MBF 08/17

[littlemissmarla]

I will 2nd the student loans suck.

DH needed new brakes on his car $$$$$$$$$.

It's so muggy and gross out.

DD has decided she wants to be a professional mountain climber and/or acrobat so between doing things I need to do I am also running back and forth to help her down when she gets stuck on the arm rest of her chair or when she is trying to climb from one couch to the other.

[isolemnlyswear]

I will 3rd that student loans suck.

It's hot as hades and so muggy out and C and I need to go to the store.

Nausea has come back with a vengeance. Gagging while changing poopy diapers is not fun.

[anotherdreamer]

I will 4th student loans sucking. Ugh.

Hot and muggy here, wishing we were already in the new apartment. I am unreasonably excited about the central air.

The girls will not leave the electrical cords alone. They will unplug things, and try to replug them in -_- this phase can pass anytime now.

[lucanjo14]

So tired of the hot weather, just wish it would cool off already. I'm exhausted and continue to be irritated by DH. My house is a disaster but I can't get anything cleaned/done with wild DS running around.
On the plus side my daughter is being sweet and helpful today, and I finally felt inside baby move last night.

[Lola]

#5 Student loans suck.

DH wants to do a night out with the boys tonight because its the last night we have them before school starts. I dont want to go. 3 kids in a restaurant = nightmare.

[lucanjo14]

Aug 17, 2015 9:49:54 GMT -5 Lola said:

#5 Student loans suck.

DH wants to do a night out with the boys tonight because its the last night we have them before school starts. I dont want to go. 3 kids in a restaurant = nightmare.

Can you do something besides dinner, like an activity instead? Movie/mini golf, etc?

[isolemnlyswear]

Aug 17, 2015 9:53:51 GMT -5 lea said:

Yeah, I shouldn't be getting notices about 10 year college reunions before my student loans are completely paid off! Lame.

Here's my bitch, thanks to commenters on this article:

www.washingtonpost.com/news/early-lead/wp/2015/08/16/james-harrison-wont-let-his-kids-get-participation-trophies/?tid=sm_fb

Whining about how giving participation trophies sets up kids to feel entitled. Not for nothing, but I clearly remember getting participation trophies and ribbons all the way back in the 80s/90s for dance recitals, sports, spelling bees, etc. I'm pretty sure I was never on a championship team at any point in my childhood yet I had several trophies for sports. This is not really a new phenomenon. I don't think giving a kid a token of his time spent dedicated to a sport - even if they lost - is setting them up to be a whiny entitled brat. Occasionally, I've seen some rules I've raised my eyebrows at. But there probably wouldn't be a need for things like mercy rules if the COACHES and PARENTS would direct kids to back off and pass around or whatever instead of slamming the other team just to rack up points. Yeah, sometimes in life, you're going to lose big. It's a valuable lesson to learn. But it's not the only lesson to be learned in sports and other activities. Sportsmanship, and hell, just having the confidence to get out there and try is a huge fucking accomplishment for a lot of kids. Let them have their damn trophy. Who cares. They're kids.

I go back and forth with this. In this case it was a participation trophy and it clearly states that. So I agree with you. Having the confidence to show up and try is comendable.

However. Not keeping score, everyone is a winner ect ect I think does not teach the correct life lessons. Yes they are children but you are teaching your child how to be a gracious winner and loser.

[Lola]

Aug 17, 2015 9:53:39 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

Aug 17, 2015 9:49:54 GMT -5 Lola said:

#5 Student loans suck.

DH wants to do a night out with the boys tonight because its the last night we have them before school starts. I dont want to go. 3 kids in a restaurant = nightmare.

Can you do something besides dinner, like an activity instead? Movie/mini golf, etc?

Thats a great idea! Movie would be tough with Q, but maybe mini golf or a trampoline park. 

[hurricanerek]

This is my third week without a computer. Ugh. I was supposed to buy one today but I'm starting back at work today and won't have time.

DD woke me 4 times last night and tooth #13 popped through this morning. That's more teeth than months of age.

[isolemnlyswear]

Aug 17, 2015 10:26:51 GMT -5 hurricanerek said:

This is my third week without a computer. Ugh. I was supposed to buy one today but I'm starting back at work today and won't have time.

DD woke me 4 times last night and tooth #13 popped through this morning. That's more teeth than months of age.

I feel you on the teeth! C's 13th tooth popped through Friday. It took a month for it to come in! I'm praying the other three don't take that long...

[walterjenne]

Aug 17, 2015 10:36:30 GMT -5 isolemnlyswear said:

Aug 17, 2015 10:26:51 GMT -5 hurricanerek said:

This is my third week without a computer. Ugh. I was supposed to buy one today but I'm starting back at work today and won't have time.

DD woke me 4 times last night and tooth #13 popped through this morning. That's more teeth than months of age.

I feel you on the teeth! C's 13th tooth popped through Friday. It took a month for it to come in! I'm praying the other three don't take that long...

Wow! We only have 5 teeth thus far.

