Um. No. I don't know everything. I do know my body though. Charting bbt and using opks is new to me. I still feel like I can learn from this board but being rude to new people is really sucky. Maybe ask a few questions about my circumstances instead of assuming every person has a history of random cycles.
No one is assuming that "every person has a history of random cycles." People here often point out that your body is regular/normal until it's not. You could have 10 years of 28 day cycles and randomly get a cycle that's 25 days or 40 days. You can "know your body" and still have random cycles here and there.
The ladies here are knowledgeable and helpful, but it's difficult to offer any advice or knowledge when you seem to already "know your body" so well.
Other than replying back to led with the pieces of the puzzle of why I think that, I've tried not to come across as I know it all. The thing is, after I explained why I felt that way, instead of being nice about it, she decided to be rude and condescending. She could have explained and tried to educate. That's all I'm saying. There's a way to educate and be respectful and then there's her way.
No one is assuming that "every person has a history of random cycles." People here often point out that your body is regular/normal until it's not. You could have 10 years of 28 day cycles and randomly get a cycle that's 25 days or 40 days. You can "know your body" and still have random cycles here and there.
The ladies here are knowledgeable and helpful, but it's difficult to offer any advice or knowledge when you seem to already "know your body" so well.
Other than replying back to led with the pieces of the puzzle of why I think that, I've tried not to come across as I know it all. The thing is, after I explained why I felt that way, instead of being nice about it, she decided to be rude and condescending. She could have explained and tried to educate. That's all I'm saying. There's a way to educate and be respectful and then there's her way.
It's not my responsibility to explain and educate you. That's your job. And I absolutely don't have to respect you.
Other than replying back to led with the pieces of the puzzle of why I think that, I've tried not to come across as I know it all. The thing is, after I explained why I felt that way, instead of being nice about it, she decided to be rude and condescending. She could have explained and tried to educate. That's all I'm saying. There's a way to educate and be respectful and then there's her way.
It's not my responsibility to explain and educate you. That's your job. And I absolutely don't have to respect you.
The other issue has been my thermometer. It's the Target brand and kept getting stuck at 97.33. Cd15 and 16 are 97.33. Then I asked the board for recommendations on a new one. I bought the Mavis and even though I know you're not supposed to switch thermometers halfway through, there's no point in waiting if my chart is messy and my thermometer is screwy. So I started using it yesterday.
I really appreciate that you're trying to be helpful and I know there really are girls who know nothing about their body. I know not every month will be crystal clear on a bbt chart, however that is just one aspect of your fertility charting. Sure, it's a big one, but so is listening to your body, knowing what's normal for you, and using a reliable instrument of measure. A bbt chart is a small piece of the bigger puzzle. I also know not every person has a clockwork body but luckily mine is pretty good about timing.
Anyway, thanks again.
Okay, so clear something up for me. If the above isn't a lie, then why did you post this yesterday?
R/R/CS: I really don't know what's going on. My temp fell today so it messed up FF and now it thinks I didn't O. I know I O'd on cd15 or cd16 because every other sign was there. So annoying. I can see why some people don't temp after o.
GTKY: It used to be my grandmother's meatballs and pasta or her pizza. Now, it depends. Usually it's chocolate or warm chocolate chip cookies from my oven.
Post by icaughtfire on Aug 9, 2015 19:34:29 GMT -5
texteachmom, your chart doesn't show ovulation. It's not a matter of knowing your body, or if anyone is being mean or nice to you, it's the fact that sometimes our cycles change & our bodies can be weird. A +OPK doesn't mean you've O'd.
Number One: Born 06.16.2009 BFP: 01.17.2014 / MC 02.05.2014 BFP: 03.08.2014 / MMC: 05.07.2014 Dx: Partial Molar/GTD. Benched until 01.2015 Number Two: Born 07.22.2016
Post by kawaiikitsune on Aug 9, 2015 19:34:57 GMT -5
texteachmom - Did you lurk at all to get a feel for this board? Snark is right there in the title, for crying out loud. @led is a long-standing member of this site, as well as our predecessor, and she was offering you legit advice.
If you knew not to switch therms mid-cycle, than why did you? As PP's have pointed out, you can "know" your body all you want but cramps/twinges around O are just secondary signs and are not a guarantee by a long shot. The only way to confirm O is by temping and, in my opinion, your chart does not appear to indicate that you have. I highly suggest busting out your big girl panties if you plan to stick around.
