So we all know that social media tends to bring out the bragging (unintentional or otherwise). I am also realizing that forums like this inevitably make us compare our babies to each other, it's human nature.
So I thought maybe we could turn the tables and help us all remember that not ALL babies are doing X at the exact same time. We are all great at celebrating milestones and sharing photos of the "firsts." But what if we take a moment to admit the things that our babies are NOT doing yet. I have a funny feeling it might give us all peace of mind to know we are not alone in worrying or comparing our babies to others.
(Any yes I copied and pasted most of this right from Mays board!)
Cole shows no interest in rolling any time soon! He would rather play with his hands than any of the toys he has and the only thing he grabs and "holds" on to is his little taggie blanket in his car seat.
Post by turtletyme on Aug 31, 2015 17:25:26 GMT -5
She hates books and tummy time, so I feel like she's missing out on those developmental opportunities at present. I can get away with reading aloud for a few minutes (newspaper or whatever I happen to be reading), but she doesn't like her books.
Cole hates tummy time in his mat but loves tummy time on our chest. I can get him to giggle occasionally but not the big belly laughs people talk about.
Post by billyhorrible on Aug 31, 2015 17:44:37 GMT -5
BH doesn't roll. If I put him on his back he lies there playing with his toys. If I put him on his stomach he does cobra pushups and just babbles. No interest in going anywhere.
Post by ravinraven216 on Aug 31, 2015 18:12:13 GMT -5
turtletyme My LO isn't much into books either. He vastly prefers singing. Try reading him "Green Eggs and Ham" and he's screaming after a few pages. Sing to him ( tonight it was "'C' is for cookie") and he smiles, coos, and giggles up a storm. It's weird.
We're close to rolling, but he's a kind of pukey baby, so tummy time gets really gross really fast, so it doesn't last long. He likes the play mat more anyway. I think he'll roll front to back before managing front to back.
He's not doing many of the things mentioned in the brag post. It was kind of a bummer for me to read, but I reminded myself he's one of the youngest.
He smiles and coos and is a great snuggler and night sleeper. .
Same here! I always have to remind myself that J is a bit younger than a lot of the other babies on our board. I had the same sort of experience through my pregnancy. It was actually kind of nice to get a preview of what was coming up, so I try to think of it that way now too.
J is not rolling... Has only laughed once (in her sleep), naps terribly. We still are working on grabbing things... I think the will is there, but the hand eye coordination part... Not so much.
He's not doing many of the things mentioned in the brag post. It was kind of a bummer for me to read, but I reminded myself he's one of the youngest.
He smiles and coos and is a great snuggler and night sleeper. .
Same here! I always have to remind myself that J is a bit younger than a lot of the other babies on our board. I had the same sort of experience through my pregnancy. It was actually kind of nice to get a preview of what was coming up, so I try to think of it that way now too.
Um yea thanks guys I have one of the oldest babies here. Thought the point of this thread was not to compare babies:)
Post by missjenniebean on Aug 31, 2015 18:41:38 GMT -5
She doesn't roll over. She hates being on her tummy. She looks at her hands like she knows what to do with them but cant figure it out so she isn't grabbing as much as wailing her arms about. She squeals in delight and I count it as a giggle....but it isn't.
V is older than June babies but really isn't up there with May babies either, we don't fit anywhere! But idc if she isn't rolling. She will when she is ready she just has more interest in talking and trying to sit up or laying on her back staring around. Ha. In time!
Post by mrsmonogrammed on Aug 31, 2015 19:21:11 GMT -5
No grabbing or reaching for things unless it's an accident! She's also not a good napper, but we're slowwwwwwewly getting better at that:) No laughing yet either!
Post by thecatsmeow on Aug 31, 2015 19:35:05 GMT -5
No signs of rolling either direction. Terrible day time napper. Seriously, Terrible with a capital T. Grasps if something is placed in his hand, but doesn't seem interested in checking it out, or going for it on his own.
Same here! I always have to remind myself that J is a bit younger than a lot of the other babies on our board. I had the same sort of experience through my pregnancy. It was actually kind of nice to get a preview of what was coming up, so I try to think of it that way now too.
Um yea thanks guys I have one of the oldest babies here. Thought the point of this thread was not to compare babies:)
I think one of the hardest parts of mommy-hood is not comparing. Even if you're good at not comparing in one area, it's hard to do it across the board. And posts where everyone is saying "my kid is doing......." can certainly trigger those thoughts of "what am I doing wrong" or "what's wrong with my baby." I kind of love this thread even though it's also really to compare babies, it shows the variability and how really each baby is on their own timeline. (Regardless of when in the month they were born).
