Lord Disick a lady in my yoga class just told me about something called Hike It Baby - basically local groups for parents with small kids to hike. Not sure if this is up your alley, but may be worth looking into. Hikeitbaby.com
Are there groups for moms who like to binge-watch Gossip Girl on the couch while wearing no pants and no bra?
lol, I wish. This was exactly how I spent my first three months pp.
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Post by Lollipop on Sept 10, 2015 13:26:54 GMT -5
I have a couple of girls I consider friends, one from junior high, and one from high school. The one from junior high and I don't hang out much anymore, mostly because we went to different high schools, and when she started dating her H, she stopped having time to hang out with anyone that wasn't part of their combined group. I wasn't part of it, so we very rarely hang out now, I think that will change soon, since she's pregnant and that whole group is still very much about partying.
The one from high school never really grew up. She still goes out drinking and partying pretty much every weekend. I don't have the time, money, or inclination to do so, so I get ignored by her a lot. And the rare time she invites me out, I decline, because I don't like her other friends much.
Lord Disick a lady in my yoga class just told me about something called Hike It Baby - basically local groups for parents with small kids to hike. Not sure if this is up your alley, but may be worth looking into. Hikeitbaby.com
Are there groups for moms who like to binge-watch Gossip Girl on the couch while wearing no pants and no bra?
The one from high school never really grew up. She still goes out drinking and partying pretty much every weekend. I don't have the time, money, or inclination to do so, so I get ignored by her a lot. And the rare time she invites me out, I decline, because I don't like her other friends much.
Not an attack on Lollipop but I've never understood this one. And it comes up on my BMB all the time.
What does frequency of drinking have to do with maturity? I know all kinds of people in their 50s and 60s with very responsible jobs and upstanding adult children and etc who still regularly go out on the town. Even every weekend.
Some of my BMB gets furious about their husbands not realizing that babies (or even just marriage) means you don't go to bars any more. That part of your life is over and now it's time to be an adult. The heck?
Is it a regional thing? A particular religion thing?
I feel my bestie and I are still besties because we both put in effort. She is my sister I never had. She is #teammcbenny
In college we were thick as thieves through all kinds of shenanigans. Now, we can not speak for weeks and call one another and it is like no time has passed. Now that I have moved out of state we still make an effort to keep in touch via text, phone, email, face time, Skype, and we plan trips to see one another. She is the only godmother my children know.
Lifetime friendships need growth and to be nurtured. Yes, sometimes people outgrown one another but when it's everyone? Seems odd.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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Post by snowbigdeal on Sept 10, 2015 13:36:41 GMT -5
@hilarityensued I think it definitely also has to do with the moving part. It takes extreme effort to keep track of and catch up with people when they don't live nearby. And those types of friends add up quickly when you've moved long distances multiple times. Facebook helps a bit, but I don't have time to call or email people every month or two just to say hey.
Post by bullybutt on Sept 10, 2015 13:40:24 GMT -5
I would love to have friends to hang out with but I don't want to spend an hour getting ready, driving 30 minutes to some place that I'm going to spend $40 just to eat/drink and hang out. I would rather sit at home, shoot the shit and drink some beers on the porch while kids sleep. No one wants to take me up on that offer. I guess the problem is me.
The one from high school never really grew up. She still goes out drinking and partying pretty much every weekend. I don't have the time, money, or inclination to do so, so I get ignored by her a lot. And the rare time she invites me out, I decline, because I don't like her other friends much.
Not an attack on Lollipop but I've never understood this one. And it comes up on my BMB all the time.
What does frequency of drinking have to do with maturity? I know all kinds of people in their 50s and 60s with very responsible jobs and upstanding adult children and etc who still regularly go out on the town. Even every weekend.
Some of my BMB gets furious about their husbands not realizing that babies (or even just marriage) means you don't go to bars any more. That part of your life is over and now it's time to be an adult. The heck?
Is it a regional thing? A particular religion thing?
For me, it's that she still acts like she can't have fun without drinking. And I can't get behind parents who leave their kids every night of every weekend to go and get wasted. Once in awhile is fine, and I do go out once in awhile.
As for the statement that she never grew up, she literally acts exactly the same way she did the summer we graduated, she works, but only to pay for her fun stuff, her mom owns her apartment, and gave her a car (more than one actually, she keeps wrecking them)
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Post by readyornot on Sept 10, 2015 13:42:06 GMT -5
I have like zero fucks to give on my kids friends opinions of the cleanliness of my house.
I mean I keep my house at a certain level of cleanliness for my own personal benefit, but I'm definitely not running around picking stuff up bc the teenager has friends coming over
@hilarityensued I think it definitely also has to do with the moving part. It takes extreme effort to keep track of and catch up with people when they don't live nearby. And those types of friends add up quickly when you've moved long distances multiple times. Facebook helps a bit, but I don't have time to call or email people every month or two just to say hey.
I don't think it takes extreme effort. Just effort. Anyway, this is not a dig at you. But if we all stop and just think to ourselves about people we may have lost along the way, it was not all based on because people moved. Let's be honest - for whatever reason one of you or both didn't put in the effort to maintain contact or the relationship.
