aracale we started trying last week. The first few times it hurt like you said but I think a lot of it was me tensing up for fear it would hurt. It still doesn't feel 100% normal but we were able to do it the 3rd or 4th time we tried. I had a 2nd degree tear. Also, I did bleed, or spot rather, for a bit afterwards but it stopped within a day.
Has anyone else tried to have sex since being cleared by your doctor? I was cleared the other day and we tried earlier and when he tried to go in deeply it hurt a lot. Also, afterward I realized that I was bleeding. I had a 3rd degree tear. Do you think I just need to give it a little more time? Anyone else have a similar experience?
I delivered via c-section. We tried about two weeks ago and it hurt so we stopped. No bleeding. Are you breastfeeding? There is a lack of vaginal discharge when you are bfing.
I'm actually glad sex went so poorly. Considering we weren't using any protection and my period showed up 2 days ago...... Otherwise I could have ended up on "I didn't know I was pregnant" show.
Post by hopefulreturn on Sept 17, 2015 15:33:44 GMT -5
It's been a frustrating day. Breastfeeding is really wearing me down today but I made it this far and don't want to quit! I'm hoping DH is home from work in time to give a bottle that I'll pump next feed.
we've both been crying a lot today! Yesterday was such a positive and happy day but today I feel like I cant get it together. Every feeding is choking and spitup or her refusing to latch well and getting frustrated.
I try to keep reminding myself that this too shall pass and that we will have some days like this.
Post by packmomma on Sept 17, 2015 15:53:42 GMT -5
W please stop shitting on everything. I've had to wash my wrap, my sheets, my brest friend pillow, just everything had yellow stains on it. Please please stop
Has anyone else tried to have sex since being cleared by your doctor? I was cleared the other day and we tried earlier and when he tried to go in deeply it hurt a lot. Also, afterward I realized that I was bleeding. I had a 3rd degree tear. Do you think I just need to give it a little more time? Anyone else have a similar experience?
I delivered via c-section. We tried about two weeks ago and it hurt so we stopped. No bleeding. Are you breastfeeding? There is a lack of vaginal discharge when you are bfing.
I'm actually glad sex went so poorly. Considering we weren't using any protection and my period showed up 2 days ago...... Otherwise I could have ended up on "I didn't know I was pregnant" show.
I am breastfeeding so I tried to use a ton of lube. I don't think it was because I was dry. It felt more like the skin wasn't stretching.
Also, glad you didn't end up on "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" though I do love that show.
Has anyone else tried to have sex since being cleared by your doctor? I was cleared the other day and we tried earlier and when he tried to go in deeply it hurt a lot. Also, afterward I realized that I was bleeding. I had a 3rd degree tear. Do you think I just need to give it a little more time? Anyone else have a similar experience?
In my experience, the first relations postpartum are just business. You rip off the band aid. No one finishes. It isn't supposed to feel good. Keep at it. Slowly. Lots of lube. Alcohol. Third or fourth time will start to feel good.
Well, I'm ahead of the curve then because I managed to climax, though poor DH didn't. We'll keep trying.
Has anyone else tried to have sex since being cleared by your doctor? I was cleared the other day and we tried earlier and when he tried to go in deeply it hurt a lot. Also, afterward I realized that I was bleeding. I had a 3rd degree tear. Do you think I just need to give it a little more time? Anyone else have a similar experience?
+1 to the lack of vaginal lubricant if you're bf'ing. I highly recommend the lubricant Pink.
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 17, 2015 17:12:57 GMT -5
Okay… I need honest opinions here.
I joined this mom's group in the new town we moved to and the group met for a playdate last week. A mom came with her son and started swinging next to DS1 and me. I thought she was part of the group. We hit it off because she's a runner and we chatted about that. She was wearing a race shirt of a race that I hope to do one day and so we talked a lot about that. It's a popular relay. She mentioned that her team won a free entry for next year because of a video her team made. She casually mentioned that we should maybe run together sometime and even mentioned me joining her relay team. I had found out her first name only. Long story short she's not part of the mom's group and I am kind of kicking myself for not asking for her phone number. As she was leaving she said, "i've never met so many cool moms when i've taken my son to the park before" that should have been the first clue that she wasn't part of the group.
