkative.
emerald27, since you're our resident attachment parent, can you validate me on something? DS still wakes up maybe 3-4 times a night, and honestly, I'm used to it. I don't feel especially sleep deprived (though some days are worse than others, of course), and I usually nurse him back to sleep when he wakes up. We do a combination of bedsharing and co-sleeping using his Arm's Reach cosleeper. I've read pretty much all of the relevant books by Dr. Sears and I do not ever want to let DS CIO. I'm just getting tons of pressure to "spread out his feedings" at night and to put him down and let him cry himself to sleep. I keep reading that he needs to learn to fall asleep without nursing, and that by 6 months, he has to be STTN. But I don't want to try to space his feedings if nursing is what comforts him at night and I don't feel I'm losing too much sleep over it. It doesn't bother me. What do you say to these people to make them back off?
I'm not emerald but I do think there is a difference between teaching them to go to sleep on their own and letting them cry it out. Do you think he's really hungry when he wakes up, or does it seem more like just a comfort feeding to go back to sleep?
I think the first time he wakes up, he really is hungry, because it's been 3 hours. After that, I'm unsure. He sometimes goes 2 hours, sometimes 90 minutes. I just don't mind nursing him down, even if he just wants to comfort nurse. But then I worry that I'm teaching him bad habits. And honestly, since I don't even have the option of help during MOTN, I don't have much patience to try to teach him how to sleep on his own at 3am.
Now, naps, he's better at. He can fall asleep for naps without nursing or eating.
DH woke up M... Now DH is snoring away... I've been up for over an hour with M. DHs days are numbered.
TP DH! Sorry this happened. Last night I got all ragey because I spent an hour and a half putting DD to bed. About 10 mins after DH comes into the room, she's awake. Granted, he tried to rock her back to sleep, but she decided to have a screaming fit. At least he tried. I find she's super sensitive right now going through this 4th leap, and 4 month regression at the same time.
First night away and it was a failure. DD normally sleeps in bed with me but can't sleep with DH because he will roll over on her. Apparently she wouldn't sleep even in her swing last night so he put her in her crib and she cried for 20 minutes until she fell asleep. He claims she wasn't hungry and wouldn't fall asleep. I feel horrible and I'm pretty sure am never leaving her again. DH claims he looked up letting her cry at 2am and it said it was fine between 3-6 months. She will be 4 months on Thursday.
Just go slowly, give yourself extra time. Brake slowly, turn slowly, and if you skid, steer in the direction you are skidding (which sounds counterintuitive, I know). You'll be okay! :thumbup:
Wait. Did you just give her advice on driving in the snow?
Im starting potty training today. I drug all DDs toys into the kitchen and we are staying here today. We are doing diaperless and bottomless today-at least as long as I can take it!
Ffmc: I cant stop lsughing at DD. although Im trying not to let her know. She was so confused when I said we werent wearing a diaper or pjs today. She just has a shirt on...
windwithfingers FWIW I let DD2 comfort nurse throughout the night until we stopped nursing at about 6 months, I bed shared with her until she was 15 months. She is 2 and goes to sleep on her own just fine. Go with what makes it easier for you and DS, each baby is different with what s/he needs.
Overslept a little this morning so had to nurse LO and run instead of pumping there too. She also has a bad diaper rash that started last night. I suspect yeast due to the antibiotics. Poor thing cried a sizable portion of last night I think because it burns.
Dab a little bit of lotrimin cream on the rash several times a day until it goes away. It is the ONLY thing that helps. Trust me. Sorry your LO is hurting!
Post by americanninjamommy on Jan 26, 2015 9:45:55 GMT -5
Apparently, all my motivation to work is still at home today. So far, I have check PB, FB, done some online shopping at Old Navy and Avenue, chatted with a co-worker, got some hot chocolate, went back to PB, researched commuter bags and styles for my plus-size shape....
