DD continues to thrive. She's wrapping up her first summer at day camp, and it was the best decision ever. She starts her final year of Montessori next month.
DH and I are going to Ireland next month for our wedding anniversary. My parents are coming to stay with DD, then they're going to Montreal. I want their retirement
We're going to visit DH's mom next month, and we're spending the day at an amusement park with DD's birth family. We are so excited to see them.
Post by gnomesweetgnome on Aug 22, 2015 11:09:39 GMT -5
Sounds like everything is going great for you, @bookworm92!
Things here are good. B is amazing, learning and talking more and more every day. We got to meet his BF at his birthday party back in July, and it went very smoothly. He seems like a genuinely good guy, and any "bad blood" between us due to the delay of our adoption because of his court filings has evaporated. Hoping that we continue to see him occasionally and have a good relationship!
We are probably a week or two away from getting our foster care license, so we may be adding 1-2 kiddos under age 2 to our home soon. DH is at the car dealership now seeing about selling his car so we can get a minivan. I'm slightly freaking out about how to care for 2 or 3 kids under age 3, but I guess I'll just figure it out as I go along.
Bookworm I love your update! I'm so happy to hear that your itinerary is in place, sounds like it will be a great time!
Afm: I haven't posted in a while...we found out about 2 weeks ago that the expectant father was all of sudden contesting the adoption (when he was first contacted in May, he was fine, agreed to the adoption, said he'd sign whatever....apparently he lied, said he didn't believe it was a real adoption agency and it was expectant mother's family playing games) then a few days after him contesting, he stated he just wanted everything the expectant mother was getting (including money, she's not getting money, Pa doesn't have living expenses) and he'd be in Pa the following week to meet us.... we were totally blown away by this. Needless to say, I was a bit of a mess. Fast forward to today...he has not returned any phone calls and we have no clue where he stands. So we are in limbo. I'd be more than happy to have him involved! We are moving forward and proceeding with building a relationship with expectant mother and her family. Only time will tell.
Post by theatrepal on Aug 22, 2015 11:57:23 GMT -5
We are still waiting to be matched. The wait is starting to feel long. I just want to move on to being a mama of a kiddo here on earth. Maybe soon? Maybe.
That sounds like an amazing itinerary, @bookworm92! Have a wonderful trip!
We just got our foster care license in the mail this past Monday! Now we are just waiting for the call from our case manager about a placement. We have been checking our phones constantly! We are so excited for our first placement, but we're trying to enjoy what might be our last days/weeks without children in our home. We aren't sure if we'll be waiting days, weeks, or months for our first placement, so it's tricky to really prepare. I try to leave work each day with all of my things in order, so that my coworkers can cover for me if we get an emergency placement that evening...!
We are open to ages 0-4, up to 2 kids at a time, and are hoping to adopt but are willing to foster as well. There are so many unknowns! No matter what happens, our lives are about to change in a big way...
@bookworm92 - You are going to have an amazing trip!! Sounds so awesome! I'm so glad you have such a wonderful relationship with your son's family! ceejay - Congrats on getting your license. I hope you have a short wait for a placement! alaskadee - I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope the guy drops it and things can continue on as they were. Best of luck with that crappy situation. gnomesweetgnome - I hope you get your license soon and get a placement quickly! drl - Have an awesome time in Ireland! theatrepal - I hope you get matched soon!
As you know from my most recent post, we're waiting for our social worker to finish making whatever revisions to our homestudy that were requested by her supervisor. This will probably take forever, so we expect to receive our foster license sometime in the next 3 years.
Sounds like a busy but wonderful journey planned @bookworm92!
AFM, after spending a lot of time researching various agencies. I found some side-eye worthy ones and some that just weren't a fit for us. We went to an orientation at a local agency and fell in love with it and the services they offer.
Unfortunately because it is a fairly small agency, they work with a relatively small number of family's so we are on a waiting list. We're hopeful that the wait won't be too long before we can move forward.
