Trying for number 2 (or 3, or 4, etc...)

[mrsdee1982]

My husband legitimately just asked me when we were going to start trying for number 2.  

Ummm...our daughter just turned 3 months old.  Slow your damn roll mister!  I told him I am in no way ready for #2 and asked him if he was serious.  He was!  

Yeah no.  

So that being said, any clue when you plan on trying for your next one?  I told him I would not even be open to the discussion until CharlieBear was 1 year old.  

[Girlymama79]

We are ntnp. But pp af hasn't came to visit me yet. Once it does we will start trying.

[mrsmonogrammed]

Whenever the mood strikes us, we have no set plans. I'm thinking MAYBE trying for a sept/oct '17 baby, but we'll see:)
We are also only be using condoms until AF comess back and we can do NFP as well. Which are obviously easy BC methods to mess up, so we're on with having one sooner should if happen:)

[erbear]

Since we would have to do a frozen embryo transfer, we can plan a bit better. Current plan is in 3-4 years to try again.

[kemdupuis]

We're waiting atleast 18 months to try again. Maybe waiting until after Beckett has turned 2.

[billyhorrible]

This uterus is closed for business!

[jessila]

My plan is to start trying when Owen is 2. That would make it a spring 2018 baby which I find easier as a teacher for maternity leave.

I think that 3 years between kids is good spacing. I feel like Owen will be more independent then and more helpful to me.

[carolyngrace]

Sept 7, 2015 5:24:52 GMT -5 kemdupuis said:

We're waiting atleast 18 months to try again. Maybe waiting until after Beckett has turned 2.

This.

[baytosa2013]

The first couple weeks DH was adamant he was one and done but now if I mention like saving some of my favorite outfits in case we decide we want another he doesn't push back or tell me not to. In my mind we have 18 months ish to decide to start trying. Dd would be about 2.5 and I'd just be hitting 40. I'd like a second but finances will be the biggest consideration. 2 kids on daycare might break the bank . I didn't get back on the pill and we are using condoms until AF comes back.

[sabrinaml]

Well we definitely won't be trying for #2 until we have our own place, no way could I handle having a little one and being pregnant living with my in laws!
If we already had a new place, I'd be down for npnt right now- however my OB recommended I wait a year since I had HELLP and swelled so badly. We'll see, I'd like them closer in age but would also love an April/May baby.

[wegrowsheep]

NOPE. All done with the "being sick for 9 months" business. We will hopefully be moving into the "adoption paperwork" stage when this guy is 3ish. And that'll be #4.

[ashbash]

90% sure we are 2 and through. We will make the final decision next summer when C is a year. Its very bittersweet, one day Im like "yay!! This is the last time I will have a newborn" and the next day "oh no this is the last time Ill have a newborn" haha but logically I know 2 works for us plus DH is pretty firm in the 2 kids camp

[tiffbot]

Undecided on everything right now. My kids are pretty close in age (23 months apart) so I'm ready for a break from being pregnant. My mom plans on taking us on a family trip to Hawaii in Feb 2017 so I plan on not being pregnant or breastfeeding for that one, haha, will probably reevaluate the situation after then!

[shahoi]

We haven't really discussed when we want to start trying again. I'm 31, so I would like to have #2 before I turn 35. We definitely will not attempt to try until O is at least 2 years old.

[bendherova]

We're done.

DS1 was 3 before I could even have a conversation about having another. We started TTC when he was 3y3 mo and potty trained.

[missjenniebean]

+1 for a hopeful Oct 17 baby. If I am ever in the mood anyway.

[musicfrk2002]

I am not even thinking about it until J is 2. We are most likely OAD due to all the medical issues I had at the end of this pregnancy though, but not completely ruled out yet.

[amber311]

We will start trying again after April of 2016. It took so long to get Lily I'm hoping to get pregnant by October of 2016. We will see. Best laid plans...

