Post by bibliothecary on Sept 27, 2015 5:36:50 GMT -5
That moment when you realize your hair is always going to look amazing from now on because tinyhuman loves the sounds of the shower and the hair dryer.
Both hubs and I are on verge of being sick. We are fighting it like champs. That being said our kidfos decided to get us up at 5am. Its going to be a long day.
My golden bday was when I was 8.
I stopped smoking when I was pregnant with my first. Then went thru withdrawals after she was born and still til this day get the urge to light up every now and then. But I don't, I made a promise to her that I would never smoke again.
Post by gingerygirl on Sept 27, 2015 6:34:23 GMT -5
H came home late again this morning. Didn't get in till almost 6 (he usually gets home around 4:10). His excuse this time was that he stayed to chat with some coworkers. This is night two on a tour that he's come home very late and sat and watched TV for hours instead of coming to bed. I feel slighted and slightly suspicious. Should I be suspicious? Does this merit suspicion?
We're meeting friends today and going to a farm that has a pumpkin patch, hay rides, and a corn maze. The weather looks to be great for it. We should get home with plenty of time to relax as well.
H came home late again this morning. Didn't get in till almost 6 (he usually gets home around 4:10). His excuse this time was that he stayed to chat with some coworkers. This is night two on a tour that he's come home very late and sat and watched TV for hours instead of coming to bed. I feel slighted and slightly suspicious. Should I be suspicious? Does this merit suspicion?
I'd be mad.. Mainly because I assume you were worried about him. I'd maybe tell him that he should have the courtesy to txt or you to say he will be late so you aren't wondering if he's alive.
Also, the squishy postpartum me who thinks sex now hurts would probably be paranoid.
gingerygirl I'd be pissed. H knows that it's not that he can't stay out but that I appreciate at least a text to know he's fine. Otherwise I start to worry.
Do you think he might be staying out late to avoid helping with baby stuff? I know you've mentioned several times how uncomfortable he is.
H came home late again this morning. Didn't get in till almost 6 (he usually gets home around 4:10). His excuse this time was that he stayed to chat with some coworkers. This is night two on a tour that he's come home very late and sat and watched TV for hours instead of coming to bed. I feel slighted and slightly suspicious. Should I be suspicious? Does this merit suspicion?
I'd be annoyed for sure... What are you suspicious of? Part of me thinks it's a new job and he very well may be talking to his coworkers to get to know them/fit in, but I also think you should trust your gut if you think there's more to it than that. I hope you get an answer soon ::hugs::
gingerygirl I'd be pissed. H knows that it's not that he can't stay out but that I appreciate at least a text to know he's fine. Otherwise I start to worry.
Do you think he might be staying out late to avoid helping with baby stuff? I know you've mentioned several times how uncomfortable he is.
I hope he doesn't keep this up.
I don't know. I don't think so. I mean, baby is usually asleep at 4am when he gets home so he doesn't even have to worry about helping out with him. And maybe it's just me, but I thought that after a long ten hour over night shift he would want to crawl into bed with me right when he gets home. Guess not?
gingerygirl I'd be pissed. H knows that it's not that he can't stay out but that I appreciate at least a text to know he's fine. Otherwise I start to worry.
Do you think he might be staying out late to avoid helping with baby stuff? I know you've mentioned several times how uncomfortable he is.
I hope he doesn't keep this up.
I don't know. I don't think so. I mean, baby is usually asleep at 4am when he gets home so he doesn't even have to worry about helping out with him. And maybe it's just me, but I thought that after a long ten hour over night shift he would want to crawl into bed with me right when he gets home. Guess not?
I'm sorry.. It definitely merits a good conversation to see what's up. I know my H has to "unwind" before he can just come to bed and I'm the same when I have to work late. That being said, we do that at home..
H came home late again this morning. Didn't get in till almost 6 (he usually gets home around 4:10). His excuse this time was that he stayed to chat with some coworkers. This is night two on a tour that he's come home very late and sat and watched TV for hours instead of coming to bed. I feel slighted and slightly suspicious. Should I be suspicious? Does this merit suspicion?
I'd be annoyed for sure... What are you suspicious of? Part of me thinks it's a new job and he very well may be talking to his coworkers to get to know them/fit in, but I also think you should trust your gut if you think there's more to it than that. I hope you get an answer soon ::hugs::
om suspicious because very very very early on our dating relationship we had some issues with disappearing and not being where he said he was and stuff and it turned out to be an another-woman problem. This was years ago and we've never had that problem since, but I still remember. I don't want to be suspicious and think the worst, but at 4:30am in bed alone and lonely the mind does that nasty thinking thing.
gingerygirl it's really shitty you're even having to worry about anything. FX you can have a good talk with him and he starts coming home right after work.
I'd be annoyed for sure... What are you suspicious of? Part of me thinks it's a new job and he very well may be talking to his coworkers to get to know them/fit in, but I also think you should trust your gut if you think there's more to it than that. I hope you get an answer soon ::hugs::
om suspicious because very very very early on our dating relationship we had some issues with disappearing and not being where he said he was and stuff and it turned out to be an another-woman problem. This was years ago and we've never had that problem since, but I still remember. I don't want to be suspicious and think the worst, but at 4:30am in bed alone and lonely the mind does that nasty thinking thing.
Ugh, I'm sorry I really hope it's just something innocent. I agree that it's worth having the conversation.
Post by oopsiedaisies on Sept 27, 2015 7:53:04 GMT -5
gingerygirl I'd be upset too. My H and I always let each other know if we're gonna be late. It's just plain courtesy. We're going to the apple orchard today with a group of ladies I met at the bf'ing support group when dd was a baby. I'm so glad that this group has remained close...in 2 weeks we're doing a mama's only night (plus new nurslings only) That is going to be the best!