Meeeeee! This probably isn't amazing to some of you notches with unicorns but DS gave me a 4 hour stretch while he slept IN THE RNP. I slept in the bed, not the recliner!!!!
cantisa and famousea - give me back my unicorn and no one gets hurt. For real though, DS has suddenly started "waking up" (crying with eyes closed) in the MOTN. I didn't even take him out of the swaddle to change him. Gave him a bottle, he drank 3 oz. and went back to sleep...not sure if he was ever really awake. Really hope this is some kind of growth spurt.
darwinfish - feel your pain, lady! This is so unusual for my little, he's slept through the night since he was 6 weeks.
I know a lot of you have had it rough with sleeping babies so I can't complain about one wake up. Just always worries me b/c he has been such a good sleeper. So pitiful that he just starts crying, it's like he's having a bad dream or something.
So you MAY recall this weekend where I said DH's gma came over to the house crying because she thinks we don't want her to hold DD *cue eye roll*. She never even asks, so I thought she was fine just playing with her. I don't read minds, and she even made up a "look" that I gave DH. DH told me he talked to her and said it was over. WELL I was PISSED because I told DH that I don't even know where she got that from. Seriously, the ONE thing I've said, is to his mom to not just put DD on her and then walk off because she needs help to hold her. (she has parkinsons so she's a little shifty) She did this when DD was first born, she put the baby on her mom's pot belly and just walked off. I swear the ENTIRE time I thought she was just going to roll right off! SO we went to lunch yesterday with the IL's and DH told them what happened. You could tell by the way MIL was ignoring the topic that she fucking said something to her mom. After we left I said Uhh yeah your mom said something to your gma and he said yeah I know I could tell too, and I'm pissed. She ALWAYS has ALL THE THINGS to say about everything! All she said to our story was "well at least she wants to see her". Uhm ok what the fuck does that even have to do with what we're telling you happened?!?! I love that she loves her so much! I'm hurt that she even thinks that about us. I'm so pissed. Why would she do that?! WHY!?!
Post by windwithfingers on Jan 26, 2015 9:56:57 GMT -5
We've established that I'm a bitch, so I'm just going to say that I sometimes smile when I read about someone losing their unicorn. My kid has never come close to unicorn status, so I always have a moment of satisfied "now you know how I feel."
windwithfingers FWIW I let DD2 comfort nurse throughout the night until we stopped nursing at about 6 months, I bed shared with her until she was 15 months. She is 2 and goes to sleep on her own just fine. Go with what makes it easier for you and DS, each baby is different with what s/he needs.
This.
DS is 19 months and still bed shares. Not all night but he does til 3ish in his own bed. Then sleeps in ours. It's not ideal but he is slowly improving, we chose to let him because he has had so much change lately.
As you said, every one is different and some need that bit extra. LO is the opposite and wants to be left alone.
So you MAY recall this weekend where I said DH's gma came over to the house crying because she thinks we don't want her to hold DD *cue eye roll*. She never even asks, so I thought she was fine just playing with her. I don't read minds, and she even made up a "look" that I gave DH. DH told me he talked to her and said it was over. WELL I was PISSED because I told DH that I don't even know where she got that from. Seriously, the ONE thing I've said, is to his mom to not just put DD on her and then walk off because she needs help to hold her. (she has parkinsons so she's a little shifty) She did this when DD was first born, she put the baby on her mom's pot belly and just walked off. I swear the ENTIRE time I thought she was just going to roll right off! SO we went to lunch yesterday with the IL's and DH told them what happened. You could tell by the way MIL was ignoring the topic that she fucking said something to her mom. After we left I said Uhh yeah your mom said something to your gma and he said yeah I know I could tell too, and I'm pissed. She ALWAYS has ALL THE THINGS to say about everything! All she said to our story was "well at least she wants to see her". Uhm ok what the fuck does that even have to do with what we're telling you happened?!?! I love that she loves her so much! I'm hurt that she even thinks that about us. I'm so pissed. Why would she do that?! WHY!?!
emerald27, since you're our resident attachment parent, can you validate me on something? DS still wakes up maybe 3-4 times a night, and honestly, I'm used to it. I don't feel especially sleep deprived (though some days are worse than others, of course), and I usually nurse him back to sleep when he wakes up. We do a combination of bedsharing and co-sleeping using his Arm's Reach cosleeper. I've read pretty much all of the relevant books by Dr. Sears and I do not ever want to let DS CIO. I'm just getting tons of pressure to "spread out his feedings" at night and to put him down and let him cry himself to sleep. I keep reading that he needs to learn to fall asleep without nursing, and that by 6 months, he has to be STTN. But I don't want to try to space his feedings if nursing is what comforts him at night and I don't feel I'm losing too much sleep over it. It doesn't bother me. What do you say to these people to make them back off?
