WTDS 9/28
Sept 28, 2015 20:14:31 GMT -5
Post by nuggetrn on Sept 28, 2015 20:14:31 GMT -5
dashook, Thanks lady, and no worries... I do not think you are at all creepy Thanks for thinking of me.
I am doing ok, just trucking along but sort of living in a constant state of worry. DH ended up taking the job he interviewed for which is a huge pay cut and the insurance is double what we used to pay.... I am getting frustrated because apparently I am not allowed to have any feelings about this situation lest I be accused of being unsupportive of my husband. DH isn't making me feel this way but our families are. Every time I say anything about how I feel I get a lecture on how I basically am not allowed to feel the way that I feel. I am a bit cynical about whether or not they are going to follow through with compensating him for his experience after his performance review or if there are really going to be the opportunities for advancement that they claim there will be anytime in the near future. He has been burned before with these same types of promises. I am afraid they are trying to just tell him what they think he wants to hear just to get him in the door and make him stay.
I am so thankful he has a job, and fully support him taking this because we hope it will get him to where he wants to be in the future. He is using his schooling and his experience and is doing what he loves. If I wasn't happy about all of that I would have told him to reject the job offer and keep looking. I can't settle into a safe spot yet though, there's still things yet to see. I am just afraid they are going to underpay him and take advantage of his hard work and knowledge like his last job did.
I am trying to hold it all together for DH's sake because I know it is not going to do him much good to see me scared but at the same time I am overly honest about how I feel most of the time. Lol. I just want the next 2 months to fly by and see if they hold to their word and give him an hourly wage that reflects his experience once they do his performance review. Right now he is being paid what they would pay anybody who walked in off the street and had no experience.
That got long!
TL;DR DH took a job for which he has education and 10 yrs experience at a huge pay cut. I am scared and am being told by basically everyone that I am not allowed to feel that way because it makes me unsupportive. Trying to hold it together, it's hard. I am hoping at his 60 day performance review they hold to their promises and actually start to compensate him appropriately. I have a really difficult time watching my husband being taken advantage of and under appreciated.
ETA: I guess I should also say that even with the pay cut we can pay all of our bills... so it is not all doom and gloom. But I feel like so much of what I thought our life was going to be like has come crashing down.
mosdub - Yes, if we got pregnant at this point it would still be fine. We would be tight, I would have to go back to work sooner than I would probably want to... but we could make it work and we would have a baby.
I am doing ok, just trucking along but sort of living in a constant state of worry. DH ended up taking the job he interviewed for which is a huge pay cut and the insurance is double what we used to pay.... I am getting frustrated because apparently I am not allowed to have any feelings about this situation lest I be accused of being unsupportive of my husband. DH isn't making me feel this way but our families are. Every time I say anything about how I feel I get a lecture on how I basically am not allowed to feel the way that I feel. I am a bit cynical about whether or not they are going to follow through with compensating him for his experience after his performance review or if there are really going to be the opportunities for advancement that they claim there will be anytime in the near future. He has been burned before with these same types of promises. I am afraid they are trying to just tell him what they think he wants to hear just to get him in the door and make him stay.
I am so thankful he has a job, and fully support him taking this because we hope it will get him to where he wants to be in the future. He is using his schooling and his experience and is doing what he loves. If I wasn't happy about all of that I would have told him to reject the job offer and keep looking. I can't settle into a safe spot yet though, there's still things yet to see. I am just afraid they are going to underpay him and take advantage of his hard work and knowledge like his last job did.
I am trying to hold it all together for DH's sake because I know it is not going to do him much good to see me scared but at the same time I am overly honest about how I feel most of the time. Lol. I just want the next 2 months to fly by and see if they hold to their word and give him an hourly wage that reflects his experience once they do his performance review. Right now he is being paid what they would pay anybody who walked in off the street and had no experience.
That got long!
TL;DR DH took a job for which he has education and 10 yrs experience at a huge pay cut. I am scared and am being told by basically everyone that I am not allowed to feel that way because it makes me unsupportive. Trying to hold it together, it's hard. I am hoping at his 60 day performance review they hold to their promises and actually start to compensate him appropriately. I have a really difficult time watching my husband being taken advantage of and under appreciated.
ETA: I guess I should also say that even with the pay cut we can pay all of our bills... so it is not all doom and gloom. But I feel like so much of what I thought our life was going to be like has come crashing down.
mosdub - Yes, if we got pregnant at this point it would still be fine. We would be tight, I would have to go back to work sooner than I would probably want to... but we could make it work and we would have a baby.