This one is certainly random but adorable. A present from my step-daughter, an illustration of the twins. Can anyone guess what their personalities have been like thus far?
runningmommy519 if he is having a hard time keeping his tongue down, then it's likely not a tongue tie. E has a hard time keeping it down now after his correction.
I don't know what's happening with girlonabike but I hope she is ok!
Post by sunshinelady15 on Sept 19, 2015 23:57:58 GMT -5
Went to a moms night out with 34 other moms and it was WONDERFUL!! DH called 5 times from the time I left home until I got to her house, but I did not turn around and go home. Everyone lived without me and I got DRUNK for the first time in 13 months! Even better NO hangover the next day!!!!
My LC diagnosed it. I didn't suspect it at all because 3 LCs in the hospital looked at him, tried to get him to latch and failed. They said he just had a small mouth and to just work on it. Several weeks later, after thrush, mastitis, bleeding nipples, nursing every hour around the clock, a rediculous amount of spit up, and finally a tanked milk supply, I went to see another LC. I was hesitant because I had already seen 3 and they were no help at all. She diagnosed the tie and referred me to a particular doctor. I could not get in there right away and went and saw the ped who referred me to an ENT. They did nothing, and don't recognize a tie unless it's obvious and at the tip of the tongue. I finally got into the right doctor and the change has been unreal. He gets better every day.
Looking back, we both had all the symptoms. And that's way more info than you asked for.
No that helps. Sometimes Ethan has issues with latching and keeping his tongue down. Or he seems to play with my nipple rather than suck. But I have none of those symptoms.
runningmommy519 it is still possible to have a slight tongue tie and not have pain. C does but he still transfers milk well and I'm not experiencing any pain with nursing so I decided not too worry about it. Unfortunately very few ppl are properly trained to diagnose ties. It is important to see an IBCLC when getting tie help, not just an LC. This stands for international board certified lactation consultant and they have much more extensive training. I'm so sorry that you didn't get the help you needed from the LCs at your hospital jgesi. Ladies, please know that if you're having pain and bleeding, that is not normal and something isn't right. Get help and don't take no for an answer until you get the problem fixed.
I got out of the house last night without the baby. My parents took DS and H kept DD and gave her two bottles of expressed mulk. I pumped before I left and when I got home, so another 3 bottles or so are going in the freezer. I drank some Malibu Bay Breeze and half a glass of Reisling. Went ro paint & create and enjoyed some girl time. It was nice! Reminded me of the convenience of formula, but I am okay with one night every couple of weeks while BF!
Attempting to go to church this morning for the first time in our new town. We tried to go last week but E cried in the car the whole way there so we drove around for a while to get her to stop and missed the service
Hubs is out of town and I'm failing at being a mom of 2. Dd1 doesnt listen for shit. And it's not the oh she's only 2 and its so cute. Its her running away from me in a busy parking lot when my hands are full and I'm going to lose my shit horrible bad type of not listening. Yesterday there was a lot of mean yelling and crying on both our parts with time outs thrown in to her pacifier and blanket being taken away.
I am at my wits end trying to figure out how to get her to listen I even try the respectful parenting approach and that doesn't do Jack. I don't know what to do. Anyone know of good toddler parenting books?!
I'm sorry @janetheconquerer. I don't have any advice, but that situation sure sounds difficult. Especially with your H being out of town! But I don't think you are failing at being a mom, just going through a hard time.
Hubs is out of town and I'm failing at being a mom of 2. Dd1 doesnt listen for shit. And it's not the oh she's only 2 and its so cute. Its her running away from me in a busy parking lot when my hands are full and I'm going to lose my shit horrible bad type of not listening. Yesterday there was a lot of mean yelling and crying on both our parts with time outs thrown in to her pacifier and blanket being taken away.
I am at my wits end trying to figure out how to get her to listen I even try the respectful parenting approach and that doesn't do Jack. I don't know what to do. Anyone know of good toddler parenting books?!
Parenting is hard right now.
Ugh. I'm sorry it's been such a crazy time with DD1. That age is so difficult to begin with, and when you've got a newborn and your DH is away I really feel for you. Honestly, with her running away from you in the parking lot, I don't blame you for losing it. I'm generally easygoing, but with stuff like that I'll go nuts!
With DS, we're all about consequences (we started this from the beginning). You want to throw something? Congratulations, you've lost it now. You don't want to eat dinner? Fine, but you're not getting anything else. You want to throw a tantrum about something? Ok, go to your room, I'm not listening to that craziness. Once you're calm, we'll talk calmly. We've tried to build that in from the beginning: every action has a reaction. It's a little bit of tough love sometimes, but it seems to work for us.
When does your DH get back? I was without DH last week and it sucked, sending good vibes your way!
manda1214 so glad you're okay! Car accidents like that are so scary.
@janetheconquerer I was on my own with my 2 year old and infant last week. It royally sucks and is REALLY hard. I don't blame you for losing your patience - I would too if J started running into parking lots (ugh, my chest hurts just thinking about what could happen). I agree with tmclawchick we do consequences. You throw the toy, you lose it. You act up at bedtime, no story time. It might work for you?
