Post by baileybaileybne on Aug 28, 2015 12:52:34 GMT -5
FFFC: I find it really frustrating that people frequently complain about the tone of the board but don't participate in it to make it more interesting/give a broader range of perspectives.
Yep, it used to be better. So make it better again.
I heart you! I was going to post this! Andplusalso I hate that this board has morphed into the land of rainbows, glitter, and lavender scented unicorn farts. WTF June '15! What happened?
Parenting has all the snark and none of the glitter. Kinda like the good ole days!
i cant keep up with parenting. their UO thread was 30 pages long and at that point I don't give a shit what annoys you. i'd rather watch a movie or cook dinner then spend 2 hours reading that many posts.
FFFC: I find it really frustrating that people frequently complain about the tone of the board but don't participate in it to make it more interesting/give a broader range of perspectives.
Yep, it used to be better. So make it better again.
This...I know I haven't been as active, but that will change when I go back to work. I think we need to get back to the point where we're not afraid to disagree with each other. In real life, that never happens. I don't know why people have to get so upset when we don't all agree on the board. It keeps things interesting! I hope everybody at least tries to get this board back to where it used to be.
baileybaileybneI think the people complaining on this thread about the tone of the board are usually not afraid to give their opinions despite what others may think about it. They are also not usually afraid to call others out on their BS. That, to me, is how the tone of the board should go.
This to the bolded. It takes more than three people to make it interesting. Exhibit A... the fact that @jemomma's comment is largely being ignored.
And I'm pretty sure we are all referring to the same shade throwing asshole.
When TTC this LO I "tried" for a girl. Now when I say "tried" I mean that we got pregnant on our first month NTNP and I was NOT temping to even know when I O'd. I just guessed based on that fact that my periods were always regular. Shetfles Method I think it was called?
FFC PART II- When we TTC #2 (for the first month) I will try and "follow the method" again for a boy. But I will be (and would have been) just as happy with the opposite sex!
***puts on flame suit***
As long as you don't buy into the fact that Shettles actually works and accept that it could decrease your chances of getting pregnant by avoiding sex on certain days. I'm sure you know this, but you were very lucky to conceive so quickly and it may not happen again that way the second time around.
Which is why I was ok with doing it while NTNP- if we were actually working to TTC (temping, etc) I would definitely NOT decrease my chances like that! When thinking about conceiving LO we were "just going to have fun for a few months (NTNP) and then get serious (temping)". We were very lucky and are very grateful for that!
Needing a nap at home is a toddler thing. They get too stimulated out in public then they are overtired then the meltdown commences. A few days here or there we let DD go without but we usually modify our schedules if necessary so that she gets some sort of nap in the 12-4pm range.
I'm not sure if you're implying that needing a nap at home is NOT a baby thing, but my baby will take two 2-3 hour naps if we stay home. If we're out he will only stay asleep for a half hour or so. And he will certainly be melting down because of that! So it probably depends on the baby. But yes, I stay home for the majority of the day. At least until 3pm or so when he's had his two solid naps.
My FFFC? I don't care too much about the tone of the board. Whether it stays like this or becomes more snarky won't affect me too much. If I have something to say, or disagree, I have no problem speaking up. After being on TTGP and lurking parenting, this board (like all BMBs) was always kittens and rainbows in comparison.
This is a good way of putting it. We've never really had the same dynamics as Parenting for example.
I agree, I don't need it to be snarky or dramatic. I enjoy lurking in May to get that desire met However, I DO wish more people would participate more regularly. It would make it more interesting.
Post by carolyngrace on Aug 28, 2015 13:22:09 GMT -5
A personal confession, because I still feel awful about this and need to put it out there somewhere. If you all flame me i'll probably feel better because I feel I deserve to be punished!
When one of my best friends was out of the country for a year I borrowed one of her dresses from her house. I spilled wine on it at dinner and rather than try and clean it I threw it away. I kind of had the thought "she has so many anyway, I've never seen her wear this, and she has most of her clothes out of the country so she won't notice..."
Well, pretty much as soon as she came back and got settled she mentioned the dress, like "It's the weirdest thing, I can't find this dress of mine that I know I left here!" and I didn't say anything because I felt so bad. I meant to tell her later, but I never have.