I've got one, how about "oh, I wasn't aware you were pushing for 3+ hours for this baby too" (Didn't you push for longer? seriously, I can't believe you did that! I'm in awe!)
I have a staff member who I cannot handle. I'm responsible for the program at this facility, and she always goes above me with questions and concerns about clients. It's aggravating when I see that she is asking questions about stuff that is already resolved. It makes me look like I'm not doing my job because she didn't read the file. The worst? We have the same first name, and half the people we work with don't know which of us is which.
emerald27, since you're our resident attachment parent, can you validate me on something? DS still wakes up maybe 3-4 times a night, and honestly, I'm used to it. I don't feel especially sleep deprived (though some days are worse than others, of course), and I usually nurse him back to sleep when he wakes up. We do a combination of bedsharing and co-sleeping using his Arm's Reach cosleeper. I've read pretty much all of the relevant books by Dr. Sears and I do not ever want to let DS CIO. I'm just getting tons of pressure to "spread out his feedings" at night and to put him down and let him cry himself to sleep. I keep reading that he needs to learn to fall asleep without nursing, and that by 6 months, he has to be STTN. But I don't want to try to space his feedings if nursing is what comforts him at night and I don't feel I'm losing too much sleep over it. It doesn't bother me. What do you say to these people to make them back off?
I'm not emerald but I do think there is a difference between teaching them to go to sleep on their own and letting them cry it out. Do you think he's really hungry when he wakes up, or does it seem more like just a comfort feeding to go back to sleep?
I'm going to say if yours is anything like mine she's definitely hungry when she wakes up in the MOTN. She damn near rips my nipple off. Most nights she still gets up twice too.
emerald27, since you're our resident attachment parent, can you validate me on something? DS still wakes up maybe 3-4 times a night, and honestly, I'm used to it. I don't feel especially sleep deprived (though some days are worse than others, of course), and I usually nurse him back to sleep when he wakes up. We do a combination of bedsharing and co-sleeping using his Arm's Reach cosleeper. I've read pretty much all of the relevant books by Dr. Sears and I do not ever want to let DS CIO. I'm just getting tons of pressure to "spread out his feedings" at night and to put him down and let him cry himself to sleep. I keep reading that he needs to learn to fall asleep without nursing, and that by 6 months, he has to be STTN. But I don't want to try to space his feedings if nursing is what comforts him at night and I don't feel I'm losing too much sleep over it. It doesn't bother me. What do you say to these people to make them back off?
I've got one, how about "oh, I wasn't aware you were pushing for 3+ hours for this baby too" (Didn't you push for longer? seriously, I can't believe you did that! I'm in awe!)
Haha, that's definitely something I could say. (I pushed for five hours. My brain has mostly blocked the experience out.)
I'm not emerald but I do think there is a difference between teaching them to go to sleep on their own and letting them cry it out. Do you think he's really hungry when he wakes up, or does it seem more like just a comfort feeding to go back to sleep?
I think the first time he wakes up, he really is hungry, because it's been 3 hours. After that, I'm unsure. He sometimes goes 2 hours, sometimes 90 minutes. I just don't mind nursing him down, even if he just wants to comfort nurse. But then I worry that I'm teaching him bad habits. And honestly, since I don't even have the option of help during MOTN, I don't have much patience to try to teach him how to sleep on his own at 3am.
Now, naps, he's better at. He can fall asleep for naps without nursing or eating.
If he's going down for naps fine, I wouldn't worry much about bad habits. Personally I'd want more uninterrupted sleep, so I might try switching things up. But if you're ok with it, go with what's working!
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