Post by motownthrowdown on Sept 20, 2015 8:18:15 GMT -5
Woke up to A squirming and crying. DH told me to sleep in (it was 8am-score!) and took her downstairs to feed her.
All I hear is banshee shrieking for like ten minutes while he made up bottles or something. I guess he can't hold her and do another task. He finally finishes whatever it was and gets her quiet, I almost fall asleep....and then his fucking alarm clock goes off. For no reason. We have nothing to do and nowhere to be.
I ripped it out of the wall because I don't know how to shut it off.
Thanks for the advice. We try most of that except for the food. If she doesn't eat and then wants yogurt or something we feed her. Only because she's been very under weight since birth we basically just want her to eat. I say go to time out and she says OK and takes herself. If we take it away she says OK and finds something else. Hubs and I are sick of her "OK", its almost patronizing now.
Hubs comes home Thursday evening. Right now I have never looked forward to a Monday and daycare like I do right now. I know most of this is due to new baby an is an adjustment period but the way its going I don't know if I will be standing at the end of it.
@janetheconquerer we're having some of the same issues. DD1 doesn't seem to understand consequences yet, but we try anyway. Honestly, and I know this isn't helpful to you right now, but when she's getting really rowdy and acting up a lot, it's usually because I'm not paying enough attention to her. So I try to give DH the baby or stop whatever I'm doing and focus on her. That really seems to help, but obviously isn't always possible.
Last night DD2 was fussy and only wanted to be held by me and DD1 was going nuts. I had her get her baby stroller and push it behind me while we marched through the house singing the ants go marching. For 20 minutes. It put DD2 to sleep in my arms, made DD1 feel like I was playing with her, and burned some of her energy. If the neighbors could see through the window they must've thought I was nuts.
jgesi that's good to know! girlonabike mentioned some stuff going on with her husband that she was going to confront him about. She hasn't been back since.
@janetheconquerer I get it. It's the same with my 3 yr old. I can't let him walk in to stores unless absolute necessary. I get isaac in the cart then I wear Ethan. Time outs work about half the time. I also find giving him choices works sometimes. So you want to do this or that? Also.... I've become my mother. I count to 5. If he doesn't do what on ask by then then it's a timeout.
Yesterday we successfully survived soccer, lunch at a restaurant, grocery shopping, and a get together at our house with some friends, including a 2 year old and a 7 month old. All in all, it was a pretty great day
We're going to attempt church this morning. Hope baby girl cooperates.
And I just ate a muffin. But in my mind, it was cake
Post by oopsiedaisies on Sept 20, 2015 8:58:08 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer, I'm so sorry that you're having a rough time. My H works long days, leaves at 6 am, gets home at 730, so I understand to an extent what you're going through, and he's doing 11 in a row right now, too.
We also do consequences, and I'm dealing with a super defiant 2 yr old right now also...Its hard doing it alone.
AFM, we're going to try for the park today since it rained most of the day yesterday. Other than that, its up in the air.
@jhalula09 I have always been scared to try one of those places. I struggle with stick figures. Yours turned out great!
Stick figures are pretty much the only things I can draw. They actually demonstrate what you do and they paint at the same time. Definitely better than I expected!
@janetheconquerer I originally read this advice in a funny article of things people believed for way too long, but I gotta say, for me scare tactics worked. The advice/scenario was: These parents told their kids that the oil stains on the street were dead kids who didn't hold their parents hands in parking lots or while walking. That may make you laugh, or horrify you.
I'm sorry you are having a rough go of it right now.
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 20, 2015 10:11:13 GMT -5
@sarawalk and oopsiedaisies I don't want to me one of those "just you wait" people. But for us.... Age 3 has been so much more challenging than age 2. In a way, the defiant attitude or challenging behavior is a good thing because they want to have their own opinions and are trying to be independent. Plus strong willed kidos make for great leaders... at least this is what i keep telling myself.
@janetheconquerer I originally read this advice in a funny article of things people believed for way too long, but I gotta say, for me scare tactics worked. The advice/scenario was: These parents told their kids that the oil stains on the street were dead kids who didn't hold their parents hands in parking lots or while walking. That may make you laugh, or horrify you.
I'm sorry you are having a rough go of it right now.
My parents told me if I didn't behave, they'd return me to the kaeguri store. I pictured a huge store with shelves full of me. I asked them once what would happen to me, and they said all the returned kaeguris just sat in an empty room for forever.
Post by elizabethnevadap on Sept 20, 2015 10:18:28 GMT -5
No sleep...exhausted. Par for the course, though, so understandable. You know what is NOT understandable? H sleeping peacefully through all of it and than acting like he's a saint for changing one dirty diaper after he lazily rolls on out of bed. I'm crabby.
@sarawalk and oopsiedaisies I don't want to me one of those "just you wait" people. But for us.... Age 3 has been so much more challenging than age 2. In a way, the defiant attitude or challenging behavior is a good thing because they want to have their own opinions and are trying to be independent. Plus strong willed kidos make for great leaders... at least this is what i keep telling myself.
same, 3 has been tough. Not only is she defiant, but defiant with a vocabulary and attitude.
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