tmclawchick that's a hard call. I see a maternity benefit package as something that you've earned, it's part of the deal. You worked hard for the firm and you (presumably) chose the position based in part on it's benefits package - you earned it, no need to feel bad about using it. Of course, they also pay you those benefits in the hopes that they can retain you, but it's a risk the firm takes. It's also nice as a professional courtesy to give more notice. But this also depends on the workload needs and position of the group. Most big/mid-size firms can absorb work pretty easily and are very used to turnover and work transitions. That's not to say they won't miss you, but it comes with the territory if you KWIM. GL.
Post by skinandbones on Sept 30, 2015 14:35:08 GMT -5
I set weekly goals. That way if DS2 is having a bad day It's not a big deal. Typically, there are some small things that need to get done on a fairly regular basis, some sort of big housecleaning thing (like cleaning the bathrooms/ I don't try to clean the house at once but rather break into smaller things that get rotated weekly-ish), and then something off my larger project list (like order breast pump). It sounds like a lot but it probably only amounts to a couple hours a week total.
When I was home with DS1, i couldn't get anything done. He either wanted to nurse or be held. DH never complained about laundry not getting done (or whatever) but I could tell he was annoyed. The week I returned to work he took a week off to be home with DS. After the first day, he got it and finally understood why things weren't happening around the house like the "thought" they should be.
tmclawchick that's a hard call. I see a maternity benefit package as something that you've earned, it's part of the deal. You worked hard for the firm and you (presumably) chose the position based in part on it's benefits package - you earned it, no need to feel bad about using it. Of course, they also pay you those benefits in the hopes that they can retain you, but it's a risk the firm takes. It's also nice as a professional courtesy to give more notice. But this also depends on the workload needs and position of the group. Most big/mid-size firms can absorb work pretty easily and are very used to turnover and work transitions. That's not to say they won't miss you, but it comes with the territory if you KWIM. GL.
I think I'm going to give my notice soon...I work for a large firm but because I'm in the Corporate group we're usually insanely busy towards the end of the year. I'm due back until mid-November, and I'd hate for them to be short-staffed going into the year-end craziness. Blech.
tmclawchick that's a hard call. I see a maternity benefit package as something that you've earned, it's part of the deal. You worked hard for the firm and you (presumably) chose the position based in part on it's benefits package - you earned it, no need to feel bad about using it. Of course, they also pay you those benefits in the hopes that they can retain you, but it's a risk the firm takes. It's also nice as a professional courtesy to give more notice. But this also depends on the workload needs and position of the group. Most big/mid-size firms can absorb work pretty easily and are very used to turnover and work transitions. That's not to say they won't miss you, but it comes with the territory if you KWIM. GL.
I think I'm going to give my notice soon...I work for a large firm but because I'm in the Corporate group we're usually insanely busy towards the end of the year. I'm due back until mid-November, and I'd hate for them to be short-staffed going into the year-end craziness. Blech.
This is why I wanted to give more notice. We have two busy seasons. End of sept-dec and End of feb-June. The worst of that being feb-June. I wanted to give them enough time to replace and train by then.
Post by packmomma on Sept 30, 2015 15:46:54 GMT -5
W got his 2nd hep b shot today. I wasn't there for the first one but he did not react well to tzhis one. He has been crying pretty much non stop unless he is comfort nursing or sleeping on my boob (or hugging it). If I try to put the boob away he instantly starts screaming again. I'm having H come with me when he gets his next round (I think there's 4) cause if he reacts this way to 1 I can't imagine dealing with that alone.
Post by oopsiedaisies on Sept 30, 2015 15:47:29 GMT -5
My dd spent the night at my ILs and now we're here visiting for a bit before we all go back home. MIL just offered takeout for dinner and I accepted. So happy to not have to cook!
So... if you weren't returning to work after your maternity leave, when would you give notice? Per the firm's policy I'm getting paid at 66% my salary, so obviously the longer I wait the more $ I'll be getting, but at the same time I feel a little slimy about doing that... I don't know that I want to wait until 2 weeks before I"m supposed to return to tell them I'm not coming back.
Thoughts?
I quit my job monday, but it's for a new job. I waited until my 6 weeks of short term disability ended. I had planned to take an additional 2 weeks unpaid anyway so used that as my notice.
shayr buy all the puppy training pads. Seriously they have saved us when I see diapers like that. I also set up his bath stuff before I change him when I'm worried it might be really messy. Also hair ties, because I've had shit in my hair when I tried to move my hair out of the way and yuck!!!
I never thought of that, although I'm visiting my parents for the last two weeks so I wouldn't have had them with me. Thankfully I have puppy pads at home. great idea!
We have made to our mini-vaca. Dear sweet baby Jesus it was a shit show getting us out the house- good thing we didn't care when we left. I keep forgetting how difficult it is to pack a now family of 4.
