DH left the rest of our lasagna leftovers out and I'm hungry (starving). So I told him he is watching Lo and I'm getting chipotle. Bc it's been four hours sitting on our stove not cold. Screw that mess.
I feel like a shitty mom. DD is absolutely making me crazy the last couple of days. She just wants to be in the baby's face, won't stop doing something when I ask her to, and argues about everything. I am chalking it up to her adjusting to the new baby. I feel bad for getting so frustrated so quickly. She is going to daycare so she's home 4- bedtime. I feel like I shouldn't be this way in a small time frame.
I feel like a shitty mom. DD is absolutely making me crazy the last couple of days. She just wants to be in the baby's face, won't stop doing something when I ask her to, and argues about everything. I am chalking it up to her adjusting to the new baby. I feel bad for getting so frustrated so quickly. She is going to daycare so she's home 4- bedtime. I feel like I shouldn't be this way in a small time frame.
I am in the same boat, she is only home for like 3-4 hours before bedtime, but can create total chaos in that time. In the baby's face, waking her up, not listening, doing things she knows she shouldn't. I know this is am adjustment and I am trying to be compassionate, but she is making it tough.
I feel like a shitty mom. DD is absolutely making me crazy the last couple of days. She just wants to be in the baby's face, won't stop doing something when I ask her to, and argues about everything. I am chalking it up to her adjusting to the new baby. I feel bad for getting so frustrated so quickly. She is going to daycare so she's home 4- bedtime. I feel like I shouldn't be this way in a small time frame.
I am in the same boat, she is only home for like 3-4 hours before bedtime, but can create total chaos in that time. In the baby's face, waking her up, not listening, doing things she knows she shouldn't. I know this is am adjustment and I am trying to be compassionate, but she is making it tough.
I have been trying to do things with her while the baby sleeps. Of course, when he is asleep she has zero interest. She wants my attention when the baby is nursing or needs something. Hopefully this adjusts soon.
(I always cry on my birthdays since 21 because they just aren't the same anymore..)
Thanks lady. I didn't cry today, just a pity party of one over here. You're right that birthdays aren't the same anymore. If say the last good one was 24 for me. I didn't get to go get a cake because witching hour and now sleepy baby laying on me. But I did find one of my bottles of wine! It's been so long since I've had wine. I would have preferred a beer tonight, but this will do.
I am in the same boat, she is only home for like 3-4 hours before bedtime, but can create total chaos in that time. In the baby's face, waking her up, not listening, doing things she knows she shouldn't. I know this is am adjustment and I am trying to be compassionate, but she is making it tough.
I have been trying to do things with her while the baby sleeps. Of course, when he is asleep she has zero interest. She wants my attention when the baby is nursing or needs something. Hopefully this adjusts soon.
We're in the same boat here too. I feel really guilty when I dread going to get DS from daycare, but things will get better. They've already improved some. It'll get better ladies.
I feel like a shitty mom. DD is absolutely making me crazy the last couple of days. She just wants to be in the baby's face, won't stop doing something when I ask her to, and argues about everything. I am chalking it up to her adjusting to the new baby. I feel bad for getting so frustrated so quickly. She is going to daycare so she's home 4- bedtime. I feel like I shouldn't be this way in a small time frame.
This poor kid can NOT take a pacifier. The nipple on the soothie is so long he gags every time it goes all the way into his mouth. How is he ever going to take a bottle?
Mine won't take a soothie. I bought an adorable wubbanub and she hates the soothie pacifier it's attached to. Right now she prefers newborn mams.
I feel like a shitty mom. DD is absolutely making me crazy the last couple of days. She just wants to be in the baby's face, won't stop doing something when I ask her to, and argues about everything. I am chalking it up to her adjusting to the new baby. I feel bad for getting so frustrated so quickly. She is going to daycare so she's home 4- bedtime. I feel like I shouldn't be this way in a small time frame.
Yep. I could have written this word for word. I had an ugly cry about it yesterday. Today was better. Keeping her busy is key. We went to the grocery store to make stuff for (lactation) cookies, then after lunch we went to the park, and then when B napped we made cookies. I'm tired but feeling less drained as a mom and emotionally. She still annoyed me at times but I wasn't yelling as much today. Little wins. Ha!
Dd is home all week with me because daycare is on vacation. Props to SAHMs. I don't know how you do it. *bowsdown*
This poor kid can NOT take a pacifier. The nipple on the soothie is so long he gags every time it goes all the way into his mouth. How is he ever going to take a bottle?