I feel more bad about keeping the secret from her than about ruining her dress. But I feel awful about both, to be honest. Ugh!
Yep to the judgement and not enough interesting chat. I'm guilty of the latter.
Fffc: I don't always mind the hair patting and unicorn farts, which thank god are nowhere near how it was on TD. I'm prob what a lot of ppl find wrong with this board. But in my defense I do like debate too, but its clear that we just don't do that well...the last few months, even when something interesting is posted, no one responds anyway.
I think hair pats are fine when it comes to questions about our LO's. But threads like the UO or FFFC are meant to stir things up, so why not just be real with how you feel?
Seriously. I could say I think avocados are gross or If you think Donald Trump is a viable presidential candidate you are a fucking moron an I judge the ever loving shit out of you or We should be arming our children in schools for their own protection, and they would all generate the same emotional response. which is...
This to the bolded. It takes more than three people to make it interesting. Exhibit A... the fact that @jemomma's comment is largely being ignored.
And I'm pretty sure we are all referring to the same shade throwing asshole.
Okay, I'll weigh in then. Here is my perspective on that: I am pretty sure I know who everyone is talking about, and I would agree that that person has strong opinions and says things in a very self-assured way and tends to light a fire under people's asses and livens up the discussion and gets people disagreeing with and responding to her.
Which is exactly what most people in this thread are saying they want.
Well, except she doesn't do it in a way meant to promote discussion. She's just a condescending bitch who thinks she's an authority everything.
I'm also not promoting unnecessary snark or drama but something other than What are you having for lunch? and What kind of nipple cream should I buy? would be nice. Seriously, this board is comprised of educated, intelligent women for the most part. Show some signs of life.
carolyngrace - I'm all about honesty. Usually. In this case, I don't believe any good would come of being honest. You would only be telling the truth to make yourself feel better. Your friend won't get her dress back and She will probably be mad at you for throwing it away and then lying to her about it. I would keep my mouth shut.
This scenario sounds like a plot line from a show or movie, btw!
Yeah that's probably why I never told. But believe me I learned a lesson or two! Will never borrow without asking again.
The simple fact that you knew who I was referring to and most others knew who I was referring to tells me that it is not just me that takes her comments that way.
I will admit that I never read her comments as bitchy yesterday (we were on TTGP together so I am used to her style/tone, and it was typical for that board), but saw how people reacted to her and assumed that's who you were talking about.
If you are referring to onesie-gate 2015 I didn't take it personally at all. The way I see it at least she is a regular participant in debate and has an actual opinion regardless of if I agree. June is a ghost town here some days so it's nice to see a regular poster.
carolyngrace - I'm all about honesty. Usually. In this case, I don't believe any good would come of being honest. You would only be telling the truth to make yourself feel better. Your friend won't get her dress back and She will probably be mad at you for throwing it away and then lying to her about it. I would keep my mouth shut.
This scenario sounds like a plot line from a show or movie, btw!
Yeah that's probably why I never told. But believe me I learned a lesson or two! Will never borrow without asking again.
I agree! Don't tell her. Maybe get her a small gift for no reason but to ease your mind.
Huh, interesting. I must say I'm on the side of budders thinking. I've never really read into her comments into any more than just her opinion and posting style.
Post by baileybaileybne on Aug 28, 2015 14:14:13 GMT -5
I'm confused then. Is it good to have a view on something, or is it being a bitch? Do we have to watch how we say something in case it offends someone or seems too blunt, or should we stop that so we are less sweet and more snark?
If onesie-gate overstepped the line, I don't think I understand what people want here. I don't give a shit what you're having for dinner either but I do enjoy a bit of a debate and don't really get offended by posts that contradict my view.
I'm confused then. Is it good to have a view on something, or is it being a bitch? Do we have to watch how we say something in case it offends someone or seems too blunt, or should we stop that so we are less sweet and more snark?
If onesie-gate overstepped the line, I don't think I understand what people want here. I don't give a shit what you're having for dinner either but I do enjoy a bit of a debate and don't really get offended by posts that contradict my view.
First, it's good to have a view on something. I think we all could drop some of the sweetness and bring back some of the snark that was on TD and TCF when we first came over here.