Post by wesleycrusher on Aug 22, 2015 18:31:29 GMT -5
The social worker is coming to our house for the first time Tuesday to meet with us, we hope to get more of an idea of the timeline to move my nephew here. So of course I am frantically cleaning.
Added on top of that, starting Monday our entire back concrete patio is being removed, a new retaining wall built and the whole thing relayed and all the concrete around our house is being repaired. So we have to put all the toys, table, chairs, etc out of the way. It doesn't help my anxiety level. Lots to do!
We started PRIDE class for foster care. I am currently looking for a new job. I am worried changing jobs will delay our home study stuff , but I really want to work on getting a new job!
SO did amazing at our PRIDE class and I was really impressed with his interaction.
Post by browneyes8 on Aug 23, 2015 13:20:50 GMT -5
Not much to report here...enjoying the rest of our summer as a family of 4.
Our little guy is not so little- weighed a little under 17 lbs at his 2 month appointment and was 25 1/2"! He's starting to smile and engage which is fun. Big brother is still adjusting and getting ready for his second year of preschool- I am so grateful and blessed to be mommy to them both!!
We are moving this week and I'm so tired and done. The house is jam packed with boxes and there just is nowhere to be with the kids. Think some good thoughts for us that our closings and move goes smoothly.
Kids are doing well. Our oldest is just about 2.5 and our baby is 10 months. He's a beast - he is 22 lb. Our toddler is talking up a storm . Oh and we have been in the "why" stage for the past 2 months.
As for us, we're in a bit of a predicament with BM right now. She isn't in a great place and has cut off contact with me for the time being. DH and I have some serious conversations ahead of us as to how we are going to proceed with her relationship with DS. Ugh.
Post by hootiemommytobe on Aug 24, 2015 12:37:10 GMT -5
I love your update @bookworm92!! Your trip sounds amazing and I am quite jealous! LOL! I hope you have the best time while you are in Europe!
Update on me is the same as it's always been...still waiting. We've made it to the 1 year mark of waiting back on August 7th. Our agency has told us from day 1 that their average wait is 18 months. Very rarely have they had anyone wait longer than that, although they have had a few who waited for 3 years. Right now, our agency is super slow. I keep in contact with my SW every few weeks because I'm just an impatient person and I want an update, even if it's the same "we're slow" story. LOL. She told me they are doing everything they can to market their agency. I still love this agency and don't want to start looking elsewhere, but like theatrepal said, I am ready to be a Mama! I talk way too much about my kid that isn't here yet. LOL. But, that's what helps me get through the days. People might call me crazy, but oh well.
Thank you all for sharing your updates. @bookworm92, what an amazing trip that will be for you. I am so happy for you and can't wait to hear all about it.
As for us, we went live in the books on 7/27 so I'm not that far into my wait. We were asked if we wanted to be shown for a close match last week and after some deep soul searching we respectfully declined. Without going into too much detail, I can say that there was more prenatal exposure than we were comfortable with. After trying for so very long, it felt surreal and counterintuitive to decline our very first chance of being parents. But I know it was the right decision and I think the right situation will come along one day.
We are starting to decorate the nursery - it gets painted in a few weeks and we're buying furniture soon. My mom and sisters are throwing me a baby shower late next month. While I still feel a little anxious about these things, I am also very excited by them. I am accepting that a baby is in our future, regardless of how long he or she takes to get here. And being prepared makes me happy.
alaskadee, how very nerve wracking. I hope everything works out in the best possible way and that you are out of limbo soon!
---- 39 years old, MH is 43 TTC since 2010; Dx Unexplained Infertility; possible male factor 6 IUIs, 1 IVF, 2 FETs, 1 mmc, 1 CP Started Adoption process Feb 2015, officially waiting July 2015
The social worker is coming to our house for the first time Tuesday to meet with us, we hope to get more of an idea of the timeline to move my nephew here. So of course I am frantically cleaning.