People don't lose who they don't want to just because of a move.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I would love to have friends to hang out with but I don't want to spend an hour getting ready, driving 30 minutes to some place that I'm going to spend $40 just to eat/drink and hang out. I would rather sit at home, shoot the shit and drink some beers on the porch while kids sleep. No one wants to take me up on that offer. I guess the problem is me.
I would if I were near you but I am not porchy (bugs) but I like to be indoors in central air.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I don't feel being married or having children means I can't do bars or partying. To be quite honest, as long as my business is handled I am down to get the fuck out. I just don't have who to do it with currently. Whomp whomp.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know you aren't with your staff and all but I thought you were giving the nasty a pass.
Anyway, I don't care how you tend to your home (you or outsource) but people who are ok just living dirty, I can't. I have no words.
Girl I was saying the same shit all thread. You have failed at McBennying to see all my opinions!
And my "staff" of one cleaning lady comes every other Tuesday. Shit needs to get cleaned way more often than that. I can't imagine the domestic situation if I just waited until she returned
I wasn't even talking about you in my last mini paragraph. I also was being sarcastic about staff.
I know you are not a slob. I thought you were giving the slobs a pass. I had to draw the line at kitchen counters.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I don't know about mean but people in school know which kid has the messy house. Or the mom that doesn't do anything. Or the bitch mom (this was mine) that is mean to everyone. It is the truth. I am not trying to point at anyone I am just letting you know it is discussed.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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Post by shanadoo on Sept 10, 2015 13:49:26 GMT -5
If you can go out drinking every weekend while you have small kids and still get up and be responsible, then you do you. However, I don't know anyone who could or would try to pull that off. The thought of going out every weekend makes me tired.
Not an attack on Lollipop but I've never understood this one. And it comes up on my BMB all the time.
What does frequency of drinking have to do with maturity? I know all kinds of people in their 50s and 60s with very responsible jobs and upstanding adult children and etc who still regularly go out on the town. Even every weekend.
Some of my BMB gets furious about their husbands not realizing that babies (or even just marriage) means you don't go to bars any more. That part of your life is over and now it's time to be an adult. The heck?
Is it a regional thing? A particular religion thing?
For me, it's that she still acts like she can't have fun without drinking. And I can't get behind parents who leave their kids every night of every weekend to go and get wasted. Once in awhile is fine, and I do go out once in awhile.
As for the statement that she never grew up, she literally acts exactly the same way she did the summer we graduated, she works, but only to pay for her fun stuff, her mom owns her apartment, and gave her a car (more than one actually, she keeps wrecking them)
well then I'll just lay this out there... if you have small kids and are absent from a lot of their lives because you are partying late into the night and sleeping during the day, then you kind of suck as a parent, I would assume.
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a U to the OSept 10, 2015 13:52:25 GMT -5via mobile
Post by snowbigdeal on Sept 10, 2015 13:52:25 GMT -5
I have a few long distance friends that I keep in close contact with. It does take effort. But I also have a lot of other friends, who were good friends at some point, who I would probably still spend a lot of time with and be good friends with, if we lived closer together. But we dont.
I can't maintain all of these friendships with all of these types of friends in the ten different cities I've lived in. It sucks, but I don't think I'm a bad friend to them or they to me, and it's not like I wouldn't be glad to see them outside of some meager Facebook interactions, but it's just not possible to maintain the level of intimacy that we once had. Not sure what there is to disagree with or flame for.
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Post by shanadoo on Sept 10, 2015 13:52:53 GMT -5
Every time I do go out and have to take care of the family the next day is pretty much the worst and I end up hating myself the entire day for thinking I could still do that shit.
I don't understand the photo shoots of 6-12 month old girls with a tutu and a string of pearls and a fancy headband. It's not vulgar or anything. It's a baby. I just can't figure out what it's supposed to be. That ensemble doesn't exist anywhere else.
*slides pictures back into album*
Ok, there are ones with tutus but no string of pearls. Come to think of it, that's shocking. She did have a rose headband that had pearls on it in one photo.
I don't think there is anything to flame. I just feel that it is possible to maintain the relationship if both parties choose to. If you don't choose to then that's fine too. Just don't blame it on a move was all I was ever saying.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
If you can go out drinking every weekend while you have small kids and still get up and be responsible, then you do you. However, I don't know anyone who could or would try to pull that off. The thought of going out every weekend makes me tired.
I know someone who does this. She leaves the kids home with their father almost every weekend, and bitches because "he never helps out at home"
Post by pearlofwisdom on Sept 10, 2015 13:58:14 GMT -5
UO: I don't think a new system that will make work harder should be implemented for an entire dept when the issue is only with one site. Not our fault you can't manage your people lady.
I don't think there is anything to flame. I just feel that it is possible to maintain the relationship if both parties choose to. If you don't choose to then that's fine too. Just don't blame it on a move was all I was ever saying.
Gotcha. I guess I just disagree a little then. I think you can blame it on a move sometimes. Some friendships require frequent face to face interaction to thrive. Some don't.
a U to the OSept 10, 2015 13:59:49 GMT -5via mobile
Post by shanadoo on Sept 10, 2015 13:59:49 GMT -5
On the flip side, I think it's important to have some time away from your kids. Date nights and individual social time. You're more than just a parent.
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