Post by bookninja on Sept 17, 2015 12:32:41 GMT -5
Pumpkin pie is ok, apple pie is good.... But my UO: pecan pie beats them all! Also I don't like cake. Exceptions can be made for ice cream cake and cheesecake. I remember asking for lemon meringue pie for my birthday as a kid... Made the candles a bit of a challenge.
Are we talking diaper needs to be changed as in wet or poopy? I totally agree when your kid is in a poopy diaper for hours because you don't want to change it, but in the middle of the night if I know her diaper is just wet, not changing it.
I would say poopy and/or leaking.
OK, so...devils advocate here....my kids diaper leaked in the middle of the night, so I neglected her/him? (Happens to my 2 year old all the time)
OK, so...devils advocate here....my kids diaper leaked in the middle of the night, so I neglected her/him? (Happens to my 2 year old all the time)
No. Let me rephrase here. I think it's neglect when people say I know my baby needs changed but instead I...(ate dinner, went to sleep, didn't bother, ect).
OK, so...devils advocate here....my kids diaper leaked in the middle of the night, so I neglected her/him? (Happens to my 2 year old all the time)
No. Let me rephrase here. I think it's neglect when people say I know my baby needs changed but instead I...(ate dinner, went to sleep, didn't bother, ect).
I agree....I'll wait a bit after I know s/he poops (cause my 2 year old wants nothing to do with pooping on the potty) to make sure they're done, and then I'll change them. I always feel horrible when I get them up to find that they (rarely) pooped overnight...Always put a precautionary layer of ointment on before bed.
My UO is that I actually like my MIL. She moved here from out of state recently and she has been super helpful and fun to hang out with. I still have my gripes about her but overall I like her.
+1. My MIL has been wonderful, especially since my mom hasn't been able to help out as much since she started chemo last week.
Post by sabrinaml on Sept 17, 2015 13:10:16 GMT -5
Add me to the mayo club. Can't stand anything pumpkin. Love my MIL but she does get on my nerves occasionally (especially now that we live with them). But I don't know what I would do without her at times. I usually wait about 7 minutes after Cole poops before I change him- if I don't chances are good he's going to poop on me while changing him. Neglect? I think not. If he's just wet I usually wait. I worked in child care- we changed them every two hours (unless they were poopy then we changed them as soon as we noticed they were poopy) so I tend to stick to that rule at home too. If he's clearly soaked or leaking I'll change him right away. I don't care for politics, but begin to pay attention more as the time gets closer. I've never lived somewhere where we've had to pay HOA dues, but I don't think I'd enjoy it. I don't like people telling me how my house has to look and that I can't plant something.
My UO- I can't stand when people say 'Merica. It drives me crazy. It's America!
I think my ultimate UO-I hate UO day. I understand the need to let off steam and have healthy debate but often I feel it leads to judging other moms for how they are raising their child(ren)/living their life. Maybe I am just sensitive but there's enough of that shit that goes on on the daily in life, especially towards moms.
Neglect is a bit much....depends how long we're talking here.
My UO: It annoys me when people say they're 'not interested' in politics. Yes it can be dull, but it affects absolutely everything you do, so it doesn't hurt to be informed even on the most basic of levels.
Would you feel the same way on all subjects? Like "I'm not interested in Health Care", but the same things could be said... health care effects everyone in some way, shape, or form.
I think my ultimate UO-I hate UO day. I understand the need to let off steam and have healthy debate but often I feel it leads to judging other moms for how they are raising their child(ren)/living their life. Maybe I am just sensitive but there's enough of that shit that goes on on the daily in life, especially towards moms.
It is a good change of pace from the normalcy of our board. There's nothing wrong with a little bit of conversation where not everyone agrees with each other.
I think my ultimate UO-I hate UO day. I understand the need to let off steam and have healthy debate but often I feel it leads to judging other moms for how they are raising their child(ren)/living their life. Maybe I am just sensitive but there's enough of that shit that goes on on the daily in life, especially towards moms.
