I was going to make applesauce ... we picked a ton at the fruit farm, but then we ate them ALL. Oops. I'm not sure if my kids will eat applesauce anymore unless it's in one of those squeeze packets, though. FFC? I hate them, but they're so damn convenient.
zonagirl some days I'm all like "I'm going to get shit accomplished today" most of the time that accomplishment is that I got my teeth brushed by 3 pm. Seriously IF I do leave the house I may be wearing day old underwear and chewing gum. Don't be jealous. Also may not want to inhale through your nose around me.
I know a few of you mentioned you read The Blogess. I saw this today and though of her.
This guy taxidermied his cat into a drone. A drone!
I had a breakdown with MH last night because I feel like I am not getting anything done all day. You know people joke "today was just one of those days where I just kept the baby alive" and I'm like no, that's literally me every day. I have to say, she is really good about sttn and most days I shower. But I know there are moms here that take care of other kids, clean, do laundry, cook. How??!! I just want to follow one of you around a day and see what the secret is. I'm really fortunate because mh and I make a great team- he keeps up with the cooking and laundry, and my mom comes by a lot. On Monday she went with me to do the weekly grocery shopping, and yesterday she came and did my cloth diapers. So I have a lot of help, which is great! But I can't shake this feeling that I'm doing something wrong because my whole day consists of feeding baby, holding baby up after feeding, changing baby, calming fussy baby. MH feels like I'm being too hard on myself, and maybe I've got some PP stuff going on, I don't know. We bought a swing yesterday so maybe she will actually take naps today and I can feel more accomplished!
I feel this way often, but mh is not super supportive. Yesterday he told me that his mom had 7 kids, inferring that having 2 shouldn't be that difficult. I left b with him last night for two hours for the first time while i took c to swimming. I fed her right before I left. I was secretly hoping that she gave him a terrible time. He won't admit she did, but I came home to him pacing with her tied west African style on his back and a bottle (that she refused because she wasn't hungry) on the table.
Post by bcmomsaysso on Sept 30, 2015 8:01:37 GMT -5
zonagirl I feel your pain! Even if I do manage to get the house mostly clean, as soon as the boys get home from school it is destroyed again. Then my H comes home all "what do you do all day?" Grrrr....
zonagirl, like runningmommy519, some babies are just, easier. Mine are not of that variety. They don't fall asleep easily and they have difficulty stating asleep and they aren't content to just sit somewhere for long periods of time.
Also with each child I thought it was really hard, and wondered how I ever thought one was hard, and now, how did I think two was hard? But it is hard. You're learning and figuring out EVERYTHING with your first. It is a huge life change. You no longer worry just about yourself. You've gotten plenty of good feedback from the other ladies so I won't leave any magical tips. Just give yourself a little grace and keep on keeping on. I know it still seems really far away, but I really felt like I got more into a groove around the 5-6 month mark.
Post by livnluv2010 on Sept 30, 2015 8:06:47 GMT -5
zonagirl I feel overwhelmed all the time! I started making a daily list of like ten things I wanted to get done (ha ha). I've since modified my list to three things a day. Most of the time I can accomplish about two! It really depends on the day. Being a mommy to a newborn is hard! When DS grew out of the newborn stage I felt a lot more normal. Hang in!
I was going to make applesauce ... we picked a ton at the fruit farm, but then we ate them ALL. Oops. I'm not sure if my kids will eat applesauce anymore unless it's in one of those squeeze packets, though. FFC? I hate them, but they're so damn convenient.
Seriously, what is so good about those things?? My DS won't touch the stuff in a jar but he'll suck down those gogo squeeze things. Luckily, he's pretty good about eating fresh fruits so it's more of a "treat" to get those.
Post by bcmomsaysso on Sept 30, 2015 8:13:02 GMT -5
@mamazbo I came home to a similar scene after grocery shopping last night. I love how they can be so critical of us, but can't handle being alone for more than an hour or two themselves.
Post by girlonabike on Sept 30, 2015 8:13:46 GMT -5
Midwife appointment today, so I'll be driving with Liam into the city. Not looking forward to it.