Mine won't take a soothie. I bought an adorable wubbanub and she hates the soothie pacifier it's attached to. Right now she prefers newborn mams.
We have different kinds back home. Nuk and sometimes else. I'll have to keep trying.
My. Ass. Hurts. I've been really blocked up the past few days and I finally went to poop today and it got stuck halfway out. I was in tears and practically screaming and my husband is standing there freaking out cause he didn't know what to do. Obviously it finally came out but it felt like my butt was ripped open and gave birth. This was hours ago and it still hurts to sit down.
This has happened to me twice PP. I had to use a suppository. Fun times.
My. Ass. Hurts. I've been really blocked up the past few days and I finally went to poop today and it got stuck halfway out. I was in tears and practically screaming and my husband is standing there freaking out cause he didn't know what to do. Obviously it finally came out but it felt like my butt was ripped open and gave birth. This was hours ago and it still hurts to sit down.
If it was bloody take extra care. Fiber + lots of water + stool softener. Anal fissers are no joke. I've been there. Hope you feel better soon.
I feel like a shitty mom. DD is absolutely making me crazy the last couple of days. She just wants to be in the baby's face, won't stop doing something when I ask her to, and argues about everything. I am chalking it up to her adjusting to the new baby. I feel bad for getting so frustrated so quickly. She is going to daycare so she's home 4- bedtime. I feel like I shouldn't be this way in a small time frame.
YEP. DS1 and DD are all up in the baby's face. They fight with each other -- like, physically fight -- scratching each other and breaking skin. They don't listen. DD wants to do everything herself on her terms, and DS1 has gotten really demanding and starts throwing things when we don't go completely with his plan.
You're not a shitty mom, you're a person. Parenting is really, really hard. I yell more than I want to. My house looks like a war zone. My house sometimes feels and sounds like a war zone -- battles and hostages. But, it's just a phase. I remember feeling like DS1 was just the worst kid ever when we had DD. I got all of these parenting books from the library and felt like I just had to be doing something wrong. I learned some things maybe, but honestly the best thing to do (for me) was to just give it time and TRY to enjoy the kids without "accomplishing" anything. This too shall pass.
ETA I don't know what we're going to do when the weather is not so nice. Letting the kids play outside for most of the afternoon is totally saving my ass right now. No spills, no mess. They're not destroying the house. And they're typically entertained by outdoor things, so I can sit with the baby and have a cup of coffee. (Winter, please don't come.)
I feel like a shitty mom. DD is absolutely making me crazy the last couple of days. She just wants to be in the baby's face, won't stop doing something when I ask her to, and argues about everything. I am chalking it up to her adjusting to the new baby. I feel bad for getting so frustrated so quickly. She is going to daycare so she's home 4- bedtime. I feel like I shouldn't be this way in a small time frame.
I am in the same boat, she is only home for like 3-4 hours before bedtime, but can create total chaos in that time. In the baby's face, waking her up, not listening, doing things she knows she shouldn't. I know this is am adjustment and I am trying to be compassionate, but she is making it tough.
+1. DD1 is home for less than 3 hours before bed, and only 2 of those are without DH. How is it this hard to parent 2 kids for 2 hours a day?? I'm seriously considering not returning to work, but then we'd pull DD1 out of full time daycare. If I can't handle 2 hours a day by myself, how am I supposed to do full days? The reason I want to be a SAHM is to spend more time with my kids, except now I don't want to.
I am in the same boat, she is only home for like 3-4 hours before bedtime, but can create total chaos in that time. In the baby's face, waking her up, not listening, doing things she knows she shouldn't. I know this is am adjustment and I am trying to be compassionate, but she is making it tough.
I have been trying to do things with her while the baby sleeps. Of course, when he is asleep she has zero interest. She wants my attention when the baby is nursing or needs something. Hopefully this adjusts soon.
+1. We had a shittastic day today. Pooped pants, peed my sofa, while my back was turned changing a diaper she got into my nail polish and painted her hands.. I mean, shittastic!! I felt like all I did was yell. I'm so glad that this is my h's weekend off and I won't have to do it alone. I'm so looking forward to finding a job in a few weeks...I've been home for the last few months and I'm ready to work again. Plus another for hats off to full time sahms.
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 24, 2015 21:41:31 GMT -5
+1,000 to DS1 just being so hard.