It is a good change of pace from the normalcy of our board. There's nothing wrong with a little bit of conversation where not everyone agrees with each other.
I agree that there's nothing wrong with disagreement and convo about it. I think my hatred for it stems from the fact that I'm not very good at UOing haha. Most things I feel are relative to the situation/person. I feel like this thread is either considered "boring" because no one has anything good to have a genuine UO about or we are the talk of the town because someone dared to say something "stupid" enough to be berated. The in between usually just makes me feel shitty.
The subject of one of my final papers in college was how I felt that HOA's are killing off the childhood street play culture.
I have always despised HOAs and vowed to never live in one. And now I pay $335 a month to one. :/ And I still think they're worthless.
I love my HOA! They use our fees to plan fun events like fall festivals, spring carnivals, x-mas gatherings. Plus they maintain the pool and playground and the community landscape. Very worth it IMO.
I wouldnt mind having an HOA if we actually got something from it... We are currently paying 500 a year for landscaping... thats it.. There is no pool, no play ground, no social events, the county collects our trash and they deal with snow removed from the main streets, we are responsible for our own sidewalks. I have a friend who's HOA is 100 more a year and they get private snow removal and they will unshovel around your cars and your side walks. I think pointless HOA's are just that Pointless.
I don't change my daughters diaper unless one or more of these conditions are met:
1) she's screaming to have it changed
2) she's completely finished pooping. I usually wait five minutes to see if she's done.
3) her diaper is so full it *almost* leaks or sometimes I think she can wait a little longer then she does leak.
I am not a bad mom and I am not neglectful.
UO: not your kid not your problem. Mind your own and I'll mind mine. Unless a situation such as abuse or ACTUAL neglect arises, then don't make other moms feel badly about choosing a different route than you.
In terms of frequent pictures, we get our professional ones for free. At a local studio, we joined their baby program for $30. For that one time fee, we can go once a month with a free sitting fee, free portrait sheet, an online gallery of pics, and discounts on additional sheets. It paid for itself just with the newborn pics. We decided to only go every three months, but if we had more time I would probably go monthly/for all holidays.
What a deal! I am super jealous!
I hate Mayo AND Miracle Whip. I do not particularly care for my MIL. I am a summer girl through and through. Boo fall. Never read HP. I follow politics all the time.
My UO: I do not particularly care for time away from my DH and LO. I know "me" time is important, but I would much rather have quality family time since it is so few and far between. Hanging out with my DH and kiddo watching football on the couch sounds way better than shopping and a pedicure.
ETA: DNW pumpkin spice anything. I like other pie, though.
I agree nurse-ins are stupid. I think people should do baby feed-ins. Bottles and boobs = same thing.
My uo: I think it's child neglect to not change your babies diaper when you know it needs changed.
This makes me so angry I had to respond twice...
I've said this before but it is true that infant girls can get urinary tract infections from letting them sit in poop which is pretty f'd up. So I agree about it being pretty f'd up to let them sit in poop for hours. That being said this doesn't mean it's bad to wait 30 min until they are done pooping. I do this all the time because my girl tends to poop and then poop again 10 min later.
Wait until you have a toddler honey. The baby stage is infinitely easier than the toddler stage IMO.[/quote][
Really? I think the toddler stage is easier. They can tell you more what they need, they usually don't wake up multiple times a night (unless sick or teething) and they don't have to nap on and off all day or be carried around all day. But then again I only have 1 toddler and he is pretty easy going compared to some
I've said this before but it is true that infant girls can get urinary tract infections from letting them sit in poop which is pretty f'd up. So I agree about it being pretty f'd up to let them sit in poop for hours. That being said this doesn't mean it's bad to wait 30 min until they are done pooping. I do this all the time because my girl tends to poop and then poop again 10 min later.