Had a minor blow up at the hubster last night. He ended up having to work late (shit happens). When he came home, he just went straight to bed. Uh no, dude. Take your son, its your turn. I've handled him all day, I need a break.
As for getting things done, I just try to get ONE thing accomplished; whether that's laundry or unpacking a box or whatever. Just one thing. Then I feel like I've done enough.
I had a breakdown with MH last night because I feel like I am not getting anything done all day. You know people joke "today was just one of those days where I just kept the baby alive" and I'm like no, that's literally me every day. I have to say, she is really good about sttn and most days I shower. But I know there are moms here that take care of other kids, clean, do laundry, cook. How??!! I just want to follow one of you around a day and see what the secret is. I'm really fortunate because mh and I make a great team- he keeps up with the cooking and laundry, and my mom comes by a lot. On Monday she went with me to do the weekly grocery shopping, and yesterday she came and did my cloth diapers. So I have a lot of help, which is great! But I can't shake this feeling that I'm doing something wrong because my whole day consists of feeding baby, holding baby up after feeding, changing baby, calming fussy baby. MH feels like I'm being too hard on myself, and maybe I've got some PP stuff going on, I don't know. We bought a swing yesterday so maybe she will actually take naps today and I can feel more accomplished!
+1. There are days I literally don't get a chance to eat. I've learned a few "tricks" - he likes his mobile and swing, or I can run the shower/vacuum/hairdryer because he likes the noise and it buys me a few minutes, but I can't imagine having time to make a home-cooked dinner. He does nap here and there, but it's unpredictable and half the time it's on me. Most days I try to get out of the house - doesn't help get chores done but he's pretty well behaved, I can pick up food, and socialize or just get a change of scenery - does wonders for my state of mind.
I was going to make applesauce ... we picked a ton at the fruit farm, but then we ate them ALL. Oops. I'm not sure if my kids will eat applesauce anymore unless it's in one of those squeeze packets, though. FFC? I hate them, but they're so damn convenient.
Seriously, what is so good about those things?? My DS won't touch the stuff in a jar but he'll suck down those gogo squeeze things. Luckily, he's pretty good about eating fresh fruits so it's more of a "treat" to get those.
I know. We just took a Costco trip and the Kirkland brand is much cheaper, at least. It's really nice to always have some in the purse/diaper bag/car in case of emergency, but I agree, it makes me just want to eat the apples all the more now!
I was going to make applesauce ... we picked a ton at the fruit farm, but then we ate them ALL. Oops. I'm not sure if my kids will eat applesauce anymore unless it's in one of those squeeze packets, though. FFC? I hate them, but they're so damn convenient.
They sell really cool silicon tube things on amazon that you can fill with whatever. I think you can even freeze them. Then it's still in a fun container (because that's all that really matters) but you can put anything in it.
Post by shannonabigail on Sept 30, 2015 8:45:45 GMT -5
It's my birthday! So I let the family sleep in until 7 then convinced myself it was ok to snuggle in bed with H until 7:30. We got Starbucks and still made it into work by 9. Too bad we're here until 7 tonight or today would be awesome.
Post by motownthrowdown on Sept 30, 2015 8:47:02 GMT -5
I put in an email to our early intervention team leader about getting help figuring out the childcare thing. I think we need a social worker? This program gives us access to tons of specialists for free, so I figured it was worth a shot.
zonagirl I agree with runningmommy519. Something must happen to make early babies calm. The only thing saving me is that A loves her swing. I wouldn't be able to do anything for work otherwise.
elizabethnevadap I love the list idea. I think I'll do that starting tonight.
Wow, thank you so much for your responses. I'm having a much better day today, just because of an attitude adjustment. I get what you are saying ajetter about your first being hard because everything is new. And I agree. Though I still won't stop being in absolute awe of you all with more than one aydee I'm embarrassed to say I haven't thought of that! I'm going to try and wear her right after a feed and see if that works, thanks!
I wish I could be in the get 1 or 2 things done club for a day but then my house might fall down. I do tons of stuff throughout the day to keep our lives running on track. Sometimes I feel like I work more on maternity leave than when I go to work. Today I have 3 loads of wash to do, trip to target for necessities, trip to trader joes, figure out dinner, buy ingredients and make and keep baby boy alive and dd out of trouble once home from day care.