The other issue has been my thermometer. It's the Target brand and kept getting stuck at 97.33. Cd15 and 16 are 97.33. Then I asked the board for recommendations on a new one. I bought the Mavis and even though I know you're not supposed to switch thermometers halfway through, there's no point in waiting if my chart is messy and my thermometer is screwy. So I started using it yesterday.
I really appreciate that you're trying to be helpful and I know there really are girls who know nothing about their body. I know not every month will be crystal clear on a bbt chart, however that is just one aspect of your fertility charting. Sure, it's a big one, but so is listening to your body, knowing what's normal for you, and using a reliable instrument of measure. A bbt chart is a small piece of the bigger puzzle. I also know not every person has a clockwork body but luckily mine is pretty good about timing.
Anyway, thanks again.
Okay, so clear something up for me. If the above isn't a lie, then why did you post this yesterday?
R/R/CS: I really don't know what's going on. My temp fell today so it messed up FF and now it thinks I didn't O. I know I O'd on cd15 or cd16 because every other sign was there. So annoying. I can see why some people don't temp after o.
GTKY: It used to be my grandmother's meatballs and pasta or her pizza. Now, it depends. Usually it's chocolate or warm chocolate chip cookies from my oven.
Umm...because that's how I felt? It is confusing when you had cross hairs and then didn't.
R/R/CS: I'm really hoping we get a few good tries this weekend. We've never had amazing timing and this weekend would give us that. Fingers crossed there's no major derailment to my plans!
R/R/CS: looking for a positive opk today or tomorrow, we'll see. I forgot to test this morning. Boo. I should O Sunday or Monday, FF says Sunday (cd14) but for the last 3 cycles it's been saying cd15, which is Monday. We'll see. I can't figure out why FF changed it though. Crazy. Dh better get ready. I'm hoping to jump his bones a few times this weekend.
R/R/CS: I usually o cd14 or cd15. Opks usually start turning positive around cd13 and yesterday it was so very much negative. Boo. Maybe today it'll turn. The weird part, FF says I'll O today. I'll keep testing and temping to see because I love data.
R/R/CS: Just waiting on cross hairs. I'm almost positive I O'd yesterday. I've had ovulation pain/cramps for years and yesterday was really bad for about 4 hours. Then it stopped as fast as it came. Today cm is dry but my temp only went up .1 degree. Weird.
R/R/CS: I really don't know what's going on. My temp fell today so it messed up FF and now it thinks I didn't O. I know I O'd on cd15 or cd16 because every other sign was there. So annoying. I can see why some people don't temp after o.
texteachmom - Did you lurk at all to get a feel for this board? Snark is right there in the title, for crying out loud. @led is a long-standing member of this site, as well as our predecessor, and she was offering you legit advice.
If you knew not to switch therms mid-cycle, than why did you? As PP's have pointed out, you can "know" your body all you wan but cramps/twinges around O are just secondary signs and are not a guarantee by a long shot. The only way to confirm O is by temping and, in my opinion, your chat does not appear to indicate that you have. I highly suggest busting out your big girl panties if you plan to stick around.
I did lurk for a few months. I've seen a few people be rude and condescending towards others and usually the person goes along with it. I don't care that she's a long standing person here. She doesn't have to patronize new members and try to make them out to be idiots. I replied back with why I feel that way, she turned it into a rude-fest. It's fine, she can sit over there with the "cool" kids and treat others without respect and I'll put on my big girl pants, ignore her, and be kind and welcoming to new members.
As far as o or no o, it doesn't matter. Dh is out of town for the foreseeable future and time will tell if I have a period or not. If no baby this month, there's always next month or the month after that.
R/R/CS: I'm really hoping we get a few good tries this weekend. We've never had amazing timing and this weekend would give us that. Fingers crossed there's no major derailment to my plans!
R/R/CS: looking for a positive opk today or tomorrow, we'll see. I forgot to test this morning. Boo. I should O Sunday or Monday, FF says Sunday (cd14) but for the last 3 cycles it's been saying cd15, which is Monday. We'll see. I can't figure out why FF changed it though. Crazy. Dh better get ready. I'm hoping to jump his bones a few times this weekend.
R/R/CS: I usually o cd14 or cd15. Opks usually start turning positive around cd13 and yesterday it was so very much negative. Boo. Maybe today it'll turn. The weird part, FF says I'll O today. I'll keep testing and temping to see because I love data.
R/R/CS: Just waiting on cross hairs. I'm almost positive I O'd yesterday. I've had ovulation pain/cramps for years and yesterday was really bad for about 4 hours. Then it stopped as fast as it came. Today cm is dry but my temp only went up .1 degree. Weird.
