We're thinking of getting a hotel for this Saturday night in DC. Are we crazy? DH's co-worker is having a 50th b-day outing and he would like to go. We live about 1 1/2 hours from the city, so we are thinking that all of us might go to DC and the 3 of us will go to dinner. The b-day thing doesn't start until 8, so little E and I might just go back to the hotel and go to sleep and DH can stay out for a bit. E will be 7 weeks old at that point. Thoughts? It can't hurt to try, right? One night is no big deal, not like we get much sleep at home anyway.
I think that makes sense! We live about an hour from DC and I can't imagine dealing with a fussy baby on the metro after a party. Your plan allows for everyone to enjoy themselves and you can leave if you need to!
Post by wildermom on Sept 28, 2015 10:28:00 GMT -5
bibliothecary, In all honesty, I think the hardest thing about being a stay-at-home parent is to be able to find your identity in it. There's no pay and there's very little time "off" for balance like a work/home situation provides. Plus society really doesn't give it the kudos that it deserves. People act like you aren't working when really it's the toughest job I've ever had! And like noname I constantly consider that I have a degree to do something else, so that's tough.
I basically just remind myself that everything is temporary. Both the good and the bad. They're only little for such a short time. And it FLIES!. I want to soak up all these good moments with them and be the one that has them 24/7 while the option is mine. And yes, the lack of "adulting" is hard but I remind myself that that's temporary too. A day will come soon that I wish I could spend it with sweet baby snuggles or play pirates in the backyard. I'll go back to working and that phase will be over.
It's all such a balance. And the goal is figuring out what works for you. Good luck!
I am pseudo back to work today. Bc my position is appointed yearly I had to come back at six weeks to be reappointed or I wouldn't get paid. After I finish all the damn paperwork and getting my new badge, I am taking two more weeks of "vacation" paid bc I have the time.
Is it bad that I didn't feel bad leaving? I miss my peanut, but the time away helps me clear my brain I feel.
Also, government HR departments are literally the slowest things ever. A positions applied for closed 8/17. I am waiting to find out if I was on the Hr shortlist for hiring. I've already interviewed and it seems like they really want me. They just have to wait for HR. Bright side: if I get this we will move closer to home yay.
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 28, 2015 10:39:31 GMT -5
So many posts already!
Went to the gym. I switched our membership to the one where I won't have to pay to use the daycare. It's 400 bucks more per year but I pay at least 6 bucks each time I come. Plus some classes are free now too.
Laundry and errands are the plans for today. Also maybe a stroller walk this afternoon.
I started the 30 day shred today. Plan to do it everyday for 30 days. I remember the first time I did it I lost a lot of inches. I didn't take measurements but my pants were huge. This time I took my measurements. I'll let you all know how many inches I lose.
I am so irritated with the insurance of the person that hit my SUV back in August. At first, they were quick to respond and attentive, great! Then it took over 2 weeks for them to determine they were at fault and agreed to pay for the repairs. Then it took another 2 weeks for them to respond as to how they are going to replace our car seat base. We need to send them proof that we made the base un-usable before they will send us payment for it. They are paying for a rental, but it is not equivalent to the vehicle we are losing for a week. I am losing my SUV and they are giving me a sedan. They will approve an SUV, if we pay the difference. Excuse me? Why can't you pay for a vehicle that is equivalent to what I am losing?!? Ugh.
joi922, the insurance thing is probably the biggest factor for DH wanting me to return to work. Ultimately he says do what will make me happy, but I work for the state and have excellent benefits and he is self-employed so he's on my insurance as of now. I also never saw the appeal of being a SAHM before having DD1, so I think that's part of the struggle. It's definitely not something I can say I always wanted, but I can say that about my job. It's hard to wrap my head around changing my lifestyle so completely.
Post by girlonabike on Sept 28, 2015 11:07:25 GMT -5
Weight check this afternoon. I'm dreading it. I really hope Liam has improved. Last night when he went down for the night, he was snoozing away. It really sucked to have to wake him up after 4 hours to feed him because I know he (WE) would have slept longer if I could let him. Then he was a cranky baby after I woke him and it took forever to get him back to sleep which led to a cranky me.
Hubster let me sleep in this morning! I feel a little guilty because that meant that Liam got fed formula for his morning feedings, but I needed the sleep.
I go back to work next Wednesday. I'm not looking forward to the office politics and the BS, but I am looking forward to working again (and being a "real" cop, instead of a limited pregnant one). I love Liam, but I do not love this newborn phase. Get me out of here. Once Liam is a toddler I'm sure I'm going to wish to stay at home with him all the time. Also, I'm pretty sure that after less than a week of being back at work, I will want to be a SAHM.
bibliothecary why doesn't your nanny know to feed or try to fix a screaming baby?
That's a great goddamn question. Her references checked out, she came highly recommended.
Last week, I told her to pretend like I wasn't there. First day, bring him to me when he's hungry, I'll BF. Second day, she was supposed to do bottle feeding. Same with the third and last day. Every day, I've had to tell her that he's hungry. Every day, I've had to remind her that he gets hungry about every 2 hours.
