Counseling question
Aug 25, 2015 16:39:43 GMT -5
Post by Ray on Aug 25, 2015 16:39:43 GMT -5
I've seen the counselor only a few times and finally stopped going a few weeks ago. I wasn't feeling like it was all that helpful. She talked to me a lot about learning to accept things and changing my reactions to stimuli...but I really feel like I can still change my circumstances, particularly as it relates to work. I don't know, I felt like she was coaching me to deal with it rather than to take control of certain aspects of my life.
Bottom line: I am not ready to accept things the way they are and just learn to cope.
A big part of my anxiety stems from the fact that I feel like I have absolutely ZERO say in my life, particularly when it comes to my job. I can't quit, can't go PT, can't take a lower stress job that pays a little less because MH doesn't work and it's all on me to pay the bills. I am looking for something new, but you know how that goes. Send a million resumes out at maybe one will answer. And then nobody gives a salary range anymore so when I interview it's always a coin flip whether or not I am wasting my time interviewing for a job that pays too little.
I guess re: counselors and what she has been coaching, is that typical? Is that what I'm going to get? I am wondering if it is worth it to try and find another, if it will be the same, if I am giving up on counseling too quickly...
Thoughts?
this first thing that my counsellor said to me when we started was that if any time I felt like it wasn't working, or I didn't like counselling, that I should tell her and she would help set me up with a different counsellor vs. me just quitting counselling. I know my friend went through 3 before she found one that she clicked with. They all have different styles and approaches I guess and you have to find a good fit for you.
HTH