Post by oopsiedaisies on Sept 30, 2015 10:33:04 GMT -5
Everyone finds their rhythms at their own pace. Taking care of a baby isn't easy...and just when you think you've got things figured out, they decide to change things up. It was about 3-4 months in with dd that I figured out our rhythm...and I feel like we're doing better this time around...but we still have days where it's super rough.
I like the list idea too, except instead of a "to do" I'm going to make a "did do" list so I can feel accomplished AND prove to H I don't eat bon-bons all day.
Yep, I like to add stuff to my list I've already done just so I can cross it off. Makes me feel accomplished.
DD1 was a super easy baby and would be perfectly content just sitting there, but I still held her almost all the time and got absolutely nothing done. They're only this age once, soak it in! Of course DD2 is much fussier and rarely happy unless she's being held now that I have two and can't sit around holding her all day. So I'm equally as unproductive this time.
Oh and +1 to everyone who said 3-4 months to get into the groove of things. I remember when DD1 was 10 weeks old I completely panicked about returning to work because we had no schedule and there was no way I'd ever make it out of the house in time. Somehow in those last two weeks I finally figured things out. And it took another month or so for things to run smoothly.
DS has been sleeping from about 10p-7a. Last night her decided to go back to waking at 1. Of course, H and I stayed up until 11. When we went to bed we attempted to have sex for the first time PP. It wasn't really enjoyable. I'm ready for that to get back to normal.
H has partially redeemed himself since last night. He cooked breakfast and told me to stay in bed and he took N.
+1 to hoping we find a rhythm soon. I do find time to do dishes and vacuum most days but no idea how I'll do it once back at work. Gah I dread it so much. Especially because most days I'll be 1-10pm. The latest I can take N to daycare is 11. So basically I'll never see him
Post by flippinchica on Sept 30, 2015 11:14:42 GMT -5
I don't really like coffee either. I occasionally drink fancy coffee cause sugar and milk. I've been waiting in the ob office for an hour for my pp visit. I'm so hungry.
I don't like regular coffee. I love espresso and lattes especially. And chai tea lattes.
E is a pretty easy baby, but I still lay around with her and don't get much done bc she's only this little once. So I'm going to lay on the couch and snuggle her and play with her and soak in all her smiles bc I can dammit. That being said, I know I'm lucky in that I can lay her down and she'll nap while I take a shower or do whatever else I need. Plus when H gets home, he immediately takes her so I can do things like clean and cook and laundry.
I just made her 2 month check up for Monday. When the hell did that happen? I'm curious what her actual weight is, our home scale says 14 lbs.
Post by gingerygirl on Sept 30, 2015 11:57:44 GMT -5
I had a minor freak out moment just now. I just got baby all signed up for medical insurance through my husband's new insurance plan. I went on the website to find an in-network pediatrician and it said that there weren't any in Virginia! Only in Washington and Alaska! I called the customer service line and luckily I got someone with a head on their shoulders who knew what she was talking about. They had updated their website and it still had glitches. She gave me a list of providers in my area and I discovered that his current pediatrician is in network! Thank goodness! Now I can finally give the office his insurance info so they will stop bugging me about it.
zonagirl how old is your LO? Auri is 3.5 weeks and that is me all day every day. Although I just busted out my baby ktan yesterday because she was screaming and it was amazing to have 2 hands! I felt like I could actually be productive. Maybe. We'll see how today goes. After the shit night last night, I have zero expectations for today.
Today is my first outing with A by myself. We are going to a BF support group. I'm excited to get her weighed but I haven't left the house without DH since her birth and I'm nervous. Also DH's mom and step-Dad arrive for a visit and I'm not excited. Step-FIL smokes and we've already had conversations with them about the rules for being around Auri...no smoking in our or around the apt, you must wash your hands and change your clothes if you smoke outside, etc. twice we've said this and his mom was like "we'll figure it out." Nope...nothing to figure out. That's how it's gonna be. And I know they'll want to be treated as guests instead of helping us. Sigh.
Regarding the smoking thing: can you have your H lay it down with no room for discussion? I'm a huge hard ass on stuff like this, so if they can't abide by the rules for keeping their granddaughter healthy, their asses go out the door.
Well, went to the doctor. It's a presumed ear infection. Apparently it looks like swimmers ear, but C isn't in enough discomfort for that. Doctor couldn't see the ear drum, but is thinking it ruptured given all the goop. She also saw some white spots in the other ear canal but that ear drum wasn't ruptured. So we've started ear drops and will check her again on Monday at her 2 month appointment. Man are those ear drops hard to get into a squirming baby's ear!
T hasn't pooped in 9 days, until today. I pick her up and could see it through the front of her onesie. I got the onesie off (pulled it down, not over). Got the diaper off, she then proceeded to pee which rolled off the changing pad I had on the couch, so I got hit with pee (in addition to the poop I got on my pants) and so did the couch. She was screaming and wiggling all around which threw poop every where. The changing pad was a massacre. I couldn't touch her pacifier because my hands had poop on them. I ran her to the sink to bath her while yelling at my parents dog to not touch the poop covered living room. I was so not prepared for that. I need wine.
I like the list idea too, except instead of a "to do" I'm going to make a "did do" list so I can feel accomplished AND prove to H I don't eat bon-bons all day.
Ha, I was doing that at the end of my pregnancy to try to feel like I was getting something accomplished. Good strategy!
Post by bcmomsaysso on Sept 30, 2015 13:08:47 GMT -5
Don't you love bending over to pick up your adorable, smiling infant only to have her puke straight down your shirt, right between your boobs? Joys of motherhood
Post by tmclawchick on Sept 30, 2015 13:12:28 GMT -5
So... if you weren't returning to work after your maternity leave, when would you give notice? Per the firm's policy I'm getting paid at 66% my salary, so obviously the longer I wait the more $ I'll be getting, but at the same time I feel a little slimy about doing that... I don't know that I want to wait until 2 weeks before I"m supposed to return to tell them I'm not coming back.
