Philly has been preparing to host Francis and three public events for the past year.
A speech at Independence Hall on Saturday; a festival on Saturday night and mass on Sunday. It's shutting down most of Philadelphia for several days.
Courts close Tuesday, fences go up this week for secure zones, etc. I live two blocks from the festival and mass so my neighborhood is heavily affected.
Gotcha - why the world ending name though? Because the city is grinding* to a halt?
Post by mikaela20 on Sept 19, 2015 10:43:57 GMT -5
@gomama15 definitely not normal. They can get a package at the venue that offers food to the adults even if it's the same food the kids are eating..that's rude to me.
Going to a b-day party this afternoon. Have a legit question. Is it normal/widely accepted to invite adults to kids b-day parties where there are zero refreshments provided for the adults? (In other words, no food, cake or drink are allocated for the adults only for the kids.)
Edited to clarify, I'm not referring to singingsea birthday party, I'm sure any party of her's will be lovely and full of all sorts of refreshments. Happy birthday!
That's wack. If you throw a party everyone should be fed and provided beverages. That's just me.
It shouldn't just be you. If you are agreeing to host an event then you are agreeing to provide food, drink and entertainment appropriate for the time of day. That's Hosting 101 and non-negotiable. But so many think that etiquette is about napkins and not guests' comfort so many aren't learning what is socially right.
Philly has been preparing to host Francis and three public events for the past year.
A speech at Independence Hall on Saturday; a festival on Saturday night and mass on Sunday. It's shutting down most of Philadelphia for several days.
Courts close Tuesday, fences go up this week for secure zones, etc. I live two blocks from the festival and mass so my neighborhood is heavily affected.
Gotcha - why the world ending name though? Because the city is grinding* to a halt?
It's been an involved process. The city is working with the FBI to plan this event and it's been a crazy six months. The transportation woes and preparedness we've been told to have is basically like we're walking into a very awful storm.
But, we have names for it that are all tongue in cheek. Pope-a-poolza is another! No disrespect is meant by referencing apocolypse - it's just in response to the activity over the past few months.
Going to a b-day party this afternoon. Have a legit question. Is it normal/widely accepted to invite adults to kids b-day parties where there are zero refreshments provided for the adults? (In other words, no food, cake or drink are allocated for the adults only for the kids.)
Edited to clarify, I'm not referring to singingsea birthday party, I'm sure any party of her's will be lovely and full of all sorts of refreshments. Happy birthday!
Every child's birthday party I've been to in my adult life, whether with DS or pre-DS, the hosts have provided for the adults to share in the food/drink. Full disclosure though, they have all been parties where it was clear that the adults were welcome (and encouraged to stay). I can remember going to friends' birthday parties growing up where adults didn't stay (or weren't expected to), so in this case I'd say it's ok to not provide enough to feed adults as well. But I do think it should be explicitly spelled out in the invite somehow though. ETA: Reading and not just skimming now: Wait, so they're inviting children AND adults but only feeding the kids? That's bunk as hell. Def should be able to provide for ALL who were invited/are attending.
That's wack. If you throw a party everyone should be fed and provided beverages. That's just me.
It shouldn't just be you. If you are agreeing to host an event then you are agreeing to provide food, drink and entertainment appropriate for the time of day. That's Hosting 101 and non-negotiable. But so many think that etiquette is about napkins and not guests' comfort so many aren't learning what is socially right.
Definitely agree. I side eye people who don't feed their vendors at weddings.
Post by GOmamab15 on Sept 19, 2015 11:08:05 GMT -5
And the party is at the start of dinner time. I guess I'm not surprised at all because it's happened before a few times, but it's so awkward I keep on thinking they will learn! Now mutual friend who's also going is texting me cuz she's angry about it too. At least we got a heads up text last night.
It shouldn't just be you. If you are agreeing to host an event then you are agreeing to provide food, drink and entertainment appropriate for the time of day. That's Hosting 101 and non-negotiable. But so many think that etiquette is about napkins and not guests' comfort so many aren't learning what is socially right.
Definitely agree. I side eye people who don't feed their vendors at weddings.
You mean like the photographer and baker and DJ and stuff?
To me, these people are not guests. They are working and I am paying them to do their job. That being said I wouldnt care if the waiters grabbed a bite out back, or the DJ grabbed some dessert and drink or something but I wouldnt set out a table to feed staff. That seems pretty unprofessional to me, and as a waitress I would feel really uncomfortable eating when I was supposed to be working.
Is this just me? Am I a terrible person? It's ok if the answer is yes.
Post by kayladawn91 on Sept 19, 2015 11:21:05 GMT -5
AW: My best friend is in town this weekend and just contacted me to see if we could meet up. I'm so excited! I skipped her daughter's 1st birthday party last month because I was in a bad place emotionally and we haven't really talked since then. We also haven't seen each other since Christmas. Her move two years ago really took a toll on out relationship but we've been friends since 7th grade so every time we are together it's like no time has passed. Did I mention I'm excited?
Definitely agree. I side eye people who don't feed their vendors at weddings.
You mean like the photographer and baker and DJ and stuff?