The last day, I listened to him scream for 10 minutes before I finally made a bottle and brought it to her while she tried singing to him. MY SON IS HUNGRY. FEED HIM. IT'S NOT HARD.
Then she fed him and he spit up on her, so she came to get me. "I have to change my shirt." SO GO DO THAT. Nope, she needed me to hold him while she did so, for unknown reasons. She is very, very close to being canned.
bibliothecary that's crazy. I mean, there's only so many things that babies need. Food, clean diaper, sleep.
Is it possible her references were faked? This whole thing just makes zero sense.
Fx you get her shit figured out.
It's possible, i guess. Anything is.
I'm pissed. I should be back at work now. I don't feel comfortable leaving him with her. At all. So I have to take more unpaid time off.
But seriously. G isn't hard to figure out. He's not fussy without reason. He's screaming? Check his diaper. Not that? When was he last fed? Do that. Don't just sing at him while he screams. FIGURE IT OUT.
Post by gingerygirl on Sept 28, 2015 11:32:47 GMT -5
Today is my cousin's twins 6th birthday. They're getting so big! They were born at 25 weeks and its amazing to see then now. You never would've guessed that they were born so early.
bibliothecary that's unacceptable. I'd be a bit disappointed that it even got to the point of crying before thinking to make a bottle - infant hunger cues are pretty easy to read (if it seems like my kid is trying to motorboat you, he's hungry).
bibliothecary that's crazy. I mean, there's only so many things that babies need. Food, clean diaper, sleep.
Is it possible her references were faked? This whole thing just makes zero sense.
Fx you get her shit figured out.
It's possible, i guess. Anything is.
I'm pissed. I should be back at work now. I don't feel comfortable leaving him with her. At all. So I have to take more unpaid time off.
But seriously. G isn't hard to figure out. He's not fussy without reason. He's screaming? Check his diaper. Not that? When was he last fed? Do that. Don't just sing at him while he screams. FIGURE IT OUT.
Fire her. Seriously, we had a nanny for ds1 for about a year and a half. Great in many ways, but there were a few things that bugged right from the beginning. Those things became major huge annoyances and issues by the end. I was so glad on her last day. Nip this in the bud and find someone else.
Spent the weekend visiting family. My mom and step dad took DD and I to the movies. We watched Hotel Transylvania 2 and DS slept the whole time. Then my sister took us all to breakfast Saturday morning. Spent Saturday playing backyard whiffle ball with my sister and her SO, brother, DD, and my niece and nephews. My grandparents and dad played pass the baby between his feedings . It was much needed free air and baby free time. DD enjoyed getting to play with me. The weather has been perfect for being outside.
This kid will not nap today...which means mommy isn't showering I guess! I've been lucky and this hasn't been an issue up until this point. Maybe there will be a nap this afternoon?
bibliothecary that's not cool. You shouldn't have to prompt your nanny like that. That would make me more stressed going back to work because I wouldn't trust her and then I'd sit any worry all day...
Were there other people you interviewed that you could get back in touch with? I'm not sure how the nanny-hiring process works!!!
Post by bcmomsaysso on Sept 28, 2015 12:46:58 GMT -5
girlonabike FX your weight check goes ok and he is chunking up for you
I'm irrationally worried about our appointment today since it's been almost a month since we stopped weighted feeds with LC. I feel like she's definitely grown, but my crazy-mom anxiety wishes I had sprung for the home scale...
Visit went well. He's still way at the low end inn weight, 2nd percentile, 9lb 6oz. He's been mostly napping since his shots, I'm hoping he stays like this since H will be watching him while I go out to dinner with my coworkers. Only thing our pediatrician said was more tummy time as M refuses to lift his head when we're at the doctors office.
Post by 2dumbdogs on Sept 28, 2015 12:56:45 GMT -5
Mom, when you take the baby, change her, and tell me you aren't good at it and one of the tabs wouldn't open, you are not being helpful. If she ends up leaking piss and shit everywhere NOBODY is gonna be happy.
How early is too early to take her to the airport?
Mom, when you take the baby, change her, and tell me you aren't good at it and one of the tabs wouldn't open, you are not being helpful. If she ends up leaking piss and shit everywhere NOBODY is gonna be happy.
How early is too early to take her to the airport?
Never too early. She can buy herself a drink at the bar.
Mom, when you take the baby, change her, and tell me you aren't good at it and one of the tabs wouldn't open, you are not being helpful. If she ends up leaking piss and shit everywhere NOBODY is gonna be happy.
How early is too early to take her to the airport?
Never too early. She can buy herself a drink at the bar.
TSA, long lines, all that stuff.
Well, I mean, traffic could be bad so you should leave early, and you're supposed to arrive at least two hours before departure...I say you can take her now, you know, to make sure she makes her flight.
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We're headed back home from my mom's. It was a great visit. I really wish we could live closer to my family, but there's just no way. She's trying to plan a visit to see us sometime before we go back to her house for Thanksgiving. I hope that works out. She's great with Teagan and they've really bonded. And it was nice to take a shower longer than 2 minutes.
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