No one here is condoning letting a child sit in poop for hours. The original UO was that if it isn't changed as soon as you know it's dirty then you are neglecting your child, which is absolutely ridiculous and downplays ACTUAL neglect!
yes completely agree that OG post was extreme! My nephew was an actual child neglect case so I find the OG post insulting to actual cases. He had to be removed from the home of his drug addicted mom for not being clothed or fed
Neglect is a bit much....depends how long we're talking here.
My UO: It annoys me when people say they're 'not interested' in politics. Yes it can be dull, but it affects absolutely everything you do, so it doesn't hurt to be informed even on the most basic of levels.
I think there's a difference between being informed and interested. I do educate myself on key issues and know where candidates and elected officials stand on things. I wouldn't say that I'm interested or enjoy politics, though, and I would rather read synopses and reviews than actually watch a debate.
+1 I am informed but more so out of duty than desire. And there is pretty much nothing I hate more than discussing political candidates with others. 99% of the time people have their opinions set and debate only makes them dig their heels in deeper. Go spend that time actually supporting the person/ cause/ organization rather than flapping your gums
I hate Mayo AND Miracle Whip. I do not particularly care for my MIL. I am a summer girl through and through. Boo fall. Never read HP. I follow politics all the time.
My UO: I do not particularly care for time away from my DH and LO. I know "me" time is important, but I would much rather have quality family time since it is so few and far between. Hanging out with my DH and kiddo watching football on the couch sounds way better than shopping and a pedicure.
Wait until you have a toddler honey. The baby stage is infinitely easier than the toddler stage IMO.
Haha I totally believe you. It is pretty enjoyable right now, though.
Wait until you have a toddler honey. The baby stage is infinitely easier than the toddler stage IMO.
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Really? I think the toddler stage is easier. They can tell you more what they need, they usually don't wake up multiple times a night (unless sick or teething) and they don't have to nap on and off all day or be carried around all day. But then again I only have 1 toddler and he is pretty easy going compared to some [/quote]
For me its the mental time thats different, a toddler wants constant conversation, activities etc. i LOVE the toddler stage but with a baby you can zone out and watch a football game so its relaxing but a 2 yr old will ask 100 questions, jump on the couch, want a snack, have to potty etc. So the need for me time is much more with the toddler even though I hands down prefer it to the infant stage
Possible UO. I like having an HOA. I will probably never live somewhere that doesn't have one.
I'm curious does an HOA mean you have to get permission to garden or plant anything before doing so and also get permission to paint your own house? In that case no thank you. If I own a home I want the option to do my own landscaping without going through a board to vote etc.
Possible UO. I like having an HOA. I will probably never live somewhere that doesn't have one.
I'm curious does an HOA mean you have to get permission to garden or plant anything before doing so and also get permission to paint your own house? In that case no thank you. If I own a home I want the option to do my own landscaping without going through a board to vote etc.
It can. It depends on the HOA. Most have rules that dictate the color of your home, visible window dressings, flag flying, sign posting, etc. Some are more extreme and some are more relaxed.
Ours is fairly relaxed, but I still hate it. I pay $335 a month. That is $4,020 a year. They pay for the landscaping of common areas and upkeep of the pool. They also do minor repairs and maintenance on the outside of the homes (re-paint, but all of our homes must be painted the same color, pest control, etc…).
I realized my kid pooped while putting the groceries away in the car last week. Instead of dragging her back inside the store, I drove home and changed her. I would not ever define that as neglect. It's reckless to do so, imo.
Pittsburgh is known for Primanti's sandwiches, which is meat, coleslaw, and French fries between two slices of Italian bread. My UO? I don't like them. This basically would kick me out of Pittsburgh if I said it around certain friends!
Oh, and the ladies at Sephora wear too much makeup and it does not look good/sell the product.. It's scary. I got a smoky eye makeover today and I look good, but the lady doing my makeup just had hers CAKED on.
I know we have a few Australians on the board sorry on mobile so can't tag them. But my friend lives in Sydney and just had her 4th failed IVF attempt and I just talked to her and she explained that it's illegal in Australia to pay for a donor egg.