Post by motownthrowdown on Sept 27, 2015 8:15:33 GMT -5
gingerygirl I'm sorry this is is even something you have to worry about. Wondering if he's just not handling the baby thing very well, like ampaints said. Some other possibilities: is he going to a bar after work? Is he trying to get some "me time" away from you and the baby and this is the only time he can do it?
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 27, 2015 8:22:30 GMT -5
gingerygirl I know ive said this before but men can suffer from PPD/PPA. You guys have been through a lot in the last year. Loss of your daughter, another pregnancy, healthy baby, new job for you, new job for him, new house. My husband was very withdrawn from me and from DS1 at first. I would definitely talk to him and tell him his you feel. Try to avoid accusations if you can. Say things like, I feel X because of Y. Etc.
We flew with C for the first time and she slept the entire flight. My sister got married yesterday, and the ceremony was lovely. I felt like a Wolverine with all the people that wanted to hold the baby but eventually I just let it happen. My bridesmaid dress had a a very structured bodice, though, and now I'm pretty sure I have my first plugged duct.
I hope those with wide-awake babies start getting some sleep soon.
I am just downright exhausted. On Friday my mom and I left around 1230/1 in the afternoon to go visit some of her family *about 2 1/2 hours away* and got back home around midnight. DD was a wailing banshee when we got home, so I wasn't in bed until 1. Then she was up at 4ish and again at 7ish to nurse and up for the day. Went to an apple festival and all I wanted to do was nap when we got home, but that didn't happen either. Two days without a nap. Today is cleaning and errands day, but hoping to squeeze a nap in somewhere.
Just catching up. I drove most of the way yesterday. Kid had a rough night. We got to the hotel after midnight and to bed at around 1. He woke up at about 430 and nursed and then went back to sleep for like 20 minutes and wanted to be held again. He nursed a ton. Both my boobs are super engorged from not nursing as often bc of the road trip. We stopped every 2-3 hours and he wasn't crying for more or anything he just normally nurses more often at home. Poor guy just wanted to sleep on my lap and not his crib. I finally got wife up so I could shower and put J in his crib and explained he'd probably start crying. So when I got out of the shower she's passed out w J and both dogs in the bed w her. J was less than a foot away from the edge. We don't do cosleeping. I don't think it's safe. I was annoyed but didn't say anything bc she'd no doubt get pissed for me getting on her case. I'm just ready to be home. 8 more hours. Man I didn't mean for this to turn into a bitch fest =/
My golden birthday was my 23rd. One of my friends and I went to Portland, OR for a long weekend to visit another friend who lives there. We had a pretty awesome weekend.
hiimjamie you are a badass for doing a road trip with J. It sucks you've had to do so much driving and I hope you can relax when you get home. I'm with you on the cosleeping thing...it freaks me out. I know tons of people do it successfully, including my best friend, but I wouldn't be able to sleep. I hope you can talk to your wife about it if it happens again. DH hates it when I even nurse side-lying and reminds me every time to not fall asleep.
Post by motownthrowdown on Sept 27, 2015 10:12:39 GMT -5
So my in laws were supposed to come over to watch A fir a couple hours so dh and I could go out. They were supposed to be here at 11. At 9:50, I hear someone turning the front door knob and then the doorbell rings. DH is in boxers and a robe, I'm sitting on the couch pumping...it's the in laws. Wtf dudes. First of all, it's nowhere near 11. Second of all, who the eff tries to open someone's front door? Third, I can hear mil talking about things A should be able to do at 4 months and why can't she do them yet. I'm currently upstairs top less because i freaked out and ran up here in my pumping bra since I didn't know who was at the door.
There's something about my mom's house T really likes. She slept 6 hours last night and Friday night. I was worried that I slept through her crying, but I don't think so. I hope she keeps this up when we get back home. I go back to work in a week and the extra sleep each night would be awesome.
So my in laws were supposed to come over to watch A fir a couple hours so dh and I could go out. They were supposed to be here at 11. At 9:50, I hear someone turning the front door knob and then the doorbell rings. DH is in boxers and a robe, I'm sitting on the couch pumping...it's the in laws. Wtf dudes. First of all, it's nowhere near 11. Second of all, who the eff tries to open someone's front door? Third, I can hear mil talking about things A should be able to do at 4 months and why can't she do them yet. I'm currently upstairs top less because i freaked out and ran up here in my pumping bra since I didn't know who was at the door.
Umm, I'd like to punch that bitch. Maybe because I'm already ragey this morning from lack of sleep and a fucking needy dog who keeps waking up the baby.
My in laws live next door and have come over unannounced a few times already (they opened the door too because we rarely keep it locked and once I was walking around topless..)
So my in laws were supposed to come over to watch A fir a couple hours so dh and I could go out. They were supposed to be here at 11. At 9:50, I hear someone turning the front door knob and then the doorbell rings. DH is in boxers and a robe, I'm sitting on the couch pumping...it's the in laws. Wtf dudes. First of all, it's nowhere near 11. Second of all, who the eff tries to open someone's front door? Third, I can hear mil talking about things A should be able to do at 4 months and why can't she do them yet. I'm currently upstairs top less because i freaked out and ran up here in my pumping bra since I didn't know who was at the door.
Post by motownthrowdown on Sept 27, 2015 10:46:50 GMT -5
Re: adjusted age. She's already doing things at a 2-3 month range (not everything, but a couple things), so it isn't like she's just laying there doing nothing. Mil says " I just thought she'd catch up. She's almost 5 months old, you know."
According to the nicu, we will use her adjusted age for milestones until she is 3. One year for every month of prematurity.
Now she's trying to tell me that A is only smiling because she is pooping. I know for a fact this is not true, because she will mimic us, then laugh, then stop. We smile again, she smiles, repeat.
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