[Deleted]

Not an option for us. One, I'm old already, was past my comfort zone a bit with this last one as it is. Two, this one was one of only two viable embryos in our IVF cycle and both went in at the same time. We have no desire to go through another cycle. On another astral plane I would want one more but we are complete, as is.

[mathistm]

We have talked about 2 before 30 and then done. I just turned 27 last month. We are gearing up for a big move next month and I would like for us to both be at a new job for a year and in a house before our 2nd. Current plan is to rent for a year and buy a house next fall. I think once we are settled in a house will be when we will try for #2. So a little more than a year.
Plus since Lo was conceived on our short honeymoon (we went to a nearby casino for a long wknd with plans to go on a longer tropical honeymoon in the winter) I'd like to have that nicer, longer honeymoon without being pregnant or breastfeeding.

[alayne926]

Sept 7, 2015 8:55:21 GMT -5 ashbash said:

90% sure we are 2 and through. We will make the final decision next summer when C is a year. Its very bittersweet, one day Im like "yay!! This is the last time I will have a newborn" and the next day "oh no this is the last time Ill have a newborn" haha but logically I know 2 works for us plus DH is pretty firm in the 2 kids camp

This for us too, although I think DH is more open to #3. I'm not sure I can do this again when I am 37-38...

[wegrowsheep]

^Lol, pretty much.

[ravinraven216]

I'm on the fence with being OAD, but I'd space them at least 3 years apart.

Today we learned DH's cousin and his wife are due with baby #2 in March. Their kids will be 14 months apart. My uterus hurts just thinking about it.

[silv3rlining]

DH is kind of in the 2 and thru wagon. But we agreed to wait 2 years before making a permanent decision. We're only using spermicide and there have been a few times of not using anything. He says he's ok if it just happens. I think I might like another but also feel complete. So we'll see if we get any "surprises." I hate the idea of never being pregnant again. But also terrified of going through another pregnancy while raising 2 small kids. (DS is 2 and LO is almost 3 months)

[holliberry28]

My best friend is getting married next August so we plan to start trying for number 2 after December 2016- so that would be a fall 2017 baby. I don't think I could handle a 2nd sooner, but sometimes I think maybe to get it over with- like ripping a band aid off? That sounds horrible but the first 5 weeks were so depressing and difficult for me.

[Bluedaisy]

My doctor wants us to wait for a year and I wouldn't be eligible for full maternity if I don't work a year anyways so we won't even try until after baby is at least 14 months...that way when I deliver I will be eligible for mat leave again.

[honeybunches101]

We definitely want a third but won't start trying for a year. We finally had sex for the first time and I am not on the pill, and the thought of getting pregnant is terrifying. I need to get on BC stat! It took us 18 months to conceive DD but I just cannot even fathom throwing up all day and night with a newborn and a three year old.

[cnumbers]

My fiancee keeps dropping hints about how he doesn't want a huge age gap between this LO & the next & if it happens right now he wouldn't mind.. Yeah neither would I but I'd rather wait a couple of years.. Meaning i'm going to take precautions for now no matter how much you whine about hating condoms. I need time to let my body heal and enjoy this LO. I think it's easier for men to say cause there all wham bam thank you mam but don't have to do the hard work of pregnancy and delivery. Maybe in three years or so.. Four or five years would probably be my maximum & two years my minimum. I'm excited about the idea of pregancy again. I miss it and I didn't think I would. So i definitely have days where I'm like I want another one NOW & I have to stop and rein myself in. I would like to get the wedding done and dusted first. I would like to keep in touch with everyone and maybe be pregnant at the same time again if possible. Around the two year mark appeals to me more.

[Bluedaisy]

Joolschweets, I'm glad you mentioned needing to work on your relationship with baby one first. I feel the same way. Things are very different between my husband and I. I knew they would be but it's still difficult.

[dmoney]

We havent really discussed #2 yet. but I would like to wait until DD is about 18 months before we start trying again.