The big O - you know, since we're talking numbers.

[thechickencoop]

Jan 27, 2015 8:28:44 GMT -5 somethingvague said:

Jan 27, 2015 7:28:17 GMT -5 wanderingheart said:

+1. You're not alone! 

I'm in this boat with you.

 
Yea, I was getting really down reading all of these!  I'll bring up the phrase California Love again haha, I have one about....30% of the time?  But I'm a tough cookie to crack.  

[LadyNymeria]

4+

Not all really good ones, but I'll usually have a bunch of smaller ones with just PnV, then we'll add a vibrator and I can usually get 2 or 3 really good ones out.

[britterrss]

With H, usually just one. Alone, usually 3-4. But never with just PnV.

[Sparkly]

I'm a one and done kinda girl. I've had multiple on my own, or on a rare occasion I'll have one during foreplay and one during the main event, but they aren't as good. I prefer one good one.

[hobbesgal]

I don't stop till I get enough.

[ohara]

Always at least one.

Hitachi magic wand. My one item I could not live without.

[madamewaffles]

2. Usually 1 California (is that what we're calling it now?) and 1 PnV.

[moutonrouge]

Jan 27, 2015 6:28:49 GMT -5 @metalmoliver said:

How long after your first time did you guys have your first O? I have never had one, but I figured it had something to do with me and DH being new at it (waited until marriage). I still enjoy sex a lot, it has just never happened for me.

It doesn't happen for me without either a vibrator or oral sex (or other stimulation). I have only once orgasmed from penetration alone. Prior to being with DH, usually I'd have an orgasm during foreplay. DH introduced the vibrator to the mix and we use it almost every time unless he has other plans. It does require someone operate it, but we've got that coordination down now. 

[Deleted]

Jan 27, 2015 5:56:33 GMT -5 lg2793 said:

I can only get there orally...never during sex we keep trying to figure it out lol...

I'm the exact opposite. Been able to a few times orally, but takes a long time.

[anonymouseliza]

Original question - I saw this in the other thread I guess, but at least one, usually 2. We don't get to penetration until I've come. Now and then if we're in a rush, I'll fake it and O during intercourse. That's more hit or miss - sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. It wasn't always this way, but Dh worked really hard at it and now it's become a habit, I guess.

As for the other question, I didn't O the first time, but I had before and after from other activities. It took awhile of learning how to incorporate everything. We were both new to it.

[mlgnumbers]

I'm a firm believer that, for a woman, O is 95% mental and 5% physical. If I am distracted or in a terrible mood, there is nothing that can get me to O. Nothing. However, if I'm in an extremely aroused state of mind, then almost anything can get me there. I've O'd purely from being mentally aroused...no joke. They're smaller and not quite as fulfilling, but they are definitely Os and definitely enjoyable.

For those that don't O very often (and not for medical reasons), try to find what puts you in the mood and don't be shy about incorporating that into your routine! Like joy has said, it can take a little work, and, for most women, it doesn't just happen. However, learning how to get yourself there is totally worth it!

For those on medications that stifle O, I'm so sorry. I've BTDT, and it sucks...and, in my case, it even made things worse at times. Sexual release ( sexual healing ) was a big part of my recovery/management. FX that it's a temporary situation for you all.

[rztrumpet]

Jan 27, 2015 8:27:10 GMT -5 joy said:

Jan 27, 2015 6:28:49 GMT -5 @metalmoliver said:

How long after your first time did you guys have your first O? I have never had one, but I figured it had something to do with me and DH being new at it (waited until marriage). I still enjoy sex a lot, it has just never happened for me.

An orgasm isn't something that just happens. You have to earn it, honestly. It was partly learning what I liked and then asking for it but also very mental. If I was waiting for an orgasm to just happen during sex, I'd still be waiting.

Go figure out what you like alone. Get good at it. Then start asking yor partner for what feels right. Good luck!

Ditto. I gave myself my first few. Once I knew how to get there, then I started trying to get there with DH. It took me 3-4 months to really get the hang of it. (Waited for marriage too).

Now, I'd say I average 1. 0 if I'm not into it, up to 3 if there's wine involved .

[calliemarine]

Jan 27, 2015 8:45:08 GMT -5 thechickencoop said:

Jan 27, 2015 8:28:44 GMT -5 somethingvague said:

I'm in this boat with you.

 
Yea, I was getting really down reading all of these!  I'll bring up the phrase California Love again haha, I have one about....30% of the time?  But I'm a tough cookie to crack.  

This

[thewickedfairy]

So I usually have to get myself to the big O. H has all the right moves, it just doesn't happen without a little assistance from myself. Sometimes not at all, and sometimes only once.

[getzystark]

Jan 27, 2015 9:31:38 GMT -5 hobbesgal said:

I don't stop till I get enough.

BAHAHAHA

[getzystark]

I'm speshul and it's taken a lot of practice to figure out what works. I've probably only had a PnV O once or twice and it wasn't the knee shaking kind you see in the movies...it was just different and not that great. Typically I can O with the hitachi magic wand and PnV but it requires an intense amount of focus and I sort of hate doing it. I'd honestly prefer to not even bother. I'm probably broken.