It is easier said than done but don't stress yourself out too much with the cleaning. Though, I didn't listen when people told me that. They are looking for safety things, not clean things.
That sounds like an amazing itinerary, @bookworm92! Have a wonderful trip!
We just got our foster care license in the mail this past Monday! Now we are just waiting for the call from our case manager about a placement. We have been checking our phones constantly! We are so excited for our first placement, but we're trying to enjoy what might be our last days/weeks without children in our home. We aren't sure if we'll be waiting days, weeks, or months for our first placement, so it's tricky to really prepare. I try to leave work each day with all of my things in order, so that my coworkers can cover for me if we get an emergency placement that evening...!
We are open to ages 0-4, up to 2 kids at a time, and are hoping to adopt but are willing to foster as well. There are so many unknowns! No matter what happens, our lives are about to change in a big way...
We are in opposite land, I have the kids and am waiting on the license. You have the license and are waiting for the kids!
That sounds like an amazing itinerary, @bookworm92! Have a wonderful trip!
We just got our foster care license in the mail this past Monday! Now we are just waiting for the call from our case manager about a placement. We have been checking our phones constantly! We are so excited for our first placement, but we're trying to enjoy what might be our last days/weeks without children in our home. We aren't sure if we'll be waiting days, weeks, or months for our first placement, so it's tricky to really prepare. I try to leave work each day with all of my things in order, so that my coworkers can cover for me if we get an emergency placement that evening...!
We are open to ages 0-4, up to 2 kids at a time, and are hoping to adopt but are willing to foster as well. There are so many unknowns! No matter what happens, our lives are about to change in a big way...
We are in opposite land, I have the kids and am waiting on the license. You have the license and are waiting for the kids!
Hopefully we will both have the license AND kids before too long!
Post by shemarie82 on Aug 24, 2015 14:46:36 GMT -5
We are in the very last days (hopefully) of being unlicensed. I got a call this morning on two documents that the state was missing. Our licensing person said that if she got everything back today, then she would expect us to be licensed by the end of the day. Unfortunately, other people aren't working on my timeline and the one will not be sent in until tomorrow.
We have for exactly 2 months now been doing respite care for 15 month old twins with the expectation that we will foster them once approved. We spend as much time with them as we can to make the transition as easy on them as possible. They actually fuss for us when we drop them off now.
As excited as I am to have them, I know that it will be hard on the older kids when they leave so that makes me a little sad. Especially the older brothers, they know that they are coming to live with us, but it will be hard for them.
Post by twocents6708 on Aug 24, 2015 15:22:37 GMT -5
We are waiting to hear from a licensing worker about a home visit. We did all of our paperwork a month ago and had to wait on background checks. We heard from a worker on Friday who said our backgrounds came back clear and wanted to enroll us in the 9 week classes for full time fostering. We reminded her that we are only doing respite fostering at this time and have already completed the respite training online. She apologized and said she would send our info to a worker and that we should expect to hear from someone this week to set up a home visit and complete the home study. Trying to focus my energy on redecorating the play room to distract myself from being frustrated.
We are still fostering, but since the mother isn't in the best place right now, they have moved onto other relatives. They don't like kids in foster care too long, and the girls have been in for 18 months. We'll see what happens.
The social worker is coming to our house for the first time Tuesday to meet with us, we hope to get more of an idea of the timeline to move my nephew here. So of course I am frantically cleaning.
It is easier said than done but don't stress yourself out too much with the cleaning. Though, I didn't listen when people told me that. They are looking for safety things, not clean things.
It's not so much cleaning as organizing. With 2 kids we just have to be more organized. We took things out of the guest room to make it nephew's room but then that stuff needed to be moved into different rooms and the basement, but the basement is full of crap that we've been meaning to organize and/or donate. At least it has motivated me to do all the stuff I've been meaning to but kept putting off.
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