I can guarantee you that some of you end-of-the-monthers will hit certain milestones before some beginning-of-the-monthers.
Post by hannahl201477 on Aug 31, 2015 19:52:35 GMT -5
Does not: like tummy time for more than a few minutes can't roll yet but can get to his side (but I don't think he is doing it on purpose) And doesn't reach for his toys yet but is so amazed when he accidentally hits one.
Um yea thanks guys I have one of the oldest babies here. Thought the point of this thread was not to compare babies:)
I think one of the hardest parts of mommy-hood is not comparing. Even if you're good at not comparing in one area, it's hard to do it across the board. And posts where everyone is saying "my kid is doing......." can certainly trigger those thoughts of "what am I doing wrong" or "what's wrong with my baby." I kind of love this thread even though it's also really to compare babies, it shows the variability and how really each baby is on their own timeline. (Regardless of when in the month they were born).
I can guarantee you that some of you end-of-the-monthers will hit certain milestones before some beginning-of-the-monthers.
This is almost exactly it for me. I'm not really worried about what he is or isn't doing because he seems happy and I don't know any different. I'm more worried about what I'm not doing. I'm pretty sure we're OAD, so I can't afford to mess this kid up.
V is older than June babies but really isn't up there with May babies either, we don't fit anywhere! But idc if she isn't rolling. She will when she is ready she just has more interest in talking and trying to sit up or laying on her back staring around. Ha. In time!
I don't know if this is really true or not, but I'd heard babies are either "walkers" or "talkers," meaning they can't cognitively develop both physically and verbally at the same time so they focus on one or the other. It was true for us. LBB never rolled and wasn't an early crawler/walker, but he had a ridiculous vocabulary by 1 year.
V is older than June babies but really isn't up there with May babies either, we don't fit anywhere! But idc if she isn't rolling. She will when she is ready she just has more interest in talking and trying to sit up or laying on her back staring around. Ha. In time!
I don't know if this is really true or not, but I'd heard babies are either "walkers" or "talkers," meaning they can't cognitively develop both physically and verbally at the same time so they focus on one or the other. It was true for us. LBB never rolled and wasn't an early crawler/walker, but he had a ridiculous vocabulary by 1 year.
This is true for us too. DS did not walk until 15 months but was an early talker and has an expansive vocabulary.
V is older than June babies but really isn't up there with May babies either, we don't fit anywhere! But idc if she isn't rolling. She will when she is ready she just has more interest in talking and trying to sit up or laying on her back staring around. Ha. In time!
I don't know if this is really true or not, but I'd heard babies are either "walkers" or "talkers," meaning they can't cognitively develop both physically and verbally at the same time so they focus on one or the other. It was true for us. LBB never rolled and wasn't an early crawler/walker, but he had a ridiculous vocabulary by 1 year.
I have always said DS is a very physically focused and active baby. We have joked he was premature because he couldn't wait in such a small space any longer, haha. It's only been recently (now that he's just over 2) that he's really been focused on his vocabulary and working really hard on speaking.
DD on the other hand, had a nurse comment in the delivery room 'this baby sounds like a toddler!' My mom and I say she'll be the one getting DS into trouble, because she'll be able to talk him into anything, and he won't think twice about doing it for her haha.
My LO is definitely not rolling, unless it's by accident. He abhors tummy time, and will last all of 5 seconds before whimpering (and then wailing if I don't put him onto his back or pick him up quickly enough). He's not really reaching for things either, but if he happens to have a toy in the crook of his arm, he'll find a way to flail a bit and get the toy up to his mouth to drool on it a little.
Baby J was kind of sick for the first two months of his life, so I feel like he might have been a little "behind" on some things. However, now that we know what his deal is and are treating it accordingly, I feel like he's catching up. He seems happy - and I think that's all that really matters. He'll do things when he's ready to do them, and I try not to obsess over arbitrary milestones. We make our own milestones: First snart (sneeze + fart at the same time), first time LO made drool bull's eyes on mama's shirt, first time LO raaaar'ed like a dinosaur, first time LO got poop on his foot from flailing during an epic diaper change, first time LO belched louder than daddy, etc. Unless there is a super significant delay, I'm not going to worry about it. And, even if he were "delayed," he's still my baby and I love him to pieces. If you'll excuse me, I'm going to go be a creeper and watch his cute patootie sleep now haha...
Post by musicfrk2002 on Aug 31, 2015 21:36:38 GMT -5
J doesn't roll yet or even try to. He sees his hands, but doesn't really know what to do with them. About the only things he grabs are my face and clothes, and his burp cloth when we pull him away from us.
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