R/R/CS: I really don't know what's going on. My temp fell today so it messed up FF and now it thinks I didn't O. I know I O'd on cd15 or cd16 because every other sign was there. So annoying. I can see why some people don't temp after o.
But you knew that changing thermometers would fuck up your chart. So how can you simultaneously know and not know something?
Umm...what choice did I have? Use a faulty one?
Do you even hear yourself?
No one is questioning your choice. At least not out loud, because I definitely question your choice. You posted that you had no idea why FF took your crosshairs away and then today posted that your chart is only messed up because you changed thermometers knowing that it would mess up your chart.
texteachmom - Did you lurk at all to get a feel for this board? Snark is right there in the title, for crying out loud. @led is a long-standing member of this site, as well as our predecessor, and she was offering you legit advice.
If you knew not to switch therms mid-cycle, than why did you? As PP's have pointed out, you can "know" your body all you wan but cramps/twinges around O are just secondary signs and are not a guarantee by a long shot. The only way to confirm O is by temping and, in my opinion, your chat does not appear to indicate that you have. I highly suggest busting out your big girl panties if you plan to stick around.
I did lurk for a few months. I've seen a few people be rude and condescending towards others and usually the person goes along with it. I don't care that she's a long standing person here. She doesn't have to patronize new members and try to make them out to be idiots. I replied back with why I feel that way, she turned it into a rude-fest. It's fine, she can sit over there with the "cool" kids and treat others without respect and I'll put on my big girl pants, ignore her, and be kind and welcoming to new members.
As far as o or no o, it doesn't matter. Dh is out of town for the foreseeable future and time will tell if I have a period or not. If no baby this month, there's always next month or the month after that.
Um, ok. If you think everyone is rude and all "cool" kids (when what you really mean is bullies), why are you still here? Do whatever but you will not change the tone of this board.
No one is questioning your choice. At least not out loud, because I definitely question your choice. You posted that you had no idea why FF took your crosshairs away and then today posted that your chart is only messed up because you changed thermometers knowing that it would mess up your chart.
Okay, what would you have done? You're halfway through your chart, your temps are stuck and you suspect the thermometer is to blame.
I probably should have tested out the opks but I didn't. Next time I will.
No one is questioning your choice. At least not out loud, because I definitely question your choice. You posted that you had no idea why FF took your crosshairs away and then today posted that your chart is only messed up because you changed thermometers knowing that it would mess up your chart.
Okay, what would you have done? You're halfway through your chart, your temps are stuck and you suspect the thermometer is to blame.
I probably should have tested out the opks but I didn't. Next time I will.
You had two temps that were the same. That doesn't make your temps stuck. Freaking out and changing thermometers when temps are the most important in detecting possible ovulation doesn't make any fucking sense.
texteachmom - Did you lurk at all to get a feel for this board? Snark is right there in the title, for crying out loud. @led is a long-standing member of this site, as well as our predecessor, and she was offering you legit advice.
If you knew not to switch therms mid-cycle, than why did you? As PP's have pointed out, you can "know" your body all you wan but cramps/twinges around O are just secondary signs and are not a guarantee by a long shot. The only way to confirm O is by temping and, in my opinion, your chat does not appear to indicate that you have. I highly suggest busting out your big girl panties if you plan to stick around.
I did lurk for a few months. I've seen a few people be rude and condescending towards others and usually the person goes along with it. I don't care that she's a long standing person here. She doesn't have to patronize new members and try to make them out to be idiots. I replied back with why I feel that way, she turned it into a rude-fest. It's fine, she can sit over there with the "cool" kids and treat others without respect and I'll put on my big girl pants, ignore her, and be kind and welcoming to new members.
As far as o or no o, it doesn't matter. Dh is out of town for the foreseeable future and time will tell if I have a period or not. If no baby this month, there's always next month or the month after that.
Might I suggest www.thebump.com ? I think the ladies there might be more of what you're looking for. We don't do glitter up your rear or hair petting....
Last Edit: Aug 9, 2015 20:22:52 GMT -5 by NariaDreaming
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Might I suggest www.thebump.com ? I think the ladies there might be more of what you're looking for. We don't do glitter up your rear or hair petting....
Gawd, Naria! Don't you know mods and admins shouldn't be rude and condescending?!
Oh. Well, shit. This admin thing isn't going to work out for me at all.
Might I suggest www.thebump.com ? I think the ladies there might be more of what you're looking for. We don't do glitter up your rear or hair petting....
But...I came here for hair petting! Don't make me leave!
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