[isolemnlyswear]

Aug 17, 2015 11:48:05 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Aug 17, 2015 10:37:45 GMT -5 walterjenne said:

Wow! We only have 5 teeth thus far.

We have 6. 13?!?!

Yea...we got our first two teeth before 4 months. Her molars were in by 10 1/2 months. I'm so sick of teething.

[liziz]

Aug 17, 2015 12:01:29 GMT -5 isolemnlyswear said:

Aug 17, 2015 11:48:05 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

We have 6. 13?!?!

Yea...we got our first two teeth before 4 months. Her molars were in by 10 1/2 months. I'm so sick of teething.

At least you'll be done sooner?

We have 4.5 (4 completely in, #5 noticeable and #6 just breaking through) I think we'll be in this process forever.

[anotherdreamer]

Aug 17, 2015 12:34:24 GMT -5 liziz said:

Aug 17, 2015 12:01:29 GMT -5 isolemnlyswear said:

Yea...we got our first two teeth before 4 months. Her molars were in by 10 1/2 months. I'm so sick of teething.

At least you'll be done sooner?

We have 4.5 (4 completely in, #5 noticeable and #6 just breaking through) I think we'll be in this process forever.

+1 for slow teethers. Both of mine are cutting front top incisiors. Those make #4&5 for DD2, and #5&6 for DD1.

They have been extra bitey when nursing... extra MBF.

[honeybee434]

I don't want to be at work. I want to go play with DD. Ugh. No motivation!

[sararl07]

Allergies have hit me full force and have coughed so much I now have laryngitis

Bri 1st top tooth finally appeared ...but she has been super clingy all weekend

I put in a full work day yesterday and completed a 75 slide presentation and missed hanging with baby girl and sleeping off sickness

Bri gets moved up to the the 12-18 month room today and I wasn't notified until drop off...explaining to the new daycare worker how easy her cloth diapers are and she kept asking me when she would move into real diapers. I told them they were real diapers. Her new room only has one nap a day and in no crib ground mattress and blankets that they put down for nap time. I'm sure she is going to be a joy all this week.

[honeybee434]

Aug 17, 2015 13:46:48 GMT -5 sararl07 said:

Allergies have hit me full force and have coughed so much I now have laryngitis

Bri 1st top tooth finally appeared ...but she has been super clingy all weekend

I put in a full work day yesterday and completed a 75 slide presentation and missed hanging with baby girl and sleeping off sickness

Bri gets moved up to the the 12-18 month room today and I wasn't notified until drop off...explaining to the new daycare worker how easy her cloth diapers are and she kept asking me when she would move into real diapers. I told them they were real diapers. Her new room only has one nap a day and in no crib ground mattress and blankets that they put down for nap time. I'm sure she is going to be a joy all this week.

This was one of my concerns when we went to look at daycares months ago. The 1 year old rooms all had mats on the floor that the babies lay on to sleep. Nothing else. One place actually had pack n plays they said they use to transition and the lady even said they didn't expect them to just be able to do that right away, but it was only one place. The rest it was just like a normal thing to have them lay there. No way would DD be able to put herself down like that, especially with other kids and toys in her view!

[liziz]

Aug 17, 2015 13:46:48 GMT -5 sararl07 said:

Allergies have hit me full force and have coughed so much I now have laryngitis

Bri 1st top tooth finally appeared ...but she has been super clingy all weekend

I put in a full work day yesterday and completed a 75 slide presentation and missed hanging with baby girl and sleeping off sickness

Bri gets moved up to the the 12-18 month room today and I wasn't notified until drop off...explaining to the new daycare worker how easy her cloth diapers are and she kept asking me when she would move into real diapers. I told them they were real diapers. Her new room only has one nap a day and in no crib ground mattress and blankets that they put down for nap time. I'm sure she is going to be a joy all this week.

Sorry you don't feel well, and also that they didn't tell you about the transition in advance. I'd be frustrated!

[bullybutt]

I am going to be in TX next week for a work conference and I'm taking my mom and kiddos with me because the hotel has a water park. I told Finkle that I would be gone and asked if I could switch him Tues for Friday (that would give him 3 days in a row with them). He told me No.

Such a dick. I'll remember that come hunting season when he wants to switch days so that he can be gone all weekend. FUcker.

[jnnfrrose6]

Aug 17, 2015 13:46:48 GMT -5 sararl07 said:

Allergies have hit me full force and have coughed so much I now have laryngitis

Bri 1st top tooth finally appeared ...but she has been super clingy all weekend

I put in a full work day yesterday and completed a 75 slide presentation and missed hanging with baby girl and sleeping off sickness

Bri gets moved up to the the 12-18 month room today and I wasn't notified until drop off...explaining to the new daycare worker how easy her cloth diapers are and she kept asking me when she would move into real diapers. I told them they were real diapers. Her new room only has one nap a day and in no crib ground mattress and blankets that they put down for nap time. I'm sure she is going to be a joy all this week.