To me, these people are not guests. They are working and I am paying them to do their job. That being said I wouldnt care if the waiters grabbed a bite out back, or the DJ grabbed some dessert and drink or something but I wouldnt set out a table to feed staff. That seems pretty unprofessional to me, and as a waitress I would feel really uncomfortable eating when I was supposed to be working.
Is this just me? Am I a terrible person? It's ok if the answer is yes.
I'm talking about just making sure they can eat if they'd like and there's enough food. They are humans with stomachs. My boss was my DJ at my wedding (wrap your mind around that lol. It's a side gig of his.)
You mean like the photographer and baker and DJ and stuff?
To me, these people are not guests. They are working and I am paying them to do their job. That being said I wouldnt care if the waiters grabbed a bite out back, or the DJ grabbed some dessert and drink or something but I wouldnt set out a table to feed staff. That seems pretty unprofessional to me, and as a waitress I would feel really uncomfortable eating when I was supposed to be working.
Is this just me? Am I a terrible person? It's ok if the answer is yes.
I'm talking about just making sure they can eat if they'd like and there's enough food. They are humans with stomachs. My boss was my DJ at my wedding (wrap your mind around that lol. It's a side gig of his.)
Ah ok. I think we're on the same page then. I did t specifically take vendors into account when ordering our food but orderered 10% extra anyway as " just in case" for whatever reason and told the DJ (extended family friend) and caterers to help themselves if they had a moment. My baker and hairdresser were actually guests (small town lol) and so they had actual spots.
You mean like the photographer and baker and DJ and stuff?
To me, these people are not guests. They are working and I am paying them to do their job. That being said I wouldnt care if the waiters grabbed a bite out back, or the DJ grabbed some dessert and drink or something but I wouldnt set out a table to feed staff. That seems pretty unprofessional to me, and as a waitress I would feel really uncomfortable eating when I was supposed to be working.
Is this just me? Am I a terrible person? It's ok if the answer is yes.
I'm talking about just making sure they can eat if they'd like and there's enough food. They are humans with stomachs. My boss was my DJ at my wedding (wrap your mind around that lol. It's a side gig of his.)
This has been a nice, quiet day at home. I've just been doing laundry and doing other chores. I have to run errands later and fill out paperwork for the boys to get them enrolled in daycare.
This is why that Barnyard Animals movie (or whatever it's called) is so upsetting to me. Why are most of the cows males? Why do they all have utters, why can't they just have penises? It's not like bulls go around with their junk hanging out randomly. Why are they not anatomically correct???
I'm talking about just making sure they can eat if they'd like and there's enough food. They are humans with stomachs. My boss was my DJ at my wedding (wrap your mind around that lol. It's a side gig of his.)
Ah ok. I think we're on the same page then. I did t specifically take vendors into account when ordering our food but orderered 10% extra anyway as " just in case" for whatever reason and told the DJ (extended family friend) and caterers to help themselves if they had a moment. My baker and hairdresser were actually guests (small town lol) and so they had actual spots.
We fed our photographer and videographer. They were with us since the morning so would not have been able to eat anything all day otherwise. The DJs also sat down and ate. I think those were the only vendors there once the wedding started.
This is why that Barnyard Animals movie (or whatever it's called) is so upsetting to me. Why are most of the cows males? Why do they all have utters, why can't they just have penises? It's not like bulls go around with their junk hanging out randomly. Why are they not anatomically correct???
It's like people forget all cows are female or something.
Agree with feeding vendors at a wedding. Or at least offering it to them. We planned to have seats/plates for our DJ, two photographers, and the venue coordinator, but I think only our photographers actually sat down and ate.
Post by mikaela20 on Sept 19, 2015 12:55:03 GMT -5
Yes to having to feed and seat your vendors at weddings. Just like you should tip your vendors. Ours had a table off to the side with place settings,favors and wine over dinner. They also got a choice of meals, the same choices my guests had. They worked their butts off for me, I wanted them to have a nice break to eat. The vendors I included are not the waiters and catering staff- the catering company is in charge of their own staff IMO. I included the dj, planner and her assistant and photographer.
Definitely agree. I side eye people who don't feed their vendors at weddings.
You mean like the photographer and baker and DJ and stuff?
To me, these people are not guests. They are working and I am paying them to do their job. That being said I wouldnt care if the waiters grabbed a bite out back, or the DJ grabbed some dessert and drink or something but I wouldnt set out a table to feed staff. That seems pretty unprofessional to me, and as a waitress I would feel really uncomfortable eating when I was supposed to be working.
Is this just me? Am I a terrible person? It's ok if the answer is yes.
If you're wrong, I'm wrong. I wouldn't care if they had a plate during a downtime for them or something, but I wouldn't set them a table, and I'd expect any "breaks" to follow state labor laws.
Post by GOmamab15 on Sept 19, 2015 13:09:41 GMT -5
I wonder if I should say something to the host or continue to bite my tongue. I think I'll say nothing. H is cracking me up with jokes about it this morning, he's thinking of skipping it himself. I was invited to a kid's b-day party, being CFNBC it's known that I would be the one attending the party. It was a while after I RSVP'd that I was informed that adults wouldn't be provided any refreshments/fed anything.
pismoduo I just noticed Mrs. Krabappel has a Charlie Brown candle, aren't the Simpsons awesomely random?
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