I personally didn't see a problem with onesie-gate, I was excited to see that we had a thread go more than 2 pages. Personalities came out yesterday and we haven't had that for a LOOOONG time on this board. Who cares if it rubs people the wrong way, you're going to have those people IRL also.
I hope that we do have more participation on this board as our babies start getting a little bit bigger and less needy.
I'm confused then. Is it good to have a view on something, or is it being a bitch? Do we have to watch how we say something in case it offends someone or seems too blunt, or should we stop that so we are less sweet and more snark?
If onesie-gate overstepped the line, I don't think I understand what people want here. I don't give a shit what you're having for dinner either but I do enjoy a bit of a debate and don't really get offended by posts that contradict my view.
There is a way to have a differing view on something and contribute to a conversation with out being a condescending asshole. Huge difference. Onesie-gate was actually fine until she descended from her ivory tower with the second comment. to whoever it was directed towards. But like I said in one of my other posts, my sadness with the board is not so much one holier than thou crusader galumphing about on a high horse so much as the fact that everyone is just seemingly content with the fact that the conversations are so dumbed down around here anymore.
Never when he's sad or mad for a serious reason. It's the times he is getting his needs met but not as fast as he'd like (having to get a diaper change before eating). He'll be normal crying and then release two high pitched siren warnings and then go back to crying.
I do this too! Especially when she's having a meltdown in the car and there is nothing I can do about it. I chuckle for some reason because what else can you do?? Lol
My two month old is enrolled in three activities a week. I used to make fun of people for things like this, but we both really enjoy it. Bonus points: one of the activities is swimming lessons
I'm not looking for someone to hold my hand and say "I respectfully disagree with you". carolyngrace and I had differing opinions yesterday and she managed to disagree with me all while not being a bitch about it. It is possible
And just so we are all on the same page, I am referring to billyhorrible with this opinion. There, I said what everyone was thinking and already knew...
Damn, and here I was catching up on all the posts (and maybe ignoring my kids a little), hoping you were talking about me.
My FFFC is that it's probable that my kids watch more TV than yours, @jemomma . But seriously, why have a 1 hr limit when all the Disney movies are longer than that?!
Never when he's sad or mad for a serious reason. It's the times he is getting his needs met but not as fast as he'd like (having to get a diaper change before eating). He'll be normal crying and then release two high pitched siren warnings and then go back to crying.
J has a certain warbling cry every so often that sort of sounds like a duck. I always feel bad when I laugh at her.
My two month old is enrolled in three activities a week. I used to make fun of people for things like this, but we both really enjoy it. Bonus points: one of the activities is swimming lessons
Nooooo.. not swimming! What are the other activities? I don't think there are any infant activities that are offered around these parts, unfortunately.
baileybaileybne I think the people complaining on this thread about the tone of the board are usually not afraid to give their opinions despite what others may think about it. They are also not usually afraid to call others out on their BS. That, to me, is how the tone of the board should go.
It is actually someone else than is being discussed, so I will probably say something privately to that individual...
Also I don't get notification for this shit anymore, so I can't even try to keep up. I confess!
My two month old is enrolled in three activities a week. I used to make fun of people for things like this, but we both really enjoy it. Bonus points: one of the activities is swimming lessons
Nooooo.. not swimming! What are the other activities? I don't think there are any infant activities that are offered around these parts, unfortunately.
Gymnastics and a breastfeeding group. Best part is they're free for a period of time - swimming for six months and gymnastics for the first year.
My two month old is enrolled in three activities a week. I used to make fun of people for things like this, but we both really enjoy it. Bonus points: one of the activities is swimming lessons
I'm confused. Are you confessing to spending time with your baby???
I'm confessing to enrolling my baby in more activities than a teenager, in order to entertain myself throughout the week. Dang it - I thought this was flameworthy because a mom friend of mine made fun of me. I'll try to think of something else.
I'm confessing to enrolling my baby in more activities than a teenager, in order to entertain myself throughout the week. Dang it - I thought this was flameworthy because a mom friend of mine made fun of me. I'll try to think of something else.
Totally not flame worthy. I think its awesome that you have access to so many activities for infants!
+1. I still haven't even gone to a single story time bc we can not get anywhere on a schedule. I'm the person busting into the pediatrician office with seconds to spare. You're a hero.
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