The current dilemma is are we taking the upstairs unit or down. DH has gone back in forth with his parents about it what ten times. I'm hiding in the car with napping boys until someone can make a decision.
We have made to our mini-vaca. Dear sweet baby Jesus it was a shit show getting us out the house- good thing we didn't care when we left. I keep forgetting how difficult it is to pack a now family of 4.
The current dilemma is are we taking the upstairs unit or down. DH has gone back in forth with his parents about it what ten times. I'm hiding in the car with napping boys until someone can make a decision.
Oh, and I forgot my wine and coffee. Boo.
No wine or coffee? Vacation ruined.
Go to the store while they debate up or down.
Wine has been secured. In addition to Not My Fathers Root Beer, thanks to this board.
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 30, 2015 16:50:50 GMT -5
Guys I'm pretty emotional today. I keep thinking about that article that has gone viral. the letter to parents from a mother whose daughter was stillborn. I was holding Ethan today and starting crying because I feel so blessed. Then the kid started smiling at me.... Then cooing.... My heart is so full.
A mother decided to video document some of her preemie baby's milestones while I'm the NICU. He was born at 24 weeks. (motownthrowdown you might want to avoid it. Maybe you too gingerygirl)
runningmommy519 oh man. 30 seconds and I was bawling, and I didn't even have a preemie. I can't imagine all the stuff you guys with preemies have gone through.
runningmommy519 oh man. 30 seconds and I was bawling, and I didn't even have a preemie. I can't imagine all the stuff you guys with preemies have gone through.
Oh my word the two month shots did Thea in. She fell asleep before we left the office from crying so much, slept for 3.5 hours in her car seat, and then cries now if she's not nursing or asleep. My other two never seemed phased by their shots, I feel so bad for her!
Guys I'm pretty emotional today. I keep thinking about that article that has gone viral. the letter to parents from a mother whose daughter was stillborn. I was holding Ethan today and starting crying because I feel so blessed. Then the kid started smiling at me.... Then cooing.... My heart is so full.
A mother decided to video document some of her preemie baby's milestones while I'm the NICU. He was born at 24 weeks. (motownthrowdown you might want to avoid it. Maybe you too gingerygirl)
I made it about 15 seconds into the actual video. This is how big A was. She was a couple ounces heavier and 1/2 inch longer.
Post by motownthrowdown on Sept 30, 2015 18:13:08 GMT -5
Physical therapy went really well today. Only thing I'm concerned about is this little shake A has done twice today. She did it once this morning and once during PT, both times while sitting up. She kind of vibrates, like she's rapidly trying to maintain her balance.
PT doesn't think it was a seizure because her eyes looked ok, but she got kind of fussy afterward and is now sleeping, both signs of seizures. She could be fussy because of this ridiculous hat we got her to force her to put pressure on her shunt. She could have been fussy and tired because of PT in general. But now I'm terrified that she's going to start having seizures, on top of everything else I have to worry about with her.
DH got home today and went straight to the bathroom and was on there for 45 minutes! I was so mad! He told me he was reading the parenting book that's in there. I told him do you know what's better than that? Getting out of the bathroom and actually parenting. I left all huffy to go to the gym but then I felt bad because we both had a shitty day and I've been feeling super disconnected from him. So I turned around, and I'm picking up a pizza and we're going to cuddle on the couch, watch a funny movie and make out.
Sometimes I just need to let things go. He is such a good dad and works like 60 hour weeks to give me everything I've ever wanted. He doesn't need to be perfect. I can deal with his outrageous bathroom habits.
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 30, 2015 19:30:25 GMT -5
@aliam20 yep. I moved with a 3 yr old and a newborn. Ethan got out of the hospital and we had the moving truck packed and ready to go less than 24 hrs later.
Post by runningmommy519 on Sept 30, 2015 19:50:05 GMT -5
motownthrowdown i thought i remembered Amelia being about the same measurements.
ajetter this video is nothing like what we went through. even with DS1. Both my boys were breathing okay and we didn't have to wait to hold either one. The worst for me with DS1 was the separation. With DS2 it was the length of the stay and hoping that when i went in each day that it would finally be the day when he figured out how to eat. Plus our stays weren't long compared most. 21 days for DS1 and 36 days for E.
Post by bcmomsaysso on Sept 30, 2015 20:04:39 GMT -5
I just got C to sleep in her crib. I don't know how long it will last but I'm actually surprised how well she took to it. I might actually get to ST tonight
Post by htuzzi324 on Sept 30, 2015 20:28:42 GMT -5
My sister did my hair today. I feel so much better We are packed and ready to get on the road at 10am tomorrow. Our flight lands in Houston at 720pm. Its going to be such a long day.
Post by bcmomsaysso on Sept 30, 2015 21:33:32 GMT -5
Yea, the crib thing isn't working out quite as well as I'd hoped after all. She's still in there, but she is not sleeping great, keeps waking herself back up.
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