DH let me sleep in this morning. DS woke up screaming "C where are you?" My brother went home shortly after he woke up. DS has been in a good mood all weekend
Post by everydayimshuffling on Aug 30, 2015 8:11:19 GMT -5
numbersgirl08 I like how you put it, the highs are higher and the lows are lower. Having one in the baby stage and one in the toddler stage I can see contrast between the younger and older ages side by side. Babies are just so in the moment and just need what they need. Toddlers are either amazing or awful. There's no in between.
Post by nursemommy13 on Aug 30, 2015 8:18:44 GMT -5
I do drop offs. I get her up in the morning, get her ready, get me ready, feed us both, and get her to school and me to work. When my mom gets off for the day, she will pick M up, feed her dinner, put her to bed. Unless I get off work early, then all that is on me. (I wish I did both drop offs and pick ups!) I pee alone when I'm at work. I eat alone when I'm at work. If I'm home, M is with me and I'm doing it all by myself. My parents are still just grandparents. They let us do our own thing. I do every drop of discipline with her. Does it sting when she wants Papa cause mommy is mean? Yeah. Does it really make me want to cry when she tells me she wants to go to dada's house? Hell yeah it does.
And I'm not saying M is the perfect little child. She has her good days and she has her bad days. She throws tantrums. But I guess I just figured it's part of this age and just roll with it. Maybe it's just my personality too, I don't let a whole lot get to me anyways, whether it be home, work, personal life.
And cl8badb- I'm sorry you had a bad week with J. I don't know what happened because the post was gone by the time I got to it. So don't mind me, I wasn't trying to make anyone feel bad or brag about my kid. Sorry to all who took it that way.
It's all about their personalities as well. I've been told that I was a challenging child. My parent often laugh and tell me X sounds familiar when I'm complaining about something DS did. And he definitely has my personality and willfulness.
My parents waited until I was almost 4 before they decided to have another. I never stopped, never napped, and fought bedtime like crazy. My mom recently told me that DS is a bit more active than I was.
The biggest break through for us was figuring out that we needed to let DS do things. D do or my turn is a constant phrase that we hear. He's less likely to throw a tantrum if we let him to X. Of course it's not always feasible and DH often forgets cause it's faster if DH does it and a massive tantrum often happens as a result.
It's all about their personalities as well. I've been told that I was a challenging child. My parent often laugh and tell me X sounds familiar when I'm complaining about something DS did. And he definitely has my personality and willfulness.
My parents waited until I was almost 4 before they decided to have another. I never stopped, never napped, and fought bedtime like crazy. My mom recently told me that DS is a bit more active than I was.
The biggest break through for us was figuring out that we needed to let DS do things. D do or my turn is a constant phrase that we hear. He's less likely to throw a tantrum if we let him to X. Of course it's not always feasible and DH often forgets cause it's faster if DH does it and a massive tantrum often happens as a result.
That's what I do. If it's something that she can do, then I usually always let her. She will throw her fits if it's something I tell her no, but it definitely helps to let her do things herself.
Played a few new games last night. Exploding kittens, a ton of fun. Also played Dutch Blitz, which is an insane multi player type solitare game. It brought out my competitive nature
I do drop offs. I get her up in the morning, get her ready, get me ready, feed us both, and get her to school and me to work. When my mom gets off for the day, she will pick M up, feed her dinner, put her to bed. Unless I get off work early, then all that is on me. (I wish I did both drop offs and pick ups!) I pee alone when I'm at work. I eat alone when I'm at work. If I'm home, M is with me and I'm doing it all by myself. My parents are still just grandparents. They let us do our own thing. I do every drop of discipline with her. Does it sting when she wants Papa cause mommy is mean? Yeah. Does it really make me want to cry when she tells me she wants to go to dada's house? Hell yeah it does.
And I'm not saying M is the perfect little child. She has her good days and she has her bad days. She throws tantrums. But I guess I just figured it's part of this age and just roll with it. Maybe it's just my personality too, I don't let a whole lot get to me anyways, whether it be home, work, personal life.
And cl8badb- I'm sorry you had a bad week with J. I don't know what happened because the post was gone by the time I got to it. So don't mind me, I wasn't trying to make anyone feel bad or brag about my kid. Sorry to all who took it that way.
I really didn't meant I imply your parents do it for you, sorry. Just really meant you might have occasional help or a buffer occasionally and it makes a difference.
You have a good head for toddler age group. And it sounds like M shares your personality and easy going ness. Which is great.
Like kames, L is just like me. We butt heads.
Also, I take the phone with me to the bathroom at work, so really don't get to pee alone, like ever
This is how i feel about it too. I dont think your parents are "parenting" for you BUT theyre there. If youre all home at the same time and you put M down for a nap you can say "hey mom im going to xyz"... When J naps im stuck home. When my mom comes over for a few days she doesnt parent J. I still do everything. She may cook here and there but i do all things J related. Its nice to go in another room and know my mom has an eye on him. Its nice to shower or pee without keeping an eye on him. Etc
Even when youre at work youre still doing your thing.
Dont get me wrong, up until last week i didnt mind spending every minute with J but now im beginning to think that he is acting the way he is bc im the one around all the time. Im the one who has to tell him what he cant do. He doesnt get to miss me.
Theres a lot more but im getting ready to go to a party. Sorry to semi post and run.
Played a few new games last night. Exploding kittens, a ton of fun. Also played Dutch Blitz, which is an insane multi player type solitare game. It brought out my competitive nature
I love Dutch Blitz! My BIL and his wife are here this weekend and we played last night. I actually won, which I rarely do at that game, bc MH is lightning speed.