That's just today. And I still have 2 more rooms to clean before in-laws get here, pack for myself baby boy and dd for beach and make a trip to goodwill to drop off clothes before Friday.
And they said maternity leave was close to a vacation? Please.
I woke up and the disaster of a kitchen is completely clean. Its a miracle!! DH stayed up last night to clean the kitchen and make sure the coffee maker was ready to go and clean for me. SO HAPPY. I did like 12 loads of laundry yesterday and was exhausted. DH stays up to study usually and he must've overhauled the kitchen late.
All I need is some pumpkin spice creamer now. Oh and add me to the I want to bake list. Maybe pumpkin bread with cream cheese! mmmmmmmm....
Your husband sounds like a keeper
Mine does a lot to help, he is truly great. But he just doesn't see the mess I see in the kitchen, i always have to clean up after his cleaning there.
Post by hopefulreturn on Sept 30, 2015 9:38:48 GMT -5
I'm with many of you on not getting much done in a day besides caring for baby! Some days are better than others, and I actually stopped making lists by the day because it just depressed me more with the little I was doing. I now make a weekly one. She luckily naps pretty well but on me. If I put her down I can sometimes get enough time to eat. Sometimes if we are out and about she will keep sleeping in her car seat when we get home. I drive the long way to any appointments for me in hopes of her having a good nap! I also make sure we leave the house once a day. It keeps me sane!
I really want to bake with the apples we picked and pumpkin! Sometimes I can get her to sit in her bouncer in the kitchen for a little bit so I can do something. I might try that later.
It's a rainy, dark day so we're just lounging at home for the morning.
Post by iamthedoctor on Sept 30, 2015 9:40:22 GMT -5
zonagirl you'll find your rythym with LO too. Some days it's hold baby all day and some days he lets me do things when he'll lay in the swing or bouncer. And if you get nothing done but feed and keep baby happy then that's ok.
Post by iamthedoctor on Sept 30, 2015 9:42:27 GMT -5
kcebeling I'm on LO loestrin and forgot my pill Saturday morning after DH and I had sex Friday night and I've been spotting so I'm freaking out, too. But I'm *sure* it's ok.
I was going to make applesauce ... we picked a ton at the fruit farm, but then we ate them ALL. Oops. I'm not sure if my kids will eat applesauce anymore unless it's in one of those squeeze packets, though. FFC? I hate them, but they're so damn convenient.
They sell really cool silicon tube things on amazon that you can fill with whatever. I think you can even freeze them. Then it's still in a fun container (because that's all that really matters) but you can put anything in it.
I wanted to get some of the refillable pouches because Oliver loves fruit and loves squeeze pouched and they're just expensive but I read reviews on Amazon and ppl said the refill kind are hard to clean. Ain't no mama got time for that.
Post by hurricaine on Sept 30, 2015 10:20:26 GMT -5
zonagirl, you'll find your rhythm. I think DD1 was around 3 months before I felt like I had my footing, even though deep down I know I had it easy compared to some other moms. Meanwhile with DD2, I'm starting to get there already at one month (hahahaha, now that I've said that, we all know it'll change).
@piedpiper07, Your DH wins. I thought mine was doing awesome, but yours wins.
DSHM13, "his mom was like 'we'll figure it out.'" This is my MIL's line if she doesn't like what we've just said we'll do. It drives me batshit crazy. In fact, just reading that made my blood boil. No, "we" will not figure it out. I just told you how it is. Dammit.
Post by bcmomsaysso on Sept 30, 2015 10:28:29 GMT -5
I like the list idea too, except instead of a "to do" I'm going to make a "did do" list so I can feel accomplished AND prove to H I don't eat bon-bons all day.
kcebeling I'm on LO loestrin and forgot my pill Saturday morning after DH and I had sex Friday night and I've been spotting so I'm freaking out, too. But I'm *sure* it's ok.
You are probably spotting because of the sex. If and only if you have implantation bleeding it doesn't occur until like day 7 after ovulation.
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