Anywho…. I found her on facebook and it wasn't hard. I just went to the relay series she did and found the video she mentioned that her team made. She wasn't tagged but I clicked on the one person that was and searched her friends. There she was.
So…. would it be weird to message her? I would love to make friends here as i don't know a lot of people and we seemed to hit it off. Plus our kids, both boys, are within a year of each other. Or is it weird that I sort of stalked her on facebook?
Post by RandomName on Sept 17, 2015 18:05:46 GMT -5
runningmommy519 Id message her as well and say something along the lines of what Motown said. FX it works out - mom friends (friends in general) are hard to make!
Bought a used jogging stroller today for $60! And the infant car seat snaps right into it. So excited. Cleaned the house, made tikka masala, got cookie butter cheesecake bites for dessert, now watching Mary Poppins with my babies. Life is freaking amazing.
She's in her room in the pack n play for the first time!! I'm staring at the monitor like its my job. She's a pretty sound sleeper once she's down for the night so I'm hoping she will be ok! Ugh the mommy nerves!
It's been a frustrating day. Breastfeeding is really wearing me down today but I made it this far and don't want to quit! I'm hoping DH is home from work in time to give a bottle that I'll pump next feed.
we've both been crying a lot today! Yesterday was such a positive and happy day but today I feel like I cant get it together. Every feeding is choking and spitup or her refusing to latch well and getting frustrated.
I try to keep reminding myself that this too shall pass and that we will have some days like this.
This is me. We have a great day and I feel optimistic and then she won't sleep all night and the next day just blows. I won't give up on the BF-ing because I'm stubborn. I'm trying to take each feed at a time and not look at the daunting day as a whole.
Post by motownthrowdown on Sept 17, 2015 20:43:17 GMT -5
Therapy went well. Covered a lot of ground in one hour.
Came home and dh shoved a half empty bottle in my face. My mom had only given her 50 mls for dinner. She came home from the nicu on 60 mls. She normally eats 110 mls (just under 4 ounces). My mom said that A wasn't hungry and fell asleep.
This has cemented that my mom is an unacceptable option for any kind of long term daycare. One shortened feeding once on a while won't hurt, but this is unacceptable on a daily basis. I know any of you could have told me this, but I really thought she would FUCKING FEED HER INFANT GRANDDAUGHTER.
How bad is this, my husband and I have been married for 3 years. I am (just now) going through all the photos to select the ones we want for our wedding album. My excuse.... We've been a little busy. We got married, renovated our house the week after, listed it, bought a new place in a different city, moved, went on our honeymoon, and had two babies in that time. I should tell you though, the only reason I'm finally getting my butt in gear is because I want to start making quilts but my husband would have a fit if I started a project like that without finishing ordering our wedding photos. Fair! Lol!
We've been married for 3 years and definitely never got a wedding album! It took a year and and half to get some pictures on the wall. Adulting is hard.
Does anyone have suggestions for good breast pads?? I've been using cloth ones and have been leaking like crazy the past few days/nights. When he's nursing on one boob the other starts leaking. When I'm in between feeds, I leak. I'm using cloth pads that wick the milk outward so my nipple is dry, which is great, but the outside of the pad and my bra are soaked. Forget my sleeping bra. That's absolutely drenched. So now my sleeping bra and by normal day time nursing bra (both of which I've only worn once since washing) need to be washed again. I don't want to be soaking wet at the in laws all week.
Side note: Jake was excellent in the car yesterday. We stopped 3 times to feed him which added 2 hours to the trip but that's OK. He slept like a champ at the hotel in his LullaGo and woke up twice to eat. Day 2 of the road trip starts in a few hours.
i whipped up some from shrunken wool sweater and old flannel sheet, stack two flannel layers on wool layer , stitch leavong opening to turn flannel layers to outside, i share your leak pattern, and these have worked well.
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