That's awful they didn't notify you sooner. We get a letter at least a week before that we have to sign to confirm we know it's happening and we're ok with it. DD moved up right around her birthday, so it's been about 6 weeksin the new room with 1 nap and on a mat on the floor. They will sit next to the new kids in the room for nap time and help settle them and keep them from wandering, but they're usually so worn out since they didn't get the first nap that it isn't too much of an issue. We're still doing 2 naps at home on the weekends, though. 

[soon2bmrsn]

Today was our teacher meetings. We got an email promising free breakfast so I took advantage (getting up early and getting all the kids to daycare wouldn't have left me much time to eat anyway...) In the past, this has meant Panera and therefore decent coffee. When I get to work (5 minutes late), it's donuts - not even good ones - and the weakest, grossest coffee ever. What a let down. I should have eaten at home and made myself some decent coffee!

[soon2bmrsn]

Oh, and the school's wifi is worse than I remember. I'm sure I'll appreciate that my students can't easily check FB/IG/Twitter but I am grumpy that I can't either.

[dawnfire]

bullybutt, what part of TX? Sounds like you are either going to Great Wolf Lodge or a Schlitterbahn!

Sorry Finkle is being an asshat, though. What a jerk.

[dawnfire]

Trying not to feel overwhelmed that in a week and a half, I'll be doing the job of two people plus training a new person to try to bring her up to speed. Not to mention coverage is going to be that much shorter with being down another person.

On the plus side, at least the kids will be back in school so the horror of summer will be over. (Sorry teachers.)

[surfmama106]

I'm awake and it's 4:30am. I thought I was past this, but looks like no.

School starts in two weeks for me yay for not now but boo for eventually. The only thing I'm looking forward to is showering bc I definitely give that up each day for some time on the couch while L naps.

@soontobemrsn I don't remember the last time we had decent breakfast at school. It's usually stale bagels and burnt coffee. I skip that and come in late after treating myself to an egg sandwich and Starbucks.

Also constipated.

Also I think participation trophies are crap. Give ribbons, or certificates, but trophies? That should be for MVP, sportsmanship, and championship team. Although I was always on the winning team, and always got MVP so I always got a trophy but I would have made me feel less important if so did everyone else just for showing up. Maybe I'll feel different once L and future LOs are playing, but I doubt it.

[Lola]

Continued bitch from yesterday and sunday. Shit totally hit the fan in our house last night. When we got home from dinner the big boys facetimed their mom and her boyfriend (this is the man that DH found her cheating with; she is still with him). We usually give them privacy on the phone, but this time we heard them both crying saying how they missed them and didn't want to be at our house anymore.
DH lost it. He was a crying mess, I was, and then once they hung up, the oldest one was. DH is so depressed. I know we didn't handle it correctly. We do everything we can to make them happy, want to be with us and enjoy their time at our house, but last night it was like we couldn't do enough. They think their moms house is more fun because they have a pool and she has cool cars (thats what they said). They don't understand that we pay a crap ton a month for them and half of all of the shit they have there.
I don't know how we move forward. I dont know if we say something to their mom or just continue to talk to the boys about how much we love them. Today DH drops them off, so im sure tonight he will be a mess again. I don't know how to be more supportive of him. He feels like its his fault that he doesn't see them because he chose to leave her. He thinks they like her boyfriend better than him because they call him dad and often refer to him as his first name. He thinks they don't feel like he's around enough, but he's with them every seconds he's allowed to be. I just don't know what to do.

[mamanorris]

I do think have any advice Lola, just hugs. My heart hurts for your dh. I can't imagine how hurt he is.

[honeybee434]

Lola All the hugs to you with all of this. I wish I had wise advice for you. :/

[Lola]

Aug 18, 2015 8:58:00 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

I do think have any advice Lola, just hugs. My heart hurts for your dh. I can't imagine how hurt he is.

Thanks. I think whats most hurtful is that the little one doesn't know any different. His stepdad has been in his life since he was 4 months old (or earlier, who knows), so will say that he likes him better without second thought. His life has always had two dads, one who he spends majority of the time with. DH cant handle that. Especially when its the man that he found in bed with his wife. 

Do you think its bad to suggest to his ex-wife that we want to go to family counselling? 

[littlemissmarla]

Aug 18, 2015 3:31:40 GMT -5 surfmama106 said:

I'm awake and it's 4:30am. I thought I was past this, but looks like no.

School starts in two weeks for me yay for not now but boo for eventually. The only thing I'm looking forward to is showering bc I definitely give that up each day for some time on the couch while L naps.

@soontobemrsn I don't remember the last time we had decent breakfast at school. It's usually stale bagels and burnt coffee. I skip that and come in late after treating myself to an egg sandwich and Starbucks.

Also constipated.

Also I think participation trophies are crap. Give ribbons, or certificates, but trophies? That should be for MVP, sportsmanship, and championship team. Although I was always on the winning team, and always got MVP so I always got a trophy but I would have made me feel less important if so did everyone else just for showing up. Maybe I'll feel different once L and future LOs are playing, but I doubt it.

CONSTIPATION!!!! Horrible.. all the sympathies. I had that so bad in the first tri... so terrible!