I realize that I need to spend one on one time with him. Puzzles, books and cars are our go to things at home. I also need to get us out of the house in the morning even if it's just a trip to the store. Getting two kids out of the house is a pain in the ass but it's needed. Then it's home for lunch and a little playtime before nap or preschool. I love preschool days because he's gone from 1:10-4:10. I'm not going to feel guilty about it because we both need it
After nap or preschool I usually put a movie on. I feel like it's a good way for him to decompress.
Yes I do all this in between feeding Ethan. Ethan can generally go 3-4 hrs between feeds. So I try to plan around that.
I was told it's not as good...I'm a Barqs girl...more in line with that?
I tried it last week. The aftertaste was terrible. Neither me nor H liked it. There was a serious discussion on Facebook over that one and NYF's and a few people liked the Coney's. Majority voted NYF. So now we're gonna have to pick some up tomorrow bc nom nom root beer.
I don't know if I can swing this SAHM thing either. I want to, and since we're able to, I feel like I should. I mean, so many other moms who have to work would love to stay at home. But I'm going crazy. I have no friends here, no way of making them besides introducing myself to random people (ew) or joining a mom group (also ew), and conversations with my dog and a screaming infant are getting old. Maybe it'll be different when she starts being more interactive? I can go back to working from home, but I'm not sure how to swing that when E doesn't want to be put down all day. I'm used to working a full time job plus a part time job. I haven't worked less than 50 hours a week for the past 11 years. I'm going crazy. Help.
I just packed Liam's bag for tomorrow. I'm so nervous about leaving him with a stranger.
I went back to work with DS1. I started crying when i dropped him off at daycare for the first time. Then I cried on and off all day. Yep it's hard. But you'll get through it. And you'll be so excited to see him.
I was told it's not as good...I'm a Barqs girl...more in line with that?
I tried it last week. The aftertaste was terrible. Neither me nor H liked it. There was a serious discussion on Facebook over that one and NYF's and a few people liked the Coney's. Majority voted NYF. So now we're gonna have to pick some up tomorrow bc nom nom root beer.
I don't know if I can swing this SAHM thing either. I want to, and since we're able to, I feel like I should. I mean, so many other moms who have to work would love to stay at home. But I'm going crazy. I have no friends here, no way of making them besides introducing myself to random people (ew) or joining a mom group (also ew), and conversations with my dog and a screaming infant are getting old. Maybe it'll be different when she starts being more interactive? I can go back to working from home, but I'm not sure how to swing that when E doesn't want to be put down all day. I'm used to working a full time job plus a part time job. I haven't worked less than 50 hours a week for the past 11 years. I'm going crazy. Help.
Move by me. We can hang out and have daily play dates. Problem solved.
I realize that I need to spend one on one time with him. Puzzles, books and cars are our go to things at home. I also need to get us out of the house in the morning even if it's just a trip to the store. Getting two kids out of the house is a pain in the ass but it's needed. Then it's home for lunch and a little playtime before nap or preschool. I love preschool days because he's gone from 1:10-4:10. I'm not going to feel guilty about it because we both need it
After nap or preschool I usually put a movie on. I feel like it's a good way for him to decompress.
Yes I do all this in between feeding Ethan. Ethan can generally go 3-4 hrs between feeds. So I try to plan around that.
Some days are better than others.
DS barely goes 2 hours between feeds during the day. He gives me about a 5 hour stretch and then another 3 maybe 4 hour stretch at night. Today he has been eating more frequently than 2 hours. I just pumped and was thinking I would go drink a couple beers and use that if he woke before I could nurse again. He already woke 20 min after his last feed.
I took E in the bath with me tonight since she seems to hate going in by herself. She was really happy. So happy that she pooped on me. So now I'm waiting for the water to drain so I can shower. At least breastfed poop doesn't really smell!
kaeguri I understand. I don't think I'm cut out to be a SAHM. Financially I need to stay home for the year of mat leave (which I know lots of people would kill for) to delay double daycare costs. I really don't think I could do it more than a year though. It is so so so hard. I seriously tip my hat to those that are SAHMs.
We intend to move next summer so there's really no point in me searching for a job, going to interviews, and accepting a position when I plan on leaving in a few months so I have at least a year too. People think SAHMs have it so much easier. Hahahahhaaaa if they only knew. And I only have a 7 week old. It hasn't even started yet.
runningmommy519 don't you live where there's snow? Move to where there's no snow and we'll talk. I don't so cold. Does anyone here live in Portland? It's at the top of our list. Also, San Diego.
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