Post by heelibrarian on Aug 30, 2015 10:16:11 GMT -5
Sure, DS, let's go down to Denver and give SH MORE time to himself. I'd love for us to not be home so he can relax in the peace and quiet. Excellent idea.
I really didn't meant I imply your parents do it for you, sorry. Just really meant you might have occasional help or a buffer occasionally and it makes a difference.
You have a good head for toddler age group. And it sounds like M shares your personality and easy going ness. Which is great.
Like kames, L is just like me. We butt heads.
Also, I take the phone with me to the bathroom at work, so really don't get to pee alone, like ever
This is how i feel about it too. I dont think your parents are "parenting" for you BUT theyre there. If youre all home at the same time and you put M down for a nap you can say "hey mom im going to xyz"... When J naps im stuck home. When my mom comes over for a few days she doesnt parent J. I still do everything. She may cook here and there but i do all things J related. Its nice to go in another room and know my mom has an eye on him. Its nice to shower or pee without keeping an eye on him. Etc
Even when youre at work youre still doing your thing.
Dont get me wrong, up until last week i didnt mind spending every minute with J but now im beginning to think that he is acting the way he is bc im the one around all the time. Im the one who has to tell him what he cant do. He doesnt get to miss me.
Theres a lot more but im getting ready to go to a party. Sorry to semi post and run.
I may be *able* to do that, but I don't. And I'm not usually able to do it anyways cause my parents work. They do their own thing on the weekends. I'm not trying to argue I just get a lot from people that 'oh you have it so easy cause you have your parents' help' and I really don't. People that have husbands have more help than I do.
Played a few new games last night. Exploding kittens, a ton of fun. Also played Dutch Blitz, which is an insane multi player type solitare game. It brought out my competitive nature
I love Dutch Blitz! My BIL and his wife are here this weekend and we played last night. I actually won, which I rarely do at that game, bc MH is lightning speed.
Before I took over for DH, I was telling him he was going to slow!
Sure, DS, let's go down to Denver and give SH MORE time to himself. I'd love for us to not be home so he can relax in the peace and quiet. Excellent idea.
I think a lot of it depends on how much your husband is able to do. Last spring and summer my husband was consumed with house projects and grad school so I did a lot on my own. Regardless of if I had been home with Miss A all day or had been at work it's still hard to do it by yourself. I doubt nursemommy13 considers 12 hour shifts with demanding patients a break. I completely get that staying home when your husband works long hours is hard, but so is working too. It's rubbing me the wrong way to hear going to work being referred to as a break. Many ladies here have stressful job and a lot of responsibilities to balance.
Post by nursemommy13 on Aug 30, 2015 11:11:04 GMT -5
Does anyone else's kiddo complain of leg pain? Like it's not bad or causing waking issues like with thatblondie and peachey's experience, but M will complain of 'My leg feels hurt.' My mom said all of us kiddos used to get bad leg pains and so did she. I still get leg aches after being on my feet all day. So I just gave M some ibuprofen and she's running around like a crazy kid now. Just curious if anyone else hears this complaint.
This is how i feel about it too. I dont think your parents are "parenting" for you BUT theyre there. If youre all home at the same time and you put M down for a nap you can say "hey mom im going to xyz"... When J naps im stuck home. When my mom comes over for a few days she doesnt parent J. I still do everything. She may cook here and there but i do all things J related. Its nice to go in another room and know my mom has an eye on him. Its nice to shower or pee without keeping an eye on him. Etc
Even when youre at work youre still doing your thing.
Dont get me wrong, up until last week i didnt mind spending every minute with J but now im beginning to think that he is acting the way he is bc im the one around all the time. Im the one who has to tell him what he cant do. He doesnt get to miss me.
Theres a lot more but im getting ready to go to a party. Sorry to semi post and run.
I may be *able* to do that, but I don't. And I'm not usually able to do it anyways cause my parents work. They do their own thing on the weekends. I'm not trying to argue I just get a lot from people that 'oh you have it so easy cause you have your parents' help' and I really don't. People that have husbands have more help than I do.
Not this mom with a husband. Dh has a hell of a commute. He leaves before m wakes up for the day and gets home from work one hour before M's bed time. All the child rearing falls on me because dh is never here.
I think all moms have it hard and in different ways.
Does anyone else's kiddo complain of leg pain? Like it's not bad or causing waking issues like with thatblondie and peachey's experience, but M will complain of 'My leg feels hurt.' My mom said all of us kiddos used to get bad leg pains and so did she. I still get leg aches after being on my feet all day. So I just gave M some ibuprofen and she's running around like a crazy kid now. Just curious if anyone else hears this complaint.
Yes, my lo does too. It doesn't happen all the time but I've realized he complains right before I've realized he's hit a growth spurt
Does anyone else's kiddo complain of leg pain? Like it's not bad or causing waking issues like with thatblondie and peachey's experience, but M will complain of 'My leg feels hurt.' My mom said all of us kiddos used to get bad leg pains and so did she. I still get leg aches after being on my feet all day. So I just gave M some ibuprofen and she's running around like a crazy kid now. Just curious if anyone else hears this complaint.
Yes, my lo does too. It doesn't happen all the time but I've realized he complains right before I've realized he's hit a growth spurt
Yes, my lo does too. It doesn't happen all the time but I've realized he complains right before I've realized he's hit a growth spurt
I was wondering if that could be it!
It took me a while to put it together!! I noticed he complains of pain when he sleeps a ton and it seems to be the week after he eats everything in sight lol
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