She explained that she would need a friend or family member to donate an egg for free but all her friends are considered past the age where it is worth it due to risk off poor egg quality( over 35) And her sister is 40 so no go there. She is considering coming to the U.S. to do it but then she would need to leave her husband and probably quit her job to do that.
I guess my UO is why is this?? I'm heartbroken for her and I don't see why she can't have the option to pay someone for an egg if she has the money. In the U.S.A it is very common to pay for a donor egg.
Pittsburgh is known for Primanti's sandwiches, which is meat, coleslaw, and French fries between two slices of Italian bread. My UO? I don't like them. This basically would kick me out of Pittsburgh if I said it around certain friends!
I love pumpkin things within reason.
I love mayo, especially the kind with olive oil.
I love my MIL.
Had I heard this prepregnancy I would have disregarded you as a Burgher but they started to disgust me during my pregnancy and in haven't been able to since. That coleslaw is still the best though. Also I don't know why but after reading this post I really want potato patch fries. I can't wait into fright nights!
Wow, I'm so confused on how waiting to change a diaper = neglect. That's beyond ridiculous to me. I definitely wait until I know he's done pooping, usually about 10 minutes so I don't get pooped on. My husband got sprayed once, and while it was hysterical, I'm sure it wouldn't be as funny if it happened to me.
Also, I hate mayo/miracle whip, pie (I can tolerate chocolate pie, because, you know, chocolate) and sour cream. I'm not a fan of pumpkin anything. I also love my mil.
My UO: I do not understand the draw of Starbucks. I think I've only been inside of one maybe once or twice in the past three years. But maybe that's becausee I also don't get why people like the taste of coffee. It smells amazing to me, but I've tried it so many different ways and still can't drink it.
Oh, and the ladies at Sephora wear too much makeup and it does not look good/sell the product.. It's scary. I got a smoky eye makeover today and I look good, but the lady doing my makeup just had hers CAKED on.
I agree that it is too much. Just wanted to add that I used to work in a store that sold make-up, similar to Sephora, and it was store policy that ALL (women and men) employees had to wear at least 7 clearly visible pieces of make-up that were sold in the store. I often looked like a hooker at a Halloween party, but it was a requirement. I have no idea if Sephora has a similar policy, but it's possible.
SEVEN? And it has to be clearly visible? What the fuck do you have after eyeshadow, eye liner, mascara, lipstick and blush? Am I just a make up idiot?
I know we have a few Australians on the board sorry on mobile so can't tag them. But my friend lives in Sydney and just had her 4th failed IVF attempt and I just talked to her and she explained that it's illegal in Australia to pay for a donor egg.
She explained that she would need a friend or family member to donate an egg for free but all her friends are considered past the age where it is worth it due to risk off poor egg quality( over 35) And her sister is 40 so no go there. She is considering coming to the U.S. to do it but then she would need to leave her husband and probably quit her job to do that.
I guess my UO is why is this?? I'm heartbroken for her and I don't see why she can't have the option to pay someone for an egg if she has the money. In the U.S.A it is very common to pay for a donor egg.
Technically we aren't allowed to pay for eggs here either. You compensate the donor for her "time and what she physically endures," or something like that. I'd have to look at our contract for the exact language. There are several countries where all third party reproduction is illegal for various reasons. It makes me sad. I'm so grateful to our donor and what she did for us. We wouldn't have had a baby if not for donor eggs.
Mayo is fucking AWESOME! I adore my MIL. I don't change my baby's diaper the second he poos or pees. Pumpkin pie is awesome with all the whipped cream. I love summer and fall for different reasons. I'm a freak for good, professional photography. I like politics but refuse to discuss it unless I'm in the right mood because I will tell you you are stupid, if warranted, and I hate arguing about politics specifically.
I was up/out too late last night and can't come up with a good UO right now. But the day isn't finished.
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