[rooskie]

Jan 27, 2015 10:14:57 GMT -5 @bloodyjack87 said:

I've never had one. I've gotten close before, when MH rubs my clit, but it gets almost painful after a couple minutes and then he has to stop. It really sucks because I feel like I could get an O that way but I just can't take it for that long.

Add lube.

[joy]

Jan 27, 2015 10:18:11 GMT -5 mlgnumbers said:

I'm a firm believer that, for a woman, O is 95% mental and 5% physical. If I am distracted or in a terrible mood, there is nothing that can get me to O.

Every once and awhile, my husband and I stumble upon some show focused on sex late at night (like, The Bunny Ranch, for example).  We always watch for a bit to comment on it.  Then, we often have great sex.  My head was in the right place.

It's so hard for me to come home from work, clean up the house, plan meals for tomorrow, get a shower, schedule a run, etc... and still be all "Oh, why yes.  Sex seems like a great idea!"  I'm just not mentally there.  I think we'd benefit greatly from some porn in our lives.

[renbee]

Jan 27, 2015 10:24:24 GMT -5 getzystark said:

I'm speshul and it's taken a lot of practice to figure out what works. I've probably only had a PnV O once or twice and it wasn't the knee shaking kind you see in the movies...it was just different and not that great. Typically I can O with the hitachi magic wand and PnV but it requires an intense amount of focus and I sort of hate doing it. I'd honestly prefer to not even bother. I'm probably broken.

You're not alone, I feel the same way! Up until the past few years or so I actually experienced pain quite often with sex due to a medical condition, so now I'm just happy if it doesn't hurt. MH takes care of me before hand 99% of the time.

[risscaboobs]

I'm one of the weirdo multiple orgasm people. MH is skilled, y'all.

[joy]

Jan 27, 2015 10:32:40 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

I'm one of the weirdo multiple orgasm people. MH is skilled, y'all.

I don't necessarily think all the kudos should go to your husband.

[GoBigOrGoGnome]

I typically have 1 per session, sometimes before P in V and sometimes during. If we are just doing a quickie during FW or something I occasionally won't bother (and there are times where my head is not in the game and I just abandon the mission). I'll occasionally go for more than one if the mood strikes, but the subsequent ones usually aren't as good and take more work.

One time several years ago we wanted to see how many I could have and we got all the way up to 13 (with the help of toys, of course). At that point they weren't even that good and everything was so sensitive that I felt like my California was going to fall the fuck off.

[risscaboobs]

Jan 27, 2015 10:34:02 GMT -5 joy said:

Jan 27, 2015 10:32:40 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

I'm one of the weirdo multiple orgasm people. MH is skilled, y'all.

I don't necessarily think all the kudos should go to your husband.

You haven't seen what he can do.

No, in all seriousness, a lot of it is our own bodies, but he does know what I like. It's the benefit of being together 10 1/2 years.

[heatherj9603]

On average one. Every so often if we're s little tipsy or it's the first sex after af, I might have one before and one during. I've only not had one less than ten times in our entire 12+ years together. And that was usually stress related.

[heatherj9603]

Jan 27, 2015 9:51:34 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

Jan 27, 2015 6:28:49 GMT -5 @metalmoliver said:

How long after your first time did you guys have your first O? I have never had one, but I figured it had something to do with me and DH being new at it (waited until marriage). I still enjoy sex a lot, it has just never happened for me.

It doesn't happen for me without either a vibrator or oral sex (or other stimulation). I have only once orgasmed from penetration alone. Prior to being with DH, usually I'd have an orgasm during foreplay. DH introduced the vibrator to the mix and we use it almost every time unless he has other plans. It does require someone operate it, but we've got that coordination down now. 

This is me! Sometimes a finger can do the trick too. Thankfully my hubby is pro toys. He doesn't care as long as I get off. But I know of some friends husbands who feel like a failure when toys are brought in. It's not a shot to their ego, it's not easy for women to get off! For me, I'm very "tiny" down there, so I don't have the advantage of friction. And your hand gets cramped too easy. But a little bullet vibe is amazing. 

[PonyGirl]

Jan 27, 2015 10:21:17 GMT -5 thewickedfairy said:

So I usually have to get myself to the big O. H has all the right moves, it just doesn't happen without a little assistance from myself. Sometimes not at all, and sometimes only once.

I'm the exact same way.

[ttcminicofer]

Max for me is 2

[Deleted]

Jan 27, 2015 1:19:22 GMT -5 notlindsrockies said:

Where's your crown @led?

It was making me sad reminding me of why it was there and all not having a kid. So I figured with the switch over I would just ditch it.

[renbee]

Jan 27, 2015 13:09:18 GMT -5 @led said:

Jan 27, 2015 1:19:22 GMT -5 notlindsrockies said:

Where's your crown @led?

It was making me sad reminding me of why it was there and all not having a kid. So I figured with the switch over I would just ditch it.

I always wondered what the crowns in avatars meant. I saw several people had them. Is it CFNBC?

[GEM128]

At least 1X, more if we take a break and then go at it again. My record is six, but that was over the entire day, we just never left the bed. One thing I have to add though ... my O's with MH come from the G-spot. I had that happen a few times before I met MH, but from the first time we had sex that is how it happens for me - every. single. time. without fail. It's crazy. Our bodies just fit in some bizarre (awesome) way. I've told him I'm going to write a book about it. I'm not sure if he would be proud or embarrassed if he know that I wrote this