Post by abvintage on Sept 30, 2015 13:14:48 GMT -5
shayr buy all the puppy training pads. Seriously they have saved us when I see diapers like that. I also set up his bath stuff before I change him when I'm worried it might be really messy. Also hair ties, because I've had shit in my hair when I tried to move my hair out of the way and yuck!!!
So... if you weren't returning to work after your maternity leave, when would you give notice? Per the firm's policy I'm getting paid at 66% my salary, so obviously the longer I wait the more $ I'll be getting, but at the same time I feel a little slimy about doing that... I don't know that I want to wait until 2 weeks before I"m supposed to return to tell them I'm not coming back.
Thoughts?
I know what you mean. I felt slimy too. My plan was to give notice two weeks before my rcs. But then Ethan came early and I had to take leave. I ended up giving notice a week before my std ran out. I probably would have done it sooner but we moved an hour away from my job. When I went in my boss told me not to worry about it and that I had worked hard for them and that I earned my leave.
shayr buy all the puppy training pads. Seriously they have saved us when I see diapers like that. I also set up his bath stuff before I change him when I'm worried it might be really messy. Also hair ties, because I've had shit in my hair when I tried to move my hair out of the way and yuck!!!
We bought disposable pads too! Since she has explosive poop every 3.5 days we have needed them! A diaper can't contain the mess.
So... if you weren't returning to work after your maternity leave, when would you give notice? Per the firm's policy I'm getting paid at 66% my salary, so obviously the longer I wait the more $ I'll be getting, but at the same time I feel a little slimy about doing that... I don't know that I want to wait until 2 weeks before I"m supposed to return to tell them I'm not coming back.
Thoughts?
I am along the lines sooner is better. And you might want to double check that they aren't going to make you pay back monies for insurance or anything like that. Every company is different.
So... if you weren't returning to work after your maternity leave, when would you give notice? Per the firm's policy I'm getting paid at 66% my salary, so obviously the longer I wait the more $ I'll be getting, but at the same time I feel a little slimy about doing that... I don't know that I want to wait until 2 weeks before I"m supposed to return to tell them I'm not coming back.
Thoughts?
I am along the lines sooner is better. And you might want to double check that they aren't going to make you pay back monies for insurance or anything like that. Every company is different.
The way mine worked is I'd get paid std and they'd pay insurance out of that.
motownthrowdown I wish. He asked his mom to come tomorrow when he has his second week of leave start and she wanted to come today (his family just makes me shake my head) so I have to deal with them alone first. Although they haven't shown up yet and I may be lucky and DH will get home first. I hate to be a bitty about it but I have zero tolerance for this issue and will mama bear it up if I need to.
I am along the lines sooner is better. And you might want to double check that they aren't going to make you pay back monies for insurance or anything like that. Every company is different.
The way mine worked is I'd get paid std and they'd pay insurance out of that.
I have to pay my insurance while on leave. But another lady gave notice she wasn't returning from leave and I remember her saying she owed them money for something and I'm thinking its the portion of insurance that they paid while she was on leave. (We pay 20% while the company pays the rest).
So... if you weren't returning to work after your maternity leave, when would you give notice? Per the firm's policy I'm getting paid at 66% my salary, so obviously the longer I wait the more $ I'll be getting, but at the same time I feel a little slimy about doing that... I don't know that I want to wait until 2 weeks before I"m supposed to return to tell them I'm not coming back.
Thoughts?
I'm in the same boat (I think...still trying to make up my mind), and I think the sooner the better. I don't have separate maternity leave, just FMLA that drains my paid leave I had saved up, and I get paid out for that if I quit so I'd get paid the same either way. But I feel like it's professional courtesy to notify asap and would allow them to work on finding a replacement sooner. I thought I'd give notice at 6 weeks (last week) but my new goal is 8 weeks (one month before my scheduled return. And I'm making myself really think it over so I feel 100% with my decision. Up until now I've refused to really think about it bc the thought of quitting gives me palpitations. Good luck!
zonagirl I feel the same way! It's so hard. I agree with the swing, it's a life saver. My problem with that is I have to put the dogs outside when he's in there so they don't bother him, and it's hot outside so it doesn't last long. I had big goals for maternity leave. That was stupid, because I accomplished none of them and I feel like a failure. New mom ignorance at its best, lol.
I am sick as a dog, and I have to go back to work tomorrow, and it's not your normal 9-5 job. Hello 60-70 hour work weeks. I've been crying all morning. I don't know how I'm going to make it both emotionally and physically with being sick and sleep deprived. We are still only getting 2 hour blocks of sleep at 2 months old. Survival mode is about to be taken up a notch.
Post by skinandbones on Sept 30, 2015 13:59:56 GMT -5
We have made to our mini-vaca. Dear sweet baby Jesus it was a shit show getting us out the house- good thing we didn't care when we left. I keep forgetting how difficult it is to pack a now family of 4.
The current dilemma is are we taking the upstairs unit or down. DH has gone back in forth with his parents about it what ten times. I'm hiding in the car with napping boys until someone can make a decision.
Post by kcebeling on Sept 30, 2015 14:09:45 GMT -5
runningmommy519 It had been a week when I saw spotting... iamthedoctor Thanks for the encouragement...I am not ready for a pregnancy scare... Now to wait for tomorrow and FMU...wondering if there was any ewcm at 6 weeks post delivery I didn't notice. ..when was the last time anyone thought of these things?! I have a FRER ready...aaaaaahhhhh
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.